Siheyuan: Rebirth 54 years ago, neighbor is stupid

Hu Yong's head seemed to have split open, as if something had grown out.

After hearing what Li Zhenmin said, he connected it with what he had seen and experienced. It seemed as if everything was connected and he finally understood the concept of family.

Young people are like this, it's not that they don't have much experience, but some of them are not mature enough mentally. They do many things based on their feelings instead of summarizing and thinking about why something happened the way it did. They are not very good at thinking about the intricate cause and effect relationships behind a thing.

To sum up, the thinking is not logical enough and is too chaotic.

That is why you need to study, you need teachers to teach you, and you need guidance from elders. If you rely on yourself, it will take a very long time, and some people even focus too much on the essence throughout their entire lives.

This is also the difference between children from rich families and children from poor families.

If conditions permit, parents will help their children to develop and shape their values ​​from an early age, helping them to see the essence of things more accurately. However, in poor families, parents do not have this awareness, so how can they guide their children? In the end, once the children enter society and see the cruelty, it may be too late to change their thinking. After all, it is difficult to change one's nature.

Just like Hu Yong, even though Li Zhenmin explained so much in a simple and easy-to-understand way, he was still confused.

It feels like he understands it, but if you ask him to repeat it, or apply these principles and ideas to his future life and work, it is almost impossible to do it overnight.

If it were an ordinary person, Li Zhenmin would definitely say so much, but since they have become a family, he is much more patient in explaining and guiding.

Of course, he also knew that this would not be an immediate success.

"Perhaps there will be some open or covert struggles between some big families, but that is also within an acceptable range. Once they encounter external pressure, they will be extremely united. This is also one of the reasons why big families can be passed down."

"We are still just a small family now, and we don't have so many conflicts of interest, so we must achieve harmony, otherwise when we become bigger in a few decades, it will be too late to correct it."

Li Zhenmin's words were powerful.

Hu Yong's head was buzzing, but at the same time, he seemed to have matured suddenly, and inexplicably seemed to have a greater sense of responsibility.

He nodded, then remembered something and said, "Brother, if Lanlan has her own career, just like Sister-in-law Ladi, wouldn't it be a good thing for the family?"

Li Zhenmin was amused and thought, what about Liang Ladi? Is Ma Lanlan worthy of her?

"You are right, but that is your assumption and wishful thinking. It is not the case in reality."

"Ah? As long as you help her, just like you took Sister Ladi as your apprentice before, and teach her some principles of doing things and being a person, she should be able to do it. She is not stupid, so she will learn things quickly, right?"

"..."

Li Zhenmin almost laughed out of anger, but he still managed to hold back and replied, "Let's not talk about Liang Ladi, let's talk about Jia Zhang. You know this, right? She's mean, aggressive, and shameless. I'm sure you don't like this kind of person, right?"

Hu Yong asked doubtfully, "Lan Lan isn't that kind of person, right?"

Li Zhenmin smiled and said, "Of course she is not Jia Zhangshi, but from my perspective, or from the perspective of a family, she is actually not even as good as Jia Zhangshi."

"Ah?" Hu Yong was confused.

Li Zhenmin explained: "Jia Zhang has many shortcomings, but she is also qualified in protecting men and the interests of the Jia family. No matter how mean she is, she will not give men face outside. The things you hear from her about the men in her family are basically good. Even if they are not good, she will say that the men in her family are good. Is that right?"

Hu Yong was speechless. Thinking about it, it seemed to be true.

Li Zhenmin continued, "And Ma Lanlan, no matter from which angle you look at it, has no intention of treating us as family, not even a little bit. When she wants something, she doesn't say nice things, doesn't take the initiative to do something, doesn't think about what she can bring to this family, but because she wants it, she must get it, and she cries if she doesn't get it."

"Is she a three-year-old child? You are almost twenty years old, and you still treat you in this way."

"This is not a question of understanding or not, but she doesn't consider you as her man at all. Everything she did is totally not the normal behavior of a woman who wants to marry you."

"She may not be as shameless as Jia Zhangshi and won't roll around, but isn't she as good as Jia Zhangshi in protecting the reputation and interests of men and family?"

Hu Yong was speechless again, and he felt his head buzzing even more.

Not as good as Jia Zhang....

This is really serious.

Hu Yong wanted to deny this, but from the perspective of the family, he really couldn't find any reason to refute it.

Li Zhenmin continued: "You said she would be like Liang Ladi, but do you know what Liang Ladi was doing when she was 18?"

"Liang Ladi was already a level 4 welder at the age of 18. I recruited her from the steel mill in the crater."

"Also, Liang Ladi doesn't have Ma Lanlan's education, nor does she dress like that, nor does she have that kind of family background. But she managed to become a level 4 welder with her own abilities despite having nothing!"

"Also, although I accepted Liang Ladi as my apprentice, it was not because she asked Zhuzi to come to me to plead for me that I accepted her. She took the initiative to find me and said that she was willing to work like a cow or a horse for me. I accepted her only when her attitude was extremely humble. Would Ma Lanlan have this attitude when asking someone to do something for her?"

"And when I teach my apprentices, I spend more time on Ding Qiunan and Xu Damao's studies. As for Liang Ladi and Yan Jiecheng, they just follow me and learn by watching."

"It can be said that most of her current achievements are earned by her own hard work, and I just play a supporting role."

"On the other hand, Ma Lanlan is 18 years old, what can she do? What is her attitude? Liang Ladi begged me by kneeling down, but she was trying to be clever with me. Is she worthy of competing with Liang Ladi?"

"She didn't want to learn anything from me to improve her competitiveness, but wanted me to put her in a stable position."

"Why should I help her? She has no ability, no sincerity, and no attitude. Just because she is your partner, but the problem is that I don't think she is dating you, I don't think she wants to marry you and treat you as her husband. Instead, I think you are begging her to marry her."

The more Li Zhenmin spoke, the more terrified Hu Yong felt.

The terrifying thing is that Li Zhenmin is right, the terrifying thing is that Ma Lanlan really did that, and the even more terrifying thing is that he himself didn't even realize it, or he never thought about it from this perspective at all.

So...in comparison, why does Ma Lanlan think she can compare with Liang Ladi? Apart from the fact that they are both women and both lively, it seems that there is no other similarity between them.

I am too superficial, and Malanlan is also too superficial and self-righteous.

"I'm sorry, brother. I thought things were simple."

Hu Yong bowed his head and apologized, looking very unhappy.

Li Zhenmin waved his hand and said, "Come to my place every day after get off work. I will teach you. You will have more capital to go to college in the future. Don't think that going to college is useless. If you have this idea, think about it from another angle. If college is useless, why does the country set it up? What I can do is to help you get the qualification. As for whether you can do it, Ding Qiunan can do it, Xu Damao can do it, why can't you?"

"But..." Hu Yong felt a little embarrassed to come to study every day.

Li Zhenmin waved his hand: "Don't think about dating Ma Lanlan every day. If the love between two people lasts for a long time, why should we be together day and night? If she cares about you, sees your efforts, and sees that I support you, she should go back and think about it instead of wasting you on daily dates."

Hu Yong was still a little confused, but Li Zhenmin made a direct conclusion: "Okay, you just listen to me on this matter. Just for one week. Just pretend that you are angry with her and ask her to accommodate you. If she is not willing to accommodate you for a week, then she will never think from your perspective when it comes to a lifelong marriage."

After hearing what Li Zhenmin said, Hu Yong also wanted to give it a try. He wanted to see if Ma Lanlan would give him a week, whether she would care about him if he didn't take the initiative to look for her, and whether she would try to patiently stand in his perspective and think seriously about studying.

"Okay, I'll come here starting tomorrow."

"Well, you can also tell Ma Lanlan about this, but you have to stick to your attitude. You should be tough for once. You should just take the surname Ma and marry into the family."