Daily Emotional Q&A

Section 1. The reasons for the phenomenon of "being in the position but having the mind far away"

From a psychological perspective, the phenomenon of "being in one's place, but mentally far away" often stems from a period of psychological distress and emotional instability after a unique experience. This phenomenon typically occurs when a person suddenly returns to a routine, everyday existence after a period of unrestrained, joyful, and exciting life.

Psychological disparity refers to a state of psychological imbalance that occurs when an individual experiences two distinct mental states and experiences a sense of discomfort with the vast difference between the old and new states. In a situation where one's mind is elsewhere, after a period of intense excitement and fulfillment, an individual suddenly returns to a routine, often mundane existence. This significant psychological disparity can lead to negative emotions such as anxiety, loss, and depression.

Emotional instability is a direct manifestation of psychological distress. When individuals are unable to effectively cope with the negative impact of psychological distress, their emotions can fluctuate and become unstable. This emotional instability can manifest as irritability, crying spells, and anxiety, severely impacting their daily lives and work productivity.

Section 2. Daily life styles and habits and hobbies

First, for adults, catching up with friends and family whom they haven't seen in years often leads to a "drinking with close friends, chatting all night long." This feeling of extreme relaxation is undeniable. However, excessive drinking and lack of sleep can take a toll on the body. Excessive alcohol intake can overload the liver and even lead to alcohol poisoning, while insufficient sleep can affect the immune system, memory, and mental state.

Meanwhile, children tend to relax during holidays, spending extended periods watching TV, playing with their phones, and snacking without restraint. This lifestyle not only affects vision but can also lead to obesity, malnutrition, and other problems. Furthermore, irregular sleep and rest habits can also affect children's growth and learning efficiency.

Secondly, holiday travel has become a way for many people to relax. While traveling, people indulge in delicious food, fine wine, and beautiful scenery. However, this state of extreme joy and excitement can also pose health risks. Excessive intake of high-calorie, high-fat foods can burden the digestive system and cause gastrointestinal problems, while chronic alcohol consumption can lead to liver damage and cardiovascular disease. Furthermore, fatigue and stress during travel can also affect the body's immune system.

Finally, some people choose to stay home during the holidays, sleeping in or staying in bed. This disruption to their regular routine is also detrimental to their health. Long-term lack of exercise can lead to muscle atrophy and decreased cardiopulmonary function, while excessive sleep can cause headaches, fatigue, and other discomforts. For young people and children, prolonged gaming is also an unhealthy lifestyle. Excessive gaming can lead to vision loss, neck pain, and other problems, while also impacting learning and social skills.

Another phenomenon of "being in one's position but thinking far away" is the psychological pressure caused by the excessive concern of relatives and friends: those who have a partner are urged to get married, those who don't have a partner are urged to find a partner; those who are married are urged to buy a house, those who have bought a house are urged to have children; those who have given birth to one child are urged to have a second child; students studying away from home are asked about their academic performance when the whole family gathers together.

In addition, you have to face the interrogation of your elders, such as: what kind of job do you do, have you been promoted, how much do you earn per month, do you consider going home to develop your career, etc.

They also have to endure comparisons, like: "Look at your high school classmate, he's already got a child, but you're still single." "Look at him working locally, earning tens of thousands a month. You're deducting rent, utilities, and so on. How can you compare to him?" Any little thing can lead to complaints and conflicts, all of which create all sorts of pressure. I'd hoped to enjoy a relaxing vacation, but instead I have to deal with parents' pressure to get married and inquiries from friends and family, leaving me physically and mentally exhausted and anxious. But anxiety isn't a terrible thing; what's worrying is failing to manage my mindset and developing serious mental illness.

The combination of these behaviors will inevitably disrupt your biological clock, disrupt your digestive system, and even keep your emotions in a state of high spirits. Once you return to normal, you will suffer from insomnia, difficulty concentrating, gastrointestinal discomfort, irritability, and other symptoms. Your emotions will be particularly unstable, and you may even imagine yourself in a carefree fairy tale world.

Section 3. How to alleviate the problem of “being in the position but having the mind far away”

1. Eat in moderation

A balanced diet is fundamental to maintaining physical and mental health. We should focus on a balanced diet and avoid overeating or excessive dieting. By consuming the right amount of nutrients, we can provide the body with sufficient energy and nutrients, thereby strengthening our immune system and mitigating the effects of stress. Furthermore, maintaining good eating habits can help improve sleep quality and further relieve stress.

2. Hobbies

Secondly, participating in activities you enjoy is an effective way to regulate your body and mind. When we engage in activities we love, we experience a sense of inner satisfaction and joy, which helps reduce stress and anxiety. Therefore, we should choose activities that suit us based on our interests and hobbies, such as sports, reading, painting, and music, and actively participate in them.

3. Get enough sleep

Getting enough sleep is a crucial step in relieving stress. Sleep is a process of restoring and recharging the body, helping us relieve fatigue and regain energy. Therefore, we should plan our sleep schedule appropriately, ensure adequate sleep, and strive to maintain a regular circadian rhythm. Furthermore, reducing pre-sleep fantasies and anxiety can help improve sleep quality and better cope with stress.

4. Communicate with elders or relatives

Chatting with seniors, elders, and close friends is an effective way to alleviate negative emotions. By connecting with others, we can share our feelings, listen to their experiences and advice, and thus gain emotional support and comfort. Interacting with seniors allows us to gain wisdom and experience, while communicating with close friends allows us to feel understood and cared for. This emotional support helps us better cope with stress and challenges.

Finally, planning work goals and finding joy in work are key to returning to normalcy. We should develop a reasonable work plan based on our career plans and goals, and strive to find joy and a sense of accomplishment in our work. By actively participating in work, building good relationships with colleagues, and continuously learning and improving our abilities, we can better cope with work pressures and challenges and realize our self-worth and growth in the workplace.

If the above methods fail to effectively relieve stress or the situation seriously affects normal life and work, we should promptly seek the help of a psychologist for psychological counseling and treatment. Psychologists can provide professional assessment and guidance to help us identify the root causes of the problem and provide effective solutions, thereby helping us better cope with stress and challenges and restore our physical and mental health and well-being.