walk across the bridge of fog

14.

Duanmu doesn't know how silk stockings and milk tea are related, it's not appropriate to think too much, anyway, he is not good at it.

"Tsk tsk," Yu Xiaobu smacked his lips and laughed at Duanmuqian, "Are you a psychiatrist? Is it true or not? No matter how I look at it, it doesn't look like it."

"You're seeing an off-duty therapist."

"That's fine. Then, I'm a swimming coach who went ashore. I'm not at home. Let's be friends. Don't call me Coach Xiaobu in the future, call me Xiaobu. By the way, what should I call you?"

"Everyone calls me Doctor Duanmu, or Duanmu."

"No, no, no." Xiao Bu shook his head, "Your name is Xiaoqian? Why is your name so difficult to pronounce? Qian is so difficult to pronounce. No wonder your swimming skills are so poor, Duanmu, and Qian. Fortunately, you met me. ..."

Duanmu looked at Yu Xiaobu talking nonsense with a headache, and only had one thought, whatever, whatever her name is.

The waiter brought drinks, and Xiaobu clinked glasses with Duanmu immediately, "I'm so happy today, I, Yu Xiaobu, have a young lady too, cheers!"

"Miss sister..." Duanmu complained and took a sip of almond milk weakly, suppressing his shock.

"Why do you know how to be a psychiatrist? Don't you find it annoying?" Every time Xiao Bu spoke, she showed her heartlessness.In Duanmu's eyes, such a person is actually relatively strong in heart.

"You have already given the answer just now. I am more suitable to be a patient. People who choose this profession are mostly because they are sensitive and troubled, so they seek answers and embark on this path. A particularly healthy person like you is very It’s hard to understand why others are so entangled and why they suffer so much. So you wouldn’t choose such a career, and even if you did, you wouldn’t be able to do well.”

"So, you all start to analyze from your own psychology?"

"Generally, yes."

Yu Xiaobu took another sip of milk tea, put on a thoughtful look for a while, and then suddenly said, "Actually, I also have a lot of troubles. That's why I like swimming, and I can be as carefree as a fish in the water."

"Do you think that if you don't have any mental illness, you are too embarrassed to greet people? That's why you talk about unwarranted obsessive-compulsive disorder all day long? Is this a trend?"

"Now, the positive energy has been spoiled, and it's not enough to show your unique taste. You understand?"

"Yeah, you're trying to hide your positive energy with obsessive-compulsive disorder."

"You mean, I'm too healthy?"

“Yes. You are lucky. A lot of mental health comes from being lucky enough. Most of the trouble is due to unfortunate encounters.”

"What happened to the scars on your body?" Yu Xiaobu finally got around to something he was particularly curious about.

"Car accident."

That night, Duanmu slept deeply again.Every time after chatting with Yu Xiaobu, it is basically equivalent to taking a large dose of sleeping pills.

He Ren was lying on the sofa, and Duanmu's voice came from the phone, "He Ren, can I understand your crying in this way? You are crying. You have never had and will never have the opportunity to share food in this restaurant. .”

Then there was He Ren's cry.

He Ren has been able to listen to this recording relatively calmly.She has listened to it many times.

While He Ren was crying, Duanmu didn't make any sound.He Ren remembered that Duanmu just handed himself the tissue, and then sat quietly and waited.

When He Ren calmed down, Duanmu cleverly guided He Ren to continue talking about Wen Xin.Of course, we didn't talk about the car accident, but Wen Xin before the car accident.

It's hard to notice too many details when you're there yourself.Playing back the recording now gives He Ren a new feeling about the diagnosis and treatment process.He Ren thinks he is very smart, but Duanmu is the one who really controls the direction and rhythm.

He Ren's anger, complaints, crying, and silence time and time again were all resolved by Duanmu, and soon Duanmu got close to the truth that He Ren deliberately or unintentionally concealed.

He Ren listened to the recording all night, and she had to admit that Duanmu is not in vain, she is professional, sensitive, and compassionate.

When Duanmu comforted He Ren, he said, "He Ren, I will accompany you through this process." Duanmu was talking about the process of diagnosis and treatment, and also the process of healing the trauma of the soul.

He Ren sat up from the sofa and looked at his left hand.When Duanmu said this in the afternoon, he gently shook his left hand.The temperature still remained on the back of the hand.

He Ren has always believed that there are two types of human sympathy. One is that when one sees other people's misfortune, one looks away and cannot bear to look at it, and is eager to get rid of it so as not to touch one's own heart. This is a timid and sentimental sympathy.Another kind of sympathy, downplaying the sentimental color, and full of positive spirit, determined to go through the suffering with the suffering people and help them get out.Duanmu is the latter type. This is not simple sympathy, it can only be achieved by a person with a compassionate heart.

Even though Duanmu is a psychiatrist who charges a fee and is a job, He Ren firmly puts her in the second category.He Ren has respect for Duanmu.

In this world, Duanmu is the first person who listens to himself so intently.He Ren thought, Wen Xin never had such patience.

He Ren sat in front of the computer, and she began to write notes.

Duanmu finally left He Ren with a question to think about.

There are two widowed women, (Duanmu did not use widowed husband, but widowed.) The marital status is roughly the same, the only difference is that the two people's previous marriage status is different, one has a deep and harmonious relationship, and the other has a bad relationship , always conflict.

Duanmu asked He Ren to analyze, which of the two of them can get out of the pain faster?Which one is more prone to depression?

"Next time we come, let's start with this topic." Duanmu said.