I hugged the wrong person.

"Why?" Qin Lian couldn't believe it.

Grandpa played with the chess pieces in his hand, "Her way of thinking is different from yours. She thinks a lot, and sees too far, and will ignore what is in front of her eyes." He said with a sigh, "But fundamentally, they are all the same. Too anxious!"

He looked up at Qin Lian, and said, "I can understand Yuan Wei's anxiety. That child has been independent since he was a child, restricted by his age, but he still doesn't like to be controlled. Why are you? I think you should be It’s right to grow up without restraint.”

This is the rhythm of heart-to-heart talks. Qin Lian is already quite familiar with this set of procedures, and immediately sat upright with a smile on his face.

Just don't speak.

Seeing this, Grandpa knew she was refusing to communicate, so he couldn't help laughing and said, "Don't put on such a fight. You young people just think too much. In professional terms, it's called 'persecution paranoia' .In fact, if you think about it carefully, you will find that the whole world is not against you, especially your parents and us elders. On the contrary, it is you who have been against us."

"Not necessarily?" Qin Lian couldn't help but said, "Not all parents are as enlightened as you."

"But the parents you and Yuan Hui met were not old feudalists, right? Do you really think that with so many of us, there is no way for you to be separated from Yuan Xian?" Grandpa emphasized, "We don't want to arouse your rebellion. Psychology, and I don't want this matter to eventually become a confrontation between 'children' and 'parents'."

"They may not be very qualified as parents, but they are not unforgivable. And you ask yourself, are you qualified as a child? Don't say something like 'I didn't want to be born'. Everyone in this world has rights and obligations. When you make demands on your parents, have you met the minimum standards that society requires of you?"

On this point, Qin Lian was indeed at a loss.

It is difficult to determine what the standard of a good child is, but the rule that "scores should not be too bad" will never change.

"Okay," she said a little discouraged, "Children with poor grades have no human rights, I accept that. What about Yuan Yan? She is good enough, right?"

"Look, you're wary of me again." Grandpa smiled, "I didn't mean to criticize you, but I just wanted to tell you that any opposing parties must understand each other, give in, and compromise if they want to reach an agreement. "

He turned his head to look out of the window, and sighed leisurely, "In this world, parents often compromise with their children, don't they? From your point of view, you are independent, but from our point of view, it's just that you raised them with one hand. Child, go where you can't see."

When he said these words, he had an indescribably melancholy look on his face.

For some reason, Qin Lian felt a little uncomfortable, and couldn't help calling out, "Grandpa."

"It's nothing, just thinking about the past, I feel a little emotional." Grandpa turned his head to look at her, and asked with a smile, "Qin Lian, do you know what parents are thinking when they criticize a child as old as you?"

"Why is this child so ignorant?" Qin Lian thought for a while and chose Zhou Xiaohong's catchphrase.

Grandpa smiled, "No, it's panic."

"Fear? How is it possible!" When Zhou Xiaohong scolded her, she was obviously full of anger every time, and she was full of reason, so she couldn't refute it at all, so she had to hold her breath.

"How is it impossible?" Grandpa said, "When I was your age, the country was in the most difficult period. When your parents were your age, the domestic economy had already started to take off. In the past few decades, the domestic Things can be said to be changing with each passing day, almost completely changed."

"Have you heard of that theory? The mentality of this world tends to be young. Because you are at the peak of your body and intelligence, and you are the mainstay of the entire society. As you grow older, your ability to learn will continue. Degeneration. In the past few decades, there have been too many new things. Like the high-tech you are using now, many of them are beyond my ability. Just learning is already very laborious. Many people are not as good as me! "

"You said, would a person panic in this situation? This parent faces the growing children, just like we face the ever-changing world. Because the guidance we can give you comes from ourselves experience. But those experiences are now outdated.”

These words, to Qin Lian, could almost be regarded as opening the door to a new world.

She never thought about it before, it turns out that the world of adults is like this.

But if you think about it, it is true.Not to mention anything else, just say that after Qin Dalong changed his smartphone, he would often ask Qin Lian how to use various functions.

It was just a trivial matter that couldn't be more trivial. At that time, Qin Lian didn't have any special feelings. Thinking about it today, he suddenly felt that he had really grown up and his parents were getting old.

That kind of feeling is indescribable, as if touching the essence of life all at once, it makes people feel awe.

"So," the grandfather continued, "every hurdle for the child is also a hurdle for the parents. You children may have an illusion that your parents are omnipotent. But this is not the case. We adults are very limited. You have to give us some time, because at our age, the first reaction to unknown new things is not curiosity, but rejection and rejection."

His speaking speed was not fast, slow, and not very sentimental, as if he was talking about topics such as "what to eat today".

Perhaps because of this, Qin Lian actually listened to all these chicken soup-like principles.

How did that song come about?

"A generation will eventually get old, but there will always be someone who is young."

Qin Lian's heart was heavy.

"The matter between you and Yuan Tao is essentially the same. Maybe you are right, but it's not wrong for the parents not to accept it immediately." Finally, the grandfather said, "Don't worry, give everyone a little time, and take your time." Come."

"There is an old saying that things go smoothly when you are in a hurry. If you are in a hurry, you will easily go into trouble. Just like when you play chess, the more you lose the game, the faster you lose. You should know what it means, right? It's 'make do with it'. You young people like to say 'I don't want to make do with it', so give yourself some leeway and don't make it look like a war every day."

"What war? It's too exaggerated, isn't it?" Qin Lian whispered.

Grandpa snorted, "Look yourself in the mirror. Does that look on your face when you said you were going to do your homework just now look like you are going to the battlefield?"

After thinking about it, Qin Lian couldn't help laughing.Come to think of it, that's pretty much it.Yuan Sui used many methods to raise her enthusiasm for studying, but she only relied on this energy to sustain it, just like a burst of energy on the battlefield, and she didn't know when it would fade away and be exhausted.

"Then what should I do? I still have to learn, right?" She couldn't help asking.Grandpa is so wise, he must have a solution.

"Of course you have to learn, but Qin Lian, are you studying for Yuan Xian?" Grandpa asked seriously.

Qin Lian was taken aback, "Of course not."

At least this is certain.

"But in my opinion, you forced yourself to learn just for the sake of Yuan Xing. Think to yourself, can this state last for a long time?" Grandpa said.

... In fact, there was already a problem, Qin Lian thought, but she and Yuan Tao had already found a solution.

Grandpa was right. She asked herself that the only motivation for her study now was indeed Yuan Xie.

"You may think that your parents are not well-educated, so no matter how bad your studies are, it will not affect the inheritance of the family business. But Qin Lian, times are different. Your parents caught up with the good times, so there is the one who dropped out of school. It’s a joke that people who go to college go to work for him instead of the big boss. But are there many such people? It’s rare.”

"In fact, today, the saying that studying can change one's destiny is still valid, and the threshold is even higher. It's ridiculous that most people only see 'college students walking everywhere, and they are not treated like dogs', and think that education is useless. In fact, it is just because Their academic qualifications are not advanced enough to set foot in that field. We said before that the society is developing too fast, and the experience of the predecessors is useless. At this time, the importance of education is even more prominent.”

"If you don't want to be left behind by the times, even my old bones are still studying hard, let alone you?" Grandpa said with emotion, "Learning is not for anyone, just to improve your own level. This is your own life, if you entrust it to Yuan Tao and feel that you are doing it for her, problems will soon arise."

Although Qin Lian was unwilling, he had to admit that it seemed to be the case.

This kind of approach of treating the other party as all the reasons is good when the relationship is good, but if the relationship is a little weak, it will turn into resentment or even hatred, and it will breed thoughts like "If it weren't for you, I wouldn't...".

"It should be a good thing for two people to be together, learn from each other's strengths and promote each other. To put it bluntly, it's just a kind of self-moving of 'I gave a lot', if you don't get enough return It’s easy to deteriorate.” Grandpa turned his head and looked at Qin Lian, “Don’t think that you are suffering for Yuan Xie, falling in love should be a happy thing, if this relationship makes you stressed, you should consider where it came from. Problem."

Qin Lian bit her lip, feeling that part of her thoughts had been completely seen through by her grandfather.

Isn't that what she thought before.So when you are tired from studying, you will slack off and have conflicts with Yuan Xian.Afterwards, she asked for a reward, which seemed to have solved the problem, but once the reward also failed for her, the problem would appear again.

It's like a game that puts Yuan Tao and learning at both ends and weighs who is more important.

But Yuan Wei and her study should not be compared in this way.

"I see." Qin Lian took a deep breath, "Thank you grandpa, I will think about it carefully."

"Go, find your own direction, and the road ahead will be easier to walk." Grandpa said.

Qin Lian grabbed the teacup, drank the last sip of residual tea, stood up and prepared to go back to the house.

Then there was a pause.

No, after thinking about it carefully, grandpa said so much, but it turned out to be as if he didn't say anything, and she still had to continue to do homework.

She walked to the door of the balcony, finally couldn't help turning around, and said with a smile, "Grandpa, if you can tell me this, you are already very fashionable! I don't know about others, but no matter how old you are, you will definitely not be out of date." of!"

Finally, in a low voice, the chicken thief added, "Then Yuan Tao and I thank you for your support first!"

After all the great truths have been said, can the old man not support it?

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