Xiu Erdai's daily essays

06892 - desire to control

Suddenly, I feel that the master's desire to control is not overwhelmed.Eldest brother doesn't care about the private small treasury of the disciples. If there is a disciple who can maintain his private treasury comparable to the Yunxia Sect's warehouse without harming the interests of the Yunxia Sect and the Yunxia Sect's disciples, then it is the disciple's ability. Encourage it to continue to develop, and you can also consider hiring it to participate in the official money-making work of Yunxiazong.

——It is to participate in the official money-making projects, not to let the disciples merge their own money-making projects into the official.Disciple’s own projects can also cooperate with the official. For example, I borrowed the official sales channel of Yunxiazong for the sale of my Tongmingguo, but Tongmingguo is essentially my product, not Yunxiazong’s product. The Yunxiazong official is only selling it.

When selling through the same channel, outsiders may confuse Yunxiazong products with Yunxiazong disciple products, but Yunxiazong officials will definitely not confuse them, as evidenced by the distribution of sales revenue.

The elder brother will not require the staff of all departments to follow the rules when working, he allows the staff to be emotional to a certain extent.

As for things other than work, the elder brother has always adopted a laissez-faire attitude.

Except for the bottom line rule of 'harming Yunxiazong' which cannot be shaken, other things are negotiable in the eyes of the senior brother.At best, the big brother's control freak behavior makes the relevant people feel that they have suffered a disadvantage and want to scold him, but it rarely makes people feel that they are restrained by the big brother.The so-called control of the big brother is a matter of interests, not a personal problem.

I sighed to Ke Yuanjin: "Your parents' desire to control is a bit scary." If I was born in Ke's family, I might have fallen out with my elders long ago.

Even if I can't fight against the family alone, I still have to find a sect to enter.Even if I can't get into my favorite sect, I will first find a random sect that accepts me and takes care of my disciples easily, and keep a distance from the Ke family first.The Ke family is at the bottom of the third-rate sect. As long as I can enter the second-rate sect or a third-rate sect with more than two golden elixir stages, the Ke family can't control me.

Ke Yuanjin: "The family's total resources are limited, so the elders hope to centralize and make overall arrangements to maximize the effect. I don't object to this management method, and it doesn't matter whether I have pocket money, but I hope to be my I have the opportunity to choose when I choose not to consume additional resources and I can accept the negative consequences of the choice."

Ke Yuanjin: "Don't have to go through countless quarrels or even hurt each other every time to get a little compromise. I hope to skip the process of those struggles and directly get approval after one or two confirmations after putting forward an idea."

Ke Yuanjin: "I'm really fed up with quarreling."

06893 - outside and inside

Me: "When I chatted with Fellow Daoist Ke Fanyi, I thought he was quite reasonable. Fellow Daoist Ke Fanyi is currently the highest cultivation level of the Ke family. I thought his style... at least partly represented the Ke family. current style?"

Ke Yuanjin: "Our Jindan patriarch has always been kind and friendly when dealing with outsiders, but when he gets along with his family, he hopes that the family will only obey. He doesn't like to hear objections after he finishes speaking, and he doesn't like Hearing meaningless echoes, we don't have to speak when he's finished, we just need to execute."

Me: "Is it such an arbitrariness? Is good communication when dealing with outsiders just a disguise? I don't think so. I feel that when I objected to what Fellow Daoist Ke Fanyi said, he thought it through very seriously, and then Expressing his views in a discussion tone does not force me to agree with him, but respects the differences in ideas between different people."

Ke Yuanjin: "Outsiders have nothing to do with him. He can be polite. Anyway, outsiders basically don't affect his resources. But the family is the link for him to make full use of the resources he can control. He must work together and work together. If it is not neat, it will cause waste of resources. He especially hates waste."

Me: "This is not a question of not wasting... No matter what, there are so many individuals in a family, it is impossible for all of them to have the same idea. This person exerts force in the direction due east, and that person exerts force in the direction of twelve degrees east and north. Although it will cause some forces to cancel each other, as long as the main body is in the same direction and can form a resultant force, is it enough for daily life?"

Me: "Daily life is not to the point where you can't tolerate any mistakes, right? It's not wartime."

Ke Yuanjin: "The ancestor of our family said that the Ke family has reached the time of life and death. Before the next golden core stage appears, it will be a time of war, and there must be no slack in the interior."

Me: "Unless you practice the way of urgency and pressure, the Jindan thing can come out if you don't relax, right?"

Ke Yuanjin: "It's better than eating, drinking and having fun every day to raise a golden pill."

I asked other juniors of the Ke family.They don't agree with the family's centralized resource allocation method as much as Ke Yuanjin, and they are tired of excessive pressure, but they also think that what the elders ask is not wrong, it just makes their lives uncomfortable.

Ke Shicuo, who is 15 years older than Ke Yuanjin, is a five-spiritual root. He said: "My spiritual root, even if I practice without slack for a moment, if there are no adventures, it will be the future of the foundation-building period. , then it can only go to the Qi training period. I can accept that I will only be in the Qi training period for the rest of my life, and I hope that the elders can also accept this, and it is best to accept the possibility that the Ke family will fall to the level of not being popular in the future."

06894 - There must be pressure

Ke Shicuo: "Is it difficult to admit that one's family has fallen? Is it necessary to pursue at all costs the golden elixir stage, preferably the Nascent Soul stage? Yuanjin is a dual spiritual root. As long as it doesn't die young, the golden elixir stage is ready. Before Yuanjin was born, the elders who were only afraid that there would be no next Golden Core stage should be satisfied after seeing Yuanjin? They don’t, they greedily want Yuanjin to enter the Nascent Soul, and it’s best to be able to transform into a god. Anyway. It is to push out all the potential of everyone and rush to the extreme."

Ke Shicuo: "I was born with the burden of the rise and fall of the family, and no matter how far they have achieved, the elders feel that Yuanjin can do better. They will never be satisfied, and will always adapt to a certain level in Yuanjin. Pressure after pressure adds another round of pressure to her, there is no end."

I asked Ke Fanyi what he hoped to achieve with the younger generation.

Ke Fanyi: "Let them take their hearts back to the family, and don't get distracted by other irrelevant things."

Me: "But as long as someone in the family does a lot of things, it can be regarded as establishing a relationship with the family, and what used to be irrelevant becomes related."

Ke Fanyi: "Fellow Daoist Pei Lin, you and I can discuss the Dao, and we can talk about the Dao, but our Ke family has broken away from the stage of theoretical discussion. The same set of exercises practiced by the whole family means that we are the same. We need to let our roots grow strong plants as much as possible, and we need to use actions to water and fertilize our plants. All we need are actions, not empty words.”

Me: "Work and rest need to be combined. Stretching yourself and your family too hard can be... counterproductive."

Ke Fanyi: "I am the person who knows the Ke family best. The Ke family is not afraid of pressure, but once there is no pressure, they will relax too much. If I don't put pressure on the juniors, they will immediately abandon their cultivation. Basic sword moves Stop practicing, stop reading theoretical books, and don’t even bother to use spiritual power every day.”

Ke Fanyi: "If we don't force Yuanjin to take the alchemy path, she won't learn elixir, and she won't spend time on the sword cultivation path. It's because we don't like her to become a sword cultivator, she insists on Squeeze time out of Danxiu training to learn sword training courses. Once the time is not needed, she won't spend time doing anything serious."

Ke Fanyi: "The Ke family will either be forced or forced. If they neither bear the pressure nor give people pressure, they will collapse immediately."

Me: "...there are quite a few sects in the cultivation world that focus on self-torture and mutual torture."

Ke Fanyi: "A large part of cultivation is the truth of human nature. Naturally, it is necessary to constantly challenge the limits of all aspects of human nature, including pleasant and unpleasant. Some sects have different ways but can be understood each other, while others Differences make both parties feel that the other is unreasonable."

06895-Inquire

Ke Fanyi: "Tao of the same road, Tao of different roads, Tao of all directions. You like the Tao that I like, you like the Tao that I don't like, you don't like the Tao that I like, and I don't like the Tao that you don't like. The Dao, all kinds, exist.”

I asked Pei Jianzhuo: "Do you think Ke Fanyi is telling me to 'shut up and go away, the Ke family's internal affairs don't need outsiders to dictate'?"

Pei Jianzhuo: "You can't control the internal affairs of the Ke family. Even if you did say a lot about the internal affairs of the Ke family, Ke Fanyi's most tolerant reaction is just to discuss with you, and will never be because of your few words." Words will change the Ke family's internal management model."

Pei Jianzhuo: "The juniors in their family didn't feel that this management model was wrong. They just wanted to steal something easy."

I asked Bao to buy information about Ke Fanyi when he was young, especially his mentality when he faced Ke's elders.

Bao asked Zhang Feng: "Mentality? The mentality of Jin Danqi of a third-rate sect-level cultivation family when he was a junior in his family? If you ask my master about his mentality before he became an elder, he himself can't tell clearly."

Zhang Feng: "That friend Ke Fanyi seems to have never been the core figure of breaking news, that is to say, we have not interviewed him carefully before, and we have not kept detailed records of his past. If we want his past information, we can only Going to inquire now, and when the current information tells the past events, it will inevitably wear the current filter, which is not the truth of the past."

Zhang Feng: "For example, I wrote a report last month. Now you ask me to tell me how I felt when I wrote the report. I will express a lot of regrets, and I can only rate my satisfaction at [-]%. I have the impression that when I just finished writing, I felt that I had written a breaking point of news, at least [-] points."

Zhang Feng: "That is to say, the score for directly describing the mood at that time is [-] points, and the mood at that time is [-] points from the current point of view. When expressing to you, the combination of the two may tell you that it is [-] points. "

Zhang Feng: "Mentality is a very ethereal thing to describe. Do you have an objective direction for information needs? For example, Ke Fanyi had a few love affairs when he was young."

Me: "What love do you care about? It's not the old age line."

Zhang Feng: "Everywhere, what the public cares about is what we care about. Sexy news has always attracted attention. Unscrupulous love is particularly attractive."