Ancient women awaken: loving yourself is the way to go

Shen Xingxi really didn't expect that Madam Luo would be the first to cooperate with her. She really has the same personality as Miss Luo and is not a bad person.

"Madam Luo, I don't agree with your view. I want to ask you, when have women ever been united? Let me give you the saddest example. When a man brings his mistress into the house, the woman will only think that the mistress is a vixen who seduced her husband. Have you ever thought that it is the man who cannot control himself and has tarnished the innocence of others?

For thousands of years, men have ruled countries, men have made great achievements, men have inherited property, and men know that reading thousands of books is not as good as traveling thousands of miles.

Women are fighting with their wives and concubines, women are trying to please and win favor, women are waiting for their men to come home with great passion, women are setting rules for their daughters-in-law using the rules that their mothers-in-law once set for themselves.

Ladies, think about it, can women stand up in such a situation? On the one hand, you say that women have a hard time in this world, on the other hand, you hurt women who have the same hardship, and on the other hand, you worship men as gods. If this situation continues, women will only become reproductive tools.

Don't be offended by what I say about reproductive tools. During the ten months of pregnancy, the fetus is prone to miscarriage for six months. Most people choose to have two children in three years, which means that during these three years, one entire year is at risk of miscarriage. Add to that the two months of confinement period when movement is restricted. Do you think you have a lot of time to move freely?

If you are not pregnant, you have to stay in the house all day. Do you think there is something wrong with the reproductive tools?

Furthermore, don’t you have the idea that “women who don’t give birth are useless”? But women’s bodies belong to them, and you have to bear the pain of giving birth by yourself. Others cannot bear the pain for you. Isn’t it easy to criticize them for this? But do you dare to say that you have never said this to your wife? "

She slammed the table with a deafening sound, filled with grief and indignation:

"The man is looking for the reason in the woman, and the woman is looking for the reason in the woman. The man says that only men can continue the family line, and the woman also says that only men can continue the family line. Isn't that ridiculous?"

The ladies present had basically experienced the examples given by Shen Xingxi, and now they were feeling cold all over.

Why have they never thought about the angle Mr. Yan mentioned?

They have complained about the unfairness of fate so many times and sighed about time and fate so many times, but they have never thought about why men have better circumstances than women, and they have never thought about how to change this fate.

Shen Xingxi pointed to the words on the slate and said, "I have written the method on it.

I know that you ladies hate to snatch your husband's favorite concubine, but have you ever thought that the culprit of all this is your husband? Because he wants to take a concubine, there will be concubines to snatch from you. If your husband is unwilling, can the concubine enter the house?

This is called dyspositional thinking.

Ladies, you must know that concubines are slaves and you have the right to deal with them. Don't you think that they strive to win favor in order to live a better life? If servants flatter the powerful and bully the weak, can concubines survive without favor?"

The noble concubine stood up and said, "Let me tell you about the harem. I put an end to the phenomenon of the palace maids and eunuchs flattering the powerful and bullying the weak, and made sure that everyone had enough. Immediately, some people stopped competing for favor.

I strictly investigated the secret affairs of the harem and prohibited people from stepping on others to gain power, so fewer people died in the harem;

I provide the concubines with a fair platform to compete for favor, such as holding a banquet, allowing the concubines to retain the emperor with their own abilities. After the banquet, they are no longer allowed to fight, and people in the harem can also play games such as three-person four-legged race together.

The late emperor would also praise me for managing the harem in an orderly manner.

Ladies, even if you cannot help each other now, please try not to hurt each other. Save the time you spend competing for favor and work hard to benefit yourself.

Let me tell you, Concubine Shu is now the head chef in the Queen's restaurant. Everyone praises her cooking skills, and she can buy whatever she wants. She is so happy.

Concubine Sun used her embroidery skills to become a teacher at a business school. She now has countless disciples and is very successful.

Do you know what is the difference between using your own money to open a shop and make money for yourself and helping your husband manage the business and make money for him?

Let me tell you, the former is your confidence; it is the private money you can quietly give to your daughter when she gets married; it is the money you have to buy a place to stay when you are despised and kicked out of the house; while the latter is what you take for granted; if your industry makes a profit, you will at most get a compliment, but if your industry suffers a loss, you will still be scolded.

Ladies, we have been taught since childhood to regard our husbands as God. But will God turn a blind eye to our suffering? Will God torture us with words and actions such as taking concubines?

It is better to rely on yourself than on others. Only you can guarantee that you will not hurt yourself, right? "

Shen Xingxi continued the words of the noble concubine, "Indeed, the only thing you can guarantee in this world is that you love yourself.

So ladies, I sincerely hope that you will plan for yourself to leave a way out, enrich your knowledge, and cultivate your own interests, rather than putting all your experience on men.

Ladies, I also beg you to stop looking for the reason for your life's misfortunes on women. Women in this world have already fallen into the dust. If we don't work together, what will become of women?

Do you really want to see your daughter unable to escape from the cage in the backyard, unable to control her own destiny, and having her lifelong happiness rely on her future husband?

As women, let's be fair. If your parents are in trouble now, won't they help? So why are women said to be spilled water? Even if a woman gets married, can she ignore the grace of giving birth to her?

So what's the difference between having a son and a daughter? Can you guarantee that your son will treat you well? "

The noble concubine walked to the podium and said, "Ladies, if we want to change the current situation, we can only work together. Imagine that if the concubines who love money can earn money to buy things by themselves, will they be willing to look at others' eyes? Imagine that if women are able to support themselves, will they still be willing to be concubines?

So in the final analysis, it is because women are in such a bad situation, and the Queen and I are willing to take the first step for you."

She took out the revised clauses of the seven reasons for divorce that she had discussed with Xingxi and asked Xinghuo to distribute them.

The Seven Reasons for Divorce:

1. Disobeying parents: A wife who is disobedient to her husband’s parents is considered a serious act of treason;

2. Childless: The wife cannot give birth to a son, and thus cannot carry on the family line;

3. Promiscuity: A wife having sexual relations with a man other than her husband will cause confusion in the family bloodline;

4. Jealousy: A wife's jealousy of her husband's concubines will hinder the continuation of the family line;

5. Serious illness: The wife suffers from a serious illness and cannot participate in the sacrifice;

6. Talkative: A wife who talks too much or likes to gossip about others will cause discord in the family harmony;

7. Theft: The wife keeps some private money.