my private life

After my mother left, my life with Liu Qingyan returned to the way it was before, the difference is that she resigned a month later.

Because of the company's gossip, the boss talked to Liu Qingyan. Although he didn't directly point out her relationship with me, he also hinted in his words that she should pay attention to the influence.

Two weeks after this conversation, Liu Qingyan submitted his resignation.A headhunting company approached her before, and a pharmaceutical company in Shenzhen recruited an administrative manager for a branch in Beijing and asked her if she would like to go.Liu Qingyan went to apply for the job, and she didn't tell me the news until she received the notice of the re-examination.

"Why didn't you tell me first?" I was a little surprised and unhappy. I should be the first to know about such an important job change.

I am also worried that she has resentment in her heart, because it is my mother who makes her unable to stay in the company.

"What are you guessing again? I was planning to resign, and this has nothing to do with your mother." Liu Qingyan nestled on the sofa with a book.In the past few nights, she has been reading some management books.

Although she was comforting me, I was still dissatisfied.I will report to her about everything big and small, but she is careless about everything and doesn't take me seriously.

"Don't pout, go read your books, be careful you won't pass the qualification certificate exam." Her bare feet rubbed against my thigh lightly, "It's not that I don't want to tell you, you were busy on business trips those few days , I'm not in a good mood."

After my mother left, I was very depressed all the time, and I took the initiative to call her several times, trying to ease the deadlocked relationship.She picked it up again in the past, severing the relationship between mother and daughter if she didn't break up with Liu Qingyan.A few times later she simply refused to answer my calls.

I came out because of our relationship, which made my mother angry, but Liu Qingyan treated me like this, obviously she didn't regard me as her lover.

"Hey, you didn't come out for me." Liu Qingyan, who was still smiling at first, immediately became very serious when he heard my complaint, "If you are willing to obey your mother, then you go home and find a man to marry. Blessings to you. If you've made up your mind to be with a woman in your life, no matter who you're living with, you've got to face this, you're coming out for your own future."

I looked at her with a wry smile, "Don't worry, I will never put the responsibility of breaking off relationship with my mother on you." What she said made sense, and this time the stalemate with my mother was none of her business .

Some women are afraid of the consequences and responsibilities because the other party comes out, but they will take the initiative to retreat. The reason is, "I can't be the sinner for you to cut off ties with your family. I can't bear this responsibility."

During the whole process, Liu Qingyan never said such unfeeling words, and she never made a promise to me: You still have me.We are together in this life.

I admit that I am not as rational as her when it comes to feelings, and I also understand that vows are just love words, but sometimes I just want to hear sweet words from the other party.

I got up and went back to the bedroom to read.Liu Qingyan put down the book and grabbed me, "Don't be angry. What I said just now sounded a little unreasonable, and what I said was not rough."

"You don't need to tell me the truth." I tried my best to shake off her hand but couldn't break free.

Liu Qingyan made a grimace, as if she was a little surprised to have annoyed me, "I will report everything to you in the future, okay? How ugly is your pouting like a donkey." She stood up and stood in front of me Laughing.

I glared at her and remained silent. "Let's not read today, let's go to bed early." She put her arms around my neck and raised her face and said, "Hug me, you haven't hugged me for a long time."

She pouted her lips, showing the coquettish look of such a little woman, which is really rare.Although the resentment in my heart has not completely disappeared, I can't help but laugh, "Hold my neck tightly. You must be good at night."

As soon as I hugged her hard, her legs were wrapped around my waist.I carried her into the bathroom.Since my mother made a fuss, we have only made out once in more than a month.Either I'm on a business trip or she's on her menstrual period, or neither of us is interested.

The ups and downs of the night washed away the mediocrity of these days, and we found the deep love in the past again.

It didn't take long for Liu Qingyan to take up the new company.My work is even more busy, and I have to prepare for the exam in the second half of the year when I return from a business trip.Because of the new environment, Liu Qingyan has more entertainment at work than in the past, and whenever she has spare time, she is busy charging and learning management knowledge.

After hard work, I obtained the hotel manager qualification certificate as I wished, and was promoted to the deputy director of the personnel department and the director of the training department.Liu Qingyan's work is also on the right track.Our days are busy and fulfilling.

My relationship with my mom is still in dire straits.After my father's persuasion, my mother was willing to answer my call, but she kept saying those few words.I wouldn't back down either, and the calls mostly ended in arguments.

During the Spring Festival of that year, I didn't go home, so Liu Qingyan stayed with me in Beijing.

In 07, in order to welcome the Beijing Olympics, various hotels rushed to open.Not only do I have to do training for the new hotel that the company joins, but Liu Qingyan also helps me with some private work.Some small hotels do not have full-time trainers, and they hire trainers from other companies.

For this kind of extra money, I can only use my weekends to do it. I fly to the designated city after work on Friday, and fly back to Beijing at midnight on Sunday.

I want to work harder and earn more money. We are buying a house in Beijing.Liu Qingyan disagreed to buy a house with a loan, "Don't expect me to tighten my belt and be a house slave with you. I don't even have a child. Is it possible that we will go to court because of the real estate in the future?"

If you don’t buy it, you don’t buy it. Our family’s financial power is in her hands, and I have no choice. I just think she is too rational in everything.

During that time I stayed at home far less than in hotels.Our days are slowly changing.The private time between two people is getting less and less.

Liu Qingyan was either entertaining or playing cards.At the beginning, when I was at home, she would take care of my mood, and generally would not go out to play.But later, the bi-weekly poker game became two or three times a week, and I went to the bar if I couldn't get enough people to play cards.

I also objected to her being so impatient of loneliness, she restrained herself for a few days after hearing this.But it didn't take long before she intensified and took people home to play cards. "Aren't you worried about what will happen to me and others? You can rest assured that I am under your nose."

I know that I can't change her playfulness, I can only change my attitude.Sometimes, two people really have nothing to do, and they can't just go to bed after dinner, and now they don't have the same passion as when they were first together, and they are tired of being together all the time.Just on the bed, more hugging and tenderness for a while, love has become a regular mechanical movement, once a week.

I once took advantage of my business trip to Shaoxing to meet Fu Yuhong.She asked about me and her cousin.I showed a little dissatisfaction inside and outside the words, and the days became more and more dull.

"Be content with yourself. From what I know about her, if she is willing to live an ordinary life with you, it means that she intends to live with you for the rest of her life." Fu Yuhong, who is already a mother, has more experience in family life. She enlightened Me, "Who's life changes from passion to love and then to family affection."

I nodded to admit that what she said made sense, but I always felt uncomfortable.I want my love to stay fresh forever.

Fu Yuhong also gave her own life experience with her husband.It has been four or five years since she fell in love and got married to having a child. Her life is already as ordinary as water.The mother-in-law takes care of the child, and when the husband returns home, he spends more time in front of the computer playing games, while she watches TV.Now that she is tired of watching TV, she just plays games.The ambition to do a career when I was in school has long been diluted by the trivial days. "We are all ordinary people, let's live an ordinary life."

Later, Liu Qingyan set up a poker game at home, and after I made tea and water for them, I played "World of Warcraft" with Fu Yuhong.

Originally, I looked down on those people who were addicted to the game, and I always felt that they were playing with things and losing their minds.I play this game because I am bored, and because I want to annoy Liu Qingyan on purpose, if she can play mahjong, I will fight monsters.

But when I was keen to enter various dungeons with some netizens, and I was so excited because I defeated **ss, my life has already undergone a qualitative change.

Liu Qingyan sneered at me for playing games, but she knew that I was driven by her cousin, so she didn't object too much.

Of course, I never think about games when it's time to do business.I made three rules for myself, not to play in the company, must turn off the phone before 12 o'clock every night, and not to play during the day on Saturdays and Sundays-that is when I accompany my wife.

But I still broke the rules.One day, I was on a business trip, and at night when I was bored in the hotel, I played games with my laptop.

I talked on the phone with Liu Qingyan who was drinking outside before, and we made an appointment at 11 o'clock that both of us would lie under the covers and talk affectionately for a while.

I was going home the next morning, and since there was no work pressure, I was relaxed. I stayed in front of the computer all night, forgetting about our agreement.

It wasn't until I turned off the phone that I found a text message from Liu Qingyan on the phone: You had a good time, I fell asleep.

I knew she was angry and wanted to make a phone call to coax her, but it was already 1 o'clock in the middle of the night and she had fallen asleep early.

When I got off the plane the next day, I didn't even go back to the company, I just went home.On the way home, I bought a bouquet of her favorite roses.

Then call her and tell her I'll pick her up after get off work and we'll have dinner together. "Don't be angry, I forgot to call you last night, I won't be like this in the future." I apologized.

"I'm not angry. If you feel comfortable living like this, let's live like this." Her tone was very cold, with a little sarcasm.

I thought to myself, don't you also forget my existence when you often play mahjong.I was complaining in my heart, but I didn't dare to express it, "I really feel that life is too ordinary, and I only play games when I am bored."

She snorted and then asked, "Bland? Why is it so? I didn't restrict your entertainment. You can live your life as you like."

"It's not the responsibility of one person to live an ordinary life. I'll just pay more attention in the future." I felt a little wronged. She only allowed herself to set the fire and not allow me to light the lamp.

Of course Liu Qingyan understood my complaint immediately, "You are complaining about my playing cards. I think we should sit down and have a good talk."

During that long conversation, Liu Qingyan and I both realized that this kind of life really cannot go on, and we worked together to change it.For a long time after that, I didn't play games and she stopped setting up games at home frequently.

The author has something to say: If Mo Fan's mother's forced marriage to her is a realistic portrayal, then the ordinary days when she and Liu Qingyan lost their passion are more common.We are all living like this, and the seven-year itch has accelerated into three years.Some people will say that plainness is true, but when love gradually turns into family affection, how to maintain such a plain life is a problem that many people must face.