After Black Lotus became a reborn person, he went completely crazy

Doudou's father was planning to come over to thank you, but I refused. I deliberately didn't bring him along. If he had been brought along, it wouldn't have been so comfortable and convenient for us to chat. "

She always felt that Xia Ran didn't like people like her ex-husband.

What's more, I came to someone's house without informing them in advance. What if it is inconvenient to receive them? Since she is a woman, it might be more convenient for her.

"Yeah, you did the right thing. If he comes, it will be inconvenient for us to chat, and I can't entertain him, so it's better not to come," Xia Ran directly expressed her dislike for Li Qingchun's ex-husband.

She doesn't like people who can't figure things out.

Most of the special things that happen to the mother-in-law are caused by the man’s incompetence.

If a man really cares about his wife's feelings, his mother would not dare to bully her.

The mother-in-law dared to do this after testing step by step over time, and found that her son did not strongly object. Some mothers would think that this was approval, and that it was her son's affirmation and encouragement of her certain behaviors.

Next time, she will be even more aggressive.

Anyway, my son has no objection. We are from the same country, so it doesn't matter what he does. He doesn't have to bear any bad consequences. At the same time, I can still control my wife. What a good thing.

When a son confronts his mother, regardless of whether he is right or wrong, the son is likely to win, almost without exception.

So there is no such thing as him being unable to control his own mother.

Of course, there is an exception, that is, the son is not his biological son, or the mother does not care about this son at all.

Men are creatures who particularly like to smooth things over and play dead on certain matters. Moreover, his own mother did it in the name of doing it for his own good, so as the beneficiary of the incident, he was even more silent.

Some people also say that men are careless, don’t pay attention to this, can’t observe so much detail, and they don’t do it on purpose.

If Xia Ran were to say, they certainly didn't do it on purpose, they did it on purpose. Anyway, they were the beneficiaries, so they didn't have to bear the blame themselves.

If you don’t believe it, let the mother-in-law learn from the mother-in-law and do to her own son-in-law twice what the mother-in-law does to her daughter-in-law, and see if he is still blind.

It’s not that people don’t understand, or that they can’t see, it’s that they don’t want to understand, and don’t want to do these things for “you”.

In other words, in his eyes, you are not very important and not worth it for him to confront his mother or even create a conflict with her.

Just like when some white lotus and green tea girls get close to men and talk teasingly, men understand whether they are ambiguous with the other party or not. As the parties involved, how can they not know?

It's just that he really enjoys the feeling of having other people of the opposite sex throwing themselves at him at his age, so he chooses to accept and indulge himself.

If you don't believe it, try this behavior on your wife and see if she can understand it. You will know if she can accept it.

When you don’t care about someone, even the excuses you make are perfunctory.

When you really care about someone, it's like an old house on fire, burning with urgency, and that kind of care and love cannot be hidden.

Li Qingchun nodded, "So, I didn't bring him here."

It seemed like this was the right thing to do. She came here to thank others, not to cause trouble for them. She also wanted to treat Xia Ran as a relative.

Her parents said that Xia Ran was her destined benefactor, and she felt that it was true.

It was obvious that the marriage had reached a dead end and there was no way forward, but who would have thought that after taking a step back, there would be light at the end of the tunnel.

"Uh-huh."

Li Qingchun didn't know what he was thinking about, and suddenly sighed: "You said that it's really hard for people to be perfect. My ex-mother-in-law was always troublesome and very difficult to deal with. There is a mother-in-law in our building who is really nice. She never lets her daughter-in-law do housework. She cleans the house and outside very cleanly and neatly. The daughter-in-law here is only responsible for eating and wiping her mouth after work, and doesn't have to do anything else. That's it, but the daughter-in-law is not very satisfied. She finds fault with the mother-in-law every day, thinking that the mother-in-law cares too much about her eldest sister-in-law. She makes trouble every other day. Tell me, why can't a good mother-in-law meet a good daughter-in-law?"

"This is a very common thing. I thought about this problem a long time ago. It seems that imperfection is what the world should be like. Maybe incompleteness is the way it is. It's just like a woman who lives a daily life can't find a man to support the family, and a man who lives a daily life can't marry a wife who is frugal and manages the family."

Li Qingchun thought for a moment and said, "That's true. Most of the female employees in my company are like this. They all have problems to varying degrees. No marriage is perfect."

"We are not perfect ourselves, so how can we expect the other person to be perfect? ​​It is difficult for two imperfect people to be perfect together. The best state of marriage is that we both know that we are imperfect and the other person is imperfect, but we are willing to work hard together to run this small family well and devote ourselves wholeheartedly.

In the process of walking together, we just need to be loyal and honest with each other, responsible for each other, responsible for our children, and responsible for ourselves. This is my ideal marriage.

I am afraid that if you only see the shortcomings of others and fail to see your own problems, and think that any problem is the other person’s fault, then the relationship is basically ruined and there is no solution.”

The only benefit of marriage is that you can take the blame for your own mediocrity and incompetence, and you can blame all your misfortunes on another person.

"If it weren't for you, I would have done this and that..."

"If it weren't for you, I wouldn't have to suffer this..."

Xia Ran just laughed.

Just like the three items of marriage, house, car and dowry.

Most men will include the expenses of purchasing a house and a car in the cost of marriage.

He kept saying, "I spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on cars and houses to marry you, what else do you want?"

First of all, we need to understand the logic and actual legal provisions here.

This house and car are not bought for these girls. They only have the temporary right to live together and use them, but it is a conditional right.

It is not ownership, so they cannot be confused. Moreover, in this case, it is easy to be kicked out by the other party.

They are even worse than tenants. As long as a tenant is within the lease period, others have no right to evict her. But this is not the case with this house. Some men can always say, "My parents bought this house, get out of here!"

What? If there is no woman coming in, you don't have to live in the house or drive a car?

If there is no girl A, there is still girl B. You talk as if you are not planning to get married, and as if your family does not need to eat, drink, defecate or urinate.

Is it absurd to charge the future daughter-in-law with the cost of living for her family? Is it unfair?