I returned to my hometown after winning the koi lottery.

The book uses Minglan's grandmother's words to show everyone another side of life. These things are all insightful and young people can also refer to them and express their own opinions.

Grandmother is the play's intellectual voice, the pillar of the Sheng family. Born into a noble family, she possesses vast knowledge and experience, and with her extensive network of friends, even the palace maids have to show some respect for her.

There is nothing she can't handle as long as she gets involved.

Hualan was bullied by her husband's family. Her grandmother invited her best friend to take care of Hualan's health without anyone knowing, so that Hualan could give birth to a boy and consolidate her position in her husband's family.

Molan secretly met Liang Han, and after she was ruined, the Liang family refused to marry Molan.

All the women in the Sheng family would be implicated, especially the two unmarried girls, Ruolan and Minglan, who would face the situation that no one would dare to marry them. As soon as Madam Wang stepped in to solve the problem that she could not solve, the Liang family agreed to Molan's marriage as soon as my grandmother stepped in.

The daughters of the Sheng family are proud to be raised by their grandmother. Firstly, it can enhance their status. After all, the title of the only daughter of the Marquis of Yongyi is not an honor that everyone can have, and it is a height that even the Sheng family cannot reach.

Second, her grandmother had a good upbringing, and the well-educated Hualan was well-known among the ladies.

Later, Minglan was fortunate enough to be raised by her grandmother, who devoted herself to her education.

Today let’s talk about the life wisdom that her grandmother taught Minglan, which is also the way of survival that she taught to girls all over the world.

In recent years, the phrase "girls should be raised in wealth" has become almost everywhere.

However, for girls, grandmother gave the best answer to what it means to be raised in wealth.

The way her grandmother raised Minglan was to have her study.

Regarding women's education, the grandfather and granddaughter had the following conversation.

Grandmother deliberately said: "Studying is not a girl's job, so there is no need to suffer this." Minglan did not fall for her grandmother's trick and said: "The saying that studying is useless is a lie made up by men who hope that women will be obedient and foolish all their lives and be easy to manipulate. If it is really useless, why do men take the imperial examinations?"

The grandmother was very relieved after hearing this: it is short-sighted to not want girls to study. Throughout the dynasties, girls from aristocratic families have been educated since childhood. If studying is useless, they would not let their daughters suffer this pain.

So at the suggestion of their grandmother, Minglan and her sisters went to school with their brothers since childhood, and were no less educated than boys.

The way that grandmother educated Minglan was to listen more, watch more and gain more knowledge.

Hualan is not welcomed by her husband's family. Her grandmother realizes that the daughter of the Sheng family cannot keep up with other wealthy families in terms of knowledge, so she invites a nanny from the palace to teach Minglan the skills of tasting tea, lighting incense, and arranging flowers.

These seemingly useless things are skills that people from wealthy families must master in order to show off their culture.

Many people think that raising a child in wealth means wearing famous brands and buying luxury goods. In fact, reading, gaining knowledge, and pursuing things that please the mind and soul are the true ways to raise a child in wealth.

A person who is rich in heart cannot conceal the spirit in her eyes and eyebrows even if she wears coarse linen clothes and eats simple meals.

Learn to be your own supporter

In ancient times, the daughters of wealthy families were trained from a young age to be able to manage the household so that they could be good housekeepers when they got married.

Lin Xiaoniang is favored and has been in control of the Sheng family for many years. Molan has followed Lin Xiaoniang since childhood and has been influenced by her, so she knows a little about the affairs of the housekeeper.

Ruolan is the legitimate daughter. No matter how much Madam Wang is overshadowed by her concubines, her position as the mistress of the house cannot be shaken.

Only Minglan is completely untouched by such matters.

Grandmother saw it all, and when Mrs. Lin and Mrs. Wang were arguing fiercely and Sheng Hong couldn't make a decision, she pushed Minglan out and became the head of the family.

Now Madam Wang and Madam Lin were not happy with this, and they both sent their spies to Minglan.

Without getting rid of the two spies, the housekeeper's work cannot be carried out. Minglan doesn't want to cause trouble for her grandmother, as she is old, so she can only make arrangements in secret.

He learned that among the spies sent there were Chang Feng's lover and a maid who had always had feelings for Chang Bai, so he took advantage of this to make trouble.

She deliberately lured Changbai over, but then avoided him, creating an opportunity for the maid who was interested in Changbai to be alone with him.

The news reached Madam Wang's ears. She was a person who could not tolerate any grain of sand in her eyes. Without waiting for Minglan to take action, she cut the Gordian knot and eliminated the two spies.

Afterwards, the grandmother looked at Minglan with resentment.

Minglan thought that her grandmother was blaming her for hiding the secret from her and for plotting against Brother Changbai.

Little did she know that her grandmother was worried about Minglan and her face turned pale with anxiety because of this matter.

Molan has Lin Xiaoniang to plan for her, and if Changbai is Minglan's biological brother, he will naturally protect Minglan. Unfortunately, Minglan is just an orphan. What's wrong with her planning for herself? One should not be pedantic when studying.

This is my grandmother’s wisdom in life. Put yourself first in everything. If you rely on mountains, they will fall down; if you rely on people, they will run away. Only you can have your own support.

Life is full of dangers.

Many parents nowadays overprotect their children, fearing that their children will suffer even the slightest harm.

This type of parents only bring their children to see the good things and bear all the bad things themselves, so that their children are raised like flowers in a greenhouse. They are unaware of the dangers of this world and have no way to deal with it when danger comes.

The way that grandmother protects Minglan is to let her see the dangers of this world, because no one can protect anyone forever.

Shulan married into a family of lower status, and Sun Xiucai's family did not treat her as a human being. Her mother-in-law even dared to pinch and yell at her in front of Shulan's family.

Shulan is weak, and her parents' way of dealing with problems is to smooth things over and just try to keep the peace.

Every time the Sun family made trouble, they would offer them shops and money, which made Mr. Sun even more lawless.

Look, at Sheng Wei’s wedding, Mr. Sun started acting crazy again due to drunkenness.

When the two elders of the Sheng family, Minglan's grandmother and Shulan's grandmother, were discussing the future of Shulan's marriage, they specially called Minglan over to let her know the whole story.

Minglan is at the age to get married. According to common sense, in order to make her look forward to marriage, she should be allowed to experience the love in this world.

However, the grandmother had good intentions. She let Minglan see Shulan's bad marriage, which could not only lower Minglan's expectations of marriage (low expectations mean less disappointment), but also test how Minglan would deal with the quagmire of marriage.

As expected, Minglan did not disappoint her grandmother and said, "Once you have reached a dead end, you should turn around in time."

Minglan’s view on marriage is to cut losses in time.

With such courage and clarity, you will never treat yourself badly in the future.

Women need to have money

"As women, we must ultimately be able to support ourselves, have money in our hands, and have confidants around us."

This is what the grandmother warned Minglan, and the grandmother also set an example for Minglan by her own actions.

Fang Mama, who was by my grandmother's side until she was old, was someone she could talk to in confidence. They were master and servant in name only, but in reality they were like old sisters.

Cuiwei, whom she trained, is a good housekeeper. She is loyal to her master and her abilities and character have stood the test of time. Later, she becomes Minglan's right-hand man. With her, Minglan is like a tiger with wings, and she is very powerful in Chengyuan.

Speaking of money, my grandmother usually ate vegetarian food and chanted Buddhist scriptures, lived a simple life, and was not conspicuous in terms of money. As a result, the Sheng family underestimated the old lady's financial resources, thinking that she was neither Sheng Hong's biological mother nor just a poor old woman, and they felt a little neglectful towards her.

It was when Minglan got married that she was stunned by her grandmother's wealth.

Expensive fabrics, jewelry, any one of them is very expensive.

There are also real estate, land, shops, manors, fertile fields, etc. The deeds are all counted in boxes and their value is inestimable.

The dowry that her grandmother gave to Minglan was enough to last her several lifetimes.

Gu Tingye is very rich, and Minglan will have no worries about food and clothing after she gets married. However, her grandmother will still give Minglan as much dowry as possible, just to make Minglan feel confident in her husband's family, so that she doesn't have to rely on others and still has the capital to live a good life.

Only when a woman is financially independent can she have the autonomy to live her life, live with dignity and value, and not need to cling to or rely on anyone. She is the master of her own destiny.

As the old saying goes: "Birds fly high with phoenixes, and people develop good qualities when they are with virtuous people."

What it actually means is that a bird can only fly higher if it follows the phoenix, and if a person is with people of virtuous character, his character will naturally improve.

You will become the kind of person you hang out with.

How lucky it would be if one could get guidance from noble people, meet good teachers to lead the way, and have good friends as companions in one's life.