I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 196 How to get ashore
"Man, you should be able to let go of what you have. Don't make such a fuss."

"Okay, let's go down."

"Thank you, military advisor."

Hang up the mic,
Raymond Lam said to the live studio:
“This guy lacks a bit of masculinity, you can’t say he’s in a relationship with you, it’s like he’s found a girlfriend.

When he opened his mouth, his voice was so fucking turtle.

Who can bear this? "

. . . . .

On the barrage.

《Turtle Sound》

Oh wow~

Little Meimei
Little Meimei
Hahahaha, I laughed to death.

"Is this kind of person only found on the Internet? If I were to encounter this in real life, I would die of laughter (I am convinced)."

"I have a friend who always speaks in a turtle voice (grin) and calls himself a Shao Luo baby. I really..."

"Hahaha, why would anyone want to learn this kind of voice (laughing to death)."

"I just like the two-faced turtle, who understands (crying to death)."

"Not sisters, are you serious?"

"Why can't you get over it?"

"Because she just turned eighteen~"

There is a picture.

puff~
Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Raymond Lam: "Speaking of which, regarding this recent relationship, I saw many people on the public screen had different opinions.

Some say that girls have no conscience.
Some say that boys are irresponsible.

In fact, everyone has his own focus in life, and it is different.

Just like what I said during the live broadcast, one of them is love-minded and the other is career-minded.

No one is right or wrong.

This is because everyone has different growth experiences, personal living environments, and family backgrounds.

Essentially,
The more a person lacks something, the more he actually wants it.

If a child from a poor family is really poor, what he wants most is to stand out.
What I want most is to transcend class strata.
What I want most is financial freedom and the realization of my own life value.

As she grew up and entered society,
He will become extremely ambitious.

At the same time, she is bound to be a little weak in terms of emotions.

So for people like this, they will be fine no matter who is with them.

Because he doesn't know how to work hard on a relationship, relationships are actually dispensable to him.

Because all his attention and energy are focused on his career.

He has no way of taking care of the emotional aspect.

On the other hand,
If a person has not had love since childhood, then the focus of his entire life will be on finding a relationship, or a partner.

At this time, his ambition to succeed will be relatively weaker.

If he meets someone who is more career-oriented, then they will definitely not be able to understand each other in their relationship.

So I say they are people from two different worlds.

To be honest, these are all personal life choices and there is no right or wrong.

It's just the result of their past experiences, so it's hard for us to judge.

All I can say is that if it’s not suitable, just break up and don’t torture each other.

However, my personal suggestion is that if you are a love-minded person, it is really not suitable for you to find a career-minded person to date.
Because compared to those who are very career-oriented, he doesn't care who stays by his side. He just needs one person.

Moreover, people who are very career-oriented are unlikely to fall in love.

He will choose a partner who can help and support him in his career.

This partner must have good resources, or good connections.

To put it bluntly, this kind of person is relatively snobbish.

To put it nicely, they are more able to realize their self-worth quickly.

So, how do I explain this?

To avoid this situation in the future, I suggest that you ask someone directly next time you meet him.
A good partner and a good career, which one would you choose?
Then if he chooses career, then you know that he is not suitable for you.

Because the focus of his life will not be on you.
Even if you are angry, he will not be patient enough to coax you.

So, it not only depends on what you want to choose, but also what the other party wants to choose.

In fact, no matter which choice we make, there is nothing wrong with it.

If your family background was a little bit poor, you might also choose a career, right?

In short, if you are a love-minded person and you meet someone who is career-minded, you should turn around and leave immediately.

Because he can't give you the love you want.

You also go find a love brain,

Some people say that if two love-brained people are together, then they will not live their life and will just be in love?
Actually not.

When the love brain is with the love brain, you will think about how to manage the relationship with him and how to pamper him.
He is angry, what should I do?
Moreover, two love-brains can fight together.

They are willing to fight for our small family.

Therefore, two people who are in love can manage their relationship and work together when they are together.

But his career mindset is different. He is indeed more realistic.
No matter it is a boy or a girl, because he is more concerned about himself, he doesn't care much about your feelings, and he doesn't try hard to manage the relationship and family.
And career-minded people won’t like love-minded people,

Because your love-brained mind will create an obstacle to his world. It will not be of any help at all and will even hinder him.

Being together means torturing each other.

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"This is a good idea. Before you start dating, ask the other person whether he or she is more career-minded or love-minded."

"Haha, when I ask them, they all seem to be in love, and when I talk to them, they all seem to be using cold and violent methods."

“Hahaha, I ordered it.”

"I really don't understand. People nowadays are either pretending to be in love or pretending to be i."

"Hey, I'm a passionate little dog and I'm about to get mammary nodules. He really can't give me any emotion. I feel wronged. He thinks I'm too fussy." "As a career-minded person, I want to say that yes, we are more selfish, especially those with poor family conditions. But career-minded people are not suitable to be with career-minded people. If both of them don't manage the relationship, it will break up sooner or later. So career-minded people also need the company of love-minded people."

"I want both!"

"That's really unfair to the love-brained one."

Xiao He Liu: "To put it simply, when your material world is rich, you will look for things in the spiritual world. When your spiritual world is rich, you will look for things in the material world. In the end, you will feel that you lack both."

Bro, that's so insightful!

. . . . .

next.

Ding~
"Hello, military advisor."

It's a boy.

Lin Feng: "What's wrong, buddy, are you having any emotional problems?"

Boy: "Military Advisor, as a scumbag, I really want to return to my family, but sometimes I can't control myself, so I want to learn from you how to restrain myself, whether it's this kind of emotion or desire."

Lin Feng raised his head and glanced at the lens: "You want to ask me how to get ashore as a scumbag?"

"Yeah."

Raymond Lam: "Then let me ask you a question first. What is the starting point of our relationship? Or what do you want to gain from the relationship?"

Boy: "Military Advisor, let me tell you first, I already have a happy and complete family."

???

Raymond Lam: "You are married, but your extramarital life is still colorful?"

"Yeah."

Lin Feng: "Brother, then you don't want a scumbag, you are a scumbag!"

Uh. .

The boy was silent for a while: "Okay, I admit it."

I am indeed sorry to my wife and my family, but Military Advisor, can you understand this contradiction?
I like this colorful life, but at the same time I feel huge guilt and remorse, and I am afraid of the impact of family changes on my future life.

I am just very worried. I want to control it, but I can’t.”

Lin Feng: "Brother, let me tell you a question. Do you know the difference between humans and animals?"

For example, cats and dogs,

When small animals are angry,
They will randomly choose to sniff the butts of kittens and dogs on the street, and then take advantage of the other party not paying attention, you know.

This is a dog!
And why are humans called humans?
Because people have the ability to restrain themselves.

When you don't have this ability, but just keep pursuing freshness and excitement,
Believe me.

Your final destination is destined to be desolation and solitude.

Because you will never feel the meaning of working together in marriage.

The ups and downs that the two people have gone through along the way and the feeling of becoming each other's psychological support.

To be honest bro,
Actually, I refuse to answer questions like yours in the live broadcast room.

Because I have my own bottom line and principles.
I taught you that it was unfair to treat another girl.

But I also feel that you really want to return to your family, do you understand?"

The boy nodded: "I understand, thank you, Military Advisor, I really want to return to my family, but sometimes I can't control myself."

Lin Feng: "Well, today I will tell you a cruel truth."

As he said that, Lin Feng turned around and glanced at Yu Huanshui.

The latter understands,
Immediately push the large white board behind you.

Lin Feng walked to the whiteboard.
He was drawing with a pen while preaching.

"My friend, to put it bluntly, your marriage consciousness is not strong enough, and your loyalty in your relationship is not high enough. This is a drain on yourself.
Because you will fall into a vicious cycle of pursuing novelty.

You remember,
It is human nature to pursue novelty.

But loyalty is a human choice.

If you persist and keep pursuing novelty, you will find that there are always people who are better.
There will always be someone who will bring you different excitement.

what's the result?
The result is that you can’t win anyone’s heart.

Your wife will divorce you.

Your children will disown you.

Even your relatives and friends will stay away from you.

Your final destination is to lie on a hospital bed with no one by your side.

Of course,
It's not like there's really no one there.

There are also hu workers.

But don't be happy.

Is the hu worker here to take care of you?

wrong.

When you poop in your trouser pocket, when you don’t take your medicine and go to bed obediently.

He will beat you madly.

He'll hit you on the head with a stainless steel bowl.

He will slap you 100 times in half an hour.

When your face is swollen, your teeth are missing, and your mouth is full of blood, he will laugh at you madly, you old man, you have no family anyway, no one will care even if I beat you to death.

At that time,
When you think back on the first half of your life, do you have any regrets?

As Lin Feng finished speaking, his last stroke also fell.

Move sideways to make room.

Under the camera, a creepy picture appeared on the whiteboard.

It was the life of a prodigal son.

From his youth, he lived a life of debauchery and stayed out all night.

By middle age, his wife and children had left him and his wealth was gone.

Finally, he became seriously ill in his old age and lay alone in a hospital bed.

The young worker next to him was threatening and swearing.

Not far away, there were old men of the same age lying or sitting, all of them looked thin and had dull eyes. . . .

(End of this chapter)