expectations from the future

"Chu Xia, I'm going to the bookstore with Qi Yu, so I won't go with you today. Goodbye." Lu Xue waved her hand, and ran out with her new classmates without looking at her.

"Hey, early summer, let's go together." When the girl wearing glasses was sad with her head down, Youzhen patted her on the shoulder.The eyes are gentle.

My early summer, this is a very normal interpersonal relationship, you have to understand.Not everyone you meet can become friends, and not everyone you accompany can last forever.

"Okay." He looked at the friends a little hesitantly, but Chu Xia nodded after receiving no response.A little disappointed.

A few days ago was Ji Wei's birthday, Lu Xue and Zhang Shuang were happily discussing what to give.But...why can't you add me?Obviously I'm sitting right behind you.Not a friend?

If you are a friend, why do you avoid me?

Why would you play with me if you weren't a friend?

"What's the matter? I see you are not very happy." You Zhen affectionately touched the little tail that was picked up on the back of the girl's head.That's right, the girl with slightly long hair can now tie a cute tail behind her head.

"...I..." Induced by his companion's intimate tone, Chu Xia almost wanted to complain.But...can't complain.How can you complain about your friends... that's not right.

"Because Lu Xue and Qi Yu go out to play, and Ji Wei and Zhang Shuang don't take you too much in their extracurricular activities, are you jealous?" You Zhen asked amusedly.How could I not understand my early summer?These are all the things I hated at the beginning, and they were the source of my troubles at the beginning.

"Wow... how do you know?" Chu Xia's eyes widened.She felt that the girl opposite her who was obviously the same age as herself seemed to be much taller at this moment.Those deep-socketed black eyes seemed to have looked at her from a wise man through ages.

"But, they are my friends, aren't they? They should have been playing together... I obviously didn't do anything, I obviously followed them in everything, and I followed everything about them... I, I didn't do anything Things that make anyone hate it! I just want a few friends... What's wrong with me?" At this moment, all the things that no one said about were erupting.The girl opened her mouth intermittently, and the end of her eyes turned red.

"That day, Ji Wei and Zhang Shuang were fighting in my seat, and Lu Xue was watching and laughing. Then, when I went back, it seemed like the pause button was pressed... Obviously they messed up my things I didn't say anything, and my new notebook... I didn't say anything, and then they stopped talking to me..."

"Also, Lu Xue borrowed money from me, and never took the initiative to pay it back. Every time, I had to remind me repeatedly, and after returning the money to me, she would repeatedly show others that I was stingy..."

"They never tell me when they use my things, and they don't put them back in their original places... They are very casual... Then, when I use their things, it depends on their mood..."

"Once when I went to the bathroom, my schoolbag fell on the floor and spilled a lot of things. Then when I came back, they all smiled and reminded me that my schoolbag was dropped...why can't you pick it up for me? Why bother? As a joke?... When I walked together, my schoolbag was unzipped and no one ever reminded me..."

"We are all friends..."

"Being so kind to me before..."

"Once again I said that I forgot my notebook and I was going to buy a new one. Then they all said they could lend me the notebook...but when it came to the experiment class, none of them came with me, so I still asked The paper someone asked for..."

"Woo... What did I do wrong? What am I not as good as they want? The book says how to be a friend, so I will do it...Obviously, those are my things...Why do I have to go back My own things will be said to be stingy? I didn't say no to lending them..."

"There are also lecture topics, which are only for me to tell them... Every time I ask them to copy the notes, they will be despised by all kinds of people, and then they will say that I am stupid..."

"I, am I really that bad? Huh..." The girl took off her glasses and wiped away the uncontrollable tears.

"No. Chu Xia, you are not bad at all. You are very good, you are already doing very well. You are really good!" You Zhen thought that those memories that were separated by ten years would fade with time, but she was wrong. up.

When seeing a young girl crying uncontrollably,

When I see young girls who can't understand what happened to them,

When I saw a young girl, even though she was sad, she still carefully worded her words for fear of being hated by others...

You Zhen only felt sore in her heart.

She tightly hugged the girl who felt ashamed and buried her face in her hands, and tightly hugged the self who was once at a loss, disappointed and couldn't find the answer.

My early summer, you are not wrong.

Humans are social animals, so what's wrong with yearning for communication and deep connection.

It is impossible for her to forget, when she first entered college.

One day at noon, she returned to the dormitory alone from the library, and the roommates had already gathered together to eat lunch and chat.

One of the girls was distracted from the lively discussion, gave her a strange look, and said,

'We can't stand being alone, we're all pack animals. '

She can't remember that look clearly, but she never wants to remember that face.

Is there anything wrong with not wanting to have a lively conversation with someone you don't know well?

Is there anything wrong with not being able to mingle with someone you don't know right away?

Not good at dealing with people, can this really convict a person?

"Chu Xia, you have to understand. You can't just look at superficial things when communicating with people. You can't define them as friends or confidants just because you are close to the girls in the front and back seats and can say a few more words. .Girls will talk about a lot of things, and sometimes they are so compatible that you almost feel that it is your half body, your No.13 ribs, and I am so excited that I want to make a private decision with her to never be separated for life." You Zhen said He took out a tissue and gently wiped away the tears from the girl's face.

The girl with the ponytail deliberated and spoke.I want to convey the deepest hope with the simplest words.

"People can meet a lot in their life. Not everyone will become friends. We are the masters of our own world, but we are also passers-by in other people's world. The friendship you define is too clear and too harsh. Condensation All your expectations and desires. You look at others with your own thoughts and vision. Once they do something that doesn’t fit your position, you can only get doubled failure and sadness. Because you can’t dominate others world."

"Chu Xia, you have to understand. People can't get too close to each other. Too close will only hurt both parties. For example, you only see Lu Xue can't wait to leave your side, have you found yourself Are you too dependent on her? You entrust everything you have to her. However, they will also feel pressure."

"In early summer, everyone has to be responsible for their own life. But everyone, in fact, has no need to be responsible for the lives of others. Parents pamper us just because they love us deeply. But friends are not like that, Moreover, you are too anxious. Lu Xue and the others should be friendly classmates, not bosom friends who you define in your heart. Such an existence cannot be formed by simply positioning it in your heart."

"A best friend should be someone who can trust her back with confidence. You can rest assured that all her actions will not hurt you, and she also understands all your little thoughts. The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. A best friend who agrees with your definition, It should be an existence that has been together for a long time, keeping the etiquette and just the right distance, and then becoming more and more inseparable."

"Chu Xia, it's not okay for you to entrust everything you have to others from the beginning, and put on an image of 'you must all be my best friends or you will betray me'. You put too much pressure on them. Moreover, your essential preferences are different. How can you maintain such a peaceful relationship and get along with each other for a long time?"

"Let people who like historical dramas and those who like idol dramas discuss and talk together. How can they reach a consensus if they are not on the same channel? Even if they reach mutual encouragement, it is nothing more than a strong party forcing its own ideas to the other party. But How can the weak side be reconciled? Many initial ties are interrupted little by little like this, and then fade away."

"And early summer, you should learn to be strong. Too much dependence on others will make you lose yourself. You don't know how to establish your own behavior and show your inviolable bottom line. You can't do this. Blindly agree and tolerate, then Not kind but cowardly."

"Everyone has bad roots. In early summer, you should learn to stick to your own personality. You can't let others think you are too soft, so soft that you don't even have a shell. A crab that loses its shell can only usher in death. The same is true for people. You can only wait The kindness of others will only make your life worse. Because you don’t know when, the initial kindness will turn sour, and a little bit of crossing the line will become a nightmare that you cannot parry.”

"Chu Xia, do you understand?" You Zhen asked softly, stroking the girl's back.

"Well... I will learn to change... Youzhen..." Chu Xia tried hard to keep her voice calm while hugging the girl back hard. "Youzhen, thank you. Also, I'm sorry... I shouldn't deliberately alienate you because I'm afraid they will be angry...I'm very grateful that you can celebrate my birthday...it was the happiest day in my life."

"Good boy. My early summer, I will always stand behind you. You don't need to apologize to me, I understand." Closed her eyes gently, Youzhen's slender eyelashes were like fluttering butterfly wings.The corners of the mouth slightly curved into a smile.

My early summer, you just need to understand.

I kept my distance on purpose, hoping that you could take another, happier path.But it doesn't matter, it's okay if you don't know how to deal with the relationship with your classmates, I will teach you little by little, and give you everything I know.

You can understand now that you can learn to stand your ground, and that's good enough.

Really, very good.

The author has something to say: Although this article probably does not conform to my reading habits of Da Jinjiang, the author has not revised the outline after thinking about it.Well, I really have to admit that the writing style is scattered and flying, maybe because I always feel heavy when I write this article.In the back garden of the motherland, although a hundred flowers are blooming, some of them may not be so gorgeous and eye-catching.But the author hereby sincerely tells you that all flowers can bloom their own fragrance.

that's all.

Thank you so much for being here. happy