Xiu Erdai's daily essays

07152 - Yes, but not necessary

When we can't find everything, we need to learn to choose.Some people can come and go very close, some need to be very far away; some need to be separated by five meters, and some need to be separated by two meters.If the actual distance is greater than the optimal distance, it is a waste of the fate of meeting, and if the actual distance is less than the optimal distance, it is to destroy the fate. Only when the distance is just right, can the fate be brought into full play.

If I fall in love with the elder brother, we will definitely break up in a few years at most.Assuming that the proper distance between me and my elder brother is three meters now, then the distance during the relationship is one meter, and after breaking up, the distance will be increased to ten meters.In other words, after the breakup, the cooperation between me and the elder brother will inevitably be much weaker than it is now, and the benefits that can be created will drop sharply.

It is not worthwhile to exchange a few years for a thousand years of distance.The life of a monk is long, and the short-term goods of love are just a waste of time.The duration of this feeling of being in love is very short. The seven-year itch and love turning into a family relationship are commonplace. It is extremely difficult for ordinary people to find love that can last a lifetime even with a [-]-year lifespan. But people who break up and become enemies can find it every day. Not to mention how much love is the reason for murder in homicides.

Falling in love does not create much benefit, and it is easy to hurt the body, heart, money and face. If it is not very necessary—such as the cultivation of the old age line—it is better not to get involved lightly.

Besides, if I fall in love with the elder brother, what will happen, let number two simulate it to know.He's still busy with work and I'm busy with play, and what's most comfortable for both of us is still the same as it is now.And if you have to do some things that couples must do, such as kissing and hugging, you can do it, but it seems unnecessary.

I don't know what the elder brother thinks, but I don't desire to have intimate physical contact with anyone.Although sometimes I think about whether 'sex' is necessary in my practice, I never think about whether touching such as kissing and hugging is necessary, because I know that it is definitely not necessary.I don't need to rely on physical contact to get satisfaction or pleasure. Facing the person I like, I can be satisfied with words, facial expressions and other remote communication. If I get closer, I will be defensive.For example, in a hug, I can't help but imagine the scene where the other party goes around my back and stabs me.

Even in the face of the father I absolutely trust, if he suddenly touches me when there is no objective need, I will first have a subconscious resistance reaction. This is a conditioned reflex established by long-term defense training. To live, I have to give me a little time to prepare, that is, to remind me first that I am about to touch it.But when a pair of lovers get along, say "I want to hug you, please prepare" before hugging, and the atmosphere will be gone.

Therefore, love is not popular in the realm of comprehension. They are either friends with guns or couples. The former is to seek pleasure and practice after being ready, while the latter is to integrate into one, regardless of each other, and become the internal existence of each other's defense system. Will no longer be repelled by the opponent's defense.Those who can't fall in love, besides simply using this as a way to practice, are really so weak that monks don't bother to touch it.

07153 - Likes real things

Pei Jianzhuo: "It's either one or zero, there is no fraction."

Xiao Ke: "It's either all or none, so why can friendship be deep or shallow?"

Probably because friendship has no obligations.If you are willing to communicate more, go deeper, if you don't want to go shallower, or from shallow to deep or from deep to shallow, without any sense of restraint.

Some people in the mortal world may say "Since we are friends, we should...", but there is almost no such reference in the cultivation world. If someone asks for help unilaterally by a guy who is a friend, then he will probably reply directly " We're not friends now, we're not friends anymore."

A monk's self-centered consciousness is engraved in his bones. A slightly decent monk will recognize the selfishness of others while being selfish.In other words, while monks do not easily help others, they also accept that others do not easily help themselves.By default, no one needs to be selfless, as long as there is an exchange of interests.

Even with the relatively common mutual help among sects, on the one hand, it depends on the ethos of the sect, and there are sects that are proud of cannibalism. To be your own powerful backing is fundamentally for yourself.

This kind of selfishness may seem indifferent, but statistics from the comprehension world reveal that such universally enforced selfishness did not disintegrate the comprehension world, nor did it cause serious turmoil, because when a rule is implemented for a long time, it will inevitably Will gradually find a way to balance and continue.

What kind of selfishness can only obtain short-term small profits, and will bring big disasters in a short time, will be eliminated; what kind of selfishness can promote a win-win situation for all parties, and have no negative effects, will be retained and optimized.Constantly improve the rules over time, and in the end, selfishness can also achieve righteousness.

Selfishness and wanting to live a good life are an innate instinct of a creature. It is not a mistake at all, and it does not need to be criticized and defeated.There is no need to force selflessness, you just need to establish rules for selfishness, distinguish between small gains and big gains, realize that there is better than good, know that proper sacrifice of small gains can be exchanged for big gains, and then selfishness can be beneficial and harmless.

For yourself, and helping others, there is no contradiction.

Xiao Ke: "Actually, there is no friendship, right? No family or fellowship? It's all just interests?"

So to speak.Consistent interests are friends and partners, and conflicting interests are enemies.Feelings are too ethereal, monks like real things.It seems indifferent, but I feel quite comfortable.Anyway, the idea of ​​moral kidnapping is definitely not easy to use in the cultivation world. Even if someone will mention it, it will not be successful.

Xiao Ke: "Very good, I like it too."

07154 - Be proactive

Pei Jianzhuo: "You don't need to distinguish between emotional attributes, as long as you do what you like."

Yes, I like to play with the elder brother. If we find out that our Tao has merged in the future, we will become a Taoist couple. If the Tao has always been independent of each other, we will be friends with a good relationship.

The big brother often opens a little back door for me, and often uses me to set him up; I borrow the brain of the big brother from time to time, and share interesting things with him from time to time.It doesn't matter what kind of relationship these are, as long as we both find a way of being together that we both feel comfortable with, that we're both better off working together than apart, that's it.

Less definition of your own behavior can reduce some redundant constraints.It's not "it defines what kind of relationship we are, so we should get along with it according to the definition", but "we do it anyway, what kind of relationship others want to use to set our model, and they think that any relationship can't match us, let others Headaches go, don't affect us'.

Do what you love and be who you feel comfortable with.

When I arrived at the Spirit Fish Breeding Area of ​​Yushou Peak, I received a warm welcome without any surprise.

"Second Young Master is finally out?"

"You're out of customs, aren't you drifting around in a sleepy mess?"

"Are you here to eat fish? Come here, these are the best. Although the ones over there are more delicious, they have already been reserved and cannot be sold to you."

"Did the fish you raised yourself be eaten up? You can't do this when raising spirit fish. The key point of spirit fish is to raise them. The longer you keep them, the more delicious they will be. You have to keep a few for a lifetime."

"Don't expect to practice that kind of limit theory. There are many people who want to keep the limit beautiful ice flame stone. How many people can really keep it?"

"Today there are fish to eat today."

Before I could even open my mouth, they had already prepared the fish rings they were going to sell to me, and they were just waiting for my payment.

Seeing that I didn't pay for it, they were still puzzled: "You should put your fish directly in your Lingbao space, don't you need to put something else?"

The first batch of spirit fish in Xiaosui Space was also actively sold to me in this way. At that time, I came here just to see what the classic delicacy looks like alive—I ate it when I was dead—not yet. I plan to raise it myself.

07155-Spiritual food

This time, although the spirit fish in Xiaosuili are actually better - this thing has a strong reproductive ability, and the main food in Xiaosuili, Pei Bing, prefers Tongming fruit and doesn't particularly like spirit fish. He only eats one in two or three days. , so the consumption is not big-but I thought I could compare the official professional breeding products of Yunxiazong with the casual breeding works of me, a layman, so I bought them according to their wishes.

After I bought it, I was in a daze: They are so active in selling, could it be that they can't sell it?

Not really, the taste is okay.

I inquired about their sales.

Fish farming disciple: "It's always been like that. There must be profits, but it has never been prosperous. It's just a kind of food rich in spiritual energy. Lingmi, Lingquan water, and various spirit fruits are all the same."

Me: "The effect of using these foods to replenish aura is much milder than that of inhaling spirit stones?"

"Yeah, the speed of replenishment is also very slow, and it is not convenient to store. These things need to be alive or fresh to have sufficient aura. After they are dead or the parts are separated from the main body, the aura will dissipate for a long time. Many low-level storage Objects and utensils can't stop this kind of escape, only high-level things such as storage artifacts that can support animals, portable plantations, etc. can be stored for a long time."

"In terms of portability, it is far worse than Lingshi."

"Spiritual stones are just as gentle if they are inhaled slowly. When using spiritual stones, it is because there is an opportunity to quickly absorb a large amount of spiritual energy, so it will cause a great physical burden on the user, and the amount of spiritual food consumed is because the spiritual energy exceeds the user's capacity. Before the upper limit, the eater will feel full and full, so the eater will not be easily hurt by the spiritual energy in the spiritual food."

"If you don't eat it and only absorb the spiritual energy in the spiritual food, it may not be digested in time like a spiritual stone, and your meridians will be injured."

"The spiritual energy in the spiritual food is too scattered, and it is not easy to absorb it in a targeted manner. When eating and digesting, the spiritual energy continues to escape. If you want to recharge your energy, it is really not suitable to use spiritual food. It is suitable for daily maintenance and delicious taste."

"Food with ample spiritual energy is really delicious. Even if the spiritual energy dissipates quickly, it still has a lingering fragrance in the mouth. It's not as boring as absorbing spiritual stones."

Me: "Spiritual Food, Lingshi, and Snacks, these three words have the same pronunciation, and they are all commonly used, so it is too easy to confuse them."

"Cultivators don't have ambiguity, right? When we listen to people, we don't just listen to the sound, but also feel the semantics of the speaker. We don't confuse food, stones and leisure."