After Black Lotus became a reborn person, he went completely crazy

The best marriage is like a boat floating on the lake. The husband and wife are each responsible for the oars on one side. Only by moving in unison and working together can they reach the other side. Otherwise, the boat will capsize.

It is not good for either side to speed up, nor for either side to slow down or stop. If they speed up, they must speed up together, and if they stop, they must stop together, in order to maintain stability.

That is to say, the pace must be absolutely consistent, and the hearts must be focused on the same goal. If one party is distracted, it may lead to a capsize. But this kind of situation where everyone is in step with the same goal and focused on the same goal is very rare.

What we need to cultivate ourselves is to have the ability and wisdom to deal with such events. Before getting married, we need to think clearly about what we should do if the marriage fails.

How to get out of it and maximize the benefits is the key and the skill, nothing else matters. "

Xia Ran's words stunned Chen Jin. "I haven't thought about it so deeply. Do you think men really think this way? Are they really so realistic? Are they really so heartless?"

Xia Ran nodded: "Not 100%, but at least 95% of men think this way, and the remaining 5% is reserved for those who are brainless or love-brained.

Many times, even these love-brains are love-brains after people have weighed the pros and cons. Really, men are much more realistic than women, and men are also much more rational than women.

Also, this is not called heartless, this is called being caring and having lungs, it’s just that everyone is focusing on different things.

Women value so-called love and self-feelings, while men value their careers and money more. They love themselves more, and most men are not trapped by family. This is a social reason that no one can change. "

If you don’t believe it, just listen to the daily chats of the male colleagues and classmates around you.

Many proofs of love in women's eyes are imagined by themselves, such as so-called love and romance.

Perhaps the same "proof of love" is seen by men as a small trick and strategy that they must use to achieve a certain goal, and it is a small trick and strategy that is not worth mentioning.

When men do something, they look at the value, while women like to look at the feeling.

The greater the value of a woman, the more energy and money he is willing to invest in her. If he thinks a woman is cheap, his original investment will be reduced accordingly.

This is why many women in reality have never been able to let go of a problem:

I loved him and cared about him so much. His family was poor, and I married him without asking for any dowry. I gave birth to children for him. Why didn't he cherish me? Why did he become bad once he had some money?

You said that you love him so much, not because he loves you.

What you think is love may be cheap and worthless in his eyes, because he got it at no cost. Most things that are easily obtained will not be cherished.

This is human nature, and it may even seem to him that this is his second best option.

It's not you who is wronged, it's him who is wronged.

He even thought: I am so sad that I can only marry a woman like this. She has no other advantages except being cheap, affordable and family-oriented.

The woman from Mr. So-and-so's family can also help his husband in his career.

The wife that so-and-so married came from a wealthy family and gave a very large dowry.

The wife that so-and-so married is so damn beautiful and adorable. Why don’t I have such a good life?

You see, the woman's kindness, understanding and ability to live a good life moved herself.

In the eyes of many men, you are worthless and they may even look down on you, thinking that you are cheap to begin with and that they got you without spending much money.

This is similar to what some men do when they get drunk and cry on the eve of their wedding.

Considering that his own abilities, height, appearance, economic conditions and other aspects may not be ideal when he was young, he cannot reach the ideal glowing woman in his mind with his current conditions.

Under the urging of his relatives and friends, he had no choice but to get married. Facing the only woman he could care for, do you think he is more grateful or more disdainful and dissatisfied?

Many women think that they will be more grateful, but in fact most men don’t have gratitude, they are just dissatisfied.

The woman in front of him constantly reminded him of his past embarrassment and unhappiness, his powerlessness and weakness, and his refusal to resist and compromise with fate.

A woman thinks she has married her true love, but in the eyes of some men, he believes that he has died from the day of marriage, died on the eve of the wedding when he had to settle for the second best because he could not get what he wanted.

What do you think these men, who are frustrated and not pursued or favored by women when they were young, will do once they are forty years old and women only look at positions and financial resources instead of looks and height?

If a beautiful young girl who is sweet-talking and can provide emotional value suddenly comes to them voluntarily, do you think that these people will feel like their old house is on fire and they have found the meaning of life? Will they have a second spring in their life?

Therefore, betrayal by this type of people is inevitable, and there is no need to ask why?

But what do women over 40 have? If they have a job, it's ok, at least they have a job to support them.

I am most afraid of housewives. What would they do if they encounter such a thing? How would they solve the problem?

The law hardly recognizes the contributions of housewives. At least it has never been reflected in the few existing judgments, or it has only been negligibly mentioned. It is worse than having no recognition at all, and it feels a bit like an insult.

Chen Jin: "According to what you said, who would dare to get married? The marriages of the older generation seem to be muddled, and it seems that they have never delved into this issue."

"Why would you be afraid to leave? It all depends on your ability and wisdom to handle the situation. Times have changed. In the past, there were men who were shot for hooliganism for dancing with women.

In the past, if someone cheated on their spouse or betrayed their marriage, they would be fired from their job at the least and be beaten like a rat crossing the street. In serious cases, they would lose their life or even be sent to prison.

Look at the trends in recent years. People are becoming more tolerant of such incidents and are becoming more and more accustomed to them.

This is a strong signal that relationships between men and women will become more chaotic and casual in the future.

These people cannot be restrained at the moral level, so we can only find a way at the legal level. However, the legal level cannot control such details. Cheating and betrayal are moral issues, and they are not illegal.

You see, there are no adverse consequences for cheating and betrayal, as long as the other partner does not make a fuss or sue, there is nothing wrong. This is why I have repeatedly emphasized this matter. In the future, chaotic relationships between men and women will be the norm.

As small individuals, we cannot change this trend and trend. If we don’t want to drown on the ship of marriage, we must practice swimming skills in advance and strengthen our hearts.

Be more rational and less emotional. Use your brain more, weigh the pros and cons more, and talk less about emotional issues and personal feelings. Talking about that will only make you look weak and vulnerable, which will do no good. "