Um!I'm the stepfather

On the first weekend after marriage, Xiao Yukai was sent back to the old house.

Ling Yue specially called grandma and told her not to divert her attention when Zaizai was crying. Allowing the child to cry is more meaningful than stopping the child from crying.He also told Sister Lan carefully what to pay attention to, and made sure that Sister Lan knew what to do before she could rest assured.

Since Xiao Yukai fell and cried in the community last time, there have been several floods.Once, after eating two ice creams, I wanted to eat the third one, but Ling Yue stopped me. Once, I accidentally knocked over a tall "castle" while building blocks. Another time, when I was painting and coloring, the paint got on the circle. Outside... basically crying a lot every day, every time it is heaven in the previous second and the Shura field in the next second.

Of course, the Shura field is from Sister Lan's point of view, but it's not a problem for Ling Yue.

At first, Sister Lan immediately went to coax her as before, but after being signaled by Ling Yue shaking her head, she began to observe from the side.

Ling Yue also coaxed the child, but his purpose was not to keep Xiao Yukai from crying, but to make Xiao Yukai cry unrestrainedly.He didn't use various methods to divert the child's attention, but guided Xiao Yukai to understand his emotions.

"Oh...you want to eat ice cream, but the little daddy won't let you eat it, you are very upset." See the child's feelings first.

"I know you really want to eat another one, but you can't. Eating too much ice cream can make you sick." Stand firm.

"If you are sick, you will have a headache and a stomachache, both Dad and Aunt Lan will be worried, and we don't want to see you suffer." Let the child know that adults do not let him do this out of care and love.

"It's true that I want to eat ice cream. My little dad also liked to eat a lot of ice cream when he was a child. Let Aunt Lan make it for you tomorrow, okay? Do you want to try the strawberry flavor?" Affirming the child's wishes and needs, he proposed a solution.

These words were interspersed when the child's crying subsided.

This time Xiao Yukai cried for 15 minutes, and the crying stopped abruptly without warning after 15 minutes, the little guy turned his head to Sister Lan with great energy and said, "Aunt Lan, Zaizai wants to eat strawberry ice cream tomorrow. "

"...Okay, Aunt Lan will make it for Zaizai tomorrow." Sister Lan was dumbfounded at the speed of this face change.

The third time Xiao Yukai cried for about 10 minutes and then stopped, and the fourth time she only cried for 5 minutes.At first, Sister Lan was worried that the child would cry badly, but Xiao Yukai was in a good mood every time after crying, and she slept peacefully and fragrantly at night, without any dissatisfaction and grievance after losing her temper before.Sister Lan couldn't help being amazed: "I didn't expect the child to be able to take care of it like this!"

"That's because diverting the child's attention or violently stopping the child from crying does not solve the fundamental problem, but just hides the problem. Blindly telling the child not to cry will only suppress the child's nature.

Weak children cannot handle the negative emotions brought about by failure, frustration, and pain, so they can only cry for help and vent.What we adults can do is to face it with him, accept his helplessness, and let him know that failure is normal and losing his temper is normal.After failure, we can sum up experience together and find ways to succeed together.

Crying can let adults discover that the child has encountered a problem, and can also regulate the child's emotions. From this perspective, it is a good thing for a child to cry, not a bad thing. "Ling Yue shared his opinion.

"Mr. Xiao, I didn't expect you to be so experienced in raising children at such a young age." Sister Lan really admired it. This is the benefit of reading a lot.

Ling Yue smiled, with a look of nostalgia: "When I was studying abroad, I used to be a volunteer in a special school, and I met many children with emotional disorders."

The special school that Ling Yue mentioned is a well-known research center for the rehabilitation of adolescents and children with psychological disorders in country E. Even volunteers are required to have certain knowledge of psychology, and they must go through no less than one year of training before being admitted to the school. Access to children is permitted.

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"I heard that this lobster dish won an award. It is the signature dish here. Try it to see if it suits your taste." There was a trace of nervousness hidden in the eyes of the elegantly dressed Lin Boss.

After moving back to the urban area, he and Ling Yue had dinner alone for the first time. Lin Xiedong hoped that his arrangement would satisfy the other party.

"The prawns are fresh and tender, and the taste of the sauce is just right, I like it very much." Ling Yue commented with a smile after tasting it.

Lin Xiedong breathed a sigh of relief, and then recommended another dish.

Today's big boss undoubtedly surprised Ling Yue.No, it should be said to be a surprise.Sister Lan was not there, he wanted to cook by himself, but Lin Xiedong said that he had already reserved a table and wanted to take him out to eat.

Eating out is not counted, the big boss seems to have unlocked the social mode, not only considerately recommended dishes, but also sent a bouquet of bright roses to Ling Yue at the end.

Ling Yue was delighted to be able to eat alone with the big boss.Opposite him sat a handsome and promising young man with a golden temperament, let alone a top-level restaurant with an elegant environment, even an ordinary restaurant could taste the delicacy of top-level cuisine.However, when the meal was over and the waiter delivered a large bouquet of red roses, the gorgeous black line was crossed.

"Honestly, who asked you to send flowers?" Although they didn't get along for a long time, Ling Yue knew very well that Lin Xiedong was not the kind of man who was so romantic that he would take the initiative to send flowers.

"Did you find out? Mom said that the newlyweds should prepare some small surprises so that life can stay fresh." A trace of unease flashed across the handsome face.

Are you Ma Bao Boy?The CEO of Tangtang Group talks about "my mother said" all day long, do your people know it?And I'm newly married, but you are second married, you need your mother to teach you about this kind of thing!Ling Yue couldn't help complaining in his head.

"...Mom is right. Newlyweds need surprises, but I don't like roses." Ling Yue stared blankly at innocent flowers.

"Then what kind of flower do you like?" The big boss immediately remedied it, as if I would buy it as long as you said it.

"I don't like any flowers." In a cold tone.In fact, this is a lie. He likes the sweet gardenia the most, and the flower language is eternal love. (Yes, being gay is such a delicate thing.)

"..." It was the first time someone teased him so shamelessly, Lin Xiedong was a little at a loss.

"..." Ling Yue also remained silent.

"Then, do you like watches? Do you like cars? I'll buy a car for you to drive." Sensing that the other party was upset, Lin Xiedong was a little impatient, and even unlocked the emoji package of the nouveau riche without a teacher.

Well, let us give the president a little more understanding and tolerance. It is the first time to please people, and the experience is really limited.

"Do you know that when there is a problem between husband and wife, buying, buying, and buying is a very poor way of communication?" Ling Yue said with a smile on his face.In fact, I'm not very angry, I already knew that this straight man's love quotient is not high, right?It's just that it's rare to see a big boss in a hurry, Ling Yue couldn't help but want to act like a demon.

"Really? I thought my wife would give something away when she was angry. It was always shown on TV." Lin Xiedong was taken aback, and looked at Ling Yue innocently with his beautiful peach eyes.

After the critical attack of "Cute Smile", Ling Yue was caught by the CEO's "Big Innocent Eyes".Do you know that your abstinent face with such a simple and unaffected expression makes people want to throw you down, Hundan...

Well, I can't even pretend to be angry.

"Who said I was angry, I will buy those things later. If you are free, I want to go to the beach with you for a day." The beach is not far away, and two hours for a round trip is enough.Going in the evening and coming back the next morning can perfectly avoid the time period of sun exposure.There is still enough time to pick up Xiao Yukai.

"Of course." Although he didn't know why Ling Yue wasn't angry anymore, seeing his warm smile again, Lin Xiedong breathed a sigh of relief.

I don't know when I started to care about another person's emotions.Unfamiliar experience, but the feeling is not bad.