I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 225 Are you my biggest fan? Then I'm going to scold you
Hang up the mic,
Raymond Lam said to the live studio:
“Guys, I tried my best.

You said you knew clearly that he was not the right person,
You also know that this relationship is a bad fate.
But you still can't help but throw yourself into the fire.

The little bit of rationality you have left tells you that you should let go, but your proud self-esteem won't allow you to degrade yourself like this.
Your soul has reminded you many times that if you continue to persist, you will only get hurt.

But what about you?
Still not giving up,
Still with a hint of luck.

The military advisor was really helpless.

When facing a wrong love, there must be an abyss behind him.

Once you step in, there is no return.

You clearly understand everything, but you still rush forward with your eyes closed.

The military advisor can only give you eight words in the end: Love is voluntary, and there is no regret after it is done. "

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"I know everything" "Go or just keep going blindly"

"Every time you say it, it hits the nail on the head (I am convinced)."

"Yes, it's me (crying to death)."

"My friend said that I would not only bang my head against the wall, but also bang my head until it bleeds. Yes, I will not give up unless I do this!"

"Brother, I'm one step ahead of you. I've hit the wall. I've given up. I've seen it all and I don't care."

"I just climbed out of the abyss. It cost me half my life. There's no way I can go back."

"I have already let it go. It's not worth it for a liar. Trash should be thrown away."

well said!
. . . . .

“@Military Advisor, I want to ask, are there really any men who don’t cheat? Or men who don’t cheat?”

A question on the barrage received nearly a thousand likes.

Lin Feng frowned and asked back: "Are there really women who don't seek money? Are there really girls who don't mind boys being poor?"

A group of fairies on the barrage said: "Yes, yes, I am one of them."

Lin Feng shrugged: "So I also think there are men who don't cheat."

There was a sudden silence on the barrage.

Raymond Lam: “In some people’s eyes, all men are lustful and cheating. If they don’t cheat, it’s because they are not tempted enough or they don’t have the opportunity.

Many people cannot understand why some men are honest and do not like women, and even attack them for being unromantic.

But they don't know that these men's persistence in belief is far greater than their desire.
They also have normal desires, but they will definitely stick to their moral bottom line.

of course,

I believe that there is no born good person, because there is always badness in human nature.
But remember,

There are still restrained civilized people in this world.

As for you?
Instead of worrying every day whether a man will cheat on you.

You might as well focus on yourself, study, read, and see the mountains, rivers, lakes and seas.

Go make money, become beautiful, and become rich.

Because when you become stronger, you will find that those things that you could not get before will come to you on their own.

Life is about being able to take on and let go.

Because anything you can lose never really belonged to you.

Come on, get better.
Stop saying such thoughtless things like a nagging woman."

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"Hahaha, good job, cool."

"You have to believe that there are sincere people. There must be. You are so sincere, how can there not be another you?"

"well said."

"I really don't believe it, because when my exes were with me, they would look at any beautiful woman they passed by."

"What if a handsome guy passes by and you look at him?"

Uh. .

"Sister, when it comes to love, we must judge by deeds rather than by heart. If we judge by heart, everyone is guilty."

Clicked.

"The military advisor is right. Instead of worrying about whether a man will cheat, it is better to develop yourself. For example, I am hanging on to my ex, coaxing my current boyfriend, flirting with my next boyfriend, keeping the second, guarding the first, and developing the third, fourth, fifth, sixth, and seventh..."

Got it!

Publish a book, sisters!
"He's still fucking laughing. The military advisor's face is black (dog head)."

Hahahahaha.

. . . .

Lin Feng pointed at the screen: "You bunch of bastards, is this what I mean?"

Yu Huanshui next to him was also laughing and holding his stomach.

Lin Feng glanced at the time. It was already 1 o'clock.

okay,

I won't waste my time talking to you.
The last three wheats.

Very neat!
Ding~
"Hello, military advisor."

Another girl.

Lin Feng: "Hello, tell me about your situation."

“Military Advisor, I am divorced and I have a 10-year-old boy.

When I divorced my ex-husband, he said we couldn't communicate, and I was the one being divorced.

I ran into him when I was shopping with my kids a while ago. He was with his girlfriend.
Then he saw us, and he ignored the child and just walked away.

This made me extremely angry, so I took my child and chased after him.

Then he called the child aside to talk to him alone, away from me.

His girlfriend was near me, so I walked towards her.

He thought I was going to do something to his girlfriend, so he followed me.

Because he said last week that he would take the kids out to play this week, but did he contact me this week?
Then I questioned him about what he had said to me before: he would accompany the child. I asked him, "If you're not accompanying the child, who is stopping you from seeing the child?"
He said no.

Then the child came over, and he said in front of the child, "I don't want to accompany the child. I'm tired and I want to rest."

I was so angry that I slapped him in the face.”

Lin Feng: "You slapped him in the face in the mall?"

"Yes, because I was very, very angry at the time, because I felt that he was a father, a son, and he needed his father's company to give him courage.
My son now has a promotion tournament for Go, and he was promoted from the fourth dan to the first dan very smoothly.
I can't upgrade from level 1 to level 1 no matter what.

I think he was afraid to attack, and he was afraid of difficulties.”

Stop for a minute, sister.

Lin Feng: "What do you want to ask me?"

"I feel that although my marriage has failed, the love we both have for our children has not diminished. This is what I think is the ideal state. I am connecting with you because I want to ask you if my idea is correct."

Lin Feng frowned: "Sister, this is not an emotional issue, right?"

Girl: "I know, but I really like watching the military advisor's live broadcast. I think what the military advisor says makes sense and makes people feel transparent, so I want the military advisor to give me some advice."

Still my die-hard fan.

Lin Feng shook his head and said, “First of all, thank you for your support and trust in me. Since you want my advice, I can’t fool you, right?

But what I’m going to say next may not be what you want to hear.

Are you mentally prepared for this?"

The girl was stunned for a moment.

Nodding: "Military Advisor, please tell me."

Raymond Lam: "I think it's right for your husband to divorce you."

???

Raymond Lam: "Because women like you really have no charm. As an ex-wife, you saw your ex-husband shopping with his girlfriend in the mall, and you went up to slap them in the face. There must be something wrong with your brain."

Uh. .

. . . . .

On the barrage.

???

"What's going on? Why is the military advisor scolding girls?"

"Isn't it the father who pretended not to see the child that made the mistake first?"

"I don't understand!"

"Oh my god, the military advisor has suffered a Waterloo."

"What a shitty anchor, his values ​​are not right."

"I'm already very sad, and you still say things so hurtfully."

"Scrappy anchor."

. . . . .

Lin Feng: "You may think, you are the weaker party, why should I scold you?"

Girl: "Yes, why did you scold me?"

Raymond Lam: "Because you deserve to be scolded."

???

Raymond Lam: "You are so old and don't even know what divorce means?

What is divorce?

Divorce means that this person has nothing to do with you anymore.

Do I really need to explain this to you?
Since the child has been awarded to you.

Do you understand that it is not against the law for him to visit his child once every two years?

To put it bluntly, divorce means your children are left without a father.

He has the obligation to pay child support, but he has no obligation to help you take care of your children.

This means that you have to raise the child by yourself from now on. This is called divorce. Do you understand?

Come on, sister, tell me the truth, do you still regard him as your husband?"

Girl: “No.”

Raymond Lam: "Come on, you're making such a high-sounding statement, saying it was because people saw the child but didn't say hello,

In fact, it's just that you feel uncomfortable when you see the newlyweds being so loving.

Also, why didn’t the other person say hello when they saw the child?
That must be your fault.

My ex-husband knows your character too well.

Knowing that it's time to stop and talk, you must break up with him.

Otherwise, why would they take their children aside and talk to you away after you call them?

That's because I'm avoiding you, afraid that you'd explode or talk nonsense.

Then, your ex-husband saw you walking towards the girl's girlfriend and immediately followed her.
Why?

It's because I know you too well and I'm afraid you might cause trouble."

Girl: “I’m not trying to cause trouble.”

Lin Feng: "Still being stubborn? If you're not causing trouble, why would you go to see someone's girlfriend for no reason? What do you want to say to her?

You just let it slip that you asked the child's father if someone was preventing you from seeing the child?

Who do you want?

Isn’t it just deliberately picking on someone’s girlfriend?

If the child's father didn't come over, you would definitely have a fight with the man's girlfriend in the mall.

Your ex-husband knows you too well.

So you are the one who was divorced, and you don’t understand it yet.

They also like to make these mistakes sound legitimate.

You say it's for the children, but in fact you're divorced and you're angry, and you're holding it in."

The girl was silent.

. . . . .

On the barrage.

I lost it!

On the surface: She was angry because her ex-husband ignored her son.

In fact: I was jealous when I saw my ex-husband and his girlfriend earlier.

Suddenly he realized. "Should I say it or not? The military advisor's ability to see through the essence is too strong."

"And through a few words from a girl's self-description, you can tell her violent personality."

"It's so transparent."

"This guy is so strong (awesome)."

"Even so, I still think what the anchor said is wrong. Two adults, even if they are divorced, the son is his, right? How can a divorce leave the child without a father?"

"It's not that the child has no father, it's that the woman has no right to demand how her ex-husband treats the child. The ex-husband can choose the way he thinks is right. Although he can be condemned morally, he has no legal obligation to do so."

Clicked.

. . . . .

Girl: "But he is right, right? Why did he say he didn't want to look after the child?"

Lin Feng smiled and shook his head: "Is that really what he really thinks?
Sister, you are too clingy.

I can imagine the scene at that time.

It must be your repeated aggressiveness that forced him to say this."

Girl: “I forced him?”

Lin Feng: "What else? Why should I divorce you? Don't you have figured it out now?
Why did they divorce you in the first place?

It has been made very clear.

Unable to communicate!!

Not only can he not communicate with you, I can't communicate with you either, and the law can't communicate with you either.
Because the law tells you that you are divorced.

You still have expectations of him and hope he will give something in return.

I hope he not only has to pay child support, but also come back every week to see the children.

Just like you told me just now, you also hope to have an ideal situation after marriage, that is, both the father and the mother are good to the children.

It sounds like nothing is wrong.

But is this something you can decide alone?

The other person couldn't stand you anymore and didn't want to live with you anymore, so he divorced you.

He has a girlfriend now and is about to start a new family.
Maybe within a year, they will have their own children.

How could he still be here with you pretending to be a loving couple and being nice to the children together?

younger sister,

Divorce has a price.

You can't just unilaterally think that you have to live your life any way you want after the divorce. You have to ask for other people's opinions.

It sounds cruel and even inhumane, but this is reality.

Even in this matter, your son can complain about his father and the family.

But you are the only one who is not qualified.

Since you are legally divorced, you no longer have any relationship.

In other words, how you feel today, whether you are happy or not, has nothing to do with other people.

You even rushed up and slapped him. What were you thinking?
You said you were relieved.

But actually?
I tell you, this slap from you has made the relationship between the two of them better.

Your ex-husband will be even more glad that he made the right decision to divorce you.

Your girlfriend will thank you too.

Do you still feel relieved now?

Are you stupid or not? "

After Lin Feng finished speaking, the girl burst into tears.

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"Your slap has made the relationship between the two of them even better"

What the hell!

It’s heartbreaking to kill someone!

"That's true, but I can understand the mother's difficult life and anger."

"Is it possible that this difficulty was caused by herself?"

"You still dare to hit people after the divorce. I wonder how much more you would have done if you hadn't divorced."

"Women with bad tempers are 100% likely to get divorced. Even if Jesus came, he would say it's useless. I'm talking about (dog head)."

"But you're obviously very sad, yet you still say something so hurtful."

"Then what should we do? Praise him? Play well, play brilliantly, and make the scumbag cry?"

"This is the normal thinking of a fairy."

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Girl: "I beat him because he said that in front of the child, it would hurt the child's heart."

Lin Feng: "Come on, is it because the child is sad, or are you jealous of that woman? Do I need to be so blunt?
You really want to know what your son is thinking, right?

Come,
I tell you.

Your child sees his mother beating his father in public like a shrew.

the mall.

There are fucking people all around.

A 10-year-old boy.

This is the age when people are the thinnest-skinned and most concerned about face.

In front of so many people, he must have felt extremely inferior.

You also force his father to say that he doesn't love him and doesn't want to see him.

Do you know how desperate and painful he was at that moment?

And what is even more terrifying?
When you return home, you will hug your son and say, Mom beat your dad today because of you.

Because your dad doesn't love you and doesn't want you anymore, your mom got angry and fought with your dad.

Is the truth really like this?
Not really.

You are jealous of other people's girlfriends because they are young and beautiful.

As a result, he even used moral blackmail on his son and blamed the incident on him.

There are too many mothers like you.

You have no idea how much harm you are causing to your child.

That's it.

I'm telling you, sister.

Your son will remember it forever.

It will be a shadow in his life.

Do you know what this is called?

Psychological trauma!

Your son is suffering from psychological trauma now, and you are still discussing with me why he can't get promoted in Go?

Just wait and see. If you don’t reflect on yourself, your son will have problems with schooling and life in the future.”

The woman was completely stunned.

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"I'm 35 now, and I still remember it clearly. My mom was beaten by my dad in the bathroom, and there were broken glass all over the floor. My mom was beaten so hard that she couldn't even scream, but I was trying to stop the fight, and the broken glass stuck in my foot for a month, and it's still bleeding. All these years have passed, but I still remember the fear I felt on those nights (sigh)."

"Me too. I was only a few years old when I saw my dad beating my mom. I was so scared and felt sorry for my mom that I knelt down and begged my dad not to beat her. Now that I've grown up, I'm very timid. I always like to please others and I'm always afraid of conflicts with others (crying to death)."

"Really, I'm 40 years old, and I can still remember my father and mother vividly."

“I grew up in an environment where domestic violence was very serious, and I have been healing my childhood all my life.”

"Children who grow up in such families have psychological defects and are indifferent to their loved ones. They don't care about others and don't know how to love others. Unfortunately, I met such a person."

sad!

. . . . . .

Maybe it was because of the comments that the woman cried even harder.

Raymond Lam: "Why are you crying? I saw some people in the comments saying that I cursed too harshly, but I tell you, I cursed too lightly.

I won’t scold you harshly today. You just can’t figure it out. What will be the consequences of not being able to figure it out?
Your son is useless.

After all, you have expectations for this man.

You still treat him as your husband, right?

It's wrong to say that you don't have the ability to live a good life, right?
You don't have the ability to raise a boy well, right?"

The woman cried, "Yes, I... am afraid that I can't take care of him well by myself."

Lin Feng shook his head: "You, if you had been honest earlier, you wouldn't have been scolded."

Girl: "Actually... I also want to change. If... I don't have the heart to change, I definitely won't... Request to connect with you on the mic."

Raymond Lam: “So if you say you are my die-hard fan, I am also very responsible.

Why did I scold you right away?
I won't be responsible for you.

Otherwise, I can go and scold that man with you.
But is it useful?
Is that correct?
Is it really someone else's fault?

They divorced you.

He has a girlfriend now.

You are from two different worlds, do you know that?

They only have the obligation to provide child support.

The child is under your care, and you still have to pray for the fatherly love that the child needs for his growth.

Aren't you talking nonsense and being a hooligan?

If you really want to argue, it should be his girlfriend who will argue with you.

You still want to grab someone's girlfriend and argue with her.

You have to understand that you are divorced and she is not a mistress. You must be aware of this.

If I don't scold you today, you will never understand it in your lifetime.

okay,

I cursed and scolded,
You also recognize the problem.

Then let me tell you about the future.

How should families away from home educate their children?
Many people may think that a child belongs to both parents, and even though the adults are divorced, they cannot deprive the child of the love of his or her father and mother.

If both parents have this responsibility and awareness, that would be the best situation.

But the reality is often not as simple as you think.
First of all, the party who has the child lives with the child for a long time, and because they have to discipline the child more, some conflicts and small emotions may arise.

If the other party intervenes at this time and gives a little sugar-coated bullet, the child's emotional balance may tilt.

If you encounter someone with bad intentions again, it would be fine if you don't enlighten your child, but instead take the opportunity to plant some seeds of hatred in your child's heart.

Then the child will become very difficult to discipline.

Secondly, since the other party abandoned the child for his own freedom and happiness, and rarely visited the child,

Maybe after a long time, in order to make up for the guilt in his heart, he came back to see his child.
His guilt was satisfied, but the child suffered when he looked away.

Once we separate, I will still cry, and the emotions may last for many days.

But when the child missed him day and night and wanted to see him, he had no time.

Therefore, the party who does not raise the child should have less contact with the child, which is more beneficial to the child's mental health.

It’s still the same premise.

If both parents have strong sense of responsibility, then just ignore what I said."

. . . . .

On the barrage

"Really, right after the divorce, after my ex-wife took the child out to play twice, I clearly felt that the child could not see the kindness of those around him, and only remembered the small favors from her mother. If I went to take care of the child again, the child would not obey."

"So I would rather my ex-wife come to pick up the kids than let her take them out to play."

"Yes, if she has a bad character and is immature, she will really say all kinds of bad things about you to the child, destroy your image, and make the child hate you."

"Some people don't want children, refuse custody, and then try to establish themselves as good mothers during visitation. When the children are young, they just eat, drink and have fun. After the visit, they pat their butts and leave, but you still have to take care of the children's studies and life. Children who don't understand can't tell what is truly good."

"I'm different. I also come from a divorced family. Although the case was awarded to my father, both parents love me very much. When I was a child, I lived with my father for two years and my mother for two years. I often changed schools, but I think I'm no worse than other children."

"Dude, you're lucky."

(End of this chapter)