Live broadcast: Take our ancestors to see modern China

Seeing the word "education", many people become excited.

During this period, the term college student was very familiar to them, but think about the nine years of compulsory education in later generations, with elementary school, junior high school, and high school in between, and then college, by the time they finish school they will be in their twenties.

They are considered old, but they still need to study. How long will it take?

But they were surprised to see in the comments that people would go to jail for not letting their children educate, but when they thought it happened in the future, they felt it was no big deal.

Studying and receiving an education can still cause harm. When I recall the cases of those children, it seems that raising a child is really a time-consuming and energy-consuming task.

[Parents may never know how much harm they have done to their children.

The school organized an outing, but the little boy's father didn't let him go. He didn't make a fuss, but just sat quietly at the table and cried silently, his tears falling down, his two little hands tightly clutching the newspaper.

Although I was looking at the newspaper, only I knew whether I read it or not. I cried for an hour before my father finally agreed.

The reason is that I feel he is too pitiful.

At this moment, I suddenly thought of what Lu Xun wrote in "Dawn Blossoms Plucked at Dusk", "He wanted to go to the Wuchang Fair, but his father insisted that he go to recite a book." Brother Xun was extremely disappointed and depressed. Finally, he racked his brains and succeeded in reciting the book, so he was able to go to the Wuchang Fair.

When he grew up, he didn't remember the grand occasion of the Wuchang Festival at all. He only remembered the pain of his father asking him to memorize the text.

Perhaps, your father would say, didn’t I let you go in the end? 】

Under the sky, some people don't care, while others are silently looking in the mirror.

Studying hard to gain a good academic title is important, but they themselves have also been through a boring life, so they know the playful heart of youth.

It turns out that, without knowing when, I have become the person I once hated the most.

The emperors thought about their descendants and wondered if they were pushing them too hard, but the royal family had many lessons to learn.

But for ordinary families, reading and writing also require opportunities.

[How is this the same? Originally, his memories could be of happy play with his classmates, but now, in his memory, there is only the newspaper that he used to hide his emotions that day and that difficult ancient poem.

It was obviously just a simple conversation, but I felt a full sense of suffocation. 】

This is not the time to study hard; some relaxation is also necessary.

You ask your child: "What do you want to eat on the weekend?"

Child: "I want to eat braised pork."

You: "Why are you eating braised pork? What's so good about braised pork? Let's eat braised spareribs. Braised spareribs are more delicious."

Child: "But I just want to eat braised pork..."

You: "Eat braised pork ribs! Spare ribs are much more expensive than meat and more nutritious."

It's the weekend.

You: "I made braised pork ribs, why don't you eat them?"

Child: "I don't want to eat pork ribs...I want to eat braised pork."

You: "Red-braised pork, red-braised pork! Just remember red-braised pork! Aren't spareribs tastier than meat? You're still picky when I cook for you! You're so hard to please, and I'm still cooking for you. When I'm old and can't move, I'll have to count on you to cook for me. What's going on?"

child:"……"

You: "Every day, I am always different from others. I eat whatever other children cook. I will understand that it is not easy for my parents. Even if the food I cook is not tasty, I will say it is delicious..."

The child's eyes were red and he remained silent.

My father started complaining to relatives about his child's unreasonable behavior. We would never dare to do that when we were young.

The child couldn't stand it anymore and yelled, "Have you said enough? You were the one who asked me what I wanted to eat first, and now you know but you didn't do it. I just didn't want to eat ribs. What's wrong with me?"

Double the criticism,

You: "You're still excited, aren't you? Are you still arguing with me over a little food? You think about food all day long. If you put that focus on studying, you can get into Tsinghua University or Peking University!"]

The narrator's retelling clearly did not express much emotion, but I still felt a great sense of grievance from it.

You clearly have made a choice, and you clearly don't want to hear your child's opinion, but you still ask again.

Everyone felt that these parents were being a bit unreasonable.

But some people think that it is expensive for parents to cook for their children, and they have to be picky about the food.

The ancients had different opinions.

Looking at the barrage of comments above the video, most of them are sharing their own personal experiences.

They are all small things, but there are so many small things, so densely packed together, that one feels a bit breathless.

Maybe the parents have good intentions, but they do things that go against their original intentions.

There are many more answers that suit my own opinion.

"Every time the memories come back, I get scolded and cry, but I never cry out loud. Then I lie on my bed with my hands clasped together, and my tears silently roll down on the pillow."

"Happiness is more important, dignity is equally important. Even if your parents suppress you, just scold them back. That's what I do."

"And then blame me for not calling them now."

I'm doing this for your own good

"They don't need to know, and I don't need to ask for their opinions."

"My mother said I dared to talk back to you, and then she beat me up."

《I am still healing myself at the age of 30. 》

"An unhappy childhood takes a lifetime to heal."

"Getting approval from parents is a child's biggest wish in life, really."

《My child! I hope he will always be happy!》

"So I learned to cook for myself, not for what they said about marrying into a good family in the future, but just to make myself well fed and clothed. I'm not some old lady who has never had to do housework, but I just want to keep myself from starving to death."

"So when we were young, it wasn't that we were picky eaters, it was just that our parents made what we wanted to eat."

"As long as my child likes something, I will try my best to satisfy her and never deny her."

"So, I'm used to saying it doesn't matter, but they still say you don't have any opinions of your own."

"Parents always think they are always right and never make mistakes. Parents' desire for control never considers whether their children want it or not."

"My mother never believed me and only believed the teacher's one-sided words."

"Pork ribs are expensive, but kids don't like them."

……

There is a steady stream of comments, perhaps including children and adults who grew up suffering from such treatment.

It seems like this behavior is correct, but is it really?

Parents also think about their own children. Are they so controlling? Do they force them to do things they don’t like?

Sometimes something is right, but the child doesn’t like it, so is there any need to do it?

The emperors were used to being majestic all year round and they showed concern for their children, but they could not pay attention to them all the time.

At this moment, at least at this moment, they want to sit down and talk with their children and ask them what they think.

But there are also those who disagree. How can parents harm their own children? Tianmu is really exaggerating. These are just small matters.