At the beginning, Gu Jia and Jiang Nansun were intercepted, and Qiao Yingzi pursued them

She spent a lot of time preparing a birthday gift for her daughter and chose this eye protector. She was confident that her daughter would like it.

Qin Fan was in a state of confusion, "You have the nerve to treat this thing from the last century as a birthday present? If you say that, I have to have a serious argument with you today."

"Qiao Yingzi, come out!"

Hearing Qin Fan's shout, Qiao Yingzi walked out of the bedroom with a pout.

"Now both birthday presents are in front of you. Tell your mother which one you like best."

Song Qian also seemed to be trying to compete with him.

"Yingzi, you're in your third year of high school now. Playing with those things will only waste your time. I don't need to tell you how important time is in your third year of high school, right? Eye protectors are different. When you're tired from studying, take them out and massage them to protect your eyes."

"What do you mean? We were comparing which birthday present Yingzi liked best, but why are you bringing up her senior year again? You're deliberately using her senior year to manipulate Yingzi's preferences."

"How could I have hijacked Yingzi's hobbies? This is the reality. Whose child is still playing with Lego in their third year of high school? Isn't this just a waste of time?"

Qin Fan spread his hands. "I didn't say to let her play with it! I brought it directly to you, didn't I? We are discussing which gift Yingzi likes best. Can we not mix in other factors?"

Song Qian was speechless and muttered, "You can't give toys as a gift..."

Qiao Yingzi couldn't bear it any longer. "You two, stop arguing. Brother Qin Fan, thank you for the Lego. However, I still like the eye protector my mother gave me."

Song Qian immediately smiled, rubbed Qiao Yingzi's head, and glanced at someone.

Although she didn't say a word, her expression expressed her meaning. It turned out that as a mother, I understand my daughter's preferences well enough.

"Yingzi, lying is not a good thing for a child."

Before Qiao Yingzi could speak, Song Qian defended her and retorted, "My daughter liked the birthday present I gave her, but why is that a lie when it comes to you? Are you just too embarrassed to lose or what?"

"I can't afford to lose? Are you kidding? I just feel sad for Yingzi."

"Why are you sad? I'm warning you, don't alienate the relationship between us mother and daughter again."

"Sister Qian, have you noticed that Yingzi is always a step behind when she talks to you or smiles at you? Why is that? Because she has to think before she smiles, using her reason to suppress her emotions."

"Why suppress her feelings? Because she's not really happy inside. To sum it up in four words: forced smile! Do you think this way of getting along is normal?"

"Qin Fan, that's enough!"

If there was still some element of joking just now, Song Qian was really angry now.

Her daughter is her minefield. Anyone who dares to tell her what to do in this place will face Song Qian's wrath.

"Mom, you two stop talking. Put the toys away and return them to me after the college entrance exam. Brother Qin Fan, I like your gift very much. Thank you."

"Okay, stop trying to smooth things over, Yingzi. You're so used to giving in when it comes to important matters. This is really bad. Now you can't even tell the truth to your mother. When you graduate and start working, will you also give in to your boss, colleagues, and clients? Will you also try to avoid them?"

After talking about Qiao Yingzi, Qin Fan turned his attention to Song Qian.

"Sister Qian, you raised Yingzi single-handedly. Do you really not know what she's thinking? You know it better than anyone else, but you always habitually display your authority."

"You've been a teacher, too. Why don't you do a survey and ask the students you've taught how many of them would like birthday gifts like eye protection devices?"

Song Qian was furious. "It's none of your business how I educate my daughter."

"I didn't care. I just thought you two were so fake."

"Why are we mother and daughter fake?"

Qin Fan also got angry and took out his phone and said to Qiao Yingzi, "Yingzi, do you want to tell me yourself, or should I call someone to tell me?"

"Who is it?"

"Peng Jiahe and Huang Zhitao, do you want me to call them over and have them repeat what you usually say about your mother at school?"

Song Qian's eyes widened with an incredible expression.

The daughter actually complained about her own mother at school, and judging from Qin Fan's tone, it seemed that she had done this more than once. Was he really that bad that he caused his daughter's dissatisfaction?

Being stared at by her mother, Qiao Yingzi instinctively took a few steps back, her back hitting the wall, and she was extremely scared.

When I watched this drama before I traveled through time, I felt that the life of this mother and daughter was too fake and boring. Now that I have the chance, I must tear off the masks on their faces in person, even if it means offending Song Qian and Qiao Yingzi.

The worst case scenario is being kicked out, but Qin Fan doesn't care.

"Sister Qian, if you don't believe me, why not check out your daughter's WeChat? Since she's complaining about you to her classmates, I bet she's also been complaining about you to her father."

Song Qian rushed to Qiao Yingzi's bedroom without thinking. She wanted to see with her own eyes whether her daughter loved her or hated her.

"Mom! Mom! What are you doing?"

Qiao Yingzi was horrified and rushed to the bedroom door, blocking Song Qian outside.

"Move aside, let me see what you said to your father."

"That's my privacy, you can't see it!"

"I'm your mother, what can't I see?"

Qiao Yingzi pointed at Qin Fan and cried, "You are my mother. Why don't you trust your own daughter, but instead believe the words of an outsider like him?"

"Let me take a look. Mom just wants to know what's going on in your mind."

Just as the mother and daughter were pushing each other, Qin Fan came over and stepped in between them, separating them.

"Sister Qian, look at how scared you made the child. Doesn't her behavior explain the problem?"

Song Qian felt as if all her bones had been pulled out. She ran back to her bedroom with her shoulders drooping and her mouth covered.

How could she not see Qiao Yingzi's fear and anxiety? She just couldn't understand why all her years of wholehearted devotion to her daughter had turned out like this.

She complained to her dad, complained to her classmates, and forced herself to smile at me. Am I really that terrible as a mother?

.......

524: Unclogging the 'sewer'! Qiao Yingzi was so touched!

"Why are you telling my mother all this? What does it have to do with you how we get along as mother and daughter? Are you satisfied now?"

Qiao Yingzi raised her hand to wipe away her tears and glared at Qin Fan angrily.

Qin Fan reached out and pinched her face. "You dare to glare at me? Do you believe I will dig out the toys under your bed and tell your mother about you?"

Qiao Yingzi was dumbfounded. How did he know that I had hidden toys under my bed?

What just happened hasn’t happened yet. If Song Qian knew that I had toys hidden under my bed, she would probably be furious.

"You devil!"

"You know I'm a devil, yet you still dare to glare at me? Who gave you the courage?"

Qiao Yingzi immediately softened, "Brother Qin Fan, I know you're a good person. Please let me go. I will listen to you from now on and please don't complain to my mother."

"Do you remember what I told you last time? If you encounter any problems, you should communicate more with your mother. What's the big deal about liking to play with Lego? Why don't you dare say it?"

"I don't understand why you always resort to deception to please your mother. Do you think it would make her happy? Take what happened just now for example. You clearly love Lego so much, so why did you say you liked eye protection goggles against your will?"

"I'm afraid my mother will be sad..."

Qin Fan interrupted her directly, "So, what do you think is more serious, your mother's sadness about you liking to play with Lego, or your avoidance, concessions, perfunctory treatment, and even deception?"

"Do you think your mother wants you to become a liar and not tell the truth?"

Qiao Yingzi lowered her head silently.

This girl later suffered from depression, and a large part of the reason was herself.

A mother should be the person her child trusts the most, but she is different. She always suppresses her emotions, hides her preferences, and shows the side that Song Qian wants to see.

The more you do this, the more negative emotions accumulate, and finally you can't bear it anymore and become depressed.

Of course, Song Qian also bears a great responsibility for this matter. She made a mistake that most parents would make, hoping that her children would be well-behaved and sensible.

This word may sound fine at first glance. We often praise other people's children and say "your child is so well-behaved." In fact, this word is obtained by suppressing the child's nature, and the price is very serious.

"Let's go, apologize to your mother and have an honest conversation. Remember my words, you must be honest!"

Qin Fan put his arm around Qiao Yingzi's shoulders and walked to Song Qian's bedroom, where he found Song Qian sitting by the bed, crying silently.

Qiao Yingzi glanced at Qin Fan, received an encouraging look, and then walked over to sit next to Song Qian.

"Mom, I'm sorry. I shouldn't have complained to my dad and classmates about you. Also, I like playing with Lego, not eye protection goggles."

"anything else?"

"I don't like the medicinal food you force me to eat every day. I don't like drinking bird's nests, and I don't like eating raw sea cucumbers. The sight of them makes me sick. I want soy milk and fried dough sticks for breakfast. And the schedule you made for me, I think since it's my time, I should make my own study plan..."

After the start, Qiao Yingzi seemed to open up and started talking about a lot of annoying things, or things that Song Qian forced her to do.

"If you don't like it, why didn't you tell me earlier?"

"I told you, but you didn't listen. You kept saying a bunch of big principles. I can't convince you."

"I did that all for your own good. For your senior year, I even quit my job. Wasn't it just so I could spend more time with you during this crucial year?"

Seeing that Song Qian started to persuade and educate again, Qin Fan hurried in to interrupt her.

"Sister Qian, now that we've had it out with Yingzi today, stop using emotional blackmail. Honestly, you quit your job for Yingzi, that was your choice. Yingzi might not agree. You're being self-satisfied, am I right, Yingzi?"

Qiao Yingzi opened her cute eyes with two tears hanging in the corners of her eyes. She thought to herself, "Wow, you dare to say such a thing!"

Qin Fan dared to speak, but she didn't dare to nod, so she could only sit there stiffly.

Song Qian almost fainted from anger. "So, I put so much effort into my daughter, and it was all just my own fault?"

"Do you know why 'life' is called 'life' and not 'from birth'? Because it is everyone's own life. It's right to love your children, but you also have to love yourself. You have your own path to take, and Yingzi has her own path to take. You can't force your paths to be tied together."

"You always say that Yingzi is your only support and all your hope, and that you pin everything on her. Then I want to ask, don't you think this behavior is too selfish?"

"Your daughter is only eighteen years old. She is in the prime of her youth and about to blossom into a beautiful life. Why does she have to carry so many things for you?"

"I didn't ask her to bear anything for me. I simply wanted to give her the best, to guide her, and to help her avoid taking detours in her growth. Is that wrong?"

"You're being too self-centered. I understand what you mean. Your devotion to Yingzi was voluntary, and you didn't expect anything in return. But the problem is, when you give your feelings, you naturally have strong expectations."

"Emotions and expectations are mixed together. You can't separate the two. Yingzi can feel your love, but she also feels your expectations of her. These expectations become a spur and pressure on her."

"Why did Yingzi run away? Why did she complain about you to her father behind her back? It's because the pressure you put on her was too much and she couldn't bear it."

Even when mediating the relationship between mother and daughter, Qin Fan did not forget his traditional skills and flattered Qiao Daidi to make Song Qian more annoyed with him.

Qin Fan looked at Qiao Yingzi and said, "Yingzi, you should also express your opinion and tell me whether what I said is right or not."

Qiao Yingzi glanced at her mother, hesitated for a long time, and then nodded silently.

"I don't want this to happen, but senior year is so important. It's the most crucial year in Yingzi's life..."

Song Qian wanted to argue,

But Qin Fan waved his hand and said, "Just forget it. Even if you whip her like a donkey, you have to let her rest for a while and catch her breath."

"Humph! You're just making up stories!"

"Whoever is making excuses knows the truth. Sister Qian, I know a psychologist. If you need it, she can give you and your daughter a psychological diagnosis and counseling."

I haven't contacted that silly girl Xu Li for a long time. I miss her so much.

"You say I have a mental problem? I think you have a problem!"

"If you're sick, you have to get treatment, Sister Qian, you can't be afraid to see a doctor!"

"Who are you calling sick?"

Qin Fan was heartbroken, but Song Qian didn't say a word, picked up the bed brush and hit him, and Qiao Yingzi couldn't stop her.

Qin Fan dodged nimbly and continued, "Divorce isn't scary. What's scary is losing your psychological support, which can lead to worsening behavior towards your daughter. You're in that situation right now. My friend is an authority on psychology, very experienced. She can tell if you have any problems by taking a look."

"You're the one with the problem, you bastard! You should keep your friends to yourself!"

Qin Fan's words hit a sore spot, and Song Qian became completely enraged and rushed forward to chase and beat him.

"If you don't think you have a psychological problem, then it must be a physical problem. I can help you resolve it..."

"Qin! Fan! Get out of here!"

Seeing that Qin Fan's words were getting more and more outrageous, Song Qian was so angry that her eyes turned red. She chased him all the way to the door and slammed it shut.

Qin Fan was really speechless. Isn't it just that they haven't had a harmonious life for a few years and they feel a little uncomfortable? What's there to be embarrassed about?

Qin Fan may not be professional in other areas, but he is definitely experienced in this area.

Boom, boom, boom...

"Sister Qian, let's not look for a psychiatrist. Just give me my shoes."