I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 209: Sure, buddy, backstabbing your father-in-law, right?

Hang up the mic,
Raymond Lam went to the live broadcast room and said:
"Brothers, do you know why I asked her to stop working and go travel with her husband?
I tell you,
There is a certain subtlety here.

Because life is something that consumes a lot of emotions.

How can two people who have no blood relationship live together till old age?
You must have a lot of things in common.
What is common things?
Do you think children count?

Calculate!
But not enough.

One is not enough, two are not enough.

At least seven or eight children are enough.

why?
Because of these seven or eight children, no one can stand getting divorced.

Is this the truth, brothers?

This thing can't take care of four or five children by yourself, no matter how awesome you are.

So just think about it,
Even if the feelings are exhausted, this marriage will not end.

Then in modern society, who would be so stupid as to have seven or eight children?

What if there are not seven or eight children?
How do a couple maintain their marriage?

That is to find something in common besides children.

Only when you two do something together, the accumulated experiences can withstand some of the hardships of life.

I personally think that traveling together is a good choice.

My suggestion is that after a couple gets married, they should travel at least once a year.
remember,

Don't bring children.
You don't have to go far, but at least stay out for a night.

When you two set out, the feeling of being in love comes back.

So we need to save up warm moments one after another.

You must have this awareness.

We are in this together. If we are happy today, we will not fight for at least half a month.
why?
It's that kind of warm moment that is injected into your married life.

To relive the sweet feeling of being in love.

Save some energy and then spend it.
I feel like I'm getting sick, so let's go and travel again.

The more places you two go, the less likely you are to get divorced.

why?

Because your shadow is everywhere she goes, she couldn't stand it and came back.

So we say that love is not about staring at each other, it is not about you looking at me and I looking at you with wide eyes, what’s the point of that?

True love requires looking at the world from the same perspective.

In your memory banks, you both face the same beautiful mountains and rivers.

The common thing they all have is nutrients.

Will constantly nourish each other.

You said you have done the big romance, so what are these little things?
So I told my brothers that big romance can be dealt with at any time, and the little things are no big deal at all.

What is the Great Romance?
It doesn’t necessarily have to be tourism.

But the essence must be that the two of you relive the sweet times and find one warm moment after another.

Accumulate these warm moments and spend them in your married life.

remember,

Don't take it as a bother.

Because everyone is the same. After decades of marriage, there will be bumps and bruises, and the feelings will be consumed little by little.

You said that you only spent the emotions accumulated during those years of love.
It’s clearly not enough.”

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"Accumulate warm moments" and "Use them in life"

“In psychology, it’s also called emotional savings.”

I lost it!

This is great wisdom!

"That's awesome!"

"It turns out that marriages were stable in the past because every family had five or six children."

“It’s really rare to hear of real cases of divorce with six or seven children.”

The military advisor's words woke the dreamer up!
Finding Common Things

"No wonder the military advisor always said that a couple must be able to work together. So that's how it is."

“Collaboration is conscious bonding.”

Enlightenment.

"Good love is not about staring at each other" "It is about looking at the world from the same perspective"

That’s so well said!
“In summary: Don’t face to face, face to face.”

"I see. No wonder my partner wants to eat next to me."

"Hahaha you understand."

"Is it possible that your partner is afraid of oil splashing across the street (dog head)?"

what?
Hahahahaha.

"What the military advisor said is so right. I deeply understand it. At night, when the children are asleep, we secretly go to the movies. When the children are not at home, we go to the mountains together. Or when the children are doing homework, we take an hour to go to the suburbs to watch the sunset together. Whatever one person wants to do, the other person will definitely respond positively. After 20 years of marriage, I still feel in love."

wow~
I felt good after listening to it.

envy!

"My husband is not like that. When I said I wanted to go see the sea, he said people had died in the sea."

"People are dying every day on Earth, why don't you go to Mars?"

"I think my man is the reincarnation of a killjoy. He spoils the fun whenever he goes out."

"You go out happily and come back cursing, right? (Haha)"

"Same type of man +1."

"So what we did together was we had a lot of fights (smiles)."

puff~
Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Lin Feng glanced at the comments and shook his head, saying, “When I say travel, it must be something that both of us like. One can’t like it and the other doesn’t, otherwise we’ll end up fighting.

So it is not recommended for brothers who don’t like traveling.

Find some common interests and hobbies, do you understand?

This teaches you how to draw energy from the world outside of your life.

So how can you manage your marriage from the inside?
This requires that at least one of the two people must be wise.

Let me give you an example, brothers.

My third uncle.

Although he is my uncle, he is only about ten years older than me.

Thirty-something,

My aunt and my third uncle were born in the same year, both in the Year of the Ox.

Before getting married, my aunt told my third uncle that I was the cow at the end of December, that is, I was eating grass and resting.

You were born in August or September, and you are busy plowing the land. It is destined.

When my aunt said it for the first time, my third uncle didn’t understand what she meant.

At that time, I thought she was feudal and superstitious.

But 10 years after getting married, my third uncle told me that he finally understood what my aunt meant by that sentence.

Since they got married, my aunt has never gotten up earlier than my uncle.

My uncle makes breakfast and dinner every day.

I also have to prepare a sumptuous meal for my aunt on the weekend.

After that, I brainwashed my uncle and said that the food you cook is really delicious.

While mopping the floor, she also brainwashed my uncle, saying that her waist was not in good condition.

My uncle was also the one who bought the vegetables. She said that she would be cheated by the auntie in the vegetable market.

But in reality, my uncle said my aunt is a very smart person.

Of course,
My aunt doesn't do any housework.

She is responsible for washing clothes and my uncle is responsible for hanging clothes.

My aunt said that this is a woman's responsibility and it makes her appear both virtuous and decent.

But she just put it in the washing machine.

She also washed the dishes. She told my uncle that it was her duty. Her husband worked so hard to cook, so she should wash the dishes herself.

But she just put the dishes in the dishwasher.

Later, when my aunt gave birth to her first child, she said that she was the only male heir in three generations of my uncle's family.

So from then on, it was my uncle who got up at night.

Not only did she brainwash my uncle, she also brainwashed my grandfather after he came.
She said that my uncle was responsible and had always taken care of her.

My goodness, my grandfather was so embarrassed that he couldn’t say anything.

I can only occasionally help my uncle share some of the burden silently.
My aunt always says that my husband is so outstanding, and I feel insecure.
So for her sense of security, my uncle transferred all his income to my aunt's card.

When the house was demolished and sold, my aunt said, "Husband, I heard that men become bad when they have money. You won't become bad, will you?"

My uncle shook his head.

She said, what if money turns you into a bad person? Losing money is a small matter. Losing such an excellent husband is like losing the whole world.
Then my uncle put the money into her card again.

My uncle didn't want a second child before, so she brainwashed him and told him to give me another daughter to be my little cotton-padded jacket, which would be caring and warm.

Heaven,

Who knows where my aunt got such great ability, and she actually did it.

The second child is a daughter.

Now my uncle says that my aunt not only brainwashed him, but also brainwashed her son.

Whenever her son came back to tell her that he had done well in a certain subject, she would say, "Son, you are great."

If you continue to be so outstanding, you will be able to support me soon and I can quit my boss.

Then he started to trick his son into taking out the trash, tricked him into washing dishes during the winter and summer vacations, and later tricked him into correcting his homework himself.

When my daughter was older, my aunt started brainwashing her again.

She said she was my daughter’s best friend and bought two lollipops and captured her.

When I go out, I hand her clothes, open the door for her, watch her go to work, and even give her a kiss.

As soon as the doorbell rings, he runs to open the door for her, carry her bag, and give her a hug.

My uncle said that she was simply insane. She had killed the two children whom I had raised with such love and care.

My uncle sometimes complains to me, saying that middle-aged couples support each other. I feel like I've joined a pyramid scheme. I can't run away or hide. I'm brainwashed every day, and it seems to make sense.
He simply applied his ability of painting big rosy pictures for his employees to everyone in his family.

Uncle, are you tired?
My uncle said, don’t ask me if I’m tired. How can I not be tired when I make breakfast and dinner every day for 365 days?
But I can't help but feel excited!
I kept telling my uncle to hold on for a few more years and move to the countryside when the kids grow up.
When the time comes, buy me a fishing rod, go fishing with me, take care of flowers and plants, and raise chickens, ducks and geese.
It’s like my boss told me to go public.

Hey,
I am now relying on this belief to keep going, and I feel that one day I will be able to make a living as a fisherman. . . ”

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

Hahahahaha.

"Aunt is the head of a pyramid scheme."

"I'm so happy, haha."

“Oh my god, is this what emotional value is?”

"I was watching it with great interest, and my boyfriend leaned over and pointed and said, "Isn't that you? Isn't that you?"

"You are also a girl with high emotional intelligence, you are sweet-talking and do little work, I envy you."

"The key is that my uncle just buys into this, hahaha."

"Because he loves her."

Clicked.

"If I don't love you, it means you will CPU me all day long (dog head)."

"In fact, men don't ask for much. Giving you enough emotional value and the recognition of your partner is enough to make most men devote themselves to you until their death."

"If I hadn't been there before, I would have believed it (picking my nose)."

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: "For us men, what is happiness?

When people reach middle age,

Both parents,

My wife is still my original wife.

The child is his own.
There is no debt outside.
There is no quarrel or noise at home.

Have a good body,

That's all. "

okay,

Next one. Ding~
"Hello, military advisor."

It's a boy.

Lin Feng: "Come on buddy, tell me about your situation."

"Military Advisor, my situation is that I have been pursuing a girl for almost three years."

???

Lin Feng: "You are the ultimate evolution of a fucking licker beast - a nuclear-powered licker beast!"

Uh. .

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"The Ultimate Evolution of the Licker" "Nuclear Power Licker"

"If you have something to say, keep it to yourself. Don't let the military advisor laugh at you (dog head)."

Hahahahaha.

"There are three thousand diseases that affect people's lives, but being a dog licker is the only disease that cannot be cured (grin)."

The dog-licking team: "Welcome new members to join."

I finally found the organization!

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Boy: "Wait a minute, Advisor, I have her now."

What the hell!

Raymond Lam: "When a dog licks the dog, then you can't be called a dog licker, you are a warrior charging for love."

"Hahahaha, thank you, Military Advisor. I like this title..."

Lin Feng: "Look how happy the child is. Okay, tell me now that you have caught her, do you have any questions?"

Boy: "We have been together for three months, and this time she plans to take me home to meet her parents."

Raymond Lam: "Great news buddy, don't forget to bring a gift!"

Boy: "A military advisor is a military advisor. I just want to ask about the meeting gift this time."

Lin Feng: "What do you mean?"

Boy: "I bought a necklace for my aunt, it cost about 20,000 yuan."

A necklace worth 20,000 yuan.

Lin Feng: "Awesome buddy, you have a mine at home."

Boy: "Haha, my parents are both in business, so I have some money."

Lin Feng: "There's nothing to be embarrassed about. This is your advantage. My friend gave her mother a necklace. What about her father's gift?"

Boy: "I brought two bottles of red wine and a belt worth 5,000 yuan for my uncle."

Raymond Lam: "Does her father drink?"

Boy: “Drink.”

Lin Feng smiled and said, "Brother, you are Liuzi, right?"

"Huh? How did the military advisor know that?"

The boy looked surprised.

Raymond Lam: "Who in China would send foreign wine? I tell you, buddy, it's not that foreign wine is bad, it's that Chinese people don't have a very good understanding of the concept of red wine, and they can't show off their so-called face and status.
Since we are not short of money, let's change the red wine and don't do anything else, just give Maozi as a gift."

Boy: “Okay!”

Lin Feng: "Speaking of this, I suddenly thought of something interesting. Brothers, do you know what is the etiquette for giving wine to the father-in-law when meeting him for the first time and after getting married?

Experienced brothers will definitely know,
Generally, when you first meet each other, that is, when you first meet each other's parents, this is the stage where you call the other person uncle.

At this time, both face and substance are important. You can give the gift wine worth more than one thousand yuan, such as Guojiao, Wuliangye, and Maozi.

The second stage is the stage of calling dad. At this time, you have just gotten married, and usually the wine gifts are Lai Mao, Shede, or Fenjiu, which cost about three to five hundred yuan.

The third stage is half a year after the marriage. At this time, many brothers no longer give three or five hundred yuan worth of wine as gifts, but instead give two or three hundred yuan worth of Langjiu.

Finally, after two or three years of marriage, you won’t even look at anything that costs more than 100 yuan.

Whatever is cheap, you buy it.
Is there anything wrong with what I said, brothers?"

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

Hahahaha so true.

"But there is a fifth stage: just go for the father-in-law's (dog head)."

"Is this the bottle you gave to your uncle? (Laughing to death)"

"No, I've reached the point where I can get back the wine I took away, and then I have to follow his inventory (proud)."

"Just go empty-handed and come back full-handed?"

"I won't go empty-handed, I'll at least have a full bottle of iced tea (sunglasses)."

Hahahaha.

"Really? I've been married for five years, and when I come back from my father-in-law's house, I won't start the car unless the trunk is full (dog head)."

A role model for our generation!
"My father-in-law even had to reluctantly help make room (for the sunglasses)."

Very reasonable!
Hahahahaha.

. . . . . . .

Lin Feng: "What does this mean? Anyway, the wine you gave away will be taken back sooner or later, so this is the first time you give wine, you must give enough face, do you understand, buddy?"

Boy: "Military Advisor, I understand, but everything is fine with my uncle, it's my aunt who has some problems."

Lin Feng: “What’s the problem?”

"My boyfriend helped me choose the gift for my aunt, and her father is a face-conscious person. When she told her mother that she bought a necklace for her, she thought the gift was too expensive and refused to accept it.

And my aunt had an identical one before, which her father also gave to her mother, but it was lost later.”

What the hell!

Lin Feng: "Brother, are you a rascal? This is not a question of whether it is expensive or not, you are crossing the line!"

???

The boy looked confused.

Didn't understand what it meant.

Lin Feng: "You don't understand, and your girlfriend doesn't understand either? This is really hitting the nail on the head, buddy, you said your father-in-law is a very face-conscious person, then can the gift you gave be the same as his?

Can it be the same thing?
Although it is a thing, can it be an event?

Next time your mother-in-law sees that necklace, she will think of her son-in-law instead of his wife.
Do you think your father-in-law can be happy?

I thought to myself, what are you doing to me, kid?

Can't I send it to him?

Even if the previous one is lost, won’t he make up for it?

It's obvious that you are here to give it away."

Well. . .

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"From now on, when the mother-in-law looks at this necklace, she will think of her son-in-law, not her old man"

Uncle sat up in the middle of the night: "Bitch!"

Hahahaha.

My aunt woke up next to me and said, "How dare you call me a bitch?"

What the hell!

I fucking laughed my ass off.

Title: I bought a 20,000 yuan necklace for my mother-in-law.

Reality: Backstabbing the father-in-law.

Absolutely.

Father-in-law: "You are such a conspicuous bag, I will increase the betrothal gift by twenty yuan."

"Missing a w."

"It should be times (sunglasses)."

The quarrels are doubled, damn!

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Boy: "It wasn't me, my girlfriend picked it for me."

Raymond Lam: "Your girlfriend is setting a trap for you, bro."

Uh. .

Boy: "Yeah, there are a lot of complicated situations here, because her father might have been away from home for three years, and there are some special reasons."

Lin Feng clapped his hands: "Well, you've stepped into the trap again, haven't you? The mother-in-law can't see the father-in-law, and she has to look at the necklace given by the son-in-law every day. What the hell do you want to do? Do you want to take advantage of the situation and kill two birds with one stone?"

Uh. .

Lin Feng: "Brother, joking is joking, but what you did was definitely wrong. You said that if you spend money on gifts but it doesn't touch the heart of the person, what's the point of giving the gift?"

Boy: "I haven't sent it yet, but I also feel it's not a good idea, so I asked the military advisor on the mic today."

Not sent yet?

Lin Feng nodded: "That's much easier. Just return the necklace and give my mother-in-law a set of high-end cosmetics."

Boy: "But her mother already knows about this, it's not appropriate to change it now."

Lin Feng: "It would be even more inappropriate if you gave it as a gift."

Boy: "And her dad knows about it, too."

Lin Feng: "Of course, otherwise the old man would have given you a red envelope of 20,000 yuan, do you think he is really being polite to you?

Remember, buddy, as long as you give the necklace, whether you accept the red envelope or not, your relationship with your partner is basically over."

???

The boy was confused again.

Why?

Lin Feng: "Then tell me why my father gave you a red envelope of 20,000 yuan?"

Boy: "He thinks the gift is too expensive and I spent too much money!"

fart!

Lin Feng: "That's because you put them there."

Who the hell is meeting parents for the first time and giving gifts, and before the gifts are even given, they’ve already mentioned the price?
Do you understand, buddy?
Your gift makes me uncomfortable.
I don't feel good about receiving this red envelope of 20,000 yuan.

Boys should give this gift out of courtesy when meeting parents for the first time.

It is only natural that they collect it.

What's going on now?

You give someone a necklace worth 20,000 yuan, and they give you a red envelope worth 20,000 yuan in return.

What are you doing?
In essence, this thing becomes an exchange.

You haven't achieved the purpose of giving a gift.

And buddy,

You look young, and you don’t understand the philosophy of gift giving.”

???

The boy was even more confused.

How can giving a gift be considered philosophical?
Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard and said, "It's not just you who doesn't understand this question, many of our brothers in the live studio may not understand it either.

Come,
Everyone took out their little notebooks and wrote it down.

What is gift giving?

When giving a gift, you should not let the other party know the price, but you can still let the other party know the price.

When you give this gift to someone, you don't need to mention the price. The other person will think that this daily necessity should not be expensive, and he will feel that it is not a burden to receive it.
But when you're gone,

The other party scans with his mobile phone.
What the hell!

I really am willing to spend it!
At this time, the meaning of your gift can be truly reflected.

Do you understand, buddy?
This is called providing emotions for the second time and satisfying the other person's psychology. This is the philosophy of gift giving.

I see some brothers are still worried, what if other people’s parents don’t sweep the place?
Just rest assured.

Definitely scan!
And as soon as you step out of the door, he will sweep you away.

It would be best if he doesn’t know how to sweep the floor, so you can invite relatives, friends or your mother’s best friend to your house and let others do the sweeping.

This one is swept out.

Relatives and friends will exclaim in amazement and say some envious words.

By then, don't even think about getting your partner.

You really have taken your mother-in-law with you."

Well. . .

(End of this chapter)