Eating melons

Hearing this, Liu Jiaojiao choked up, and after a while she said:

"What girl wants a house? I'm going to get married in the future, so there's no way you can give it to me!"

She had never seen anyone give their house to a daughter getting married.

Hearing this, Jiang Qi sneered, "Who said girls can't ask for a house?

Since there is no preference for boys over girls, then for a son's wedding, you should give him 1,000 yuan plus three turns and a ring, and the same should be given to a daughter.

Since the son will inherit the house, the daughter should also get an equal share. That's the only way to be fair, isn't it?"

If they don't give it to you, that's fine. Then find a man to marry into your family and ask your parents to pay a betrothal gift of 1,000 yuan plus three turns and one ring to bring a man in.

Then, your future children will also have your last name, and you will be almost like a son. This way, you will be eligible for a share of the house and property, right? Do you think this is possible?"

After hearing this, Liu Jiaojiao fell silent, because this was impossible. Not to mention the house, even giving her so much dowry was impossible.

Her mother might give her a dowry of one thousand yuan, and some extra money, but she would only give it to him privately and not to her openly. And that one thousand yuan would definitely be the betrothal money for her to take back.

If there are three turns and one ring, it must be included in the betrothal gift. It is impossible to buy it by yourself.

If she did that, she felt that her two sisters-in-law would definitely be unhappy. Her two brothers might not say anything to her face, and she didn't know what they would do in private.

As for the house, don't even think about it because it is absolutely impossible.

As for finding a son-in-law, that is even more impossible. No one in the family will agree.

She herself doesn't want to do that because it would give her a bad reputation.

Seeing Liu Jiaojiao's silence, Jiang Qi knew that she had listened.

"Look, being nice to your daughter doesn't actually come at a very low price. No matter how good you are to your daughter, it won't change the fact that all your property and house will be given to your son. Don't you agree?"

But actually, what do you think is more important, the kindness you show to your daughter or all the wealth in the family?

This time Liu Jiaojiao was speechless. She had never felt that her parents were patriarchal before, but she could not ignore what Jiang Qi said.

After a long while, Wu Mei asked seriously, "But isn't the betrothal gift always given to the bride's parents? It was always like this in the past!"

"Wasn't it called betrothal gifts in the past? Three letters and six engagements? Since there's no such thing, and they still advocate free love and gender equality, then shouldn't be the betrothal gifts and dowries now be the support from both parents for the small family they form?

Now both families support this small family, and when they are old, the small family will be responsible for their retirement. Isn’t that right?

Moreover, even in the past when the man provided the betrothal gift and the woman provided the dowry, the dowry included everything the woman would need throughout her life, even a coffin.

If that's the case, will the dowry they've prepared be enough for you to last a lifetime?"

Wu Mei had never heard of this statement before. This was the first time she heard of it.

"Can it still be calculated like this?"

Jiang Qi asked doubtfully, "Isn't that how it's calculated? Let's see if you will be able to provide for your parents in their old age."

Wu Mei asked doubtfully, "Isn't providing for the elderly a son's responsibility? Of course, if my parents want, I can contribute part of it."

After all, her parents gave birth to her and raised her.

Jiang Qike had something to say about this, "They say their sons will take care of them in their old age, but when they are really old and sick, do you, as their daughter, also have to take care of them and pay when it's due?

He just said that he would take care of his son in his old age, but he didn't mean that everything would be taken care of by his son.

When the time comes, you still have to pay what you owe, give what you owe, and do what you should do. If you don't do it, it would be unfilial, don't you think?"

Just like in her previous life, all her family's money, connections, and relationships were closely tied to the family's Yaozu.

They exploited her hard, and even justified it by saying that they would depend on their son for their retirement, and she, as their daughter, was like water spilled on the ground.

But when they are sick or need money, they always say they have no money and that Yaozu is still young and has no money, so they suck her blood for everything.

If she is not given money, she will make a fuss, saying that she is unfilial and everyone knows about it.

Since she has never enjoyed anything, why should I suck her blood?

Since everything was given to Yaozu in the family, shouldn't Yaozu be responsible for their birth, old age, sickness and death?

Wu Mei put herself in his shoes and thought about it, and it seemed to be true.

“But when the time comes, as long as we pay a small amount, my brothers and others will definitely pay the majority.

Besides, my parents raised us so well, so it’s only right that I contribute some money and effort.”

"So when the family property was divided, did you take the smaller share, and your brother took the larger share?"

Wu Mei shook her head honestly, "No."

By then, all of it will definitely belong to her brother. It would be very good if her mother could give her all the betrothal money given by the man. Don't even think about anything else.

“As for what you said about your parents giving birth to you and raising you, and that it’s only natural for them to make some sacrifices in the future, I don’t agree with that.

It was your parents who decided to give birth to you, not you who asked your parents to give birth to you.

Since they gave birth to you, it is their responsibility and obligation to raise you.

If parents need something in return for raising children, if their every move and every effort is an attempt to get something in return, then sometimes not having children is a kind act.

After all, we didn't ask them to give birth to us.

Since the child is about to be born, they should not transfer all their efforts and pressures to the child.

Because those are things they should have considered before they were born, and they have to face them themselves.”

After listening to these words, Wu Mei was speechless for a long time. She didn't know whether it was because many things in the family had been placed on her, the eldest daughter, since she was a child, or for some other reason, which caused her to be under great pressure.

Now when I hear what Jiang Qi said, I suddenly feel that what Jiang Qi said is so right.

It was her parents who gave birth to her, and it was not her fault, so why should she bear so many negative thoughts and pressure?

When she heard these words, she remembered what her grandparents had said. If she was a boy, her mother wouldn't have to keep giving birth to so many children that it would harm her body.

And because she was very hardworking and sensible when she was young, and had good grades, her grandparents often said that it would be better if she was a boy.

Although her father didn't say it, she could see from his eyes that he had the same thought.

She had thought before that it would be better if she was a boy so that there wouldn’t be so much pressure at home.

Now hearing Jiang Qi's words is like finding an outlet for the pressure in my heart.

Yes, it wasn't her who asked her parents to give birth to her, and her gender was not something she could choose. It was her parents who took the initiative to have her, so why should they put all the pressure of the family on her?

Since her parents have decided to give birth to her, they must think about the consequences of giving birth to the child.

However, the ideas and concepts that Wu Mei had been exposed to since childhood conflicted with what Jiang Qi said, and for a moment she was a little confused.

After Jiang Qi said this, the atmosphere among them became a little depressing, especially Liu Jiaojiao, who looked dejected.

Jiang Qi's words refreshed her cognition. She always thought that her parents loved her very much, and their love for her was even greater than that of her two brothers, so she had never thought about these things.

If Jiang Qi had said these words when they first met, they would not have thought anything of it. They might even have felt that these words were somewhat contrary to common sense and somewhat against the will of heaven.

However, after two years of getting along with each other, their thoughts and cognition have changed a lot along with Wei Wei and Jiang Qi. Therefore, when they heard Jiang Qi's words, they were able to listen and understand them, and thus felt a little confused.

Seeing them like this, Jiang Qi didn't say anything, and Wei Wei didn't add fuel to the fire.

If she continued to add fuel to the fire, she was afraid that Liu Jiaojiao and Wu Mei would not be able to bear it, especially Liu Jiaojiao, who now looked as if her whole body was about to break and she really could not bear the blow anymore.