walk across the bridge of fog

25.

"You didn't say that, but you meant it." He Ren argued impatiently.

"I didn't mean that either. I never commented on Wenxin." Duanmu declared in a serious tone.

"Of course you commented on Wenxin, you don't like her. You said she wouldn't save me in danger..."

"You are misinterpreting my meaning, you are imposing your thoughts on me, pretending to be mine. I repeat, I will not judge a person I do not know, let alone draw any conclusions about Wenxin Sexual point of view  …”

"What's the matter with you? You deny everything, you refuse to admit anything, you haven't said this, and you haven't said that. Is everything just imagined by myself? It must be one of your kind. Advanced technique, admits nothing, so no consequences."

"What consequences do you think I escaped?"

He Ren paused for a moment, avoiding the question, "Then tell me, what do you think of Wenxin?"

"I don't pay attention to Wenxin, I only pay attention to you. If I try to understand Wenxin's situation, it is to analyze you, not her. She is not my patient."

"Wenxin doesn't need a psychiatrist, because she is already dead, she was hit to death."

here we go again!Duanmu thought angrily.He Ren said this fact viciously at every turn, and would get angry at Duanmu if he didn't like it.It seems that Duanmu is responsible for Wenxin's death.

"He Ren, you have been resenting the perpetrator. But no one will intentionally cause an accident, and no one drives to hit someone else."

"If it wasn't intentional, can it be forgiven?" He Ren retorted angrily.

"No forgiveness, what are you going to do?"

He Ren was speechless.She originally wanted revenge, to make Duanmuqian suffer as much as herself.What now?What do you want to do now?He Ren was confused.

"I don't know what to do, that's why I'm sitting here, I'm here for help."

"I suggest you let go of this resentment, can you listen?"

"Are you going to tell me the cliché that you can't come back from the dead?"

"I think this is a reflection on life and death. This issue is too grand to discuss in a few words. Maybe we can find time to discuss it later."

"I don't think it's about death, it's about hate and forgiveness."

"From your psychological analysis, if someone has to be responsible for Wenxin's death, then her death can be avoided." Duanmuqian paused, giving He Ren some time to digest.

"Of course it is." He Ren's tone was beyond doubt.

"Then it means that you have denied the impermanence of life. To put it more directly, that person is not only responsible for Wenxin's death, but also for your pain. In fact, no one will be responsible for your pain. Therefore, you can only be responsible to yourself and take care of your own life."

"You mean, this is God's arrangement? I can only submit to God's judgment and accept God's mercy?"

"He Ren, as I said, this is an overly grand issue. Although it is very important, it is not that urgent. Maybe we will discuss it later. You can also go home and think about this issue slowly. I am more willing to talk to you Discuss Wenxin. Last time we said that you transferred your unsatisfied childhood emotions into attachment to Wenxin, have you gone back and thought about this issue? Any thoughts?"

"Before I start discussing Wenxin, I would like to ask you another question. Does your statement that life is impermanent just now mean that you don't think the perpetrators need to be responsible for the consequences? Don't you need to feel guilty? If it were you , will you feel at ease?"

"No peace of mind, she doesn't necessarily feel better than you. She is also a victim of this incident, and she may also be seeing a psychologist to treat her psychological trauma. In a tragedy, everyone is hurt. I think the process of mourning should involve gradually forgetting these sorrows. Going back to your question, your mourning should even include gradually forgetting Wenxin, turning your attention to other people or things, and starting again. It is not easy, we have many Long way to go."

"Forget Wenxin! You actually suggested that I get rid of pain by forgetting Wenxin..."

"This is Freud's point of view, and it is also a method that has been repeatedly proven to be effective in psychotherapy. You gradually realize this. Let's talk about your emotional dependence on Wenxin first. Have you always been afraid of losing Wenxin? This loss may mean that the relationship between the two has no future, may be bored, may be abandoned. All of these may cause fear. Have you ever had it? Before Wenxin's accident. "

He Ren gritted her teeth, and she decided to tell Duanmu everything frankly, "Yes, you guessed it right, I have been panicking, and I have been afraid for many years. She has her own family besides me, and besides Wen Xin has nothing. She has many choices, and I have no choice."

"No. You have a choice. You have the same choice as Wenxin, and everyone has a choice. You can choose to improve your relationship, you can choose to ask Wenxin to give up your marriage, you can choose to leave, you can also choose to love others, Choose to love someone who belongs to you completely. Even, you can choose to be strong and live alone. You use the illusion of no choice to indulge yourself to avoid change, make your world smaller and smaller, let yourself lose vitality and inspiration He Ren, in fact, you have always had a choice. Today you still have a choice.”