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?Chapter 10 The Earthly World

Aunt Fu took a look at Yun En in a blink of an eye, and saw that he was also looking around with his big watery eyes looking around at the surrounding environment. She had to sigh for a moment, this child's eyes are really good.

But then she thought that Xu Zhenhua suddenly brought such a child by her side, and he was not married yet, so she had to worry about Xu Zhenhua.

Concerned, "Zhenhua, raising a child is no ordinary thing. You say he is your friend's child. If you bring his child out like this, is he willing to be a father?"

Xu Zhenhua paused for a moment because of her words, probably because he remembered what it was like to bring Yunen out of the Du family back then.

Then he slowly replied in a deep voice, "His father is unwilling, but there is no other way. The wife at home is about to have a baby, and he can't take care of it, so he entrusted it to me."

When Aunt Fu heard what he said, she immediately understood.

Who would have thought that the situation at home would be so difficult and complicated for this young child.

Then he went to look at the child's facial features again, and felt that he was somewhat familiar in a trance. Remembering that Xu Zhenhua said his surname was Yun, he immediately said, "Is this the child of Miss Tan's family? The second young lady is very attractive, delicate and moist, looking at her, she looks a bit like the Tan family."

Seeing that Mrs. Fu recognized Tan Li's child, Xu Zhenhua nodded and said "yes" without hiding it.

Aunt Fu was even more surprised, but this time she was able to connect the entire background story about Yun En.

Yun En looked around with his big black eyes. He was very interested in a group of friends outside playing games with big white geese and big cats. Aunt Fu saw the envy in his eyes and asked him, "Do you want to go out?" Playing with the children? It's okay, my children are very obedient and sensible, they don't bully others, but if you bully others here, you will be beaten, if you want to go out to play with them, I will lead you out to meet them. "

Children are afraid of being rejected and bullied, Aunt Fu knows that, so the relatives and children who play with her are not allowed to be bullied or beaten.

Seeing the kind and generous grandma in front of him talking to him, Yun En quickly withdrew his eyes and stared at Xu Zhenhua.

As if embarrassed, or as if he felt a little embarrassed by showing his greedy look, he stared at Xu Zhenhua timidly, the clear eyes honestly reflected his inner feelings, Xu Zhenhua saw his innocent appearance , just laugh.

Unknowingly, he has started to develop the habit of asking Xu Zhenhua's opinion, just like ordinary children will first ask their parents for their opinion when they don't know if it can be done.

He didn't notice this himself, but Xu Zhenhua caught it keenly.

He smiled fondly and stroked the soft hair on Yun En's head, and asked him, "Auntie asked if you would like to go out and play with the children? I want to chat with Auntie here. You don't think it's fun by yourself. Just go out and play with the little friends in the yard, okay? The kids here are very friendly, they won't bully you."

Xu Zhenhua knew that Yun En seemed to be well-behaved and calm, but he actually felt very insecure inside.

From the days he'd spent with him, he knew where the most turbulent part of him was.

He has never been cherished and treated by others since he was a child, and the little beast in his heart is panicked and sensitive.

But it was because he was too young to deal with this part of the problem, so he could only show it through a pair of innocent dark eyes.

Xu Zhenhua can understand his fear and anxiety, and he is willing to treat Yun En well, so that he knows how to heal him, so that the hurt and anxiety he suffered in the past will disappear.

He asked Yun En if he would go out to play with his friends, and he assured him that he would not be bullied. Yun En was used to being bullied at Du's house before, so he didn't think well of himself in his heart high.

If a person is insulted for a long time, he will become obsequious over time, and will only become a obsequious person in the future.

Because the world around them has been hurting them, making them unable to look up and see their own value.They can only gain some self-esteem and be loved by constantly pleasing those around them.

Xu Zhenhua is well aware of the principle of "resoluteness without hostility, affectionateness without temptation", he does not want Yun En to be a cowardly and angry person, and he is willing to let him do things deliberately to seduce and please others in order to gain others' love. Things come out.

He will give Yunen many things equally, including self-esteem, happiness, self-recognition, and self-realization.

He wants to give Yun En everything he thinks is good, but not with the purpose of seducing.

When Yun En asked him for help when he was helpless and unsure of himself, he was happy to be his support.

Seeing that Yun En was still a little uncertain after hearing what he said, he waved to a little boy at the door who had been lying on his stomach looking into the room, telling him to come over.

Then he entrusted Yun En to him and asked, "What's your name?"

The boy answered obediently, "Li Ziqi."

Xu Zhenhua asked again, "How old are you?"

Li Ziqi said, "Seven years old."

Xu Zhenhua, "Here is a brother who is younger than you. He wants to play with you. You can take him out to see if it's okay. He just came here and is not familiar with the surroundings. You take him out as an older brother. Don't bully him. Take care of him." Okay, I will take him back to my aunt for lunch later."

Li Ziqi looked down at Yun En who was sitting on the sofa, and felt that he looked like a younger sister, but he was indeed a younger brother because of his body. He was small but quite masculine. He patted his chest and said, "We are here No one bullies anyone, and I will beat them if they bully them, he follows me and no one dares to bully him, I am the boss among them, and they all listen to me."

They were of course the group of children he was talking about. Xu Zhenhua didn't expect that he was still a king of children.

Mrs. Fu and he both laughed because of his childish words.

But Xu Zhenhua understands that young boys have such a plot to want to be the boss, he said with a smile, "Well, I will entrust this younger brother to you boss, you take him out to play, don't let him fall into the river I’m not allowed to let him fall from the tree, I asked him if he was bullied at lunch, if you can’t do what you say, then you don’t deserve to be the boss.”

Xu Zhenhua looked at a serious and powerful person, but he and the child got along very well.

He likes the innocence and innocence of children, and respects their innocence and happiness, so when he and Yun En are together, the conversations between them are equal.

He does not suppress him as an elder, and Yun En is not afraid of his pressure as an elder.

When Yunen heard that Xu Zhenhua asked the little boy to take him to play, he was a little reluctant at first, but seeing Xu Zhenhua kept encouraging him, he smiled and said to him that it was okay, it would be good to go out and see the outside world.

After thinking about it, he listened to Xu Zhenhua's words, and then followed the thin, dark boy.

The little boy immediately called out a large group of children to introduce the new Yun En to them.

When Mrs. Fu saw a group of children in the house, they were chattering like a litter of chicks. She didn't think it was noisy, but felt that such a life would have a sense of life.

After Yun En left, Aunt Fu and Xu Zhenhua remembered many things about when she was a servant in Xu's family.

The two adults chatted about the past, and it was the season when magnolias, gardenias, impatiens, and acacias were in full bloom.

A large group of children were playing with the poultry under the vine trellis in the yard. Xu Zhenhua didn't care about Yun En, but remembered many things at home in the past.

Because when Mrs. Fu was working in Xu's family, she knew Mrs. Tan's family in the same yard.

Because she can cook and do some hand-knitting work very neatly, the wife of the Tan family has always envied Mrs. Xu's good luck when she saw such servants of the Xu family several times.

She would often come over to learn some cooking skills from Mrs. Fu, or some knitting tricks, so that she can make them for her children and husbands when she goes back home.

It's just a pity that Xu Zhenhua's mother is not a person who likes to do housework and take care of her family. She has studied abroad and is deeply influenced by the thoughts of trendy women, so she also has a somewhat feminist way of doing things at home. She firmly believes that A woman is not an accessory of a man. She does not do housework, does not cook and take care of the children, but is busy doing her own things, playing her own piano, and dancing her own dance.

She doesn't like to go to the wives and wives in the same yard to play cards, unless it is an unavoidable official communication, she will reluctantly show up. Therefore, Mrs. Xu is not an easy lady to get along with in the family compound .

But the wife of the Tan family is very enthusiastic and often comes to the Xu family to sit and sit.

The two families live very close, door to door, and they are families of equal rank in the same courtyard. Naturally, this is conducive to the communication between the parents of both parties.

At that time, Xu Zhenhua was handsome and handsome. Although he was not as tall and powerful as his elder brother, he had already quietly attracted many young ladies in the yard to secretly love him.

Every time Mrs. Tan's family came to talk, she couldn't help but say, "I think your Yuzheng is really a very talented person. I think he is a good match for our Xiaoli. It's not as good as our two families living close to each other. How, here is kissing and kissing, which is very good."

But Mrs. Xu was unmoved, and didn't think much of this little son in her heart.

It is clear that Xu Zhenhua is also a child who came out of her belly like the big brother and big sister, but Mrs. Xu just doesn't like this son very much. She thinks he is taciturn, introverted and resolute, and his father who only knows how to drink tea and appreciate articles all day long Same useless.

So she said, "I like your Xiaoli very much, but she can't match our third child. If she wants to match, she can match our boss. Look at how suave and suave our Junze is. A few days ago, the deputy prime minister My aunt came over for tea and said she wanted to introduce him to the vice premier’s niece. I thought it was inconvenient for him to think about these things while he was still studying, so I pushed him away. My aunt was still reluctant to part with her when she left. Your Xiaoli Ah, marrying the boss of our family is definitely right."

The Xu family has three children, the eldest is Xu Menghui, the second is Xu Qinze, and the last and youngest is Xu Zhenhua.

Xu Zhenhua's childhood name was chosen by his father as Yuzheng, which meant that he would be able to be a righteous man who would serve the country in the future.

Eldest brother Xu Menghui was named Junze, and second sister Xu Qinze was named Ruxia, but they chose a word that sounds nice and sounds pleasant to the ear, without any specific and practical meaning.

But when his father saw Xu Zhenhua like this, he didn't like him at all in the eyes of his mother.

Mrs. Xu didn't know why she couldn't get used to this kid. If you say that he looks first-class, he inherited his mother's beauty and his father's handsomeness. He is a very good seedling.

But Mrs. Xu just doesn't like him very much, she did when she was a child, and even more when she grows up.

This is probably because when his mother was pregnant with him, General Xu fell in love with his cousin Yuan Qingwei, who had returned from studying in Germany. Mrs. Xu couldn't swallow this breath, and she couldn't have a good impression of Xu Zhenhua until he was born.

Xu Zhenhua's birth seemed to indicate that the harmonious and beautiful atmosphere of their family had been broken.

Yuan Qingwei returned from his studies and worked as a secretary at the S United University. General Xu insisted on staying with his cousin despite his family's obstruction.

Mrs. Xu hated them and the Yuan family so much that a mouthful of blood stuck in her heart.

As a result, Xu Zhenhua has not been favored by his family's elder brothers and mother since he was born.

Aunt Fu has been in Xu's family for many years, and she is considered the oldest group of old servants. Of course, she knows all kinds of details before Xu Zhenhua was born.

She knew the wife of the Tan family, and she often heard her and Mrs. Xu talk about their children's education and marriage, but every time Xu Zhenhua was mentioned, she obviously didn't want to talk about it.

Aunt Fu knew this very well, and felt a lot of emotion for Xu Zhenhua in her heart.

They are all children from the same mother, but they are treated differently, but they are treated so differently, which makes Mrs. Fu, who is also a mother herself, sigh with emotion.

Because of this, she took care of several children at home, and she always had more selfishness towards the little son Xu Zhenhua.

She knew that Mrs. Tan later said that she wanted to ration the second miss to Xu Zhenhua, which was also a tobacco control. The second miss Tan was slim and charming, but she didn't like any man in the Xu family at all. She somehow had the lowest status in the yard. A boy from the husband's family of a logistics guy fell in love, and was caught by his family and beat him up, but in the end they did not expect that the two would still get married.

But those things happened after she left the Xu family.

Before the Xu family was defeated, Mrs. Xu left the inland in a panic after receiving the news, and rushed to the United States with her two children, a boy and a girl. However, General Xu was in poor health at the time and could not be transferred out of the hospital at all.

But even so, Mrs. Xu turned around and left as soon as she gritted her teeth.

Xu Zhenhua was left to take care of his father in the hospital.

Later, when he was about to leave the country, he borrowed money to marry Yun Guoan and Tan Li, but he didn't expect that their children would go round and round and be transferred to him in the future.

Aunt Fu gradually pieced together these fragments of the past. She thought about it before, but she also sighed about the past.

She and Xu Zhenhua narrated these things, and they couldn't help but say that the sad place will eventually make the eyes moist.

But Xu Zhenhua has already experienced this, and now when he mentions it, he just feels that there is no ripple in his heart.

He looked at Mrs. Fu who was gently wiping her eyes with a loincloth, and he felt a little sigh in his heart, and persuaded, "Auntie, don't be sad, everything is over. When my father left, he was very peaceful. Uncle Wei accompanied him to the burial. It’s all what he meant before he was alive.”

How could Mrs. Fu not be sad, besides, it was her old employer who had been in business for more than ten years.

But when she heard Xu Zhenhua comforting her like this, it was inconvenient for her to be overly sad.

Then he cleaned up his expression, stood up and said to Xu Zhenhua, "You haven't eaten since you came here in the morning. I'm afraid you're hungry. I'll go get some food and make a living. You rest here, and the food will be ready later." I'm calling you."

The author has something to say: "Resolute without hostility, affectionate without temptation" is the words of psychologist Kohut.What he means is "When I don't agree to you, I am firm, but I am not hostile, and I will not say that you are wrong. The latter means that I will love you if I love you, unconditionally, and I will not seduce the situation that you need me. Hostility and temptation are both to make the other party retreat or advance, while avoiding oneself" via Wu Zhihong

This is what I think Father Xu has always had for Xiao Yunen. He doesn't want Yun En to live in order to please them in the future. He has had such unsatisfactory times himself, but he doesn't want Xiao Yun En to be like this Being treated, he will try his best to create an environment for Xiao Yunen to grow up happily.Father Xu is really a model father!

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