Demon Lord 3

I also said, "Knowing how to make choices is a good thing, but does it have to be this way? You've already taught your child to make choices, and they've gradually understood and made their choices. Can't I buy them one to reward them? This one's free, and I'll give it to them after redeeming it. Isn't that right? That fountain pen can also be used for schoolwork. Do you really want to go into the store and spend a lot of money on a whole set? If so, I won't stop you, but I do want to give this to her." The parent refused to accept the gift, and the child started crying. I told the child to stop crying and that I could give her the pen because she had been so obedient. If the parents hadn't forced the child to make a choice, it wouldn't have come to this. When is the right time to make a choice? Perhaps it's a matter of life and death, or perhaps it's a matter of choosing between two major issues. In small matters, you can have it all, you can have it all, or you can choose one or the other. All of that is fine, but there's no need to give up an opportunity under these circumstances. What does that mean? Do you want to tear up someone else's umbrella just because you've been caught in the rain? What kind of mentality is it to not allow others to be happier or better off than you? It's not someone else, it's just your child. Even if you can't love your child 100%, at least you shouldn't deliberately hide what you have or deny them. The parent was very angry and asked me what to do if the child becomes unable to make decisions or choose between important matters in the future. I said that if life is full of major events, then let the child make those choices when they do. Making choices sometimes brings guilt and regret, and these are inevitable, but experiencing them later when they become unavoidable is better than adding to the worry now. The parent also asked if I had experienced this as a child. I nodded and said that perhaps I had experienced this situation at some point and had also navigated the choices. However, I currently have a fear of making choices. Back then, because I had so much experience, I was forced to choose between two options. I always had to make the choice. Later, I gradually passed the opportunity to make choices on to others, letting them take the blame. This may be a good thing, or it may be a bad thing, but I always try to avoid it. But is this right? If I hadn't experienced all that as a child, perhaps I wouldn't have done the same thing. I wouldn't have argued with the parent and simply put the pen in the child's hand, saying, "I'm fine, they threw it away, or lost it." It's their own family matter, after all. But I still want to advise them to be more considerate of others in the future and avoid those toxic chicken soup recipes. After all, a child's childhood only comes once, and sometimes decisions are made as they grow up. There's no need to shoulder so much responsibility at a young age. If a child's circumstances and experiences far exceed those of an average person or those around them, then they must shoulder all that responsibility. For example, if a family is wealthy or prestigious, they need to learn etiquette and other necessary conditions from a young age. At this point, the child might shoulder more than others. But if the family has nothing, just a few tips from a tattered book, then they don't necessarily need to learn them. If the parents' advice were effective, they would have become wealthy and powerful long ago. Why do parents, despite summarizing all those lessons, still be ordinary people? Isn't this worth reflecting on? If the truths they say are so useful, then why haven't they become the best? People want their sons to become dragons and their daughters to become phoenixes. At least the fish that jumps over the dragon gate is the child of a dragon. Not just any small salted fish can turn over. Even if the child of a dragon doesn't look like a dragon, there is a high probability that he will do some good jobs in the future. But among the children born by a small salted fish, only one in many salted fish will have that opportunity. It may be one in ten thousand, or even one in a billion. They will never understand this truth. It's like an ordinary person who can never cross the class and cross the world. Many people have never even left the country. Many people have never taken a train or a plane in their lives, but their lives are very fulfilling. It's just that these people are happy and don't need to compete internally. They look down on some parents who are incapable of raising great children and make their children very tired.