Xiu Erdai's daily essays

07452 - just schedule work

Brother: "Part of the reason why Pei Miao and I conceived late is that Dad put too much pressure on us."

Me: "Dad can really hear our conversation now."

Brother: "I said the same in person. If there is a problem with the birth of a single and double spiritual root, the master must bear part of the responsibility. Of course, the biggest problem must still be with the baby. But me and Pei Miao, especially Pei Miao , the delay in conceiving a baby at that time, the most obvious obstacle was pressure. Some of these pressures were voluntarily carried by us, and some came from outsiders. The sense of presence is very strong.”

Me: "Why didn't I feel this pressure?"

Brother: "Because you didn't feel it, Dad put more pressure on you, and then he used this pressure feeling on me and Pei Miao, forcing us to bottom out. You said you How troublesome."

Me: "Do you have any record of how Dad got along with senior brother before? It's the record of Dad pointing him out when it is said that senior senior brother's mentality is not very stable."

Brother: "I don't think the senior brother's mentality is too unstable. He may be a little confused sometimes, but he will be determined when he works. During that process, my father probably arranged some work for the senior brother. ? But for the matter of arranging work, the worker directly assigned by the father is actually the head, but the head has always been able to push and push the work, so many things eventually fell on the senior brother."

Brother: "So if you want to talk about advice, it should be that after seeing the content of the work, the master thinks that the senior brother can do it and it is beneficial for him to practice, so he transfers it to the senior brother. It is the teaching of the master to the apprentice, and it cannot be said to be true. Daddy will give advice to the elder brother? Anyway, even if the elder brother doesn’t accept those jobs, my father will definitely ask to see the work completed. If others can’t do it well, let the master do it himself.”

Me: "Father directly ordered the elder brother to take people to the Kunlun kicking hall."

Elder brother: "That's what Shizu asked Dad to handle, otherwise the matter should be transferred to the debt collection office. Shizu thinks that the elder brother, the person involved, can handle it by himself. If the situation is handled by the debt collection office staff, it may not be better. The senior brother will recover more debts by himself, and it will make the senior brother lose one training opportunity. Maybe this little opportunity will become the demon of the senior brother, so the master arranged for the old man to persuade the senior brother to do it himself. gone."

Brother: "As for why the master arranged for my father to persuade him instead of saying it himself, you have to ask the master. However, the master may not give any legitimate reason, anyway, it is very common for the master to instruct the apprentice to do things. unreasonable."

Brother: "And Dad's persuasion will definitely not be soft comforting. He directly assigned this matter as a task. It seems that the elder brother quite likes Dad's way of comforting directly to the point without saying polite words of."

07453 - Cub Status

I would also like.How real.Empty words to comfort the symptoms, not the root cause.When you have the strength to solve the matter, you should do it first, and then talk about whether you want to talk about it.

Me: "Senior brother is called Dad's half-disciple, is this saying widely spread?"

It is difficult for me to judge whether a statement has been widely circulated, because with the amount of information I have collected, I can at best count how many times a statement was mentioned on which occasions, in what time period, and by which type of people, but this is not true. As a basis for judging whether it is extensive or not.Especially those with a lot of hacks like the big brother, it may be that a few people's intensive screen swiping and some people were led by the screen swiping, resulting in a hot discussion effect for a period of time, no matter how many times this situation is mentioned Second, it seems to be very lively, and its recognition is very limited.

Loud voice doesn't mean it can penetrate people's hearts.I want to know the thoughts of those who are silent.

However, the elder brother could not give a conclusion, he only said: "There is such a saying, but it should not be considered widespread. Things related to the father, except for the birth of a child, are not widely spread."

Pei Bing criticized me by focusing on another point: "Speaking words can't satisfy you anymore?"

Mao Qiu: "The stronger the consciousness, the easier it is to see through people's inner thoughts?"

Pei Yue: "However, the stronger you are, the less likely you are to return to the status of a child who is supposed to be taken care of."

As long as you start to leave, no matter how strong you are, you won't be able to go back.The retreat and weakness of the cubs will make the adults feel pity, and the adults will only be trampled by other adults if they change from strong to weak.

The cubs are pampered only to give the cubs ample opportunity to bring out their potential, to see if they can lead the whole group to become stronger; and when the cubs are over, the potential has turned into actual ability, and the unknown expected value is lost. It also loses the need to be treated with tolerance.

Wait a minute, Pei Wei Lingbao said that my cultivation ceiling has not yet been formed, which means that my potential has not been fully realized, that is, I still have unknown and expected value.

Pei Jianzhuo smiled and said, "Yes, that is, you can continue to forcibly rely on the cub group."

In fact, there is a compromise, I can be considered an adult by most people, while continuing to be a cub in the hearts of a small number of people.Isn’t there a saying that children will always be children in the hearts of parents?

Pei Kong: "You... can you explain why you insist on clinging to the identity of a child? Just to get more tolerance? But don't you always like fair trade? While gaining the protection of Elder Pei Ji, you I have always hoped that you have brought equivalent benefits to Elder Pei Ji."

Pei Kong: "What can the position of a child bring you? Even if the whole world thinks you are an adult, no one will stop you if you want to play, right? Elder Yi Ruo is still playing with the juniors, Guanghe Elders are disrespectful when others scold them, but at the same time, they will not say that he should not be like this. The group of monks has always been unscrupulous, as long as they want to do it, as long as their cultivation level is high enough, they can do it in any capacity. anything?"

07454 - fear

Pei Kong: "Is my understanding correct? Or because I don't have spiritual power, so as a bystander, my understanding is biased?"

Hmm...it should be right, it makes sense.

Pei Kong: "So?"

Just not used to it.Or... the fear of change.After rational analysis, I know that a small identity change will not affect me to do what I want to do, but I am afraid that there is a coercion hidden in this change that I did not expect now.

Even though I know that I was not given this identity first and then asked to do the things corresponding to this identity, but I did what this identity should do first, and then I was positioned under this identity.I know that I was called a new identity after I had undergone a sufficient transformation. Except for the change of name, everything else is just a continuation of the present without any coercion, but...

Still be afraid.

It is fear.

I want to talk to Elder Huigu again about fear and fear.But now I can clearly realize that Elder Huigu will definitely not answer all my questions.It's not the previous confused feeling of "Elder Huigu didn't answer because she annoyed me, but if I happen to meet her in a particularly good mood, or I happen to be carrying something she is interested in, maybe she can give me a few words" , but 'I can't get the benefit she needs, so she won't give me the benefit for nothing'.

'What she's interested in' and 'keep a good mood after seeing me' are actually equal to 'the interests she is willing to have'.The two kinds of sayings are the same thing, but the expression is changed, which seems to be a lot colder, which makes me uncomfortable.But the problem is, I'm sure I prefer the clear exchange of interests, rather than the special care in the name of false feelings.

I hesitated to contact the elder brother and asked him: "Can I still get preferential treatment from you without deliberately explaining the exchange of benefits?"

Big brother: "There is an exchange of benefits, as long as you don't say it outright?"

Me: "If I ask you to be straightforward, will you explain to me in detail the benefits you get from me and the benefits you give me?"

Big brother: "If the explanation can bring new benefits, that's fine. But in general, even if the act of explaining can bring benefits, you only need to explain a few key points, or you only need to put forward one point to delay the explanation, almost There is no need for a comprehensive, detailed and precise comprehensive explanation."

07455-Grasp the key points of the event

Me: "I'm terrified that I'm being treated like an adult creature."

Big brother: "After you really step in, you should find that all your worries are easy to solve."

Me: "Is 'exists but easy to fix' instead of 'doesn't exist'?"

Big brother: "When you worry, it exists. Your worry itself is part of this existence."

Me: "I find that words are very valuable. The same content, some words just make it easier for me to accept."

Big brother: "Part of the reason is that you listen too much and do too little. When you do enough and focus on the 'thing', any 'saying' related to this matter will be lost. All will automatically transform into the extension of your understanding of this matter in your consciousness, and become the decoration of this 'thing', but cannot shake the thing itself."

Senior brother: "If you use one language to analyze another, assuming that the two words do not contain other powers, but just a contest between the words themselves, then the two are at the same level, and there is no distinction between them. You can decide the winner or loser of the two based on your preferences and cognition.”

Big brother: "But if there is an 'event' as the basis, then the event will replace you as the referee, and you can take a step away from being involved in the speech, always with the 'event' filter, stripping the essence of the speech Interfering items, restore the relatively fixed authenticity.”

Big brother: "In battle, the magnitude of 'facts' is higher than that of 'speech modifiers'. Speech skills can defeat facts in a roundabout way, but the ceiling of the achievement of speech skills is far lower than facts. If words and facts are not opposed , Choose to cooperate, the upper limit... can have no upper limit, and the world can be achieved."

Me: "You are in a crooked building."

Big brother: "Has the sense of fear subsided?"

Me: "It subsided."

Big brother: "That's not wrong. I grasp the 'key points of the event', not the superficial semantics. As long as the core topic is not ignored, then no matter how the superficial language seems to deviate, it will eventually be summarized to the core."