Demon Lord 3

After talking about the views of those women in my family on marriage, I want to talk about the views of those women who have been educated in traditional ideas on marriage. Maybe this is not an opinion at all, but it is written directly from their perspective. I am a woman, so when I say these words, there must be some women's complaints about this matter and women's unique understanding of this matter and some real truths. In fact, many people who see this think that these words are wrong. Some men think that these words are too one-sided and that they don't have it easy for themselves. Some women think that they have to endure in the face of tradition and stereotypes. It is shameful and embarrassing to say so. If you think so, please don't make excuses, please don't quibble, because all of this is too real. I used to think that it is a good thing for men to earn money outside and women to take care of the family at home. Especially when they are matched together, it is very beautiful and very desirable. Sometimes I hear those people's complaints. Many parents with daughters will say that this is a shameful thing and don't tell others about it. They often say that family disgrace should not be made public. Girls can only keep things in their stomachs and cannot say them out. Things like going back to their parents' home when there are conflicts are not allowed. It is a rather shameful thing. Of course, the term "returning to one's parents' home" only exists after getting married. I have heard this many times. In fact, they were not said to me, but every time I heard these words, I would refute and defend myself. I hope to say what those people think in their hearts, especially those ignorant girls. Whenever they heard these words, they did not refute, but just blinked their bright eyes and listened quietly to their mother's chatter. In fact, every time I wanted to step forward and say these things, my parents or my relatives and friends would pull me over and tell them all about it. I can't explain it, and even if I try, it won't make sense. Talking to them is like talking to a cow. I can't use these external words to change the stereotypes that have long been held by a people. Time will only dilute them, and only major events will awaken them. So, regarding this matter, I often feel resentment and sigh, but it's all in vain. No one can formally resolve this issue, and no one can completely change the impression of this matter. If this is what people have been taught since childhood, when will they start to ignore it all? If I were to educate others, if I were given the opportunity to speak on this matter, I would definitely ask: Why is returning to your parents' home so shameful? If you have a fight, where else can you go if you don't go back? The police? Or something else? In my opinion, after a fight, of course you should go to the police. You don't go there to seek help, but to turn yourself in. If you're being abused, why can't you fight back? At most, you'll be in jail! Even if women are protected, they should resist being beaten. Even if resistance doesn't count there, what's the point? If even a parent can't give a girl such confidence, then what inherent confidence do girls have? I'm not arguing about a bad upbringing here. I'm just speaking out for those who were taught from childhood to be ashamed. But what is shame in life? When primitive people didn't have clothes to wear, they didn't understand. Putting on clothes became a bondage. Of course, it wasn't the clothes that bound them, but the so-called shame. In reality, people aren't born with true shame. There's only fixed thinking and inheritance from generation to generation. Inheritance is about removing the dross, not passing it on. Even when making wine, you remove the dross so you can drink the finest. This brings us back to the question: Why are women the weaker party in marriage? The very first question is wrong. Why are women the weaker party? Why do we need marriage? Why start from the beginning? Can't this person imagine this in terms of gender equality? Of course, maybe from the day when there were newspapers and news, this matter has been labeled, a very serious label, that is, if a man does something, it is a very normal thing, but if it is a woman, please involve family conflicts, they will put the word "female" in the title very big, so as to attract people's attention. When I see those headlines, I can only smile slightly, because the word "ridiculous" is already written on them.