I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 208 Strange bedfellows
Girl: "But I also gave him advice!"

Lin Feng: "So what kind of advice did you give?"

Girl: "He's old, he's old and expensive, he can't accept a lower position, he can't let go of his male pride."

Old and expensive?
It made Lin Feng laugh.

Girl: "I'm telling the truth. Although I know he's trying hard to find opportunities, there are really few opportunities for him at his age, because there are many young, capable, obedient and cheap people."

Lin Feng: "That's true, but sister, shouldn't we also consider the other person's feelings when we speak? Maybe you don't have any other ideas, but any man who hears you say this will only think that you despise him."

Girl: "I don't dislike him. What I mean is, can you consider lowering your pride and find a job that may not be so high-ranking and pay so little, but is very stable? It's him who can't let go of his pride."

Raymond Lam: "I still want to hear what negative emotions he released to you?"

Girl: "Negative emotions are like, for example, he is looking at some job opportunities now. I know he will be unhappy if he goes to those companies, and he doesn't want to go, but he just wants to discuss this issue with me. He wants me to tell him to just do it and earn the money."

Lin Feng: "Nothing wrong with that. He just wants your encouragement and recognition."

Girl: "But if he goes to that unit and doesn't get encouragement and recognition, I know he will feel uncomfortable."

Lin Feng: "Sister, the encouragement and recognition I mentioned are given by you. As for whether the company will give him encouragement, you don't need to worry about it.

How can we men have an easy life when we work outside? How can we not bow and scrape?

To make money.

Don't feel aggrieved.

When he returns home, his lover can give him warmth.

This is enough for men.

Do you understand what I mean, sister?

Sometimes men are like children,
No matter how successful his career is, or how hard he works,
He hopes to have someone to love him, a home to return to, someone to wait for him, and food to eat.

That's all. "

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"Someone loves me", "There is a home to go back to", "Someone is waiting for me", "There is food to eat"

Really

A man's happiness is simple.

"My fellow men, are your eyes wet (Dog)?"

"I was in the restroom when I heard the military say that. I used up all the paper I had to wipe my tears and nose (sunglasses)."

"Being wet means you're not having a good time, but the comments made me laugh (haha)."

"It is harder to find a good wife, a wife who understands men, than to climb to the sky."

"You're talking nonsense. Have you looked through the Milky Way? (Dog head)?"

Hahahaha.

“Haha, when the husband is tired, the wife comforts him, but who cares about the wife when she is tired?

"See, I knew this would happen (picking nose)."

“Did it bring you back to reality all of a sudden (smile)?”

"Forget it, forget it. My heart just got warmed up, but now it has to face the reality. It's better to let it cool down."

Hahahahaha.

. . . .

Girl: "He is 50 years old this year. I think he has gone through a lot. I just want to tell you that you are so old, don't wrong yourself anymore."

Lin Feng smiled and shook his head: "So sometimes we say that language communication is very important and is a skill.
You said you clearly wanted to care about him, so why did your words make him feel suppressed and belittled? "

"can you?"

Lin Feng: "What do you think? This is a typical issue involving male dignity.

Forget it, let me ask you another question. If he goes out and finds a not-so-good job, will it affect you and your family?"

Girl: “It doesn’t matter.”

Lin Feng: "That means there is no financial pressure, right?"

"Yes, but I think he will have more negative emotions."

Lin Feng smiled: "You think, you think, it's you who thinks, why don't you think you are selfish?"

Girl: “I’m selfish?”

Lin Feng: "Nonsense! Didn't you say it yourself? You don't let him go out to work, not because you're afraid that he will be suppressed, but because you're afraid that he will have more negative emotions towards you after being suppressed.
You keep thinking about yourself, and you don't even know it. I'm drunk."

Girl: "You all feel sorry for him, but who will feel sorry for me?"

Lin Feng: "Why do I feel sorry for you? I've listened to you for a long time. The fact is that you worry about this and that. What you worry about is all an invisible pressure.

Sometimes things don't even happen, but you start panicking.

Once you panic, you push your insecurity onto your husband.

The fact is, he is now unemployed and he is the one who is actively looking for a job.

When people ask for your opinion,
You also said that no matter how much you earn, you have no financial pressure.

Then you just need to support him to go.

What a simple thing!
Why do you have to wonder what would happen if he is unhappy at work?
how,

Are you a prophet?

How do you know that people are definitely unhappy at work?
You think you feel is always an assumption,
Even if it's what you expected, so what?

Can't we just live our lives anymore?
"It's not hard to eat, sister."

Girl: "I just don't want to make this decision for him. I want him to make it himself without my approval."

Lin Feng: "But when he made the decision himself, you were against it."

elder sister,

Now it’s not that people are giving you negative energy.

It's you who is on the CPU side.

What is so old and expensive?

What's the matter? There are no young and capable guys?

You are suppressing and belittling the other party, and you don't even give them a chance to refute.

You are causing the other person to fall into a state of mental exhaustion caused by self-doubt.

You are a pure npd!
Uh. .

The girl was speechless.

. . . . .

On the barrage.

Xiao Wan: "I don't want to help others make decisions, but I have to control their decisions. It's suffocating (terrifying)."

Stranger: "The most prominent feature of NPD personality is selfishness, the ability to confuse right and wrong, and sophistry. Once a problem occurs, they will never think that the fault is theirs."

Mr. Xu: "But they also have advantages, that is, they are very serious about their work, because their work gives them money, and they are very good to their parents and brothers, which makes it difficult for them to integrate into any family other than their original family."

In this barrage, Yu Huanshui seemed to be looking in the mirror.

After so many years of marriage, Gan Hong has always been close to her parents and brothers, but she blames and suppresses him.

npd?
Ah,
ridiculous!

Gouzi: "So it's very important to marry a wife. If you marry the right one, she will think you have a cold when you cough. If you marry the wrong one, she will think you are swinging on a swing when you hang yourself."

Prodigal Son: "My wife is such a person. My internal organs have been severely damaged."

Brother Qiu Feng: "My ex-wife is the same. Let's keep one company and stop the loss in time."

Moonlight: "My girlfriend is an NPD, but I cured her. It took me six months, using both soft and hard tactics to break through her mental defenses, move her, make her indifferent, and use CPU when necessary. I can only say that it was extremely difficult."

The stream flows: "Brother, how much is the six-month course?"

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Lin Feng: "Today we discussed this thing, and the discussion was quite vague, but I can sense that if you continue like this, your ending will not be good, and your relationship will basically be over."

Girl: “I’m not afraid of divorce.”

Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard: "Sister, isn't this your answer?"

Girl: “I…”

Lin Feng waved his hand: "Don't rush to explain. I'm going to ask you a question. Please answer me honestly. Do you have a soul mate?"

The girl was silent for a while and then said, "Yes."

Lin Feng threw the pen in his hand and said, "What the hell are we talking about now that we've solved the case?"

Well. . .

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

Soulmate

"I knock, the rich lady is really awesome."

"Case solved, hahaha."

"What is a soul mate?"

"Someone is here."

Low EQ: Someone is there

High emotional intelligence: soul mate
Enlightenment.

"If a woman dares to do something out of line at a wedding, then her husband must be a loyal and kind person. If her husband is a bad guy or a hooligan, she won't dare to do anything out of line, so the people who get hurt are usually loyal and kind people."

"Yes, I am the honest person. I didn't dare to do anything. In the end, she even said that I forced her to do it (crying to death)."

"Ah! When I love you, I take you off piece by piece. When I don't love you, I stab you with a knife. When I love you, I want to be with you every day. When I don't love you, I tear you apart. When I love you, I think of poetry and distant places. When I don't love you, I think of corpses and the police."

fear! !

"Fortunately, my wife may be silly, but she is as loyal as a dog or a horse (sunglasses)."

"Three things,
My girlfriend is not stupid,

But the sensual pleasures of life
Everybody knows,

I played dumb.

I hope she will have no regrets.
I must remember this.
One thing, two things, three things,
This is all in the past.

“Great poem (cow)!”

"It's just my personal experience."

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Girl: "No, we are just spiritual partners, not like what everyone thinks."

Lin Feng shook his head and said, "Sister, when we talk about spiritual companions, even if this person is of the same sex, he will become the culprit that causes your relationship to become distant."

Girl: “Why?”

Raymond Lam: "Let's say I'm married to you, and we're facing all the mess in life. At this time, you have a very good...

such,

We don't care about his gender.

Let’s just say besties.

We chat with our besties every day, and you will complain to them about the unhappiness in your life.
That girlfriend will only express some opinions from my perspective.
This view only reinforces my original view.
At this time, you will find that the more you look at your partner, the more you dislike him/her and the more uncomfortable you feel.

This is the risk of being a soulmate. "Girl: "I don't deny the risk you mentioned. Maybe it really could happen, but I feel a lot of pressure now. When I have to take on all these things for him every day, I wonder if we can each consume our own things. "

Lin Feng: "Look, the risk has already appeared. The reason why you don't want to talk to your husband is because you have found a new person to talk to. Sister, if you continue like this, you will get into trouble."

The girl was not convinced: "Then I want to ask you, are soul mates necessarily husband and wife?"

Raymond Lam: “Not necessarily.”

"That's it."

Lin Feng: "Sister, do you really want me to say something so harsh?"

"you say!"

Women are more confident.

Lin Feng: "First of all, your soul mate is most likely of the opposite sex."

Girl: “So what? Nothing happened anyway.”

Lin Feng: "Okay, even if nothing has happened between you, and even if you really don't have any other ideas, I believe you.

why?
Because I believe that some girls can really simply enjoy spiritual communication.

But as a man,
I can tell you responsibly,
There is no man in this world who just wants to chat with you.

A man communicates with you spiritually for only one purpose, which is to communicate with you physically.

Don't rush to refute.

Please look at the big screen. "

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"Why did this kid spill our secrets again (angry)?"

"I've experienced it myself, and what he said is so true. If a man keeps chatting with a woman, he wants to get her, so I never chat with men now."

"How about calling it a male animal?"

"Heroic Character (Doghead)."

“Haha that’s so true.”

"It's something that's in our DNA. It's none of our business. Girls' DNA also has information about how to attract men (sunglasses)."

DNA: I don’t take the blame for this.

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Girl: “He’s different!”

Lin Feng laughed: "What a classic quote!"

"you..."

Lin Feng: "Sister, what I said just now may be too absolute. After all, the world's population base is so large, there are always exceptions.

But if I say that we can become soul mates, we must have a mutual affection for each other. Do you deny this?"

The girl suddenly fell silent.

This seems really irrefutable.

If a person doesn't like you, why would he be willing to spend time on you?

Lin Feng smiled and continued, "When it comes to having feelings for each other, you are often unconscious, so when both of you don't realize it, you are indeed each other's spiritual partners, a very simple one.

And when one of you realizes this, the relationship between you can no longer be simple.
At this time, it is not a spiritual partner, but an ambiguous relationship. "

Well. . .

. . . . .

On the barrage.

On the surface: spiritual partner.

Essence: ambiguous relationship.

"Hahahaha, the military advisor is so bad (dying of laughter)."

"Just expose this matter directly."

Military Advisor: Still pretending? I will fucking cut off your escape route.

Girl: Thank you for helping me.

"That's good. I can't pretend to be confused anymore."

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Lin Feng: "Nothing has happened now only because the opportunity has not appeared yet, or maybe you two are both good people and are doing your duty.

But sister,

When you keep telling your other person how incompetent your husband is, you are actually sending them ambiguous signals.

Once there is a big quarrel between you and your husband,
You're not cheating on me, you're just running over the wall!"

Well. . .

Girl: "So your answer is that soul mates can only be husband and wife?"

Raymond Lam: "You don't have to be husband and wife, but it will affect your centripetal force as a couple, and the end result is that you and your husband will be sleeping in the same bed but dreaming different dreams."

The girl was silent again.

Raymond Lam: "Sister, you are more than ten years older than me. You actually have a lot of emotional problems, but you look like a child.

Maybe it's because of the 10-year age difference.
Plus, your partner has protected you so well in the past 15 years of marriage.
That's why you are 40 years old and still retain this childish and naive ideas.

But I'm not your husband.

You paid to talk to me on the phone, so I must make you face this reality.

When we talk about a relationship, if there is no communication and only silence, it means it is not far from ending.

To love someone means that after a busy day, he or she will put down his or her phone, take the initiative to chat with you, and share with you what he or she sees and hears in daily life.

Even if there is nothing important, they will still talk to you. It may be meaningless nonsense, but the content is not important. What is important is the feelings behind the words.

How can a man love a woman?

Let's take an example. A man who loves you, even if he is very sleepy after working all day,
But as long as he can sense your movements,
Even if he is half asleep, he will show his concern for you.

On the contrary, a man who doesn't have you in his heart will not care about your feelings at all.
Even if he heard any noise, he would pretend not to hear it and just sleep.
If you make too much noise and disturb him,
He may even get angry and blame you for disturbing him, without caring about your feelings at all.

Think about whether your partner has taken care of you like this over the past 15 years?

How do you treat others now?

You said you were tired from work and didn't want to talk, so you asked him to take care of his own business.

But do you really not want to talk?

You just told others what to say and had nothing to say to him.

So what's the difference between your behavior and that man who pretended to sleep and told you not to bother him? "

The girl was silent for a while and then said, "This... I really haven't thought about it before. I agree with you."

Lin Feng clapped his hands and said, "What did I say? That man protected you too well in the past. Now he has fallen. You have to shoulder the responsibility of the family, but your shoulders are too young and your heart is not mature enough.

With just a few words of comfort from others, you feel like you have found your soul mate.

Actually.

The person who has supported you through 15 years of hardship is the one who loves you the most and understands you the most! "

Girl: "Then what should I do? I really don't dislike him, but now I go to work and come home every day, and my energy is really used up. I'm also very tired."

The woman suddenly burst into tears at the end of her speech.

Lin Feng smiled knowingly.

This is probably the state that only people who are truly surrounded by love will have.

She is 41 years old and earns 200 yuan a year, but she lives like a little girl.

Raymond Lam: "It's actually very simple. Slow down the pace of life and stop working.
I told my husband that we have savings at home and there is no rush to go to work.

Let's go on vacation together and find the joy of life.

Sister, remember this.
I formed a family with this man. I was the wife and he was the husband. We were like grasshoppers on the same rope.

It is not possible to say that when he is strong, there is no problem, but when he is weak, I start to collapse.

At this time, you must encourage the other person and give them positive emotional output.

remember,

This is the responsibility that every wife and husband should fulfill in a marriage.

Similarly,

If one day your work and income are not good, and your career also suffers this kind of gap,

Then what you need is definitely the affirmation and recognition given to you by the other party.

Instead of him telling you to solve your own problems.

Is it right? "

The girl nodded: "You are right."

Raymond Lam: “The last and most important point is the question of soul mate.

sisters,

I know you may be confused in this environment.

You need an emotional outlet.

But remember,

When you have a psychological partner as a new window, your husband's small window must be going down.
He not only descended,
And under comparison, there will definitely be a strong contrast.

This will definitely affect your marriage.

What if I want to talk too?
Find your husband.

Next time when your husband expresses these emotions to you, you can tell him directly.
Husband, I'm tired too.

I also have many grievances.

Then pour all your negative energy on him.

I believe he will feel sorry for you and will handle it better than you.

After all, he can take care of a 41-year-old aunt like a child. I absolutely believe in his ability. "

puff~

The girl burst into laughter.

"Who is your aunt? Call me sister."

Lin Feng and Yu Huanshui smiled at each other.

"Okay, okay, sister."

"Thank you, Military Advisor. I really gained a lot from this live broadcast."

Lin Feng: "It's my honor to help you. Okay, go down and live a good life."

Uh-huh.

Attached

[Military Advisor’s Comments: If you ask me what miracles there are in the world?
It must be trying to understand someone and to share the joys and sorrows with them.

It’s hard to do, but it must be beautiful. 】

(End of this chapter)