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Fang Chen urged, "Hey, stop keeping me in suspense and tell me!"

Huang Tingjuan laughed. "Haha, I understand how you feel. Don't worry, let's analyze the reasons together and find a better way to communicate. You have to make sure first, does he really not have a girlfriend? Maybe he already has a crush on someone, which is why he's averse to blind dates."

Fang Chen hesitated and said, "Shouldn't there be any? Yes, that's right! My Jianjian has been extremely busy these past two years, so there's definitely no one."

Huang Tingjuan continued, "If you're sure he truly doesn't have a girlfriend, then you can find some relaxed opportunities—like after dinner, while taking a walk, or while watching TV—to chat with him about life, work, hobbies, friends, and future plans without any preconceived notions. Once you know what kind of girl he's attracted to, listen more and avoid directing, and don't rush the conversation into romance or marriage. After all, your son Jianjian is still young, so there's no need to rush. At his age, he has a strong sense of independence and autonomy. He's at a point where he's eager to prove himself and take control of his life. Parental introductions might seem like "arrangement" or interference, like a reminder that he needs to obey his parents' orders. This hurts his self-esteem and sense of independence. Furthermore, many young people harbor stereotypes and resistance to traditional blind dates, finding them awkward, overly purposeful, unnatural, and even demeaning, which can instinctively turn them off. However, I think Chang Jian's young age most likely means he feels it's too early, or he has his own unique perspective on marriage, perhaps wanting to pursue a career and marry later."

Fang Chen nodded frequently: "I was a little too hasty. Hi, actually it's not that I'm anxious, it's just that my colleagues always want to introduce him to girlfriends, and I'm passive, so I didn't really consider his feelings."

Huang Tingjuan sighed and said, "I guessed it was like that. Your colleagues probably took a fancy to your good temper. You're too considerate of others and are afraid of offending them. You have to think about Chang Jian. Who knows, maybe Chang Jian really enjoys being single and is very satisfied with his current free life, enjoying being with friends, developing hobbies, or spending time alone. But you want to arrange for him to date someone. He's at an age where he's pursuing independence and his own space. Maybe he doesn't want to date someone, which is why he's so resistant to blind dates. Then you should respect him and wait two years."

"Oh, okay," Fang Chen said in his voice, somewhat reluctantly but also sincerely. "I'd like to ask you something. Could you please tell me in detail how you chat with your Qiangqiang?"

Huang Tingjuan paused for a moment before saying, "Actually, even though I hinted at some of those things with him, it was useless. He kept asking me about how his father and I met and fell in love, so I had no choice but to share those past events... Later, he asked me that his current job, like his father's, was somewhat risky, and as a responsible person, shouldn't he fall in love and get married? I then realized he had a problem with love, so I quickly broke it down and reasoned with him. Eventually, he understood, and then he became more open-minded."

Fang Chen asked, "From what I've seen, your Qiangqiang must already have a girlfriend, right?"

Huang Tingjuan said mysteriously, "Haha, your intuition is pretty good. Qiangqiang, as for him, he's still a little short of having a girlfriend. There's still a layer of window paper between them, and someone needs to break it."

Fang Chen immediately perked up: "Oh, tell me quickly, what's going on?"

Huang Tingjuan, however, started practicing Tai Chi: "Haha, well, let's talk about this later, later."

Fang Chen did not ask any more questions. The matter of the other party's child had not yet been finalized. Revealing it might have an impact. Metaphysics was something that still needed to be respected. So he changed the subject: "Okay, when the time comes, don't forget to treat me to wedding candy!"

"Of course. Not only will you get to eat wedding candy, but you'll also get to drink wedding wine! By the way, I can tell you a little bit. You should look at more photos of the children, whether they're working, doing their daily lives, or taking pictures of their playtimes. If a certain girl appears frequently in the photos, you can ask her indirectly. Who knows, maybe that's his sweetheart. Hehe, that's how I discovered and confirmed Qiangqiang's mysterious girlfriend."

"Wow, you're amazing! Why didn't I think of that? But Jianjian rarely shows me his photos. His photos are all in his notebook and phone. How can I get them?"

"You can use the excuse of helping him organize his photos. When I was helping Qiangqiang organize his photos, I noticed there was always a researcher following them during their training in the centrifuge or weightless aircraft. I saw it and thought, hey, hi, isn't this... hi, never mind. Anyway, you can do the same thing, or just ask him directly. You can say, for example, he's often away from home. You can say you want to know about his work and life. Send him some photos, send more. Or you can say you miss him and send some photos. Anyway, you can always ask him for them."

"Okay, I'll give it a try."

After ending the call with Huang Tingjuan, Fang Chen immediately sent a WeChat voice message to Chang Jian, saying that he missed him and asked for some photos.

Chang Jian said in a muffled voice, "How could I have the time to take pictures? I don't have any pictures at all."

"Just take some photos of you working. Send me your work status."

"We are not allowed to take photos in there. It is confidential."

Fang Chen was stunned, having forgotten about this. He could only say helplessly, "Oh. Fine then."

The next day, Fang Chen ran into Teacher Liang at school and awkwardly greeted her. She ignored him, rolled her eyes, and then walked away arrogantly. Wang Yunxia, ​​who was standing nearby, followed Teacher Liang and intimately linked her arm. The two of them chatted and laughed as they left.

Fang Chen gave a wry smile and continued on his way, unaware that he had become the topic of conversation again.

"Hey, Teacher Liang, I think you two are a little awkward. Did Teacher Fang offend you in some way?"

"Hmph, she's from a wealthy family, we can't even reach her height. I wanted to introduce her son to a girlfriend out of kindness, but ended up getting rejected."

"Hey, she's just like that, aloof. If you're like that, you should contact her son directly. Her son, Chang Jian, tutored my son two years ago. Coincidentally, I have his WeChat. You can contact him directly."

"Hey, that's a good idea. It saves me from having to look at Fang Chen's face. Maybe the two young people can make it work with just one talk."