I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 205: I can give advice, but I generally don’t want to give it
"Thank you, Military Advisor. I understand."

The girl was very calm at this moment.

Really let it go.

Lin Feng: "Okay, let's go down."

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"This guy is really awesome. He takes on all kinds of business now."

"Hahaha, expand the track in the off-season."

"No, I also want to order a song for my ex-boyfriend."

"What song is it?"

"What kind of man are you!"

"Honestly, do you just want to see the military advisor get scolded (sunglasses)?"

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Hang up the mic,
Raymond Lam said to the live studio:
"Just now I saw a lot of comments attacking girls on the barrage, please don't do that, brothers.

When it comes to love, as long as it doesn't happen to you, it seems like a joke to look at it happening to others.

But I tell you,

If two people who truly love each other break up, one of them will definitely cling to the other and won't let go, or even cling to the other.

Many people look down on me, saying that I am not free and easy enough.
Some people think this is not necessary at all
If you break up, then break up. The next one will be better.

But do you think he is stupid?

Doesn't he know?
Doesn't he know that starting a new relationship is easier than getting back together?

But why is he still unwilling to let go?
It's because of love.

The more humble a person is, the more he clings to you, he must be the one who loves you more.

Because no one in this world is willing to lose their dignity and face, and contact you and look for you again and again in various ways all over the world.
He can even ignore how cold, resolute, or even disdainful your attitude towards him is.

He can lower his attitude to cater to you and please you,

Because he knows he really loves you,
He really didn't want to let go like this.

Then I missed a person who could be my lifelong lover.

Otherwise, who would take the initiative to do such a humble thing?
He's crazy?
Is he stupid? "

. . . . .

On the barrage

"No one in the world is willing to lose self-esteem and face" "Just because he loves you more"

Oh my god,

aweason.

"Yes, I am the one who keeps pestering you."

"I also went to pester her yesterday. If you don't really love her to the core, who would be willing to be so humble? It's really tiring."

"We broke up after dating for three years. I only eat two bites of food a day. I always wake up in the middle of the night and can't fall asleep. I feel distressed and anxious. Sometimes I can't breathe. But there is a moment of relief, but it is immediately replaced by sadness."

"I can't post on Moments or Douyin, and I'm afraid people I know will see my feelings in the comment section. I've become a person who can't even express my feelings freely. I can only silently scroll through Douyin to read comments, identify myself in other people's stories, and like them to express myself."

"It looked ugly when I was clinging to you, but that was my final goodbye."

"On the road we are going through, clinging on is unbearable and humble, but this is the final way to say goodbye. When you are exhausted, you can let it go."

. . . . .

Lin Feng: "Oh, by the way, there is one more thing I want to emphasize to my brothers, which is this sense of boundaries.

Bros,
Boundaries are really important.

I think that in this world, apart from your significant other, you should know how to avoid suspicion and have a sense of boundaries towards all other opposite sexes.

Don't talk about anything other than work, and don't share fragments of life that go beyond the boundaries.

You cannot accept or send gifts from the opposite sex in the name of a friend.

Moderation is always the most important thing in relationships between opposite sexes.

Do you know how betrayal begins?
The answer is small talk.

When you chat for a long time, you will want to meet up.

When we meet, I want to hug.

Hug is to possess,

After having it, you want to be together.

You will find that people are greedy.

There is no such thing as a gentleman in this world. It is easy for opposite sexes to develop feelings.

When you can't know when to stop, crossing the line is a matter of time.

Therefore, keeping a sense of propriety and drawing clear boundaries towards the opposite sex is not self-discipline, but the minimum respect and responsibility for your partner.

In a relationship, you need to understand what you can’t do.
Whatever I do will make me lose.

No matter how good the relationship is, once trust collapses, there is no going back."

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"All betrayals start with flirting."

"Brothers, remember, when your girlfriend agrees to another man's friend request, you've already lost."

"If you lose, just change it."

"You are still open-minded."

Hahahaha.

"My husband and I have a strong sense of boundaries. I haven't contacted him for ten days. I don't know if he's still alive?"

"I feel like I have a strong sense of boundaries, because the people I chat with always disappear in the middle of the conversation."

"Gone... is that the kind of gone?"

Hahahahaha.

. . . .

Looking at the increasingly indecent comments on the public screen, Lin Feng smiled and shook his head.

Next person.

Ding~
"Hello, Military Advisor!"

It's a girl.

Raymond Lam: "Hello, do you have any emotional problems?"

"Military Advisor, I want to ask, in addition to giving some love advice, do you also give some advice to families and parents?"

Raymond Lam: "You can give it, but I generally don't want to give it."

"why?"

Raymond Lam: "Family relationships, parent-child relationships, and the problems of our original families are very complicated.

It doesn't mean that you can make some decisions after I tell you.

Because people in our country have a strong sense of family and bloodline,

Even if you are in pain, you still can’t cut it off. "

Girl: “There is no solution!”

Raymond Lam: “That’s right, there is no solution.” . . . .

On the barrage.

"I have no money, no love, and I am scolded and belittled from time to time. I am a waste at every turn. There is no privacy, but insults are inevitable. Anxiety is inevitable, and pain is constant. Girls, do 321 with me (laughing to death)."

"Hahaha, are you reporting my ID card?"

"So true!"

"I can't survive anymore, really."

"Dance together (dog head)."

"Jumped (crying to death)."

"The reason why we blame our original families is never because our parents are poor or incompetent. What we really cannot accept is that our parents are vain, selfish, narrow-minded, and oppressive..."

"The funniest thing is, my dad pointed at my nose and scolded me today, saying I don't know who I resembled to be so selfish (speechless)."

"Of course it looks like you, Lao Deng!"

Really impressed!
. . . . .

Lin Feng: "I know there are many brothers in this room whose families are not very good. I think you must have talked to your parents and tried to persuade them, or to take your advice.

Those who have experienced this must know that it is very difficult.

It can even be said that it is almost impossible to succeed.

why?
Because communication can only be effective when the two parties are at the same level with the same level of cognition and frequency, and without obvious conflicts of interest.

But your parents are not on the same wavelength as you, nor do they have the same goals as you, and they are not even on the same level as you.

In our country, parents have a natural sense of oppression and class superiority towards their children.
They don't want to communicate with you to solve the problem.

They just want you to obey.

The subtext of being obedient is to follow my orders, do things for me, and carry out my orders.

In fact, you will find that this is an order from the leader to his subordinates.
When a leader gives an absolute order to his subordinates and only wants them to obey, if the subordinates try to communicate with him, the leader will think that you are challenging his authority.
So your parents will think the same about you.

At this time, your parents will usually label you as rebellious and ignorant.
But are you really rebellious and ignorant?

Do not,
You just want to take back control of your life.

And at this time your parents will not allow it.

They want to firmly grasp the initiative in your life, so it is completely useless for us to communicate with our parents.

Because whether children and parents can solve problems through communication, the key is not in the hands of the children, but in the hands of the parents.

When parents can let go of their desire for power and superiority, they can listen to you with equal respect.

Otherwise, there will be layers of barriers between you and your parents.

So at this time, if you want to take the initiative in your life, the method you use cannot be communication, but means.

What means?

When you don't have the ability, for example, when you are still a student, you don't have resources, and you don't have a job,
Whatever you say in front of your parents, even if you say the words of a professor from Yan University, even if you say the most reasonable words in the world, is bullshit in the eyes of your parents.

The most common trick used by this type of parents is to overwhelm them with their own strength.

What does it mean to crush someone with strength?

That's when you have absolute power or control huge wealth.

If your parents can be smarter at this time and see the situation clearly, they will automatically give up their position.

Very realistic.
It’s also very cruel!”

. . . .

On the barrage.

“In conclusion: If you want to have a say in front of your parents, that’s when you have absolute power and huge wealth (grin).”

"Yes, and I listened to you, not discussed it with you, because they never communicate."

"In other words, either you obey him, or he obeys you (speechless)."

“So realistic, so scary (terrifying).”

"There's nothing I can do about it. If you can solve problems through communication, you won't have problems with your original family."

"So I envy those who have good families, love and warmth, and didn't grow up under oppression like me. Now I feel very inferior."

"I used to try to communicate with them and talk things out, but in the end we would just quarrel. My mom would say some really bad things to me, and once my dad even hit me. I knew I couldn't communicate with them."

"We've communicated once, and he's been honest (smile)."

"So don't try to complain to the bully (dog head)."

"I almost forgot that my parents were the first ones to bully me, and they were also the ones who bullied me the worst (crying to death)."

"Although many people use this sentence as a joke, for me, it really means that after growing up, I found that there are still many good people in society. Fortunately, my friends are all very good, and they have healed me to a certain extent."

Hey!
. . . . .

Lin Feng: "Come on, sister. I may not be able to help you, but now that we are connected, I and the 13,000 brothers in the room are your audience. Tell us your story."

The girl was silent for a while and then said, "Although I am a 15-year-old junior high school graduate, let me make it clear first that I am a child, not a fool."

15 years old?
Lin Feng was startled.

So small.

Then I heard the girl start to say: "My father's family favors boys over girls. I am a girl, so since I can remember, my father has abused me and my mother almost every day.
My mother was very kind to me at that time, so I vowed to make a name for myself in the future.

But everything changed when I was five years old. My mother gave birth to my younger brother.

Actually, it's nothing.
But I still clearly feel that my mother, who has always loved me, prefers my brother more.

The most memorable time was when my mom smashed my phone and computer into pieces because I refused to play with my brother.

Later, I begged my parents for three whole months before they agreed to buy me a new phone, the cheapest one in the store.

In fact, these are commonplace.

They beat me and sent me to the hospital several times.

They never gave me pocket money, so I started to search online for ways to make money when I was in fourth grade.

One early morning in fifth grade, my dad broke three of my mom's ribs. If I hadn't called the police, she would have killed me.

So I secretly ran out and borrowed a stranger's phone and called the police. Later my mother was hospitalized.

Later, my parents divorced, and I was forced to move out with my mother and lived a very difficult life.

My mother used to be a housewife. After she moved out, she could only find a job with a monthly salary of 3000 yuan, and the rent and utility bills were 1000 yuan. My father also owed 600 yuan in child support.

No matter what, I could still feel my mother's love for me at that time.
So I wash my clothes before going to school every day.

Do housework after you come back.

Although life is hard, it is getting better, isn't it?

But a year later, my parents inexplicably started living together again.
Maybe my mom couldn't live alone anymore, or maybe my dad didn't know how to take care of the kids.
At that time, I was about to enter the first grade of junior high school, and everything changed.

I don't know how to describe it, but all night long I could hear the sounds of my parents arguing and fighting.
Because I still have some feelings for us, I went to him to communicate countless times.
But it's no use.

It evolved to the point where I was covered in tears and blood when I went to school.
Maybe someone would ask why I called the police. I did, but they would rather believe what my parents said than my actual recording.

They also suppressed me from the highest moral point of view.

I feel so depressed and suffocated.

I was a good student originally, but my grades dropped a lot inexplicably in the third year of junior high school, and in the end I only got into an ordinary high school.

Because of family reasons, I have slept in the hospital infusion hall, been burned, had toilet water dunked, and countless other things. I suffered from severe depression and mood disorders.

During the summer vacation, I stayed at home all day playing games and wanting to commit suicide.

Moreover, my health has always been poor. I have mentioned it to my parents many times, but they never took me to see a doctor.

My sixth sense tells me that I don't have much time left.

My mother has now joined forces with the whole family to isolate me. She doesn't care whether I live or die. I can't understand why my mother has become like this. She is a domestic abuser. I use the dirtiest words to describe me.
Thank you for listening to this story.”

(End of this chapter)