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Chapter 81: Happiness is about cherishing what you have
1. The Nature and Definition of Happiness
The definition of happiness is not static; it varies depending on culture, social background, and personal experience. However, its core essence revolves around a positive evaluation of one's life state and a positive outlook on the future. This evaluation is based not only on the fulfillment of external conditions, such as economic status and social standing, but more importantly, on inner spiritual enrichment and growth, including a deepening of self-awareness, the maturation of emotional wisdom, and harmonious interpersonal relationships.
Specifically, the essence of happiness lies in achieving a balance and harmony between inner and outer self. This requires us to nurture our spiritual world while pursuing material well-being, achieving a deeper sense of satisfaction and well-being through self-improvement, emotional connection, and social engagement. Therefore, cherishing what we possess, both material and spiritual, is an important step on the road to happiness. It reflects a gratitude and appreciation for life, as well as an affirmation and pursuit of self-worth.
2. The meaning and value of cherishing
1. Deeply understand the value of existence
Cherishment, a profound cognitive awakening, leads us to break free from our usual mindset and re-examine everything around us. It forces us to recognize that the gifts of nature, the warmth of human relationships, and personal growth and experience are not simply gifts, but rather require us to accept and cherish them with gratitude. This awakening fosters a keener perspective, enabling us to capture those fleeting moments of beauty in our daily lives, thereby cultivating a deep reverence for life and a profound understanding of existence.
2. Enhance psychological resilience
On an emotional level, cherishing is like a warm current, warming and nourishing our hearts. It motivates us to proactively build and maintain deep emotional connections with family, friends, partners, and those we cherish. When we learn to cherish every moment together, every hug, every act of care, our inner world is filled with love, becoming softer and stronger. This emotional nourishment not only enriches our emotional experiences but also invisibly strengthens our psychological resilience, enabling us to maintain inner peace and fortitude in the face of life's storms.
3. Protect the ones you love
The value of cherishing is ultimately reflected in our actions. It's not just a spiritual awakening; it's a call to action. When we recognize the preciousness of something or a relationship, we naturally develop a strong desire to protect it. Whether it's striving to improve ourselves through study or working diligently to provide financial support for our families; whether it's carefully nurturing a friendship or cultivating a romantic relationship, these actions are concrete manifestations of the spirit of cherishing. They not only strengthen our sense of well-being but also contribute positively to the harmonious development of individuals and society.
3. Why cherishing what you have brings happiness
1. Immediacy and intrinsic nature of satisfaction
Contentment is the cornerstone of happiness, and cherishing what we possess directly builds this foundation. When people learn to value and appreciate what they currently possess, whether it's material wealth or spiritual comfort, they can evoke a deep, lasting, and self-sufficient sense of contentment. This contentment transcends simple material comfort; it stems from acceptance and appreciation of the present situation, resulting in a deep sense of inner peace and abundance. In contrast, blindly pursuing new material stimuli often only brings fleeting happiness that is difficult to sustain and easily traps them in a vicious cycle of "gain, loss, and renewed pursuit."
2. Rational desire management and psychological relief
Driven by the tide of consumerism, people's desires seem endless. This endless pursuit not only consumes vast resources but also places a heavy psychological burden and anxiety on individuals. However, cherishing what we have can help us re-examine our needs and desires, learning to maintain clarity and rationality in a complex world. By reducing unnecessary consumption and pursuits, we can not only reduce financial pressure but also relieve psychological burdens, allowing us to focus more on the things that truly bring happiness. This rational management of desires not only helps enhance individual well-being but also serves as a key foundation for building a sustainable society.
3. Harmony in interpersonal relationships and emotional support
Cherishing goes beyond material possessions; it also manifests itself in the maintenance and cultivation of interpersonal relationships. When we cherish the emotional connections with family, friends, and colleagues, we naturally invest more time and energy in nurturing these relationships, reducing conflicts and estrangements caused by misunderstandings or negligence. Harmonious interpersonal relationships are a key source of happiness. They provide emotional support and comfort, allowing us to feel warmth and strength when facing setbacks or difficulties. Furthermore, good interpersonal relationships promote the exchange of information and the sharing of resources, further broadening our horizons and perspectives, and creating more possibilities for personal growth and development.
4. Cherish the happiness we have in practice
1. Cultivate a positive perspective
Gratitude nourishes the soul and is the starting point for cherishing. To practice cherishing the happiness we already possess, we must first cultivate a heart of gratitude. Setting aside a small amount of time each day for self-reflection, whether through journaling, meditation, or sharing with family and friends, can effectively help us recognize the often-overlooked moments of beauty in life. Material resources like a warm home and good health, as well as spiritual support like the love of family and the care of friends, should all be the subject of our gratitude. This consistent practice of gratitude will gradually strengthen our positive emotions, leading us to appreciate and be grateful for all we have.
2. Adjust your expectations
Excessive expectations are often a stumbling block to happiness. To truly experience the joy of cherishing, we need to learn to set reasonable and achievable goals based on our current circumstances. This means abandoning unrealistic fantasies and instead focusing on and appreciating the resources and abilities we currently possess. By adjusting our expectations, we can more objectively assess our current state in life, avoiding the frustration and anxiety that comes from pursuing unattainable goals. When our mindset shifts from "wanting more" to "appreciating what we have," happiness naturally increases.
3. Enjoy the beauty of the process
Appreciation isn't just about treasuring the outcome; it's about fully committing to the process. Whether it's every challenge in our careers or the little things in our daily lives, we should engage and experience them with a positive and proactive attitude. In work, full engagement brings a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction; in learning, continuous exploration broadens our horizons and enriches our inner selves; in leisure and recreation, unrestrained enjoyment relaxes and rejuvenates. By actively participating in all aspects of life, we can more deeply appreciate the richness and beauty of life, and thus cherish every moment of this journey.
4. Embrace Change
Cherishing doesn't mean being complacent or refusing change. Rather, it requires maintaining peace in the face of loss and change, learning to let go of things that are irretrievable or no longer serve us. Letting go isn't about forgetting or denying the past, but rather accepting and embracing change with maturity and wisdom. When we can courageously let go of the baggage of the past and stop dwelling on past regrets, our hearts will feel lighter and freer. In this state, we can better focus on cherishing everything we have in the present, including the opportunities and possibilities that change presents.
5. Cultural Enlightenment
1. The Light of Ancient Wisdom
First, the ancient Confucian concept of "contentment brings happiness" is a key source of this cultural inspiration. Confucianism advocates achieving inner harmony and contentment through self-cultivation, believing that true happiness lies not in endless material pursuits but in cherishing and being grateful for the life we have. This philosophy encourages people to maintain a peaceful mindset in life, understanding moderation and contentment, thereby experiencing a sense of happiness born from within.
The Buddhist concept of "cherishing blessings and cultivating virtue" further emphasizes the connection between cherishing and receiving blessings. Buddhism believes that every gain in life is the result of karma, and that we should always be grateful and cherish existing resources and the environment. At the same time, we should cultivate virtue through practice to accumulate more blessings. This concept not only promotes personal peace and contentment, but also promotes harmony and prosperity in society as a whole.
2. Verification by modern science
In modern society, advances in psychology have provided a more scientific explanation for the link between cherishing and happiness. Gratitude therapy, a prominent example of this approach, emphasizes cultivating gratitude to enhance resilience and improve well-being. Studies have found that people who frequently express gratitude report better mental health and greater life satisfaction. This further demonstrates the positive correlation between cherishing and happiness and reveals its practical application in modern society.
3. Wisdom Across Time and Space
The concept of cherishing what we possess is the true source of happiness. This is not only a crystallization of ancient wisdom but also a spiritual beacon for modern society. It transcends the boundaries of time and space, serving as a bridge connecting different cultures and eras. Guided by this concept, people can view their lives and needs more rationally, learning to seek balance and fulfillment on both material and spiritual levels. At the same time, this concept reminds us that in the pursuit of happiness, we should not neglect cherishing and being grateful for the people, things, and things around us, because it is these seemingly insignificant moments that constitute the entire meaning and value of our lives.
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