[Marriage first, love later] She is happy after marrying a widower

Title: Emotionally Lost

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On life's journey, we often encounter people who briefly stay in our lives, offering warmth and care, only to ultimately depart. The feeling of being warmed and then abandoned is like a tearing pain, unbearable. And when we try to rediscover our former selves, we find that while others seem to be able to easily return to normal life, we ourselves have lost our way.

1. Feeling Analysis

The feeling of being warmed and then abandoned is a complex emotional experience. It encompasses loss, pain, confusion, and helplessness. When someone is accustomed to the companionship and care of another and suddenly loses that warmth, a sense of inner emptiness and helplessness naturally arises. This feeling is difficult to adapt to quickly and may even lead to a fear of life.

2. Comparative Reflection

In contrast and reflection, we find that others seem to be able to easily return to normal life. Perhaps after losing us, they quickly find a replacement or embark on a new life, while we are stuck in a dilemma, unable to extricate ourselves. The reason for this may be that we have not learned how to face loss and how to deal with the pain in our hearts.

3. The Silent Choice

More often than not, I choose silence. It's not that I don't want to speak, but rather that there's no point in saying anything more. When someone experiences loss and tries to confide in others, they often find that others don't truly understand their feelings. Sometimes, even excessive talk can come across as hypocritical. Therefore, silence becomes a form of self-protection, allowing us to slowly heal our wounds in solitude.

4. Mental Journey

In our journey, we begin to learn to face loss. We try to understand that relationships are inherently complex, with moments of coming together and parting. We no longer force things, no longer cling to them, but learn to let go. We begin to understand that some things can only be digested on our own, and some pain can only be endured on our own.

5. The past is like smoke

The past is like smoke, the years like a dream. Looking back, we find that those experiences that once caused us unbearable pain have now become blurred. Time is truly a magical force, slowly healing wounds and allowing us to stand up again. And those past events that once haunted us will eventually become a series of footprints on our path, witnessing our growth.

6. Moving Forward and Letting Go

Life is like a journey, a journey of constant search and loss. Sometimes, we need to learn to let go in order to move forward. Let go of the past, let go of the pain, let go of those irreparable regrets. When we learn to let go, we discover that life is not as bad as we imagined, and we can once again have a bright future.

Final Thoughts

The feeling of being warmed and then abandoned is truly terrible, but we shouldn't let it stop us from moving forward. Life is a journey of self-cultivation; we need to learn to face loss and cope with our inner pain. In this process, we may feel silent or lost, but as long as we bravely face it and search for it, we will always find our own path. Moving forward and letting go are the eternal themes of our lives. May we all bravely continue on our path and find our own happiness.

Title: Just Think About It

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In the world of love, there's an emotion that's both profound and helpless: one-sided longing. I've heard that missing someone doesn't require a reason; it's like the spring breeze, the summer rain, the autumn leaves, and the winter snow—a natural occurrence in our lives. Today, I want to tell a story about longing. The protagonists of this story are a boy named "He" and the girl he deeply loves.

1. His tender memories

His name, like a gentle poem, is gently engraved in my heart. His smile is so warm, it seems to illuminate the entire world. Whenever I think of him, those fragmented memories are like a puzzle, pieced together bit by bit to reveal his gentle image. He would warm her hands in the winter, hold an umbrella for her in the rain. These seemingly insignificant details constitute the essence of his gentleness.

2. Touch of details

His tenderness wasn't a fleeting impulse; it permeated every detail of their lives. I remember one time, when she caught a cold, he specially prepared a bowl of steaming ginger soup for her and personally brought it to her bedside. In that moment, his eyes were filled with concern, and his hand gently brushed her forehead. It was as if the whole world had stopped. These details didn't move her, but they touched me. I began to understand that love sometimes doesn't need to be dramatic; it's more about the slow, flowing nature of life's details.

3. Her indifference

Unfortunately, however, the girl's heart was not touched by these details. She seemed to be oblivious to all of this. Her heart was like an isolated island, and no matter how he wandered around, he could not land. His tenderness, to her, was like a gust of wind, gently passing by without leaving a trace.

4. An uneasy mood

I began to feel a sense of indifference. Why couldn't his gentleness move her? Why did his deep affection vanish into thin air? I tried to understand the girl's heart, but the harder I tried, the more powerless I felt. It was like looking at a precious piece of porcelain—right before my eyes, yet unable to touch it, only able to watch from afar, letting it crumble bit by bit in the long river of time.

5. The Futility of Affection

His deep affection ultimately proved in vain. He began to realize that his tenderness and care might just be a burden to her. He tried to let go, to let time heal it all. But his heart felt like it had been pierced by a thorn, the pain unbearable. He began to wonder if his tenderness and care weren't enough.

6. Just thinking about it

In the end, he could only think about it. His heart was full of contradictions. On the one hand, he hoped to spend his life with her, but on the other hand, he was afraid that his tenderness would be ignored again. He began to learn to accept this fact: some feelings can only be thought about, and no more expectations can be made.

In this story, I saw the helplessness of love and how a person's deep affection can be betrayed. But even more importantly, I saw a person's growth. He learned how to love, even if that love was unrequited. He learned how to let go, even if letting go meant pain.

In life, we all encounter people who treat us with tenderness but never quite reach our hearts. We might even become someone like that, giving everything to others only to receive no response. But no matter what the outcome, we should never give up on love, because love itself is beautiful.

In this world, some emotions are destined to be just thoughts. But that doesn't mean we should give up. On the contrary, we should cherish those who can touch our hearts and those who are willing to give for us. Because, in this cold world, tenderness and love are what we need most.

Finally, I want to say that no matter how much we miss someone, no matter how much we hope for a response from them, we must learn to accept reality. Because some feelings can only be thought about, and that's all there is to it. Life, however, must go on.