walk across the bridge of fog

32.

"Dr. Duanmu, your greeting today is very perfunctory." He Ren challenged Duanmu at the beginning of the diagnosis and treatment.

"Really?" Duanmu knew that He Ren's lingering anger had not dissipated, so he was prepared to face the battle calmly.

Duanmu didn't take the initiative to open the door to invite He Ren today, but called Qin Yue to let He Ren go in by himself.After He Ren sat down, Duanmu left the desk, sat down on his sofa, and said "Hello."

"Yes. Usually, you would stare at me for more than ten seconds, then smile, and ask me seriously, how are you doing this week? But today, you didn't stare or smile, and just said: Hello!"

He Ren is right, Duanmu really wants to deliberately distance himself from He Ren, she needs to suppress her concern for He Ren, because she begins to realize that He Ren is showing more and more obvious empathy.The psychiatrist must avoid getting involved in this kind of emotion. She decided not to pay too much attention to He Ren's hints, and He Ren will leave after a while.

"In your opinion, the greeting 'Hello!' is a perfunctory greeting. It is not a normal greeting." Duanmu coldly pushed the question back to He Ren.

"Yes. This greeting means that you don't care about my answer at all."

"Greetings don't need an answer. Greetings are a kind of courtesy." Duanmu replied.

"It can also be said that politeness is a kind of distance. If you want to distance yourself from me, you are alienating me." He Ren pressed on step by step.

"If people want to maintain a more comfortable and long-term relationship, they need to keep a certain distance. The most appropriate distance is called politeness." Duanmu obviously came prepared.

He Ren suddenly smiled softly, "I like your hint very much."

An unexpected turn.He Ren's mood suddenly improved.

Duanmu was a little confused, "I didn't hint anything."

"You hinted that you want to maintain a comfortable and long-term relationship with me." After a pause, He Ren continued in a more relaxed tone, "You also hinted that you can't maintain a comfortable and long-term relationship with rude people."

He Ren is really a difficult patient.Duanmu was a little worried about this situation.She didn't know how long she could persist in He Ren's psychological diagnosis and treatment.

Generally, psychiatrists are unwilling to fail, and Duanmu certainly does not want to fail in diagnosis and treatment, but at the same time Duanmu is also unwilling to fall into He Ren's emotional entanglement.If it is impossible to get rid of the patient's empathy, Duanmu would rather choose to admit defeat and transfer He Ren to other doctors.

Duanmu paused for a while, she was thinking, what does He Ren's second sentence imply?But now Duanmu doesn't want to entangle this issue with He Ren anymore, any risky issues should be avoided.

"Okay, we're officially starting now. He Ren, how were you doing last week?" Duanmu straightened his body, ready to receive He Ren's answer.

"Not good. I always suffer from insomnia." After He Ren said this, he watched Duanmu's reaction without blinking.

Duanmu's expression did not change. "Can you try to describe your insomnia?"

"Insomnia is the inability to fall asleep. Doctor Duanmu, have you ever had insomnia?" He Ren secretly laughed in his heart. She felt like a cheater who peeked at the opponent's hole cards. It was a novel and exciting experience.

Can an insomniac psychiatrist still gain the trust of his patients?Can a lying psychiatrist gain the patient's trust?Which one is more likely to lose the trust of patients?

Duanmu knew that there would be no so-called correct answer.There is no better way than to play by ear in actual combat. When the word "play by ear" is proposed as a solution, it can basically be regarded as no solution.

At this moment, Duanmu decided to choose to tell the truth and admit that he suffered from insomnia.

Rather than saying that Duanmu chooses to be honest, it is better to say that Duanmu chooses to let nature take its course.If you lose He Ren's trust because of your own insomnia, it would be a good idea to lose your halo in front of He Ren.

"I suffer from insomnia too. But everyone suffers from insomnia for different reasons, so you still need to describe your insomnia."

"Doctor Duanmu also suffers from insomnia!" He Ren was a little surprised that Duanmu didn't hide anything, and he didn't even delay the time by asking rhetorical questions.

"If you can't cure your own insomnia, how can you help me?" He Ren questioned.

"That's a good question. I also asked the person who tried to treat my insomnia a question. You, a person who never suffers from insomnia, how can you help an insomniac?"

Duanmu frankly surprised He Ren.

He Ren was a little frustrated, she didn't want to hear Duanmu continue to mention any success stories of that clown.

"Dr. Duanmu, are you suggesting that I take sleeping pills?" He Ren teased.

"Sleeping pills are always an option. But I'm not going to give you that advice just yet. In my own experience, I've insisted on dealing with psychological restlessness through introspection and self-analysis. When I can’t do self-analysis at all, I will choose drugs. In fact, at this time, the sleep under the effect of drugs is not ideal, and I can only sleep unsteadily for a while.”