Parental Love: Jiang Weimin's Life of Lying Down

Jiang Weimin lay in bed and recalled the plot of the TV series Uncle. According to the plot, Uncle An Tai is actually the most sober person in the world.

In the TV series, the Antai couple give people the impression of being snobbish and cold.

Especially during the period from Jiang Defu and An Jie's blind date to their marriage, their completely different expressions became more and more obvious.

In fact, at first the couple did not treat the two sisters differently:

An Tai and his sister had been well-educated since childhood. Before liberation, their family once owned a textile factory, a car shop, a laundry, a drugstore and several small restaurants.

But on the eve of liberation, Anjie's father took away all the gold and silver jewelry in the house, except for the villa they lived in. He sold all other properties that could be sold, and then fled to Taiwan with only his concubine and her two children.

But he abandoned his first wife and her three children, namely An Tai and his sister.

Anjie's mother died of hatred not long after. Antai and his siblings had already grown up by then. Antai had even married and had children. The two sisters then lived with their brother's family.

The eldest sister An Xin even lived at home after getting married. From the fact that An Xin felt at ease living in this house, it can be seen that An Tai and his wife were actually quite good to the two sisters.

It was only later, based on the special treatment in a special era, that the two sisters who married brother-in-laws of different identities had completely different attitudes:

Both An Tai and his wife came from poor family backgrounds. One was born into a capitalist family, and the other was from a landlord family. In that special era, they were looked down upon and discriminated against, and could only live on thin ice and live cautiously.

In terms of knowledge, An Tai can certainly talk to his elder brother-in-law Ouyang Yi, who is a well-matched man with a rich family background.

But when it comes to backing, it is my younger brother-in-law Jiang Defu, who is an officer in the People's Liberation Army, who is more qualified.

So, ever since Jiang Defu fell in love with An Jie at first sight at the blind date dance, An Tai had developed great enthusiasm and extraordinary respect for Jiang Defu, who came from a prominent family, was a regimental cadre, and was studying at the Naval Artillery School.

In order to make his family live a happy life, An Tai enthusiastically and actively promoted the marriage between An Jie and Jiang Defu.

An Jie looked down on Jiang Defu from the beginning, and her sister An Xin also expressed understanding and support for her sister An Jie's ideas and opinions. However, An Tai stood on the side of Captain Jiang to persuade her younger sister:

First, a basin of cold water was poured on An Jie to make him realize his mistake. He said that Captain Jiang might not be willing to marry the daughter of a capitalist, so how could our family be so picky?

Later, when she saw that Captain Jiang was sincere and was pursuing her relentlessly, her attitude towards her suddenly changed 180 degrees and she became extremely caring.

An Jie really enjoyed the feeling of being valued by her family. Besides, the treatment she received outside was much better than before, so she began to cherish her relationship with Jiang Defu.

Later, An Jie found out that Jiang Defu was married for the second time. This immediately became a thorn in her heart and a hurdle she couldn't get over. She walked away in anger, and the marriage was on the verge of failure.

At this time, a big thing happened in his brother An Tai's family. An Jie's nephew got encephalitis and urgently needed penicillin to save his life. However, this injection was very scarce at the time. Only military hospitals had it, and special approval was required.

Jiang Defu is the only person the An family knows who has connections with the army and is a well-known figure.

So the Antai couple begged An Jie to ask Jiang Defu, whose relationship was at a stalemate, for help. Although An Jie agreed, he couldn't save his face and returned empty-handed.

An Tai went to ask Jiang Defu in person, and after a few visits, An Jie and Jiang Defu had the opportunity to get back together.

Later, during an extraordinary period, Ouyang Yi was labeled a rightist and exiled to Xiaoheishan Island, with his family accompanying him.

This Xiaoheishan Island is very close to Songshan Island where An Jie and Jiang Defu are located, and it is also under the jurisdiction of Jiang Defu. It could have received the most care from Jiang Defu, the then Chief of Staff.

But her brother An Tai had warned An Jie from the beginning not to tell Jiang Defu about what happened to An Xin's family, for he was worried that his brother-in-law Jiang Defu, who valued friendship and loyalty, would violate the rules and take care of them, thus causing him to be implicated and affected.

Not only did he instruct Anjie in this way, he also set an example himself. During the years when An Xin's family suffered on Xiaoheishan Island, An Tai often brought things to her younger sister's family who were better off on Songshan Island, but he ignored her older sister's family who were in greater need.

During this special period, An Tai's family was also affected.

Their house was taken away, and the family was forced to move out of the old house. However, An Tai specifically told An Jie not to tell Jiang Defu, and comforted him, saying, "We are living well here, don't worry."

Because he knew that Jiang Defu was his family's biggest supporter, and unless he had no choice, his family's affairs would never affect Jiang Defu. Otherwise, when the nest is overturned, how can the eggs remain intact?

Therefore, for the Antai family, at this moment, not standing out, not getting hurt, and not causing trouble for others because of trivial matters, everyone should learn to protect themselves, which is to seize the opportunity to preserve the entire family.

Facts have proved that his vision is sharp and his choice is extremely correct.

Under his careful planning, An Xin learned to advise her husband, An Jie learned to keep her mouth shut, and her daughter An Yi also joined the army thanks to Jiang Defu.

The eldest brother played an indispensable role in ensuring that their family was able to survive in such turbulent times.

In order to help their daughter An Yi join the army, the An Tai family went to visit their younger sister An Jie's home on Songshan Island. The abundance and high quality of the gifts delighted the Jiang children.

An Tai stayed at An Jie's house for a few days, but he never asked An Jie about the current situation of his eldest sister's family over the years, let alone stopping by the nearby Xiaoheishan Island to visit them.

This made An Jie feel resentful about it, and Jiang Defu also had many complaints about it.

Ouyang Yi was sent to a remote island and was undergoing labor reform. At that time, if you wanted to visit the island, you had to go through the process and apply to the organization for approval. And the approval process was strict, so you couldn't just go there casually.

On the other hand, how could An Tai's family, a capitalist, a landlord's daughter, and Ouyang wearing a hat, a group of people with special identities and status, dare to report it?

If he was really targeted and the source of the case was investigated, he would be implicated, not to mention visiting his sister. By then, not to mention Jiang Defu, even the Bodhisattva would not be able to protect him.

So, instead of taking risks, it is better to protect yourself.

It is said that the eldest brother is like a father. After An Xin got married, she lived in her brother An Tai's house for a while. The brother and sister have a deep affection for each other. Knowing that An Xin's life is difficult, how can the brother feel at peace?

It's just that the situation forces us to do this, and as the big brother we have to think more carefully.

Not making any noise, not visiting, and keeping silent is the best protection for your sister; not causing trouble, not making any trouble, and being a "transparent person" is the best reward for Jiang Defu.

Don't meddle in other people's business if you are not in their position. Many times we only consider issues from our own perspective, so we misunderstand An Tai.

But in fact, in order to protect the family, being able to put aside one's wealth and face and choose the best solution is the greatest maturity and decency of an adult.

After Jiang Defu retired, he took his wife and daughter back to Qingdao. The first stop was An Tai's family. In fact, An Tai's family was no longer as wealthy as they used to be. The house they lived in was small and cramped. It can be seen that what they gave An Jie's family was not their daily living standards, but they sincerely did their best.

At a family dinner like a reception for VIPs, An Jie's sister-in-law raised her glass first and toasted to Jiang Defu. She said sincerely: "If our An family didn't have you, it would be finished. We don't know what would happen to it!"

The Antai couple expressed their gratitude time and again, and each time they were spoken with emotion and from the heart. No wonder Anjie had a problem with his brother and sister-in-law, but Jiang Defu had a very good impression of his brother-in-law and his wife.

When interacting with others, we often look at the lowest point of a person, and the lowest point of Anjie's brother and sister-in-law is gratitude.

An Tai and his wife always live a clear and sober life. They are not arrogant when their lives are high, and they do not complain when their lives are low. They bow their heads when they should, and bend over when they should.

The life wisdom they possessed not only enabled them to safely pass through a special historical period, but also gave them the upper hand in planning for their children's future.

Although Ouyang Yi and An Xin's children were later arranged to join the army, that was something An Jie and his wife did on their own initiative because they felt sorry for the suffering they had endured over the years, and it was not in the couple's subjective plan.

In the end, I found that the order of life is often more important than the order of the heart. An Tai's smooth journey has verified this point.