Xiu Erdai's daily essays

04060-It's actually part of Tao

Xie Qinwei: "If you have no intention of concealing it at all, and you still take the initiative to call senior brother to discuss with you when you see something in doubt, then I don't know the difference between sending an email and direct voice and video."

Me: "The difference is that you don't need to face it directly? You can pretend that you don't know that I shared the content of the email with the elder brother? It's like when you were in Yunxia Sect, you pretended not to know that the elders saw all your actions clearly, Including the picture of you facing Junior Sister Yuan when she was kicked out of bed...that's what."

Xie Qinwei: "...then what?"

Me: "I'll just make a hypothesis."

Xie Qinwei: "..."

Me: "I haven't heard any of your over-the-top lacework from anyone else."

Xie Qinwei's gaze didn't know where it fell, and his tone was ethereal: "I also think that no one in this sect will exchange other people's sexual information with you, even if it is Mei Shuanli, he will only take the initiative to show you that the protagonist is yours. Little Huang Ben."

Me: "Yes, that's it, everyone still has morals."

Xie Qinwei cut off the communication, maybe he won't want to contact me again before leaving the secret realm.

Big brother: "My existence prevents you from making friends."

Me: "I will block you when I need it. Tell me, is Xie Qinwei's premonition reliable? Can he and Junior Sister Yuan really have a baby soon?"

Eldest brother: "As for the matter of Taoist companions, my theoretical knowledge is not much richer than yours. After all, you know the position of the leader, and you have no relationship. I have no practical experience, so it is difficult to understand the empty theory. I The academic ability is mediocre, only when certain theories are directly related to Yunxia Sect, can I understand a little more with strong interest and a lot of practical materials."

Senior brother: "Moreover, there are great differences between different Taoist couples. Just as studying one person's Tao can hardly help us understand another person's Tao, understanding a certain pair of Taoist couples can hardly help us understand other Taoists. companion."

Me: "Because the Taoist companion is actually a part of the Tao?"

Big brother: "Yes. Everyone's Tao is different, so every pair of Taoist couples has a different form. There are Taoist couples who develop from love, and Taoist couples that have nothing to do with love and emotion. There are Taoist couples who have changed from love to other emotions. Taoist couples are not directly related to feelings, but a pair of Taoist couples will more or less establish feelings after getting along for a long time, so it seems that the two have a relationship."

Senior brother: "Whether a monk needs a Taoist companion depends on the monk's Tao. Some people need a companion to go far, while some people, or most monks, are more suitable for walking alone. Taoist companions and Relatives and friends are different. Although we often play with the latter, help each other, and discuss doubts together with them, we often act separately from them and think independently. You can't leave your Taoist companion for a moment."

04061-Independence

Me: "The sense of restraint is too strong."

Big brother: "Yes, so most monks can't bear it. Even those monks who are passionate about love still have their own small treasury, but there is no small treasury between Taoist couples."

Me: "So, if I have a Taoist partner, he can share everything in the small file?"

Eldest brother: "Yes, unless that person is not your real Taoist companion, but just a Taoist companion, but it is also very common to only have a name, so it is easy to divorce."

Me: "That's so boring, it's better to just have a one-night stand."

Eldest brother: "There are many monks who think this way, and many actually do so. The monks are still solitary. Even if it is a sect that emphasizes teamwork like our Yunxia Sect, we can only say that we cooperate fully on major issues, but in daily life, Everyone still does what they like. But if you get a Taoist partner, there will be no big or small things, and there will be no private space at all, because your Taoist partner is also a private part of you."

Senior Brother: "So, even if Junior Brother Xie and Junior Sister Yuan stumble, they are likely to become Taoist couples, because they are willing to open up to each other, and if they are willing to change, there is a possibility of change; We can’t become Taoist couples, because we both value our independent space too much, and we can open up when we cooperate, but the premise of opening up is that we can close it at any time, we have left enough retreats for ourselves, and we are unwilling to change ourselves for the sake of each other.”

Eldest brother: "It is too rare for Taoist couples to be naturally compatible like Elder Pei Ji and Elder Jiang Lin. Most of the Taoist couples have a process of adjustment and adjustment with each other, so the willingness to 'be willing to make changes for each other' is very important. Without this idea and just waiting for others to match you, it is almost impossible to obtain a Taoist companion."

Me: "However, the cultivation philosophy generally advocated in modern times is to be firm, not to be shaken by external objects, and not to be changed by others. And when a pair of lovers is not a Taoist couple, the lovers are still outsiders to their own Tao. ..."

Big brother: "So, the formation rate of Taoist companions in the modern cultivation world continues to be low, and it seems to be developing in a lower direction."

Me: "But it is very difficult to change this, because this idea is one of the basic concepts of modern cultivation theory. If it is overthrown, the entire theoretical system will have to be changed."

Big brother: "So the matter of the Taoist companion is just resigned. When you meet someone you are willing to change for him, he becomes your 'insider', and you will not violate the basic theory, but you will have a Taoist companion .The modern practice system puts Taoist companions in a non-essential position. Taoist companions are a feasible way of cultivation, and they are optional, but not necessary."

04062- Appreciation

Me: "Actually, there are very few items that are 'required' in cultivation? Even if you say 'firmness', you only mean 'recommend firmness' and 'recommend firmness', instead of saying 'if you are not firm, there is no possibility of cultivation', Because examples have proved that there are people who repair grassy roads on top of walls.”

Eldest brother: "Persistently not firm, it seems that it is also a kind of firmness."

Me: "The point is, the practice option of 'Tao Companion' has been deleted by most monks. It is optional, but I don't like to choose it. The level of a second-rate sect."

Senior Brother: "Yuelao line practitioners are not cultivating the way of 'Tao couple', what they enjoy is 'love', whether they can become a Tao couple or not is still a matter of fate. The willingness to change oneself will be slightly stronger, which will lead to an increase in the rate of becoming a Taoist couple, but the Taoist couple is still not their goal. A Taoist couple can not fall in love, and love does not necessarily become a Taoist couple, there is no necessary connection between the two."

Me: "Wow, so 'Tao Lu Dao' is only worth a third-rate sect?"

Eldest brother: "Cultivating oneself is already strenuous enough, but also cultivating others... The requirements for becoming a Taoist couple are too high."

Me: "Why are you suddenly so interested in talking about Taoist companions? You are still thinking again whether I am suitable to be your Taoist companion."

Big brother: "Because I suddenly had an attempt on you?"

Me: "Did the attempt last longer than a second?"

Eldest brother: "From 'discovering that I have an attempt on you' to 'determining that I can't fully open to you', with my thinking speed... it is unlikely to last for a second?"

Me: "I don't think it's possible either. Hey, I'm asking a personal question, and you don't have to answer it. Have you seen Yu Qiao with the eyes of a Taoist couple? I've always wondered about Yu Qiao's attitude towards you."

Eldest brother: "He and I, sometimes I am a little confused. I am not sure if Yu Qiao has thought about me in the direction of the Taoist companion, maybe he has, but when he thinks, he probably immediately realizes that I am not He would change for him, so he immediately cut off his train of thought, and turned to finding fault with me to vent. Maybe he never thought about it that way, but simply hated me for not taking him to heart."

Me: "Didn't you trust him? Before he hooked up with the remote setting secret realm."

Eldest brother: "At that time, we were very good friends. Actually, if Yu Qiao doesn't deliberately hate me, I can have a good chat with him. I still appreciate his brain circuit."

Appreciate...a psychopathic brain circuit?

04063 - Need for intense affection

Big brother: "Actually, I have been friends with Yu Qiao for a shorter period of time than you think. Before he and Yao Xiang got together, I had some conflicts with him. The main reason is his conflict with me. People, ideas are sometimes, or more often than not, quite distorted."

Big brother: "For example, if you don't like a person, you will choose to avoid that person, as long as you don't have to get along with that person, you will not associate with that person; but Yu Qiao, he will choose more To get in touch with that person. For people he likes and people he hates, Yu Qiao will get in touch more often, and when he touches, he will be so emotional that people often can't tell whether his feelings for someone are happy or not. hate."

Senior Brother: "I suspect that Yu Qiao himself may not be able to accurately distinguish. What he likes or needs is the kind of intense emotion. He uses various methods to stimulate people who arouse his interest in order to obtain more and more intense emotions. Feedback. Whether it is positive or negative feelings, what Yu Qiao wants is intensity. He ignites his own intensity in the intensity of others."

Big brother: "Yu Qiao wants to keep his emotions in a state of excitement."

Eldest brother: "But this is just my guess, and it has not been fully affirmed by Yu Qiao. He seems to have nodded to this guess, but it seems that the nod is just to let me continue to guess, to get more from my guess. Deception for more inspiration."

Me: "Even you can't figure it out?"

Eldest brother: "Well, it can also be said that I don't want to guess it, because it is too different from Yunxiazong's Dao, and I refuse to understand it."