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69.

"My son said that when he left home to study abroad, his biggest feeling was relief." Yun Fei said briefly, "Relief" was read out one word at a time.

"You put too much pressure on him?" Kou Yaner asked.

"He used the word debt." Yun Fei didn't seem to want to go into too much detail, so he stopped the topic. "That's about it. Back to the button. What's your trouble?"

"Yunfei, you have paid so much, and what you got is that you don't understand. So what kind of attitude can we use to treat Xiaokouzi?"

"This is the lesson I said. We need to know that children understand the world from a different perspective from us, so they will come to completely different feelings and conclusions. Sometimes adults feel that as long as they are good enough to their children, they can pursue themselves. But the child still feels like an outcast. Sometimes, adults think that self-sacrifice for the child is lamentable, but the child thinks that the adult is hypocritical or overwhelmed, like me.”

Kou Yan'er looked at Yun Fei in frustration, "Your statement blocked all my paths. Is it all right?"

"Ha, Yan'er sometimes panics. Come on, Mai Mai, and highlight the key points." Yun Fei turned to Xu Maimai.

"Okay, let me read and understand. The point of this passage is that children have different perspectives from us. Therefore, I think Yunfei's meaning can be understood in two layers. The first layer is that we should not simply give what we think is right. It’s about finding something acceptable to a small button. On the second level, since there’s no good way, let’s find the least bad way.”

"Haha, Xiaomai obviously thinks too much, and he thinks better than me." Yun Fei felt that Xu Xiaomai was always the one with whom he had the most tacit understanding.

"Let me add one more thing, don't underestimate children's observation and understanding. Don't think that adults' disguises can fool children. If you can't be watertight, don't try to deceive children. My son told me that he looked down on his father, Because he knows what his father has done. He also looks down on me, because I pretended not to know it in front of him. I even have to be thankful that my son didn't find out about me, otherwise he would have despised me completely." Yun Fei It's a bit sad to say.

Kou Yaner held Yunfei's hand, "Yunfei, thank you for your advice. We will work hard."

"Yan'er, you are very lucky to meet Mai. I often think that if I met true love back then, I might not have made such a sacrifice, and I didn't need to sneak around to find a lover. In that case, maybe my son At least you won't look down on me."

"Yunfei, no one has the right to look down on you. You have done a good job." Kou Yaner said sincerely.It is rare for Kou Yaner to speak so bluntly.She thanked Yun Fei from the bottom of her heart.

Kou Yan'er vaguely had some ideas and direction.

Yun Fei is right, since there is no ready-made experience, it means that you have to be ingenious and eclectic, boldly imagine and handle carefully.

"By the way, let me tell you, Sophie came to have dinner with me last week." Yun Fei changed the subject, "I am delighted to hear that I have been promoted to be Sophie's only friend in China."

"And then?" Xu Maimai felt that Yun Fei still had something to say.

"Then, Sophie said that she would not allow you to come to Guangzhou. It's not for revenge, but your actions are inappropriate."

"What do you think?" Xu Xiaomai asked.

"I think Sophie is doing the right thing. One cannot be greedy and want everything."

"I understand." Xu Xiaomai still has a lot of things to do, anyway, he can't be overwhelmed with confidence just because it goes well for a while.A pragmatic attitude is never out of date.

Xu Maimai went back to Shanghai to go to work.Kou Yan'er said, give Little Button a cooling-off period and let her digest it slowly.

Life was back to normal again, which calmed down the little button a lot.

If it is said that the divorce of her parents three years ago made Xiao Button terrified for quite a long time, the life of two people with her mother made her feel at ease.The main reason is that my mother still maintains the original appearance, and even behaves a little better, and is more reasonable, except that she is a little stricter in her studies.But compared with other mothers, it is still considered relaxed.

Slowly, in Little Button's view, having a fake father might be a worse thing than having no father.She doesn't want a fake dad, that is to say, Little Button has stepped into his comfort zone, the free and simple carefree comfort zone he's used to.

Sometimes Kouzi would go to his father for a meal or something, and when Kou Yaner had something to do, he had to leave Xiaokouzi at Li Zhiqiang's house for a few hours, or even overnight.

Kou Yan'er never criticized Li Zhiqiang, nor did he say a word about his current life.Kou Yan'er herself grew up with her mother's resentment and irritability, so she would never let Little Button experience that kind of boredom and hatred for her father.

Little Button actually liked Li Zhiqiang very much. At least when he went to the parent-teacher meeting, he was the envied father of his classmates, because his father was very handsome, and he seemed to have a lot of status. .On the other hand, my mother had a short communication with the teacher, without politeness or flattery, and basically just listened to the teacher's earnest criticism, and only responded to the aspects I recognized, and promised to go home and improve.

Having said that, Li Zhiqiang's charm is also reflected in the fact that there are many women chasing him. He found a girlfriend not long after his divorce, or more precisely, girlfriend s, which should be plural.Li Zhiqiang even proudly said to others, "I will marry whoever is willing to help me have a son." Of course, the little button didn't hear this, but Kou Yaner did, and it was naturally Luo Xue who spread the word.Luo Xue said angrily, "I really underestimated Li Zhiqiang. He turned out to be a straight male cancer." Kou Yaner was speechless about Luo Xue's logic. She didn't know how to underestimate Li Zhiqiang. Is it of high quality?

Kou Yan'er refused to comment. In her opinion, Li Zhiqiang has always been like this, and he has the ability to be so proud. In fact, the number of women who like him must exceed the number of men who like her.