I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 198: The Great Kind Man Within a Hundred Miles
Girl: "But Military Advisor, I have concerns."

Raymond Lam: "I'm telling you, sister, don't think too much."

Girl: "But how can I not think so much? Because I also enjoyed his love and care for me before. After I gave birth to the child, he changed. He used to be very good to me."

Raymond Lam: "Is he your husband?"

"No, my mother-in-law."

Lin Feng: "My mother-in-law may be busy with the factory. She has a daughter to take care of and she doesn't have the energy to do it. And sister, remember, don't ask for anything from the elderly. Just fulfill your obligations."

Girl: "But I was sick at that time, with a high fever, and asked her to help me take care of the baby. He actually said that the mother-in-law should be considered dead. What a rude thing to say. I don't know why."

Lin Feng: "Sister, it's not that simple. There must be something going on here. The other party is likely dissatisfied with some of your actions.
But I am more inclined to think that it is your husband's fault. When your husband was passing on the message, he might have said something he shouldn't have said."

Girl: "Yes, yes, my husband is a little bit like that sometimes when he passes messages."

Raymond Lam: "So, I must let your husband see this video today.

So, sister, please record the screen. I am going to say the following words to your husband.

My husband remembered.
You must please your mother for your wife,

You must please your wife for your mother,

This is called coaxing from both sides.

If you spread the message to both sides, your mother will only stand from your perspective and not hers.
Because she is an outsider.

This kind of inner gap is bound to arise.

So remember, you must coax both sides, not push both sides.

It's about hiding the truth from both sides, not spreading it to both sides.

Just remember, if you want your marriage to be happy, just do what I say.

Simultaneously,

Regarding your wife's current depression and postpartum anxiety, it is a mental illness.

I'm telling you very seriously, he has a mental illness. Don't think that what I said is alarmist.

This symptom will cause your wife to isolate herself in the future, and her mood swings will definitely make you suffer.
Remember, you will suffer.

There will definitely be more demands on you in the relationship, and if you feel uncomfortable at that time, you deserve it.

Okay, I have finished telling you, sister, now let me show him the screen recording."

"Okay, thank you, Military Advisor."

The girl's voice was lonely.

Lin Feng shook his head and said, “Sister, no matter whether your husband can spare time to accompany you in the future, you must hire a nanny, and you must go out.

What you must remember here is that you should not go to the movies alone, and you should not go to KTVs, which are closed places that are easily associated with sadness.

Where is the best place to go when you are alone?

let me tell you,

Just go eat hotpot.

Let me tell you,

People who are depressed or have internal conflicts must go eat hotpot.

According to TCM theory, people with qi stagnation constitution can relieve depression and ease their mood by eating hotpot.

Because the spices in the hot pot have a refreshing effect,

Spices like peppercorns, star anise, and cinnamon are warm in nature, can invigorate the mind, relieve greasiness, and make people feel happy.

And you don’t need anyone to accompany you when eating hotpot, it’s best to eat alone.

Because I don't have to chat or think about others, I can cook whatever dishes I want, order whatever dishes I want, and turn off the fire whenever I want.
I don’t know if it makes me feel better, but I am happy.”

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“But it’s awkward to eat hotpot alone (grin).”

"It's so comfortable to eat alone. You don't have to care what others eat. You can eat whatever you like and as many dishes as you want (sunglasses)."

"I asked her to have hotpot today, but she didn't come, so I spent 148 on a meal for two, it was so cool (haha)

"What if we can't even afford hotpot and end up fighting each other (crying to death)?"

"The rotating hot pot costs more than ten yuan per person."

Haha, this is possible.

"No wonder I crave hotpot every day, it turns out I'm depressed (dog head)."

"No, you are just greedy."

Hahahaha.

. . . . .

Hang up the mic,
Raymond Lam went to the live broadcast room and said:
"I saw some minor controversy on the public screen because I just said that the best way for a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law to get along is not to get along.

Some people think I may be a little extreme.

But I still believe that the best way for the older generation to get along with their children is to lend a hand.

Just help out when you are too busy, but don't get involved in your child's life.
As children, don't expect to rely on the elderly for everything.

The children have to take care of themselves.

Even if you are the one who created a huge mess, at least you will know how difficult it is to be a parent.

Another thing is that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law really cannot live together. No matter how good the daughter-in-law or the mother-in-law is, there will be conflicts.

But is it true that there is no such thing as a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
Have!
But there are very few.

That requires the right time, place and people.

Some people don't want to argue with me.
Because this is an eternal problem.

It is determined by human nature and natural stance.

Because in the eyes of the mother-in-law, her son is always the hardest-working, most tired and the best.

In the eyes of a daughter-in-law, her husband should care about her more and be more considerate of her.

This is inherently conflicting and cannot be reconciled.

Think differently.

You live with your father-in-law.

In your father-in-law's eyes, his daughter is his treasure and a little princess whom he has spoiled since she was a child.

Now I have to do your laundry and cooking for you every day like a nanny.

Do you think it's possible for you and your father-in-law to get along peacefully?

of course,

The place here is not
It doesn't mean severing ties.

It is to maintain the lowest frequency of courtesy between each other.
For example, giving them gifts during festivals or inviting them to a restaurant for dinner.
This is the limit I think I can go as far as.

If you want a harmonious family, this is the best way to get along.

Some people may say that my mother raised me and I cannot forget her after getting married.

When it comes to this, it becomes even more complicated.

This is caused by the loveless marriages of our older generation.

When a mother enters into a loveless marriage, she gradually puts all her focus and attention on her son.

The seemingly deep love is actually a shackle.

It not only imprisons children, but also imprisons oneself.

This is a pathology in itself.

You ask me how to solve this problem?

I can't solve it either.

The only possible way is to let her go to the square to dance more often, play Douyin more often, and have more hobbies of her own.

Do you think she is really willing to take care of you? Do you think she can't live without you as her son?
The reason for all this is simply because she has no self and she is lacking inside.

If she has her own interests and hobbies, and her own circle of friends, then you see, even if you beg her to live with you, she won't be willing.

Speaking of this, I remembered a good friend I had when I was in college.

One day he told me that my mother sent me a message saying that she dreamed of me last night and she missed me very much, and asked me if I had dreamed of her?
I asked you how you responded?

He showed me his phone, and the reply was:
Dear mommy, I am a very normal man. If I dream, I will only dream about young and beautiful girls. Do you understand? (dog head)

His reply had a huge impact on me at that time.

I thought he would say something like I missed you too and I dreamt about you too.

That's the logic of normal people like us.

But when I saw my buddy's reply.

I suddenly felt that I was not normal and that this was the logic of a normal person.

At this time, Yu Huanshui patted Lin Feng and said, "That's enough, Military Advisor. No more words."

Lin Feng looked at the public screen. It had already been drowned out by all kinds of doubts and insults.

. . . . .

"I don't agree."

“I don’t agree.”

"Scrappy anchor, with distorted values."

"It's so sad to be your mother."

"If your mother-in-law is nice, why don't you get along?"

"Have you ever taken care of a child yourself? Do you have any?"

"Three views are not correct, I have reported it."

. . . . .

The stream flows to the military advisor carnival x10
A stranger gave the strategist a Ferrari x10
Xiaowan, Gouzi, Brother Long, Yaoyao, Little Cake, Mr. Xu…

At this time, the old fans did not say anything, and all supported the military advisor with actions.

The gift special effect lasted for a full 15 minutes.

The black fans couldn’t see the barrage and couldn’t type, so they gradually dispersed.

Yu Huanshui clasped his fist towards the screen to express his gratitude.

"Thank you brothers for your support."

Lin Feng opened his mouth and wanted to say something several times.

Finally shook his head,

Forget it.

Let's not cause trouble.

Next one.

Ding~
"Hello, military advisor."

It's a boy.

Lin Feng: "Hello buddy, tell me about your situation."

"Military Advisor, I'm 22, she's 19, and we've been in a relationship for a month."

Raymond Lam: "Campus romance?"

"No, we are all already working."

Raymond Lam: "She started working at the age of 19, which is quite early. What does she do?"

The boy was silent for a while and then said, "It's the kind of job that I would mind more."

Lin Feng was stunned, "Night club?"

Boy: "A little deeper."

? ?
Lin Feng: "No buddy, how many coins do you put in? Do you want to take the rocking car home?"

Uh. .

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"How many coins do you put in? Then you can take the rocking car home."

Hahahahaha.

"No, what do you mean by deeper? I don't understand (confused)."

"A place deeper than the nightclub must be Shang K!"

I lost it!

"It's not fair to use the public bus for personal purposes."

"Who will fix it if it breaks? (dog head)."

"I've ridden it before. The front of the bike was tilted! The seat was broken! The brakes didn't work! It made a rattling sound while riding! I was so upset (crying)."

"Guess whether I understood or not (grin)."

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Boy: "But she said she wanted to go ashore."

Lin Feng: "So you have a savior in mind? For example, you want to help her because you think she had a hard time in the past."

"Correct!"

Lin Feng: "Gold coins exploded again?"

"Have!"

Lin Feng: “How much?”

"About 10."

???

“10 in one month?
Lin Feng laughed angrily.

He tapped the blackboard and said,
Come on buddy,
Look here,
You are this.

Lin Feng quickly wrote down a few words:

'A great benefactor within a hundred miles.'

Uh. .

. . . . .

"The Great Kind Man in a Hundred Miles"

"Hello, kind man, are there any more activities (dog head)?"

Hahahaha.

"One hundred thousand is enough to marry a wife (sunglasses)."

"Please give me a kind person like this, please (laughing to death)."

"Brother, can you please take a look at me? I am kind, gentle and considerate (shy)."

"Brother, I want to meet you too. I can go and learn foot massage (dog head)."

What the hell!

You have enough!
Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Boy: "She said she was cheated."

Lin Feng smiled and said, "Let's not discuss this. I'll just ask you a question. Can you overcome the gap in your heart?"

“I suffered for three days.”

Lin Feng: "Brother, as long as you are suffering, there is nothing you can do.

In the future, whenever there is a conflict in your relationship, this past experience of hers will appear in your mind countless times.

You will lose an accurate judgment of this person.

You won't cherish this relationship.
So I don’t recommend you to start this relationship.”

Boy: “But it’s already turned on.”

Raymond Lam: "My suggestion is to cut it off. Maybe many people will ask you today, what's wrong with that?

Don’t they deserve love?

They deserve to have,
But if you ask me, I only talk about risks.

Just say what situation you are facing in the future.

For example, if you get along with her and she does something wrong, it will make you feel uncomfortable.
You will bring her past back to your mind.
You will subconsciously not want to work on this relationship.

Because you said you suffered for three days.

As long as it's painful, it's impossible to let go of this thing completely.

If there is a conflict in the future,

You are bound to dig up old issues.

This is also unfair to the girl.”

Boy: "She has another child."

? ?
Lin Feng: "Are you the reincarnation of a fucking relic?"

Come and tell me,

What's your last name?
Is your surname Shi?

Is his full name Sakyamuni?
Well. . .

(End of this chapter)