porridge for two

"We always comfort others like wise men, but torture ourselves like fools!"

Xie Xiuping remembered that he had read such a sentence in a book, but now it is very appropriate.

We always want to enlighten others about what to do, but we don't let ourselves go, constantly embarrassing ourselves and the one we love the most.

Why carry those redundant and heavy burdens, because you are a fool, a fool who can no longer be stupid.

Isn’t there a saying that stupid people have stupid blessings, but you are a little bit smart, so, if you are not stupid, you can’t be a fool, you can’t be a smart person, you can’t enjoy the blessings of being stupid, and you can’t be a wise man.This speaks for itself.

For many people, we all choose to forgive, but it is difficult to forgive ourselves and the important one.

On the way back from the old place, Xie Xiuping was thinking all the way, life, relationship, career, between himself and Su Zeyu.

From the beginning to the present, it has been five years since we met, and it has been almost three years since we confirmed our relationship.

Does every couple have to experience three years of pain and five years of coldness?

He is a person who has gone to the dark with one foot, and he does not believe in the saying of three years of pain, five years of cold, seven years of itch, and ten years of injury.

When he went back, Su Zeyu hadn't come back yet. He drank some wine in the old place and fell asleep first. He didn't know that Su Zeyu had been back for a long time.

The next morning, when Xie Xiuping woke up from a hangover, Su Zeyu had already left, and the clothes he wore yesterday were placed in the basket next to the closet, indicating that he had come back last night.

Xie Xiuping simply packed a backpack, put a few changes of clothes in it, left a note for Su Zeyu, and came for a quick trip.

"To hound's tail grass:

Today, I am going to see the warmth of spring and the blooming of flowers, to see the bright moon on the sea, to see the return at dusk and morning, to find the wings and dreams I left behind in this land!

From "Blue Iris"

On the bedside table in the bedroom, there was a black pen and a piece of light green letterhead paper, which was the note left by Xie Xiuping.

Su Zeyu looked at the note in his hand, the familiar letterhead, the familiar title signature, the familiar handwriting and writing style, the familiar iris flower in blue ink.

All kinds of things from the past came to mind, and his eyes couldn't help but feel a little hot and humid.

He specially arranged things in advance today, so he came back first, thinking of coming back to have dinner with Xie Xiuping to make up for yesterday's missed appointment.

But no one responded to the text messages he sent, and the phone showed that it was turned off. He thought that Xie Xiuping might have forgotten to charge it. When he came back, Qiuyan's house was deserted, so there was no sign of Xie Xiuping.

He searched for a long time in each room, and when he found the bedroom, he found the letter paper left by Xie Xiuping.

Last night, his clothes smelled of wine. The wine at home has been like that for a month, and it hasn't changed now.

Annan and the others were all with him, and the people from "Dashan" were busy recruiting new interviewees...

Who would it be?

Su Zeyu was thinking about who Xie Xiuping might have met last night. He took the mobile phone, opened the phone book, and dialed a number.

"Hey, brother Xiao, it's me! Is Xie Xiuping at your place? Or has he been to your place?"

"I came here last night and had dinner together! Xiaoyu, are you making people angry?"

Su Zeyu was thinking about what to say, when he heard Xiao Xu crackling like firecrackers.Once the fuse has been ignited, it is just to let it go, unless there is an external force to stop it.

"He told me all about your situation, so I probably guessed what your real situation is.

I don't speak for anyone, just talk about my thoughts, if you can listen to it, listen to it, if you can't listen to it, just treat it as a gust of wind, and it will disperse when it blows away.

Shuhei's character, you know.He's too embarrassed to talk about you, so I, as an older brother, have to tell you well!

You have been too drifting lately!If it’s because you don’t have feelings anymore, you should quickly let them go; if it’s because of work, it’s an excuse, because you didn’t coordinate well, and the point is that you have poor ability.If everyone starts a business like you, whose family can stand it!

Some things should be rejected as soon as they are rejected. A meaningless dinner is a waste of one's energy and time spent with relatives.Think about it for yourself, if the coordination is really bad, then this career is not worth mentioning.

He is human and has feelings!He is a human being, not something that comes and goes when you call it. It’s not that you drift away, forget about him, and only remember it occasionally. When you look back, you think he is still waiting for you at the same place.Why? "

"That, Brother Xiao! I don't have it, it's just that I really can't let go of the recent training class!"

"Then have you explained your difficulties clearly to others, have you communicated with them, maybe he can help you?

You are not so tired, and he doesn't have to worry so much. You also have more communication and spend more time together, so why not do it?

Think to yourself that it's been a long time since you have had dinner together?Think about when was the last time you had effective and in-depth communication?

As for work, your association is well managed.Do you know why, I guess, it's because you and Xiuping trust each other, share the burden, and do it together, so what's the problem?

Now in the training class, if you don't trust other people, let alone trust and depend on Xiuping.

Take everything on yourself, while other people sit there watching TV, watching movies, playing games, spending time with you to work overtime, and when you need someone to bring you tea, water, or a meal, they Just suspend the 'work' in their hands to 'help' you.

Like you, you are tired and your work efficiency is low. They have nothing to do, have no sense of belonging, and cannot participate in your work.Is this still a team?

Learn to trust and delegate power appropriately.

The few of you have been together for so many years, you have a good idea of ​​who has a personality and ability, and who is good at what to do.

Do not use suspicious people, and do not doubt employing people.If there is such an unbelievable moth, where are you willing to let him continue to grow in your team?

In other words, you care too much about this project because it's your first project, like your first child, and you want to make things perfect.

When you have a second project and a third project, you won't be so nervous.

Do not believe?Think about Xiuping, was he very nervous when your club held the first event, what was his mentality when he signed the first order when he was running a business?

If it doesn't work, you can ask which relatives in your family feel the same after giving birth to their first child.

Too much is too late.Learn to balance work and life!Just communicate more!

Xie Xiuping was not like you when he went to work, he was very tired and busy doing sales and running business!You talk to him more, how he did it, you can do it too..."

Xiao Xu's firecrackers were finally set off, and he also made some suggestions about the management of the training class.

"Okay, I see! Thank you Brother Xiao!"

Su Zeyu accepted Xiao Xu's criticism and suggestions humbly, because he did have these problems.

He still remembers the club's first event, on the way back from the event show on the first day, Jin Zi was still nervous, and he was still enlightening him at that time, why did he fall into it when he got here?

"Jin Zi, I was just afraid that I would tire you, so I didn't tell you, but I also got myself busy and ignored you.

Sorry, there are too many places for me to grow, I will try to keep up with you. "

Su Zeyu hung up the phone and muttered alone, took the bag, packed a few clothes, opened the refrigerator and packed it, carried a plastic bag, and went out with the car keys.

Since he won't stay there and wait for him, then he will go to his place to find him, as before, to his world, to find him.

Xie Xiuping and Su Zeyu are two lines that are destined to intersect. In the past, they both worked hard to meet each other, but now they are going in the opposite direction, drifting away.

It is not easy to choose a career and start a business, and two transparent people can understand it.It's just that the two haven't communicated for a long time, and their hearts are far away.

If you don't find it in time, you will continue to drift away, and if you exceed a certain speed, your heart will be cold.

I thought you would understand, you thought I would know, I thought you would understand, you thought I would understand... I thought, you thought, if you don't say it, who will understand, who will know, who will understand, who will understand ?

Two people communicate with each other, need each other, support each other, and make progress with each other, both in career and emotionally.Don't play charades, you can express it euphemistically, but you must say it out loud.

After seven o'clock the next morning, Kun named a certain hotel.

The door of Xie Xiuping's room was swiped open by a person, and a figure walked in, carrying a tired and damp wind, and the door closed automatically with a "da".

Xie Xiuping, who was nestled under the quilt, thought he had misheard when he heard the card swiping, it was the next room, until the door was closed and the person in front of him walked in, then his mind turned back.

"Why are you here? My phone ran out of battery on the train yesterday, and when I charged it at the hotel, I called you and you didn't answer or text messages!"

"I'm driving, so it's inconvenient to answer calls and text messages. Mainly, I want to surprise you."

"You drove here overnight, you don't want to die! Crazy you! It's so far away, and you still drive so far at night by yourself!"

Xie Xiuping said that his eyes were red and his voice was hoarse. He beat Su Zeyu several times heavily.

The force is mutual, the punch is on his body, and the pain is on his own heart. Feeling this real pain, the warmth in his heart overflows.

"I'm doing things, don't worry! I know what's going on in my heart. When it's time to rest, I rest at the service station. I'm a good and law-abiding baby, and I have to be responsible for my life, right?

I still have to guard you, so I won't make fun of my life! "

Knowing that Xie Xiuping was worried about him, Su Zeyu stretched out his hand to touch the few stupid hairs on his head, and comforted him.

"You came here in the car at night, and you didn't answer my calls, so you're not afraid of missing out?"

"You must have come here according to the planned route we made together before! Where to go first, which hotel to stay in, we even chose the room number at that time. Here, I brought the travel plan book!"

"You are everywhere! Ask the hotel to bring you breakfast, eat some, and then have a good sleep. I went to work yesterday and drove so long in the evening, how tired I must be!"

"It's okay! I'm not tired! I'm afraid I won't be able to find you, what should I do? Fortunately, fortunately, you are here!"

"I just came out for a walk, not disappeared."

"I have a lot to say to you. Although we stay under the same roof and sleep in the same bed every day, we haven't talked properly for a long time!"

"I also have something to say! But it's not too late to talk after eating and going to sleep. It's not too late!"

"I'm a little excited and a little scared now!"

"I'll accompany you, squint for a while! We'll have a good chat when you wake up! Go out for a stroll in the afternoon, and we'll start our journey tomorrow. But, you just ran over, the training class..."

"The three cobblers are as good as Zhuge Liang. If they can't handle it, then I won't partner with them. I will do it alone!"

"You have made arrangements, the three of them can do it! Those who come out of 'Dashan' are all dragons and phoenixes, this can't be done, let them not say that they used to be members of the club.

Those dishes, I think you can eat them when you come back, so put them in the refrigerator.Go back to the refrigerator and it must not be moldy and smelly? "

"Boss, don't think about that. The refrigerator is smelly and moldy. I'll wash it when I go back. It's really impossible to get a new one!"

"what?"

"Okay, don't think about those dishes. It's all my fault. I missed the appointment. I threw the dishes and plates away when I went out."

"You prodigal man!" Xie Xiuping punched Su Zeyu again.

"I want to let myself have a long memory. If there is a next time, you put me in a garbage bag and throw it away together."

"Throw it, then there's no need, I can plant a Gu for you!"

"Gu? What Gu?"

"The Gu that bewitches people's hearts, the Gu that will make you healthy and happy in the future, the Gu that will make you remember your original intention forever!"

"Is there really a Gu in this world?"

"I said yes, so stop talking nonsense!"

"Okay, you are the boss, you have the final say!"

……

According to the plan, they stayed in the province for a week.We visited Lijiang and Dali, climbed the snow-capped mountains, went to the grasslands, visited the World Expo Garden, and visited the largest flower market and nursery base in Kunming.

Dunan's fresh-cut flowers are really like the legend, they are measured by catty, how much we all pay per catty, and how much they are per catty.

Perhaps this is the so-called cabbage price, many people can afford it, and only those who buy it from other places can make a profit.

Ascending to the ancient mansion more than 200 years ago, the mansion was built along the mountain.

Climb the high-rise building, lean against the shady mountains, watch the scenery of the whole mansion, and think about the splendor of the ancient mansion in the past.At that time, my heart was open, as if it could hold the whole world.

Facing the morning light, the two of them walked quietly on the path in the forest, one in front of the other, listening to the cicadas singing and the birds singing in the wind, looking at the green leaves, red flowers and blue sky, smelling the smell of the soil mixed with green grass, just like that quietly. go on without end;

As the sun sets, against the light, bare feet step on the soft light yellow sand:

On the other side of the sky, there is the red sun that is about to go home after playing for a day and the clouds dyed red by the sun, which are gorgeous and beautiful;

On the other side of the ground, there are two people walking side by side and the deep or shallow footprints behind them. The sunlight is reflected on the ground, dreaming a happy dream.