The cannon fodder female supporting role in the misplaced life

"Did Teacher Mo say all that?" Xu Yingying asked.

"Yes, Teacher Mo told us that Wanshi is a straightforward child. And Lingling just follows Wanshi and does whatever Wanshi says." Qing'er's father described Teacher Mo's evaluation of the two children to Xu Yingying in detail.

"Then according to Teacher Mo, everything is because of the conflict between Wanshi and Qing'er?" Xu Yingying asked in summary while thinking.

"Yes, that's what Teacher Mo said. Anyway, your sister-in-law and I both think that these things were caused by Wan Shi." Qing'er's father shook his head helplessly.

"But I just observed carefully and found that this doesn't seem to be the case." Xu Yingying said slowly, with a very affirmative tone.

"What did you see?" Qing'er's father asked back with some confusion.

"I think the person who really triggered all these events was Lingling," Xu Yingying said firmly.

"Why do you think so?" Qing'er's father asked.

"Because I think this matter is not what you see on the surface." Xu Yingying said.

"Don't you think Lingling is not as simple as Teacher Mo said? She is the troublemaker." Xu Yingying continued to express her views silently.

"But why did she do that?" Qing'er's father asked.

"I don't know about that, but Wan Shi is more like the one who was commanded by Lingling to charge into battle." Xu Yingying's words made Qing'er's father fall into deep thought.

"Now that you mention it, it's true that Lingling and Wanshi's responses just now were a bit strange." Qing'er's father said.

"Right? Actually, when you first mentioned it was all Wanshi, I thought maybe things weren't as you imagined. Someone capable of taking things to this extent wouldn't be immediately apparent." Xu Yingying thought she might have felt the same way if she were younger. But now, Xu Yingying isn't easily deceived by appearances. She knows that sometimes people are misled by superficial phenomena and overlook the underlying truth. Regarding these children's disputes, she hopes to find the true answers through in-depth understanding and reflection. Only in this way can she avoid misunderstandings and wrongful accusations, while also helping the children resolve problems and build healthy interpersonal relationships.

"How can it be so complicated!" Qing'er's father didn't quite understand the way girls think.

"It's not complicated, it's just that girls may not say everything directly like boys do. They may compete secretly most of the time." Xu Yingying said slowly.

"I just don't understand why Lingling treats Qing'er like this. How did Qing'er offend her?" Qing'er's father said to himself.

Thinking of the situation at the beginning when Lingling's brother hid Lingling's dancing shoes, Xu Yingying said: "Maybe it's because we are all with Qing'er!"

Qing'er's father suddenly said, "Are you saying that we shouldn't have come to accompany Qing'er to this class, otherwise so many things wouldn't have happened?"

"It must be that Lingling who is jealous of Qing'er having her parents' company, so she even brought me, her aunt, along." Xu Yingying analyzed the current situation seriously.

"Just because of this?" Qing'er's father was speechless.

"That's probably why." Xu Yingying asserted.

"What's the big deal? We just happened to have time so we came here together. Didn't we not bring Qing'er here before?" Qing'er's father still felt that such an excuse was boring.

"Didn't you say before that Lingling's mother was going to come along? In the end, her mother didn't come. But Qing'er, you, your sister-in-law, and I, your aunt, are all here. This is a fatal blow to Lingling." Xu Yingying said, putting herself in Lingling's position.

"What's going on." Qing'er's father didn't understand why his family and his daughter coming to the capital would hurt other people.

"Because their childhood has been shadowed." Xu Yingying explained step by step.

"She is just a child, and she already has a childhood trauma?" Qing'er's father didn't quite believe it.

"If she can't get rid of this situation during her childhood, then this childhood shadow may follow her for the rest of her life." Xu Yingying thought and said.

"How is that possible? How can a child be so fragile?" Qing'er's father still didn't quite believe it.

"But that's the truth." Xu Yingying shook her head helplessly. "Lingling has lived in a family that favors boys over girls since she was a child. Her parents always put her brother first, and she's never had a good relationship with him. And her mother often puts her brother first, so she has to face loneliness and fear alone. Children who grow up in this environment are often filled with insecurity and low self-esteem."

"So even though Qing'er has someone to accompany her, we still become the ones who provoke her?" asked Qing'er's father.

"Because your attention to Qing'er is what Lingling wants most, because this is what she has always wanted but has never had, to see Qing'er with her caring family by her side. These scenes are undoubtedly a nightmare for Lingling. Moreover, Lingling actually doesn't know that what she is doing now will not get her out of helplessness and pain, but will only make her sink deeper and deeper." Xu Yingying continued.

"I understand." Qing'er's father nodded thoughtfully, "We adults always think that children are young and ignorant, so we ignore their feelings. In fact, they are much more sensitive than we think."

"Yes, so we should pay more attention to the inner world of children and give them more love and support. Only in this way can we help them grow up healthily." Xu Yingying said with emotion.

"After hearing what you said, I was wondering if we shouldn't have accompanied Qing'er on this trip. Maybe she wouldn't have encountered all this." Qing'er's father said.

"You can't blame yourself for other people's mistakes. First of all, whether you come to the capital or not, whether you accompany Qing'er on this trip or not, has no direct connection with whether Qing'er will experience certain people or things. If you want to trace the responsibility in this way, then shouldn't you have given birth to Qing'er at all, and she won't have to suffer this hardship today? I think you are confused by Lingling's behavior. Instead of thinking about it after the fact, you might as well think about it. You came here yourself, at least you know that there is such a person around Qing'er, and how you should guide Qing'er on how to deal with such people. Instead of using escape to solve the current problem." Xu Yingying said to Qing'er's father with a serious face.