he came on the light

"Ma'am, this is all your wishful thinking, because you never asked your daughter's opinion, which led to her rebellious character. As for the child you said was admitted to Beijing University, it is someone else's child, A misunderstanding that most Chinese parents will make is to keep comparing. If children have strong self-esteem, but when they are at a disadvantage in the comparison, it will lead to their increased sense of inferiority, and their self-awareness will also be affected. There is a one-sided understanding that showing rebellion may be just a consequence of the closest relatives, and if it is serious, it may affect their ability to communicate with others." Xiang Heng tried his best to persuade, but obviously the lady in front of him didn't appreciate it.

"What you mean by that is that everything I have done for my daughter is useless. Is my daughter a white-eyed wolf?" Ms. Xia obviously couldn't accept this fact, so her voice was a little sharp, and she wanted to step forward This mouth that rips the choker.

"Ma'am, calm down. In fact, think carefully about some experiences you had with your daughter in the past. Your daughter must have been very well-behaved and sensible in the past, but rebellion in adolescence only happened recently. In fact, not only your child, many children will This kind of situation is just because your child feels too much pressure at ordinary times, so he starts to seek more exciting ways to indulge himself. At this time, you should not deny him blindly, but choose to understand what is in your daughter's heart Think, after all, to her, you will always be her mother." Xiang Heng felt a little headache, this client seemed not so easy to deal with.

Unknowingly, two hours have passed, and the lady in front of her doesn't seem to have received any assistance.

Although psychological counseling is not something that can be accomplished overnight, it is the first time that Xiang Heng has encountered such a lack of progress.

This time the consultation really made no progress, and the client also showed extreme impatience. When Xiang Xiang was thinking about countermeasures, the client was about to leave, because he thought that the psychiatrist could not help her at all.

Picking up his bag and leaving Xiang Xiang's office, he unexpectedly met a familiar person in the aisle.

"Chu Yun, why are you here?" This Ms. Xia still likes Xie Chuyun very much. They used to be neighbors, and he has helped Xie Chuyun a lot, and he also knows that this child is not easy.

Many times she imagined how great it would be if her daughter could be as obedient as Xie Chuyun.

"I'm here to find my friend, auntie, are you in trouble?" Xie Chuyun also learned about the office where Xiang Heng is from the teacher. He thought about it all night yesterday and felt that he could not get it for free. Other people's money, so I decided to discuss with Xiang Heng how to pay back the money.

He didn't expect to meet his former neighbor here, but he still likes Aunt Xia very much, because in the past when his mother played mahjong and didn't cook for him, Aunt Xia usually helped him.

"Isn't it because of your little sister Xiaoxiao? You don't know what a child of this age is thinking about every day. He doesn't go to school well, his grades are in a mess, and he likes to dye his hair, smoke and drink." Mentioning Xiaoxiao, Ms. Xia's heart ached. I fell to the bottom.

But she is a very strong mother, so she will not admit that it is her fault. She will attribute all her faults to external factors or even her own daughter, thinking that society has affected her daughter.

"How did it become like this? I remember that Xiaoxiao was a very well-behaved child before. Did he make friends with someone in society? But it won't happen. I remember that Xiaoxiao was a very sensible child, and he would be on time every day after school. Going home, when I was helping her with homework, I saw that her class notes were obviously studied seriously at school." Xie Chuyun didn't quite understand why a person suddenly changed his appearance, maybe he suffered something Stimulate.

"I don't know why it suddenly became like this. Xiaoxiao is going to take the senior high school entrance examination this year. Don't mention how nervous she is in her studies in the third year of junior high school. In order for her to study hard, I moved her at the beginning. She was able to go to a good school, and basically bought a house in the school district with all her belongings, and now she repays us like this, which is really sad!" Ms. Xia said heartbrokenly, she It's not that I'm worried about the money being wasted, but I'm worried about my daughter's future.

"How did it suddenly become like this? What did Dr. Xiang say when you consulted? He is a famous doctor who graduated from Harvard, and he has a lot of research on the psychological changes of children and teenagers." Xie Chuyun couldn't help saying, to be honest, Xiang Heng's academic qualifications really envied him.

If he can also become a freshman who graduated from Harvard, I believe it will be much more convenient to find a job, and his ability will also improve.

But these are just his thoughts, if he really takes it seriously, then he is really the biggest fool in the world.

However, his thoughts were quickly pulled back by Ms. Xia, and the latter's face was filled with righteous indignation, obviously how wronged he had been.

"I didn't see the famous college students who graduated from Harvard. I didn't look for the reason from the outside. Instead, I thought it was my mother who put too much pressure on me. Think about which parent of a third-year student is not nervous!" Ms. Xia's atmosphere Said.

"Auntie can't say that. Every child has their own personality, and Xiaoxiao is no exception. She has been a very obedient child since she was a child, but after being depressed for a long time, she will seek a kind of self-liberation. "

Xie Chuyun feels that Auntie Xia seems to have aged a lot these years. Her brown hair used to look thick and smooth, but now her whole hair has become dry and frizzy, and her brown hair has faded into black and white, especially The hairline on the forehead, the white strands on it are very dazzling.

"Auntie, why don't we try again, as long as you have the patience to listen to what Dr. Xiang has to say. Then we will try what he said. There is no loss anyway. If we can get results, that would be great However, if we can't get the effect, we will think of other ways, and I will communicate with Xiaoxiao, what do you think?" Xie Chuyun suggested.

Ms. Xia thought a lot. In fact, it was her friend who recommended her for psychological counseling. It seemed that everyone thought she was wrong. Now Ms. Xia began to doubt her position.

Under Xie Chuyun's persuasion, this Ms. Xia returned to Xiang Heng's office, and Xiang Heng was a little surprised to see the two of them together.

He had already called his secretary to deal with the refund just now, but he didn't expect that there would be a turnaround.

"Doctor Xiang, I want to ask again, will Xiaoxiao's situation happen to every student?" Xie Chuyun pulled Ms. Xia to sit opposite Xiang Heng, who hadn't reacted from the shock yet Come over, so I stared at Xie Chuyun dumbfounded.

"Doctor Xiang?" Xie Chuyun called Xiang Heng again. For some reason, he always felt that such a dumb Xiang Heng was cute.

"Sorry, I was a little distracted just now. As for the question you just asked, in fact, the rebelliousness of adolescence will be manifested in most teenagers, because at this stage, their self-awareness is in a stage of perfection. Whether it is from the family , the pressure and influence given to them by the school or the society will cause them to change. At this time, they will pursue individuality instead of following the routine, and at this time there will be rebellion in the mouth of the parents.”

Xiang Heng explained it to Xie Chuyun. He didn't expect Ms. Xia in front of him to understand, but he could clearly feel that Ms. Xia in front of him was much more emotionally stable than when he was doing the consultation just now.

"Then I can understand that rebellion is manifested in most teenagers. In fact, this is not the so-called rebellion. It is just because the teenagers have not met the parents' psychological expectations, so they are considered by the parents as not meeting their inner requirements, so it comes down to Rebellion?" Xie Chuyun continued to ask, but in fact, his words were for Aunt Xia who was beside him.

Hearing Xie Chuyun's words, Aunt Xia began to think about her request to her daughter Xiaoxiao.Since she is equivalent to taking care of the child by herself now, Xiaoxiao is her future. She can't help but put too much effort into it and give her too much hope.

If she had listened to the psychiatrist at the beginning, she would not have believed that she was wrong, but his colleagues thought she was sick, and Chu Yun also thought she was wrong. Now Auntie Xia has serious self-doubt.

"Then is there any remedy for me now?" Ms. Xia asked.

"Frozen three feet does not happen in a day. Everyone has impulsive moments, but you must not let impulsive emotions dominate your life." Xiang Heng said.

"That's right, auntie, now we should find a way to communicate with Xiaoxiao. Otherwise, leave this matter to me first, and I will talk to Xiaoxiao. But no matter what, when Xiaoxiao returns home, You must control your temper, and you must not get angry with her again, otherwise you will definitely hurt Xiaoxiao's self-esteem again." Xie Chuyun said immediately.

"But Xiaoxiao came back very late every day. I went to several bars to find her, but was ridiculed. I don't want my daughter to continue to degenerate, but I really can't find a way to solve it. "Aunt Xia said in pain.

She is also a mother for the first time, and she has never had any experience. She just hopes to give her best care to her children, but now it seems that her children don't seem to need her.

His husband is on business trips all year round, so he has no spiritual comfort. Now even her children don't want her, and she doesn't know what the meaning of her life is.

"It's okay, you can tell us the address of the bar or game hall that your daughter often goes to, and Chu Yun and I will go and have a look." Xiang Heng said.