I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 218: Buddy, your blooming period is too short

Lin Feng: "I'm just here to comfort you and give you advice, and you told me your wife is in the live broadcast room, are you kidding me?"

Boy: "No, Advisor, I don't know. She just sent me a message saying she saw me."

Raymond Lam: "Not playing me?"

Boy: “Really not.”

Lin Feng: "What does it mean now?"

Boy: "Military Advisor, my wife is going to come on the mic and has something to say to you. Well, you go talk to her. I'm going to leave first."

Where the hell are you running to?

Come back to me.

beep beep~
The boy really ran away.

At the same time, a girl's avatar requested to connect to the microphone.

Lin Feng's mouth twitched, and he greeted the boy's whole family in his heart.

Then put on a smiling face: "Hello, sister-in-law!"

“Wuwuwu…”

As soon as she got on the microphone, the girl started crying.

Lin Feng quickly comforted her: "Don't, sister, if you have any grievances, tell me, don't cry, I just heard your husband's one-sided story, if you have any grievances, tell me."

"No, military advisor, I'm not crying, I'm laughing, woo woo woo."

???

Lin Feng: "No, sister, why are you laughing so loudly?"

Girl: "The child just fell asleep. I was afraid of waking him up, so I was trying not to laugh."

"You are so..."

Lin Feng shook his head, also being amused and not knowing whether to laugh or cry.

He said to the screen: "Dude, you are such a coward. Your wife is so nice and cheerful. You scared her like that. You are such a loser."

The girl laughed for a while before calming down.

Lin Feng: "Sister, I have a question that I'm curious about, and I want to ask you first."

"Ah."

Raymond Lam: "Does your marriage gift really require 120 million?"

Girl: "Well, it's like this here. They're all 120 million, 168 million, and 200 million."

Lin Feng was shocked: "This thing is too scary, do you have the bride's dowry?"

The girl sighed and said, "That's the way it is, military advisor. Here, if a rich person marries a rich person, the return gift will be a lot."

Lin Feng: "I just heard that it seems to be like this over there. Getting married seems to be a matter of making money, and the dowry is higher than the betrothal gift."

"correct."

Raymond Lam: "Then why are you zero?"

Girl: "Because if he has money, he will marry his daughter off. If he doesn't have money, he will sell his daughter. He has to marry his daughter off and then get the money to marry his son again."

Lin Feng frowned: "Then do you have a younger brother?"

Girl: "No, I have a brother."

Lin Feng: "No, so this money is not used by your parents as a guarantee for you, but is used on your brother?"

"correct."

Lin Feng slapped the blackboard and said, "What about you? You said you are sacrificing your own happiness and marriage to fulfill your brother's wish? This concept is wrong. It is a bad habit."

Girl: “It’s a bad habit, but there’s nothing we can do about it.”

Lin Feng: "You can refuse."

Girl: “I can’t refuse.”

Lin Feng: "Why can't I refuse? Just say that I don't need to spend the 70 yuan on myself and my husband, I can use it on my children."

Girl: "No, military advisor, if you don't give money to your parents, you won't be able to get married."

Lin Feng: "If you don't give me money, your parents won't let me get married?"

"correct."

Lin Feng was angry: "Damn it, it really is like selling your daughter!!"

At first I thought that parents were keeping the betrothal gift for their daughter, and would give it to you when you bought a car or a house in the future.

It turns out that it was to find a wife for his son!!
Don’t they think about whether their daughter can live a good life after marrying into the man’s family?
Don't you want to be looked down upon? !

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"I just saw a video a few days ago. My daughter got married and my son got a Mercedes-Benz right after."

"I'm really impressed by this kind of family. They seem to be unable to survive."

"I really despise parents like this. They only care about the girl's betrothal gift. Can they become rich with that little betrothal gift?"

"My friend's mother-in-law asked for too much, and she didn't bring the child back because she had two sons who were not married (rolling eyes)."

"But some parents think that their daughter's gift is for their parents. Not only is it natural for their daughter's gift to be given to their parents, but they also think it is natural for the gift they give to their daughter-in-law to be withheld by the in-laws. Maybe it's their values. They naturally think that daughters are the group that should be sacrificed."

"But the girl is really pitiful. Both sides are not human."

"I told my mom that I was biased. She said it was because I didn't have that fate. If I were a son, he would also give me money (crying to death)."

"I used to think it was news, until it happened to me this year. It really changed my worldview. I gave the betrothal gift I gave to his son to marry a wife (I am convinced)."

. . . . . .

Girl: “I have two older sisters who are the same. It’s not just me. And everyone there is like that. It’s not just our family.

He couldn't come up with 120 million at the time, and my parents didn't agree. I broke up with my family and insisted on marrying him."

Lin Feng: "Sister, I can hear that you have indeed made a lot of efforts for him. You have created a rift with your family in order to marry him.
But then again, your husband has spent all his money to marry you, so you have to understand that.

If there is anything that is not going well in life, you should talk to him nicely. Don't always argue with him and use him as a vent for your emotions. He will be very depressed and miserable. "

Girl: "I am also very depressed and miserable, and he is not the only one."

Raymond Lam: "Yes, sister, you two are both in pain, so you need to talk to each other, support each other and move forward together.
It can't be that you are suffering and I am suffering, and both of us are angry with each other, making our lives worse and worse. This is not a good marriage.

If you are considerate of him and he is considerate of you, this pain will be reduced. Do you understand what I mean?

You two have feelings for each other. You can break up with your parents for him, which shows that your love is real.
Now I have a child, who is seven months old and very healthy and cute. Logically, I should be living a happier life than anyone else.

Maybe life is not particularly rich, but at least a small fortune is enough to keep you content.

So my suggestion to you is that when you are communicating with him, if you have any needs, just give him instructions and let him do it.

Don't scold or nag.

This is also the difference in thinking between boys and girls.”

Girl: "But he will do the same thing next time."

Lin Feng: "Then just teach me again. Who doesn't develop habits? How can you remember it for the rest of your life just by saying it once? Sister, let me ask you, is the baby a boy or a girl?"

"Girls."

Lin Feng: "Okay, then I'll tell you, you now have a son."

"About him?"

Lin Feng: “Yes.”

Girl: "But the Internet says that those who are interested don't need to pay, and those who are not interested can't be taught."

fart!

Lin Feng said directly: "Don't listen to those poisonous chicken soups, what is the saying that those who have the intention do not have to pay?

Let me give you a simple example. I saw a post before where a mother said that she was scalded by the oil while cooking. Her daughter was very calm beside her.

Then the mother asked her baby, why don’t you care about your mother?

My daughter said to me, "Mom, you have to be brave."

At that moment the mother realized that those were the words she usually said to her daughter.

So from then on, whenever her daughter stumbled or got hurt, she would be the first to take care of her.

Later, one time she just dropped a bowl in the kitchen. When her daughter heard the noise, she immediately ran over and asked her mother if she was hurt.
Do you know what this means?

A child is a blank sheet of paper, and all his behaviors and habits are a reflection of his parents.

How to love someone?

How do you love someone specifically?

No one teaches this in our country.

Parents don’t teach, schools don’t teach, and teachers don’t teach.

Do you expect him to learn by himself?

Someone may ask, why do girls do this when no one teaches them?

Putting aside the physiological differences,

That’s because boys and girls receive different things in their original families.

In our country, boys are generally spoiled in their families. Raising sons is a way to take care of you in your old age, so they must be pampered.

So what are the characteristics of children who grow up in an indulgent environment?
Selfish, self-centered, poor hands-on skills, and not caring about others.

Girls are often asked to do housework and be caring from an early age, and receive less love, so girls start thinking about these issues at a very young age.

Another thing is, even if no one teaches girls how to love.

But the overall social environment of our country is like this, where men are strong and women are weak, and men are the breadwinners and women are the homemakers.

What should a woman do in the family?
These are subtly influencing girls.

Therefore, both in terms of practical ability and thinking, she is more mature than boys of the same age.

I once read an experiment in a psychology book.
A wife always complained that her husband was particularly cold and unsympathetic, so she asked a famous local expert for help.

After the expert talked to her husband, she found that there were problems with her husband's family of origin.

What's the problem?

My husband's mother's grandmother passed away when he was very young. Her mother came from a single-parent family.
His mother's father is not the kind of person who cares about family.

At that time, the experts conducted an experiment.

He found two women, one in her 50s and the other in her 70s.

A 50-something plays the role of a mother.

A woman in her 70s plays the role of a grandmother.

The expert asked the mother to turn around and say something to her grandmother. After she said that, her son burst into tears.

Do you know what to say?

His mother said to his grandmother: Because I did not receive your love when I was young, I did not learn how to be a mother from you, so that to this day I cannot love myself well, and I cannot love my son well.

After saying just this one sentence, my son burst into tears.

In the end, the husband said to his wife: It turns out that my mother doesn’t know how to give love to me, so I don’t know how to give love to my wife.

Sister, do you understand?
It’s not that her husband doesn’t love her, it’s that he doesn’t know how to love her.

Because no one taught him how to feel sorry for a girl and how to love a girl.

From childhood to adulthood, in his world, there are no role models, no examples.

He didn't get these things from his family of origin, nor from school, nor from his friends and social work.

How could you call him that?
Don’t tell me why other boys do this?
Because of the same question, I ask you, why are other girls more gentle than you?
Why do other girls have the patience to teach their husbands over and over again?

Because everyone's family of origin is different, and the environment they grew up in is different,
you are not me,

You don't understand me.

You can't blame me from your position.
That's hooliganism!

Since this is your husband and he doesn't know how to love, please be patient and teach him.

If you teach him a hundred times or two hundred times and he still can't do it, and you say he doesn't love you, OK, I admit it.

But you only teach him once and expect him to learn this thing, it's impossible, sister."

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"Really? I just observed and found that my sons really imitated the way I handled interpersonal relationships. For example, if he annoyed me, I would tell him to get lost. If his brother annoyed him, he would also tell him to get lost. The tone was exactly the same. I don't dare to do that anymore now."

"When I yell at my child, my mother's face when she yelled at me when I was a child appears in my mind (scary)."

"My eldest daughter would also scold her sister in the same tone that I usually use to scold her. Even if I hit her, she would imitate me and hit her sister (sigh)."

"Children are a mirror for adults."

"So how to teach children to love is very simple. Just show them that you love them. For example, when eating, don't just pick up food for your children. Pick up more food for your lover and say that your husband has worked hard at work.

When your husband gets off work, you should go over to him and give him a hug and a kiss, and ask him if he misses you or if he is hungry.

You will find that your children will really do the same as you.

This is what taught him the ability to love.

in contrast,

If you don't love your husband or wife,

No matter how much you love your child, he will never learn how to love others.

Because from his perspective, all he could see was that all the good things were coming towards him.

Then what he learns is to demand, to be self-centered, and to think that everyone should serve him and take care of his emotions. "

Clicked.

"No wonder my daughter, who was less than two years old, was eager to find a Band-Aid to put on me. It turns out she learned it from me (happy)."

"It means you are a good mother (thumbs-up)."

"How to love someone properly, I learned it from the Internet (ridiculous, right)."

"Same, I watch the military advisor live broadcast every day now, not for the melon, but really to learn how to love someone (crying to death)."

"Don't cry, sister. Just like the military advisor said, it's not bad to support yourself after you grow up."

Correct!
Let’s cheer together.

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: "Really sister, as soon as he heard you were in the live broadcast room, he ran away quickly.

Isn't this just like a son seeing his mother?

Sister, remember, it's not just him. Boys of our generation are generally like this. They are not very mature mentally.

He needs a good wife to slowly cultivate some habits in him and teach him the ability to love.

Your child is now 7 months old. You don’t want him to see all the accusations and suppression of his father in the future.

Otherwise, when he grows up, he will not learn to love.

This is another cycle.”

Hearing this, the girl immediately swallowed back what she was about to say.

Yes!

It’s terrifying just thinking about it.

Lin Feng: "I'll leave this topic for you to think about after you go down. Now I want to ask another question."

Girl: “What’s the problem?”

Raymond Lam: "The baby is already seven months old. Can you... ahem, have sex now?"

girl:...

Raymond Lam: "Don't get me wrong, I'm not sure about this because I haven't experienced this either."

Girl: “Okay…it’s ok.”

The girl is a little shy.

Lin Feng: "So are you still having sex now?"

Hee hee hee.

Raymond Lam: "Don't laugh, sister, be serious."

Girl: “He…can’t.”

What the hell?

Lin Feng: “He can’t?”

"No, sister.

No kidding,

Let’s be serious.

Because this is a way to warm up the relationship, I need to understand it before I can give you advice. "

The girl whispered, "Just for a while...it's still a long time."

Lin Feng: "That won't work. I think you have to find a way to restore this thing next."

Don't laugh, this is your top priority right now.

It doesn't matter whether you understand or not, or whether you complain or not.

Because you have love.

But married life must be the most important thing at the moment.

Uh. .

Girl: "But he works the night shift, and his working hours are the same as yours."

? ?
Lin Feng: "What do you mean? Don't talk nonsense, sister, I'm fine."

Of course,
You said working night shifts is really hard to make up for.

I... I have a buddy who often works the night shift.

The will is there but the strength is not enough.

Later I went to see a Chinese doctor, who said that I was indeed weak.

My friend asked me what to do. Please prescribe some Chinese medicine for me.

The doctor shook his head at him.

When he saw her shake her head, my buddy felt really disappointed.

I thought to myself, this is bad, is it impossible to cure it, is there no hope?
The doctor told him, if I replenish you, the blood will flow out, because Yang Energy really needs to see the sun.

If you don't make up for this regular routine, he will have to adjust his routine.

younger sister,

Why do I talk about married life?
I think this is very important in a marriage relationship, and it can warm up your relationship.
Let you feel that the other person loves you when you do this.
This is why we say fight at the head of the bed and make up at the foot of the bed.

This represents the passion in marriage, and you need to work hard on this.

Sister, let me ask again, is he really that bad?"

Hahahahaha.

Raymond Lam: "Don't laugh, be serious."

Girl: "It's just... it's not possible, right? It's not really impossible."

Lin Feng nodded: "That means the performance is average, just okay."

Girl: "We can't hurt their self-esteem."

Lin Feng slammed the table and said, "That's it. This is really bad."

Ha ha ha ha. .

The girl laughed again.

Lin Feng: "Sister, now the problem is clear. You are facing postpartum depression, and your husband is facing a state of physical deficiency..."

puff~
Hahahaha.

Raymond Lam: "Stop laughing, be serious, so your problem now is that both of you are sick, not that your relationship has really broken down.

Sister, you need to face up to your depression during the breastfeeding period.
It is recommended that you find some activities that can divert your attention, such as playing games, watching live broadcasts, and chasing TV series, to balance your inner self.

Then there is your husband. He needs to work hard, exercise, and see a Chinese doctor.
You said that men are in their prime at 28, but they are no longer good at this age. My friend, your blooming period is too short. "

puff~
Hahahahaha.

The girl laughed again.

Lin Feng looked towards the camera: "Brother, how long has it been since you heard your wife laugh so happily?"

The other side of the lens.

The man stared at the live broadcast room on his phone and silently wiped away the tears from his eyes.

He said to himself: "Thank you, Military Advisor, I understand."

Next second,
The car starts.

Come back home!

(End of this chapter)