Xiu Erdai's daily essays

1469_ Digest by yourself

Elder Guo Cai: "I can be sure that Chu Wuliu's attack on his golden core was after the reappearance of the Tongmingguo competition, because I talked to him just the day before the competition, and his golden core was still stable at that time. "

Elder Guo Cai paused for a while, and then said: "But his mood must have been unstable at that time. I found out, but I didn't pay attention."

It is understandable that my father also treats me coldly when I am in a bad mood. Unless I take the initiative to talk to him-in fact, it is harassment-otherwise he will not talk to me kindly.

Playing the confidant senior game is what the elder brother will do to me, and the elder brother will not bother me when I am really in a bad mood, he will only provoke me when I am in a bad mood but nothing serious, It made me depressed and I just wanted to practice hard and try to smoke him as soon as possible.

Personally, I feel that when the mood is bad beyond a certain level, talking is a burden, and it is more effective to digest one's mood quietly alone.

To think about why you are in a bad mood; to sort out why the thing that makes you feel bad looks bad to yourself; to assume whether you can modify this thing to make you feel good; if it is irreversible, So how to avoid the same thing from happening next time; if it is irreversible, unavoidable, and impossible to think about, then let go of the pain and cry until you get used to this pain and sadness.

You will get used to it, it will always take being tougher and tougher again and again to survive.

If you can't, just don't live at all, die early and reincarnate early.

——so my comforting always makes people more sad or... angry.

Maybe it's because I'm too cold-hearted, so I really can't understand what is meant by 'painful', even except when I was very young in my previous life, probably before elementary school, I cried in front of others, and later because of related things in reality And no matter how uncomfortable I feel, I can't cry. Instead, I can't help but burst into tears because of two-dimensional or some distant things.Compared with sadness, joy, magnificence, and grandeur are my tears.

"Probably because you regard sad things as enemies, so you don't want to show weakness in front of them." A girl in her previous life said to me while watching sadomasochism dramas and crying.

1470_Missy

Since the girl was chasing the drama in the office, and her seat was next to me, I sincerely explained to her that I thought there were many flaws in the logic of the sadomasochism drama based on the few glances I caught when I passed by. To sum it up: "Their tragedies are largely their own stupidity."

That girl: "It's not to a great extent, it's all. You didn't read the whole thing, but you'll know it after reading the whole thing. Everyone here is not above the IQ level, and they are very clever."

Me: "...Then you still look so devoted? Can you still cry?"

That girl: "When I cry, I feel comfortable, and because the show is so stupid, I don't think about it at all after crying, but there are no sequelae. I think this is very good."

Well, I feel good too.

That girl is the daughter of a leader.When I was a student, my academic performance was poor, and I got a diploma from a school whose name I had never heard of; when I reached working age, I didn’t have any skills, I looked ordinary, I couldn’t even talk sweetly, and I was forced to rely on my parents’ relationship. Tucked into my department.Colleagues are polite to her on the surface, but in private they either look down on her or are jealous.

She may also know what everyone is thinking, so although she was assigned a seat, she watches videos and pictures every day and chats with people online without disturbing her colleagues at all.Sometimes when colleagues pretend to invite her to a party out of politeness, she also finds various reasons to shirk.It seems that when she came to this company, she just sat in a position and received a salary, without any further pursuits.

I've heard people say of her:

"Can't she do that?"

"What can you do? After a few years, find someone to marry and it will be over. With her family's conditions, are you afraid that you won't be able to get married? You work hard, why worry about her young lady?"

"How should I put it, although it may sound like sour grapes, but the kind of life that can see the end at a glance is terrible."

"Tsk, there are too many people who want to live a life that can see the end at a glance. People are content and happy, but you still have to think about working overtime."

"Ah, that's right. I've been working overtime for three days this week, and I'm booked on Saturday."

"Don't worry, Zhou Tian can't keep it."

"It's going to kill me, I also want to watch dramas all day long."

"Come on, these dramas are so embarrassing to watch right now, why are you still chasing them? I haven't watched any drama for more than 10 minutes since last year."

"No, no, you can't be killed with one shot, I saw..."

The two of them walked into the elevator while talking, and I stood at the stairs, looking at the eldest lady who stood here earlier than me and was talked about by them, I didn't know what expression to make for a moment.

1471_ still need to be hard

The eldest lady smiled at me and said, "Don't you want to say something? You just wanted to say something when you came here, but I stopped you."

I just wanted to call you to remind them, because from my point of view, the person involved was listening to the commentator, and I, a passer-by, bumped into the scene accidentally, which is really embarrassing.

I said dryly: "They just talk. Everyone will talk about people behind their backs, and everyone will be talked about behind their backs... Uh, don't deduct their wages, everyone has worked hard."

The eldest lady nodded: "Yes, I have worked hard, and I am the only one who has the most leisure."

After she finished speaking, she left. I don't know if she meant that she didn't care, or that she was very angry.Will she cry to her family about her colleagues bullying her?Would it be unlucky for those two commentators to bump into each other?The key is whether I myself will be implicated?

But by then I was already bored with that job, so I just waited without doing anything.

As a result, the young lady still watched videos and pictures and chatted with people online every day; she talked about her colleagues still working overtime, and after complaining, she took the overtime pay and then reluctantly expressed her satisfaction; Go to the next company that looks pleasing to the eye.

Business as usual.

Later, after getting to know each other a little better, the eldest lady said to me: "They are right, I agree."

Me: "Which part is identification?"

Missy: "All agree, including the part that says 'this life is horrible'."

Me: "So, you also want to change?"

The eldest lady just laughed.

Not long after that, she resigned.Then another month later, news of her marriage came.

Although I'm not her, I don't know her true feelings, so I'm not qualified to comment, but I still think it's really scary.No matter how hard the backstage is, if you are soft, you can still live a terrible life, the feeling of powerlessness of being manipulated at will.

I hope I think too much, but I still take it as a precept in this life—I don’t need this precept in my previous life—a good backstage can save a lot of trouble, but no matter how good a backstage is, it can’t save effort.At least do it, when you don't want to do something, you don't have to do it.

Oh, it's not 'at least', it's my highest quest.I have been working hard towards it, and at this stage, I can achieve it.

1472_ Pointing, but not pointing fingers

In the world of comprehension, very few masters would teach apprentices hand in hand, most of them only guide the key points, and the rest of the time is basically free.This has nothing to do with being irresponsible, on the contrary, this is being responsible for the future of the disciples.Teach by hand, teach the apprentice exactly like the master, and the apprentice will be finished. In this situation, it is better to have no master.

In the final analysis, every monk's way is different. This is one of the most basic common sense or laws of cultivation, and no behavior can violate this major premise.

So far, many people have tried to copy other people's Dao, but either copying and duplicating and then copying and forming their own Dao; Or in the Foundation Establishment period, even those in the Golden Core period are rarely seen.

The most important test of whether a master is qualified and excellent is whether the master can accurately grasp the key points of the apprentice's cultivation.It is necessary to grasp it accurately, but not to interfere excessively; to guide the disciple, but not to point fingers; even when the master and the disciple have conflicts in the cultivation philosophy, as long as the disciple is not possessed by demons and other principled mistakes such as everyone shouting and beating, the master cannot force The apprentice listens to himself.

And if there is a mistake in principle, the master still cannot force it, but can only help the apprentice analyze why the path of evil spirits does not work.Because coercion is meaningless, even if the master can restrain the disciple's behavior, he cannot control the disciple's thought.If the apprentice cannot agree with his statement from the bottom of his heart, the master's power is meaningless.This is teaching apprentices, not taming slaves.

If the disciple can't listen to it, and the master can't shake the disciple's obsession with all means, then the master may give up and just say: "Evil demons are available to everyone, and I will do my best for it. "

It means that if you become a demon, I will kill you.

There are always some people who think that the way of evil spirits is right and a way.Those precedents of being planted on the road of evil spirits and stagnant cultivation, in some people's minds, are just imperfect cultivation techniques and some technical problems. They are all minor details, not principles.Because among the orthodox ways recognized by monks, examples prove that there are ways of killing, deception, betrayal, greed... These are also ways that the public rejects, but they are feasible and recognized.So, how can you say that the Tao that is criticized as evil now will not work in the future?

Just ask one question to these people: What exactly is the way of demons?

If this explanation is not clear, and it is argued that the "Tao" is complicated and hazy and cannot be described in detail, then we can ask the second question to those who claim to be firm in the way of demons: What are they firm in?Or, are they firm?