Abnormal Diagnostic Manual

Androphobia 03

Because Jiang Min refused to come for treatment, Qi Yu had no choice but to provide the other party with a basic systemic desensitization treatment.

Systematic desensitization method, also known as interactive inhibition method, is mainly used to combat anxiety and fear. Through a series of steps, according to the stimulus intensity from weak to strong, from small to large, gradually train the patient's psychological endurance and enhance adaptability. So as to achieve no "allergic" reaction to the real experience in the end, and maintain a normal or near-normal state of mind and body.

Corresponding to Jiang Min, it is to let him force himself to contact men for 5 minutes every day, first to make eye contact, then to dialogue and physical contact, step by step, and then gradually increase the number and time of contact until there is no fear at all.

Qi Yu exchanges emails with Jiang Min every day to understand the progress of the system desensitization, and tries to understand the source of Jiang Min's male phobia through the gradually built trust.

But Jiang Min made no progress, and stayed in the stage of eye contact, and couldn't hold on for more than 2 minutes each time.

Chen Yulian already felt powerless.What is Jiang Min's fear of men?Without a clear understanding of the cause, no effective treatment can be taken.Because Jiang Min is afraid of men, Qi Yu can't even perform hypnotherapy on him.Qi Yu also suggested that the other party find a female psychiatrist, but Chen Yulian insisted on Qi Yu's treatment, and she did not trust other psychiatrists.

When things get desperate, there is always a solution.

Chen Yulian seemed to have snooped on Jiang Min's secret.

It was actually a coincidence. Chen Yulian knew that Jiang Min's treatment these days was difficult and unavoidably anxious, so she asked a friend to borrow a few discs to relax.My friend is a member of the film and television industry, and strongly recommended several movies that can calm people down and relieve anxiety, but accidentally mixed in a "redundant" movie.

At the beginning of the "film", five men met each other sincerely. Chen Yulian felt something was wrong, and Jiang Min's pupils constricted. When four of the men tied up another man and began to swear some dirty words, Jiang Min had already stood up and turned the screen smashed.

When Chen Yulian saw this, she knew that it might be her friend's usual "fun", which was carelessly brought to her.That movie is undoubtedly a gay bondage play, but Jiang Min is a 25-year-old adult, and he has experienced everything he should have experienced, so he shouldn't make a fuss just because the action movie is between men and women, right?

Chen Yulian carefully observed Jiang Min. Although Jiang Min was afraid of men, he was "just" nervous when the five of them were naked at the beginning. Thinking that the two of them seldom have sex/love, even if they do, it is quite normal. Chen Yulian once suspected that she was not attractive enough, or why Jiang Min was so indifferent to sex, so in order to increase the interest, she once suggested that Jiang Min tie her up. At that time, the other party was very emotional, and that was the first time they quarrel.After the incident, Chen Yulian didn't take it seriously, she only said that the other party was cold and she was not that keen on sex/love, so this page was opened.But from now on, Jiang Min's problem is here - bondage and sex/love?

Chen Yulian did not turn the page lightly this time, and pressed forward step by step.

Jiang Min finally burst into tears.

He is an illegitimate child.

Jiang Min's father and mother fell in love for a few years before giving birth to him, but they never mentioned the issue of marriage, and his mother didn't care. Anyway, people are by his side every day, and whether to get married or not is just a matter of paper.At that time, his mother still had the romantic feelings of a little girl, even as a mother, she was still innocent.Until she found out that his father was married a long time ago and had a son in his teens, she broke down and kicked the man out of the house.

Your father is a liar. When Jiang Min was growing up, his mother taught her every day.

A mother in love is like an innocent little girl. Once she encounters betrayal in love, the mother seems to be a different person, becoming cynical and crazy.His mother scolded his father every day and instilled in him the idea that men are not good things, which made him have a strong aversion to men.And after his mother broke up with his father, his mother hated the house and regarded him as a fool, and left him alone.

Jiang Min lacked love in his childhood, especially the love from male relatives. He had no way of knowing how to communicate with men and how to accept care from men.His mother was critical of him, and he trembled every day, trying to figure out his mother's emotions carefully, so as to avoid being scolded by his mother and become his mother's punching bag.

At school, he didn't know how to get along with his classmates, and he was even nervous when talking to boys, and even avoided, so he subconsciously only played with girls, and was inevitably ridiculed by his classmates as a sissy.But there is a boy who is different, that boy is gentle and kind, treats him very well, and is willing to explain the exercises for him, when he was bullied by his classmates, he stood up for him, when he was young, he didn't know what love is, but he just liked to be with that boy ignorantly When they were together, they became even more flushed and speechless after realizing their own thoughts.The boy didn't take it seriously, and still treated him as before.

They went to junior high school together, and he gradually understood his feelings. With the boy's help, his fear of boys gradually eased, and he was able to joke and play with other boys.But then, everything changed.

The boy is radiant, there are many people who like him, and there are as many people who hate him as there are people who like him. There is even an existence like a deadly enemy, who always makes trouble for them.Later, when he saw the boy being raped with his own eyes, he hid in the corner and didn't dare to make a sound. He was so frightened that he didn't dare to move, tears streaming down his face. A little way to save that boy.

Later, the boy changed schools, he graduated, and his fear of men could no longer be controlled. He hid at home and never went out, no matter how his mother beat and scolded him, he was unmoved.Later, his mother remarried and finally abandoned him completely.

Now that the cause is known, it is much easier to treat it with the right medicine.

It is still a systematic desensitization therapy, but the process needs to be adjusted again.

The first is to enter a state of relaxation.

Choose a quiet, suitable and comfortable environment, let Jiang Min sit on a soft seat, and let him start muscle relaxation training with the ups and downs of the music.The training starts from the arms, head and face, neck, shoulders, back, chest, abdomen and lower limbs in sequence. During the process, Jiang Min is required to learn to experience the difference between muscle tension and muscle relaxation.Once a day, 20-30 minutes each time, usually 6-8 times can be learned. Chen Yulian is required to supervise Jiang Min to practice repeatedly at home until it can be used freely in real life and can relax at any time.

The next step is to build the fear scale.

Chen Yulian helped organize a group of single photos of men with different looks, figures and ages, including Asian, African and European, with different skin colors, thin and sickly, muscular, with clothes on, semi-naked, full/naked and different figures, from childhood to old age kind of age.There are also various photos of men and women hugging, kissing, sex/love, prop scene PLAY, and group P. Let Jiang Min choose by himself, pick out the photos that can arouse his fear, and sort them according to the degree of fear, from the least fear to the greatest fear, and then Divide the level of fear evenly into levels.

Then Jiang Min was asked to close his eyes and imagine a certain level of stimulation. If he could clearly imagine the scene and feel nervous, he would stop imagining and relax his whole body, and then repeat this process repeatedly until he no longer felt anxious or afraid of imagining. Then that level of desensitization is complete.Do the next level of desensitization training by analogy.There are no more than 4 levels of imagination training at a time. If strong emotions appear at a certain level during the training, you will downgrade and retrain until you can adapt to a higher level.

When passing all the levels, you can switch from the simulated situation to the real situation, contact and communicate with real men, twice a week, 2 minutes each time, take the initiative to talk to men, shake hands and hug.

Of course, just to be on the safe side, the training object at this stage was Qi Yu himself. After a long time of photo training, Jiang Min was finally willing to walk into Qi Yu's studio.

Qi Yu is completely different from what Jiang Min imagined.

Chen Yulian was also secretly surprised. Qi Yu's appearance is very elegant, and he is the type that easily puts pressure on people. Then after a smile, his temperament changes, becoming completely non-aggressive, with a face that is easy to be liked by people, but Lenovo When she found out that the other party was the well-known psychological expert Chen Yulian, she was relieved. Facing the patient, the psychological counselor should present an approachable and harmless appearance, so that the patient can put down his guard.