I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 226 Donated 700 million, netizens shed tears
Raymond Lam: "Sister, do you think a single mother can raise a child well?
I think your thinking is wrong in the first place.

What does it mean to be a single mother?
Do you know what single parent means?

A single parent is someone who raises a child alone, right?
If you think so, too many families are single-parent.

Look around you. How many marriages are in name only? How many families have children raised by one person?
So first of all, your understanding of single parenting is wrong.

There is no such thing as a single mother, you are just a normal mother.

Don't label yourself as belonging to a special group.

I feel like, I am a single mother, I am different from you, I don’t have as much power as you,
You see, there are two of you teaching your children, and you all have partners, some are married.

Do you really think he has?
The reality is that there are many people who are only together in marriage, but in fact, they have long been dead in name only.
You just destroyed that name.

You don't have to think so, you all have your parents with you.

Remember, they don't necessarily have it.

They just have the name of marriage. You are much better than them. At least you don’t have so many bad things in your life.

Because you are the only one raising your children, you will experience more. You are the one who is happy and you are the one who is unhappy.

For those who are not single parents, I tell you, it's annoying.
In addition to taking care of my children's mood every day, I also have to fight with my husband. There are so many things to do every day.
You are much better than them.

After hearing this, sister, do you feel better?
And the scariest thing is that I have a husband, but I can’t find him.

I have someone to rely on, but where is the money? I still can't see it.

I have a partner, but he is gone when I need him to educate my children.

People like you don't have to think about those bad things.

remember,

You are not a single mother, you are an independent and high-quality woman. "

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"In reality, many families and marriages exist in name only" "You just destroyed the name as well"

“I was cured all of a sudden.”

"What the military advisor said touched my heart. Suddenly, I don't feel so scared being alone."

"I am a single parent who has been divorced. I have been depressed for 10 years. I benefited a lot from listening to the host's words."

"Yeah, I really don't feel that there is any difference, but some people will talk about it. We just need to live a good life and don't need to care about other people's opinions."

"Summary: A low-quality marriage is worse than a high-quality single life."

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"How many people are just nominal fathers? Even though they are not divorced, they only come home a few times a year and never attend parent-teacher conferences or school activities (sigh)."

"I have a husband, but he lives like a bachelor. He comes home once a month and never cares about our son's studies. He doesn't beat or scold him when he does poorly on exams. He is very Buddhist. I am the only one raising the child. My life is no different from that of a single mother."

"Sometimes life forces me to do so. For example, my father works in another city to support the family and only comes home a few times a year. Most of the time, I can't go."

"That doesn't count. Your father is also working hard for this family. You have to understand."

Uh-huh.

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: "Sister, don't be afraid that you can't raise a child by yourself.

Let me tell you, a quarter of the world's scientists and celebrities grew up in single-parent families.

why?
Because single-parent families may be more conducive to the reverse growth of children."

Woman: “Really?”

The voice was full of urgency and disbelief.

Lin Feng: "Of course, but there is a prerequisite."

The woman asked anxiously, "What's the premise?"

Raymond Lam: "Be a smart mother."

The woman said firmly, "Military Advisor, I will listen to you. You teach me."

Raymond Lam smiled: "It's actually very simple, just be yourself."

"If you want your children to be healthy, you should first keep yourself healthy.

Remember, how you live your life will most likely be how your children will be in the future.

Because he has no second coordinate to refer to.

So if you want him to be healthy, sunny and positive, you yourself must be sunny, positive and healthy.

Many people may say that divorce has caused me too much harm and I can’t bear it anymore.

That's no problem. Put your child's affairs aside and sort out your own affairs first.

Don't just take care of your children and ignore yourself.
It's impossible to live a messy life and expect your children to succeed.

If you feel that something is not right with yourself, ask your parents to help you look after your child first, then pull yourself out of the situation, quickly adjust yourself, and then talk to your child again.

Otherwise, you will complain, feel sad, aggrieved, and collapse every day, and it is impossible for your child to grow up healthy.

The second is to introduce male characters so that single mothers can play both roles of father and mother in life.

However, in terms of emotions, feelings, and even thinking about doing things, we can only provide children with a female perspective.

So we need to introduce some male roles into children's lives.

This man can be the child's grandfather or uncle. In short, you should authorize the men around you to provide some male education to your child.

In this way, children can become more complete in their thinking, personality and emotions.

Third, never give up on your own love life.

Remember, the military advisor is talking about love life, not marriage.

Do you want your children to get married in the future?
Do you hope he will have a happy marriage in the future?

Do you hope he will have a good love life in the future?
If you want, you have to set an example for him.

Let children know that a failed marriage is not scary, what is scary is giving up the pursuit of love.

Don’t ever think that I’m great and awesome just because I’m divorced and I raised my child by myself.

You are just moving yourself.

In fact, in the end you will blame everything on your children.

Make your child feel that you are doing this for him.

The pressure is too great, sister. The child can’t bear it.

Moreover, it is impossible for children to have a correct and healthy view of emotions.

He will never learn how to manage relationships or marriage in the future.

This doesn't necessarily mean that you have to go out and find a boyfriend.

But the most basic thing you have to do is not to say bad things about your ex-husband in front of him.

Whether the father is good or not is up to the child to judge for himself.

Your hatred for your child's father is a conflict between you two adults. Don't impose it on your child.

How to be a smart mother?

For example, next time you meet your ex-husband and his girlfriend in the mall, you can tell your child openly, look, dad has found his own happiness, and mom also needs to find her own happiness.

You can also tell your child that my father and I are the blue bird and the big fish. The blue bird lives in the forest, while the big fish can only live in the sea.

Now you can live in the forest or in the sea, and we will love you forever.

This is the right way to teach your children to love someone.

So let your ex-husband go.

Now you just need to take care of yourself, and you can actually give your children a better future.”

. . . . .

On the barrage

"As long as the mother is positive and happy, the child will be fine. Divorce is actually not as scary as imagined."

"It turns out that I was going in the wrong direction. I was not in good shape, but I was thinking about managing the children first."

"Me too, I even had a fight with my family (crying to death)."

"The child's father passed away in an accident when the child was one and a half years old. Now the baby is over three years old, and I don't want to remarry. I don't know how to make amends for the child."

"No need to make it up, as long as you give him enough love, he will be great."

"Really, mom will drive changes in everything around her and just be her own sun."

Well said

. . . . .

The woman was silent for a long time: "Military Advisor, I understand, thank you." That's it.

Go down and live a good life!
At this time, Yu Huanshui handed the phone to Lin Feng.

Lin Feng glanced down and frowned.

He said to the screen: "Brothers, seeing this data, I feel very uncomfortable."

Then he picked up his phone and said to the live broadcast room:

"This is what Brother Shui just found out. As of the second half of last year, 70% of single-parent families in our country were children living with their mothers.

The number of single mothers has reached 2000 million.

63.5% of single mothers have a monthly income of less than 4000 yuan.

In fact, I was just watching the public screen, and I found that there are many strong and brave single mothers among my fans.

Their difficulties not only come from economic pressure, but also from the challenges of time poverty and poverty that they often have to endure.

When a single mother raises a child, her responsibilities and labor are much heavier than those in a two-parent family.

They need more support in terms of psychological, legal, parenting and so on.

Really

I think every single mother should admire herself, love herself, and affirm herself from the bottom of her heart."

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"This is just big data. In fact, there are many mothers who live with their children even though they don't have custody. I am one of them. The other party doesn't even give me living expenses, but how can I not feel pain for my child (crying to death)."

"My nose got sore when I read about your experience. I have the same mother as you."

"I am also a single mother, raising a boy for six years, and my monthly salary is just over 3,000 yuan. Many times I just can't make it (sigh)."

"My monthly salary is 2900 (crying)."

"I am a widower and have been raising my child alone for seven years. I have no relatives to help me, so I have to work hard on my own. I have to take care of the child and work from dawn to dusk carrying bricks."

. . . . .

Lin Feng's eyes swept across the barrage of comments.

“Brothers,

I think I need to do something.

I promise here that I will do something for single mothers.”

On the barrage.

"Will the military advisor do charity work?"

"You are indeed my favorite anchor."

"Positive energy, I have to support you."

For a time,

The screen is full of gift special effects.

But there is also another voice.

"Haha, this trick again."

"Don't you watch the news, bro? These are all tricks used by anchors to gain traffic and get gifts. Many rooms have been blocked."

"You are awesome for committing crimes against the wind (disdain)."

“@Official, strictly investigate the anchor!”

"It's a piece of crap, it should be blocked!"

"The live streaming industry is a mixed bag, and the government should have taken action to regulate it long ago."

"Strike hard! Investigate strictly! Punish severely!!"

. . . . .

Brother Shui was a little anxious: "Military Advisor, this..."

Lin Feng glanced at the barrage of comments, and none of those shouting had fan signboards.

They are all black fans passing by.

Lin Feng didn't waste any words and directly took out his phone to show a screenshot of the transaction:
Imperial Capital Han Hong Charity Foundation
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2
Successful transaction
Payment method: Shanghai South City Bank savings card (3219)

indivual,
ten,
千，
万，
One hundred thousand,

million...

hiss~~

200! !

As everyone was shocked, Raymond Lam posted another screenshot.

National Anti-Cancer Charity Foundation
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Successful transaction
Payment method: Shanghai South City Bank savings card (3219)

Holy shit! !
500! !

Even Yu Huanshui next to him was shocked.

Looking at Lin Feng in disbelief.

Charity donation book.

Mr. Raymond Lam,

Thank you for your donation of RMB 500 million to the National Anti-Cancer Charity Foundation's Social Rescue Force Enhancement Plan.

Your loving participation is the warmest thing in the world.

. . . . .

On the barrage.

What the hell!

"It turns out that the military advisor is a rich second-generation!"

“I’m here to experience life through live streaming.”

“No wonder I’ve been watching his livestream for so long and he never asks for gifts (awesome).”

Xiao Wan: “Is it important (smile)?”

Gouzi: "Yeah buddy, are you focusing on the wrong thing?"

Yaoyao: "Military Advisor can donate 7 million to charity, isn't this something worthy of respect and admiration?"

Stranger: "Compared to the 700 million donation, Tiezi's live broadcast is more meaningful and can directly help everyone with emotional problems."

July: "So the military advisor's real name is Lin Feng, what a cool name, I love it (hehe)."

Brother Long: "I am convinced. I am really convinced. After watching the live broadcast for so long, Junshi is the first anchor I admire from the bottom of my heart."

Xiao He Liu: "I've seen this guy live streaming for five years. He's never won a PK, but he's never lost when he's pretending to be cool."

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Raymond Lam put down his phone and said, “My old fans may still remember that I had a live chat with a cancer patient before.

She is my biggest fan.

At that time, I was thinking, what can I do for her?
Later, I found a friend who worked in a bank and asked her to help me select qualified and reliable charities.

The charity foundation also gave me news today.

I almost forgot about it, thanks to these little black guys for reminding me."

Lin Feng smiled and said: "In order to relieve the pressure of cancer patients and allow them to receive timely and effective treatment, we will provide cancer patients in need with
With their ID card and medical records, and after passing the review of the anti-cancer charity foundation, real cancer patients can apply for a one-time free grant of 10,000 to 30,000 yuan from the charity foundation.

Patients with serious conditions can apply for assistance funds a second or third time.

I have put the application link on the homepage. If you have any difficulties or needs, please remember to apply. "

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"My eyes are filled with tears. The military advisor is so heartwarming."

"Can I really apply? I have lung adenocarcinoma and will be having my second chemotherapy tomorrow. My family savings have almost been used up (crying)."

"I have breast cancer and have spent nearly 200,000 yuan in the past few years. I take targeted drugs, which cost about 2,000 yuan a month. I live in the countryside and cannot afford it (woohoo)."

"Is this true? My son has leukemia and I'm trying to borrow money from everywhere. I'm dying of anxiety (woohoo)."

"You are such a lifesaver (woohoo)."

(End of this chapter)