Professional Ethics of a Concubine

When Ling Yue heard the Ninth Princess' question, she looked at Ye Qingzhi curiously, wanting to know what she was thinking.

"I don't really want to think about this question, and I don't know how to answer it." Ye Qingzhi spread her hands and smiled in a very innocent way.

"It's still three or four years away. People's minds change, the environment will change, and the core conflicts will change. We'll see when the time comes. I don't want to worry about problems that haven't come yet."

When the Ninth Princess heard this, she completely regarded Ye Qingzhi as her close friend.

Yes, yes, yes. When I encounter difficulties, I would also like to think so.

Anyway, it hasn’t happened yet, so just avoid it first and don’t think about those problems that haven’t happened yet.

Living is already difficult, and there are always a bunch of problems waiting for you to solve. Why worry about problems that have not yet come?

"But, for something as big as having a child, don't you think about it in advance, don't you make plans, don't you make some preparations?"

Ling Yue frowned, feeling that she couldn't be so careless and willful, especially towards Ye Qingzhi.

Ye Qingzhi sighed quietly after hearing this.

“First of all, the prince wanted me to have a child, and he repeatedly stressed that I should have a child to secure my position.

However, as far as my own wishes are concerned, I actually don't want to have children from the bottom of my heart, nor do I want to use children as tools to consolidate my status or anything like that.

Moreover, I really feel that I can’t rely on children to consolidate my position. On the contrary, I have to sacrifice myself completely for the sake of my children.”

Upon hearing this, the Ninth Princess looked at Ye Qingzhi excitedly, opened her mouth to say something, but closed it again, turned around and told her personal maid to guard outside the door.

She also suggested that Ye Qingzhi and the others send away their personal maids and ask them to go out, as she felt that the topic they were discussing should be kept confidential.

Even those who stayed in the house to serve were their confidants.

Ling Yue and Ye Qingzhi did as they were told and asked them to guard outside the door.

"Qingzhi, you've been avoiding it for four or five years. You still have to give birth to a child in the end, right? If you don't, the prince won't agree and will keep putting pressure on you."

The Ninth Princess chose to ask directly,

"The Crown Prince only favors you. If you don't give birth, and the Crown Prince still doesn't favor others, then the burden of continuing the royal family's heirs will still fall on you. Do you really think you can compete with him?

Qingzhi, I'm sorry that I asked you this question so aggressively because I don't want to have a child myself.

I am afraid of having a child, but I also feel that I may not be able to resist such oppression and finally compromise painfully. So, I want to ask you what you think? "

Ling Yue looked at the Ninth Princess and then at Ye Qingzhi, and felt that he had met two alternative women.

Don’t all women want to have children? Giving birth to a girl is not enough, they must give birth to a boy in order to gain a foothold.

She had never heard of any decent woman who tried every means to avoid having children, except those who had fallen into prostitution.

"Why don't you want to have a baby?" Ye Qingzhi also looked at the Ninth Princess in surprise.

She began to doubt whether the Ninth Princess was her fellow villager. Maybe she had not awakened her memories of her past life, but she would be affected subconsciously.

Because some of the Ninth Princess's ideas are really advanced. Not only is she smart and far-sighted and understands the situation in the court, but her female consciousness is also highly awakened.

"Because I'm scared." The Ninth Princess hugged her arms and rubbed them, with deep fear in her eyes.

"I'm afraid that I will die due to complications during childbirth. I'm afraid that I won't be able to raise the baby. I'm also afraid that the baby will grow up and die before me, and I will be in pain because of this..."

Ling Yue was shocked and a little confused, "Are you unwilling to have children because of these things? Everyone is like this."

"Just because everyone does it doesn't mean it's right." Ye Qingzhi took over the conversation and said in agreement.

"What the Ninth Princess said is also the reason why I don't want to have children. I am also afraid of having and raising children.

After having a child, my heart no longer belongs to me completely. Whether I like it or not, I am kidnapped by the child.

To some extent, maternal love is really a humble, selfless and completely selfless love.

Otherwise, people would sing praises of filial piety and maternal love, because women really sacrifice too much for this.

If being a mother was a simple thing with only happiness and no pain, people would not sing praises about it, or use a bunch of words like hard work, dedication, etc. to describe the devotion of a mother to her children.

Just as the Ninth Princess said, if you get pregnant and then lose the child, or if the child is born with a disability or mental retardation, how painful it would be.

It is a kind of pain that makes you feel that your life is meaningless and a pain that makes you feel hollow.

I don’t even know how much effort it will take to repair myself, to live again, or to muster up the courage to have children again.

But if I don’t have children, these potential pains won’t happen, and I won’t have to bear these risks and pains. I can be selfish and complete myself and live a comfortable life.”

After hearing Ye Qingzhi's words, Ling Yue shuddered instinctively. For some reason, he began to feel a little fear and many doubts in his heart.

Isn't having children and being a mother a woman's instinct and nature? Yet everyone requires women to have children.

Everyone is saying:

If you are a woman and you cannot give birth to a child, you are guilty of a heinous crime. You are not worthy of being a woman. You are not even worthy of living, let alone being accepted by your in-laws and loved by your husband. Your only destiny is to be abandoned.

People always say that a woman needs children to gain a foothold, because if you can't give birth to a son, who will you rely on to live, who will be filial to you, and who will take care of you in your old age!

On weekdays, when she heard that someone had a miscarriage, someone's child died at birth, someone's child was killed or died in battle, she thought it was all too normal.

Those women who lost their children seemed to be in pain, but not as much pain as Qingzhi said.

If they have a miscarriage, they will cry for a while and then try hard to have the next one.

After giving birth to a child, if the child dies before being raised, the mother will cry for a while and then go on to have a second one...until the mother dies in childbirth or is too old to have any more children.

For the first time, Ling Yue seriously put herself in the situation and thought about these things. If she had a miscarriage and the child died...it would be too painful, too painful!

Suddenly, Ling Yue felt the idea of ​​having a child was terrifying, and even a little resistant.

"Oh my god! Qingzhi, what you said is so good, every word hits my heart! Just thinking about these pains, I really don't want to have a child at all."

After hearing what Ye Qingzhi said, the Ninth Princess excitedly held her hand and couldn't help but express some of her true thoughts and feelings.

"Do you know why I want to come to Da Zhao to marry? Because when I come here, I feel that I can justifiably not have to have children, and the pressure of being forced to give birth will not be so strong.

Moreover, I can completely convince myself that a princess who is married to a foreign country is not worthy of having a child. If the two countries go to war again, my child will be sacrificed. For the sake of the child and for his responsibility, I must not give birth to him. "

"Ninth Princess, there are not many women who think like you." Ye Qingzhi really wanted to ask her, are you really not my fellow countryman?

"So, I never talk about this with others because I'll be seen as crazy."

The Ninth Princess gave a bitter smile, but when she looked at Ye Qingzhi again, her eyes were sparkling.

"Qingzhi, I'm so happy to meet you, to have you listen to my complaints, and to understand and agree with me.

Oh, I made the right decision to come to Da Zhao to marry! Qingzhi, I don't feel so lonely anymore with you here."

"...Hey, calm down. You're not going to marry Qingzhi. She can't live with you."

Ling Yue couldn't help but say, asking the Ninth Princess to cool down and stop looking at Ye Qingzhi so fanatically.

Ye Qingzhi,...

Unexpectedly, he felt so much empathy with the Ninth Princess on the issue of having children, and it seemed like he had won her over and made her his confidante.

The Ninth Princess calmed down her excitement, glanced at Ling Yue, and could not help but whispered,

"It's rare to meet a soulmate in life, especially when it comes to having children, so it's normal for me to be a little excited."

"After listening to what you said, I am a little shaken. Are you two really not going to have children in the future? Is having children really that scary?"

Ling Yue ignored the Ninth Princess's complaints and said with a look of despair,

“But when I see women with children holding their babies, they all look so happy.

My mother even said that she was lucky to have given birth to me, otherwise she would not have been able to endure in the palace. She kept talking about how happy she was to have me, and never said how miserable she was..."

"Giving birth to a child is certainly not all about pain. The joy and happiness that a child brings you is indeed something that cannot be replaced by anyone else.

Children can really bring you a lot of courage, fill your life, and give you the meaning of living..."

Ye Qingzhi smiled and nodded in agreement with what Ling Yue said.

"It's just that my fear of unknown pain and my selfishness overwhelm my expectation for these happiness, and I don't want to make such selfless contributions, so I don't want children.

However, when the outside environment puts pressure on me and makes me feel that not having children may be more painful and costly, and I also begin to feel that the world is a beautiful place and make me want to bring a new life into this world, then I will compromise and choose to have children.

No matter what choice you make, it will not be perfect. There will be happiness and pain.

I don’t think I have to say in advance that I definitely don’t want to have children. People’s minds change easily, so let nature take its course.”

After hearing this, Ling Yue nodded, thinking that this was very fair, because it was really impossible to say it absolutely and it was impossible to do it.

"Will the world really become a better place?" The Ninth Princess sighed with a look of disappointment and said to Ye Qingzhi and the others,

"Have you heard? Our Great Yan is also going to make peace with the Donghu. My father initially chose my seventh sister, but she didn't want to, and she committed suicide by taking poison on New Year's Eve.

For the first time in her life, she rebelled against her father, and not only lost her life, but also her mother's life. Her maternal family was also angered because of her, and the entire family was exiled.

After my seventh sister died, my father immediately replaced her with my eleventh sister. She was only fourteen years old and a little mentally retarded, so she didn't know how to resist and would not commit suicide.

She would be arranged by people around her to marry into the Donghu and serve a man in his forties or fifties who could be her grandfather.

When I heard the news, I felt that the world was truly terrible. Even if I was born a princess, nobler than the lower class women, it still couldn't change my fate as an animal."

"That's because your father is too cowardly and incompetent." Ling Yue frowned, "He chose to sacrifice women in exchange for marriage benefits instead of using the army to scare them away."

“The world is bad, change it. You are luckier than others because you already have some power to change it, as long as you dare to do it and dare to think.”

Ye Qingzhi smiled and said to the Ninth Princess,

"You are very powerful, don't underestimate yourself. Now that you are awake and in pain, fight back and don't keep running away.

If you avoid it for too long, the pain will be doubled, and if you fight back regardless, you will feel refreshed! "

"I can't change my father's mind." The Ninth Princess frowned and said, "And I can't agree with him."

"Then find someone you agree with, replace him, and overthrow him." Ye Qingzhi said seriously.

"What do you think of our prince? You will never find another monarch as worthy of support as him."

Ling Yue looked at Ye Qingzhi in shock and blinked at her frantically.

No, they were talking about women giving birth one moment, but the next moment, they were trying to trick people into joining the prince in a rebellion?!

Isn't this a bit too big? Isn't this a bit too crazy?

Princess Nine, "???"