Abnormal Diagnostic Manual

Agoraphobia 02

Sheng Ming didn't ask what Qi Yu said to Li Wan last night, and Li Wan behaved normally the next day, and got closer to Qi Yu a lot, so it must have been settled.

Sheng Ming doesn't think coming out is a thing. He confessed to his parents as early as the first time he and Qi Yu had sex. His parents are very open. Invasion, my mother is used to all kinds of scenes in the literary and art circles, and she is not surprised when faced with such shocking things like brotherhood/rape(?), and she does as she pleases.Sheng Ming himself can afford whatever he says or does, and his parents are well aware of this.

In fact, Qi Yu didn't say anything to Li Wan. Qi Yu went abroad when he was 21 years old, and he didn't meet Sheng Ming for 10 years. Only he and his parents knew the real reason why he went abroad.Qi Yu likes Sheng Ming, it's not a secret from his parents, at that time he and Sheng Ming were still young, Father Qi felt that it was necessary to isolate them to let the relationship cool down, of course it was just to isolate Qi Yu, because it was obvious that this relationship was Qi Yu One-sidedly, Sheng Ming was just a follower at that time, and he didn't understand love, love, or fart, and the father prayed to spend Qi Yu because he was afraid that Qi Yu would mislead Sheng Ming.

10 years later, Qi Yu came back by himself. Of course, his father would not stop him. The 21-year-old Qi Yu likes boys and his cousin. The father of prayer can be considered to be a teenager, impulsive. The 31-year-old Qi Yu has already achieved a successful career , Know where your life direction is, what you want to do is clear to yourself, and no one else can stop it.Besides, Sheng Ming is also sensible, has his own thinking ability, and will not be easily bewitched by Qi Yu. He is willing to accept Qi Yu. In fact, as Qi Yu's father, he already feels very satisfied from the perspective of wishing his son to be happy.

Father Qi said to Qi Yu, after so many years, you still maintain your original intention, why should your family make things difficult for you.

Qi Yu is very grateful to his parents for their understanding.Compared with so many people in the world who seek but cannot fall into obsession, he is really lucky.

Qi Yu could have told Li Wan that they were joking and perfunctory, but thinking about the future with Sheng Ming, they couldn't keep hiding it from their family members. I can't hide it, why I came back to China, isn't it just to fight for the possibility of being with Sheng Ming? pressure.

Because of what happened to Ji Mingyang before, Li Wan has a shadow in her heart, and has become deeply disgusted with homosexuality.However, I was very moved when I heard Qi Yu talk about his karma in the past ten years. After reading many posts on the Internet, I read many stories about being unable to be together because of falling in love. Besides, because of this, the relationship between her and Qi Yu has become much closer.It turns out that this powerful and excellent cousin also has weaknesses.

Early the next morning, the whole family went to the next-door neighbor's house to pay New Year's greetings.

The neighbor's grandma Song was an early friend of Qi Yu's grandma. Over the years, she has had a deep relationship with her and helped grandma and the others a lot, so the whole family still respects this old man.

Grandma Song's husband died early, and she has been widowed all these years. Her son and daughter are very filial, and they often visit him. When they came today, only their granddaughter was there.The little granddaughter Song Yi is seventeen or eighteen years old, pure and juicy.

Song Yi opened the door for them, said auspicious words to each other, and then called out Grandma Song.

Unexpectedly, when Grandma Song came out of the bedroom and saw so many people, she could not breathe smoothly, and her expression became extremely frightened.

Song Yi hurriedly took the medicine for Grandma Song, and then stood there at a loss.

Seeing the battle, Qi Yu hurriedly told the family members to go back to see what's wrong with Grandma Song.He hasn't been home for many years, and his impression of Grandma Song is that he often came here to eat sweets when he was a child. Grandma Song likes children very much and likes them to come to her house to play, but she doesn't seem to go out very much.

Qi Yu helped Song Yi take Grandma Song back to the house.

Grandma Song sat on the bed and relaxed, feeling much better.

Qi Yu has changed a lot since he was a child, but the outline of his youth is still there. Grandma Song recognized him after looking at him for a while. I haven't seen Qi Yu for so many years. Qi Yu has grown so big. Grandma Song looked at him. If he doesn't like it, he pulls him to talk.

Qi Yu also learned some things during the chat with Grandma Song.

Qi Yu looked at the medicine Grandma Song was taking just now, the MAO inhibitor.This is not good, Qi Yu asked Grandma Song why she took this medicine.

Before Grandma Song could speak, Song Yi hurriedly replied: "Grandma doesn't take this medicine much, the doctor prescribed it to prevent problems before they happen. I'm afraid something like today will happen. The doctor said that grandma has panic attacks."

Panic?

Nausea, chest pain, choking, feeling numb, hot or cold are all common symptoms of panic disorder, and Grandma Song looked like this.But Qi Yu couldn't be sure, and thought it would be better to take Grandma Song to the hospital for a look.

The elderly are old and cannot be careless about various subtle situations.Grandma Song refused to agree.

Song Yi said again: "Grandma won't go out. We have been persuading her for a long time. Grandma always said that bad things will happen when she goes out. Last time my father took grandma to the hospital, and when he came back, my father had a car accident. , although she was not injured, but grandma always said that it was because she went out that it brought disaster to Dad, and she will never go out again."

"You can't go out," Grandma Song said affirmatively, and she still had lingering fears at this moment. "As long as I go out, I will feel flustered and short of breath like before, and things will happen. I'd better not go out."

Qi Yu's heart skipped a beat.

Panic, catastrophic thoughts, and not going out, Qi Yu can easily associate with a disease - agoraphobia.

A complication of panic disorder is that people with agoraphobia stay away for fear that no one will help them if they have a panic attack in front of others.

For people with panic disorder, the world suddenly becomes unreal (derealization), or they themselves become unreal (depersonalization), and most importantly, they have a sense of inescapable destiny —they are about to lose control, go crazy, or die. The catastrophic thought is at the heart of a panic disorder, which is different from an anxiety disorder.

Panic is generally a brief situational event that can develop to a peak within 10 minutes, although the patient feels as if it lasts for hours.When symptoms subside, patients feel exhausted, as if they had just narrowly escaped a traumatic event.Between panic attacks, the patient has a constant fear of another panic attack.

Agoraphobia is more than a fear of squares or open spaces.In fact, agoraphobic people are afraid of all situations that are difficult to escape and where there is no one to help them.

People with agoraphobia are afraid to leave their home and surrounding environment, which may lead to panic attacks: palpitations, tachycardia, chest tightness, feeling of suffocation, dizziness, skin numbness or pins and needles, night sweats, shaking tremors, Fear of dying or going crazy.As a result, they avoid being alone in open spaces or in public places.

Qi Yu wondered why there are so many people who dare not go out recently.

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It's interesting to see a test on Wikipedia

This is the dream of a five-year-old girl.

The little girl's mother was walking while holding the little girl's hand, but when the girl was picking dandelions on the side of the road, the mother gradually walked further and further away.The girl hurriedly tried to catch up with her mother, but for some reason her feet didn't obey her.So the girl yelled "Mom!" How do you think the mother in the dream would react?

A. Didn't notice the little girl's cry, and continued walking farther and farther.

B. Immediately turned around, ran to the little girl's side, and stroked her head.

C. stopped and waved back to the little girl, signaling her to "come here quickly".

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analysis:

People who choose A tend to suffer from agoraphobia.Subconsciously feel uneasy about "separation".

Perhaps your childhood was shadowed, leading to a fear of leaving something dear to you.Because they are more afraid of loneliness than ordinary people, once they are in an open place, they will have strong loneliness and anxiety.I believe that as long as you find a lover who can protect you and make you feel at ease, you should no longer be afraid of the square.

People who choose B, on the contrary, tend to have a phobia of closed rooms.

This answer shows that you were overly protected by your mother in your childhood, but relatively, you lost your subjectivity.As a result, you feel psychologically insecure and afraid of being completely controlled by your mother.This feeling of suffocation takes the form of the horror of the closed room.It is suggested that you must train yourself to be independent in order to regain your own subjectivity.

People who choose C are normal people.There is an appropriate distance from the mother.

It means that a stable psychological relationship with parents has been maintained since childhood.In other words, at least you won't be terrified of spaces.