【Historical Live Broadcast】Watching videos and being seen by our ancestors

[It turns out that the divorce rate was low in the past not because transportation was slow, but because some people endured pain throughout their lives]

[A blogger interviewed an old lady and asked her if she was sad about her husband’s death]

【But she said】

【sad?】

[Not sad, because I'm too tired]

I didn't shed a single tear when he left.

[When my grandmother was young, she had no plans to get married. Her mother advised her that it was okay not to get married when she was young, but what would she do when she got old? ]

[Later, I was introduced to a partner and got married. I thought the other party was also a teacher and would be reasonable.]

[She didn't care that the other person's salary was not as high as hers, but she didn't expect that she would still suffer so much injustice after marriage.]

[When he gets angry, he uses cold violence and ignores you. One time, he ignored my grandmother for as long as a year.]

[Grandma endured this helplessly for her entire life]

[But the blogger asked her if she was relaxed now that he was gone]

[Grandma is smiling on the outside but crying on the inside, crying for the grievances of her life that only she knows]

[This reminds me of a passerby's record of my grandmother walking alone in a snowstorm, and my grandfather left her an umbrella that was not tilted.]

[Looking at the footprints in the snow, grandma also wanted to hide from the wind and rain under the umbrella, but as soon as she approached, the person holding the umbrella walked away]

[Some people also found that the older generation of grandmothers all had bow legs, and they thought it was a congenital deformity. After reading the comments, I realized that this was because they went to work in the fields right after giving birth. Long-term physical labor and malnutrition caused their knees to bend and their bones to deform.]

[In places we cannot see, grandma’s generation really suffered a lot. For the older generation of women who have never been loved, their rings are shackles instead of love]

"The women with bow legs would go to work in the fields right after giving birth, and soon after that they would have another baby, and then they would continue to work, carrying firewood and water, cooking, washing clothes, and planting and tilling the land.

I saw a middle-aged woman limping before, and I didn’t know why. Until I heard that she had four biological children, three daughters and a son, and was still working, the feeling was really indescribable.

The obsession and pain of the previous generation are always passed on to the next generation, so those people try their best to force all young women to marry and have children. This is a kind of shackle for women in the new era.

"That's how most women of that era lived. After giving birth, they went to work in the fields, toiling all their lives, and then the mainstream evaluation they received was, what's the use of being a woman? They had no chance to speak out in mainstream society."

"Some drank pesticides, some went crazy, some ran away... There were no divorces or mental illnesses before, only old stories that were mentioned in passing during the chat at the village entrance."

"The main reason is that they don't have a concept of divorce. One thing I remember vividly is that when I was a kid, I was watching TV with my grandmother. There was a TV show where the man cheated on his wife and the woman slapped him. My grandmother said that it was obvious that the woman was not a good person.

I was shocked at the time, and then asked her why. She said, how can a woman hit a man? I felt very angry, but I didn't want to explain. Later, I slowly understood that my grandmother had suffered domestic violence all her life (I heard this when I was a child eavesdropping on my parents' conversations). She was not only unable to resist, but was also branded with the idea that she could not resist. "

"Nowadays, many boys are praising their grandmothers for their ability to endure hardships, and praising their mothers for mopping the floor and doing housework, while they themselves play with their mobile phones every day, play with their mobile phones after meals, and don't wash the dishes. They also scold girls nowadays for not doing housework or cooking. It's so funny [eating melon seeds] The charm of boys"

"I told my grandmother that some people on the Internet envy the love of the older generation. My grandmother laughed and said it was a sand dollar."

“When the internet first started talking about the high divorce rate, I thought it was because women were finally able to face up to their own suffering.”

Some people under the sky felt meaningless and let the words in the video go in one ear and out the other: Isn’t this how life is supposed to go?

The world has been like this since ancient times. What fault can we have? We are just following the ways of the ancients!

Some families who have a daughter look at Tianmu and feel worried about their daughter's future marriage, who is not even a month old yet. What if she is like Tianmu, and she trusts the wrong person? Wouldn't she suffer a lifetime of pain and grievances with no one to complain to?

Otherwise, or don't get married! If my daughter can't find a suitable husband in the future, it's better not to get married. Anyway, my family is big and powerful, so why worry about not being able to raise a daughter?