Crossing the famine, I am a poor fish, and my descendants have to work hard

Zhao Yuanzhen was not surprised, as their teacher had said these words, and this was the general environment of this dynasty.

She didn't want to change, but now Zhang Xinshuo would have the opportunity to serve as an official in the court in the future, and she didn't want him to be a person who would promote culture and destroy military power.

"It is true that convincing people with virtue can make them truly convinced, but there is a prerequisite for convincing people with virtue, that is, others give you the opportunity to speak. Or you have the opportunity for others to listen to you and speak.

Since ancient times, no one who is praised for his virtue has been unknown. He first needs to reach a certain social status before he can serve as a role model.

It is like a beggar begging from others, he talks a lot of great moral principles, but no one will stop to listen to his principles and give him food. Or he helps other beggars every day. But except for the beggars who have been helped, other people don’t know and don’t care.

Like you, would you care about which beggar has high morals and helps others every day?

But if today some scholar or famous official stood in a crowded place and gave a beggar a steamed bun in front of everyone, he would definitely be praised and celebrated.

Is he morally superior to a beggar? It's just that everyone knows him. His social status is just because he goes out, has talent, money, power, or one or more of these.

Another thing is that his real interests are not affected. If his interests are affected, the way he defends his rights is often to use absolute power weapons, rather than to make others cry by reasoning.

If our military power is strong, the Jin people will not dare to break through the border, and will pay tribute every year, and we will also show the demeanor of a great country. We can tell them harmlessly that they don't have to worry, our country governs the country with virtue and will not treat you harshly.

The Jin people would praise us for ruling the country with virtue. It's just that they can't defeat us.

Therefore, the premise of winning people over with virtue is that you have the absolute strength to make others praise your virtue. "

Zhang Xinshu felt like he understood and nodded.

"Then mother, what is a gentleman?"

The Master has always taught them to be a gentleman.

"Gentleman, mother thinks that gentleman is just a beautiful title imagined by scholars. If there really is a definition, it is to be a person with feelings and righteousness, and do things that are reasonable and logical.

As a person, you should not be too weak or too strong. You should not be too tolerant and yielding without any bottom line, nor should you be too aggressive and humiliating.

As a son, you should be filial to your parents, but you should not be blindly filial. Since ancient times, a loving mother makes a filial son. Only a loving mother can make a filial son. If you are like the Zheng family, who are so heartless and do whatever their mother says, not only should you not listen, but you should also advise them from the side.

As an official, you should be loyal to the emperor, love your country and your people. To whom should you be loyal? To a wise emperor. So this sentence should be changed to "Love your country, love your people and be loyal to the emperor".

Only if you are good to this country, love this country, and love its people, will you be loyal to this monarch. This monarch must also love the country and people you love, and then you can be loyal to him.

One day, you will be an official in the court. You will meet a team of literati and military generals. Don't the military generals love their country, the people and the emperor? They have done much more than some literati who can only write sad poems about their concern for the country and the people.

Also, as a husband, brother, father, or friend, do not be too harsh on them, but do not overly indulge them. Do not harm the interests of others to fulfill your own selfish desires. Do not have any malicious intentions in moral behavior. That is enough.

Of course, there is no need to maintain morality when dealing with enemies or evil people. They are already immoral, and you just need to deal with them as soon as possible, which is the best morality for good people.

You are still young, you just need to help the world when you are rich, and take care of yourself when you are poor."

Zhang Xinshu suddenly felt as if he had been enlightened. Both his teacher and his classmates were setting the standard for him to be a gentleman.

But this gentleman is more like a performance of theirs. Just like what my mother said, they all want to be called a gentleman. I have seen that they are not the same behind the scenes.

The conversation between mother and son that day led Zhang Xinshuo to always put patriotism and love for the people first when he later served as an official.

Then, if loyalty to the emperor conflicts with the previous approach, he would ask the emperor to change in a cunning and obscure way. When the emperor is extremely angry, he would take out a new prescription developed by his own research institute that benefits the country and the people. The emperor would have mixed feelings of love and hate for him.

Everyone in the car listened quietly. Although they didn't quite understand what mother/grandmother/sister-in-law said, they felt that what mother/grandmother/sister-in-law said made a lot of sense.

Zhang Qingyan was even more stunned, because when she learned embroidery before, she needed to look at the patterns and deal with the embroidery building. She knew some simple words.

Now that I see my second sister-in-law teaching Zijin and even teaching Xinshu, who has been studying for several years, I feel that my second sister-in-law is really amazing.

Although I don't quite understand it.

But I am not a foolish filial son, I understand it myself.

If that bastard Zheng Yinzi hadn't been filial, I would have been in such a miserable situation.

Zhao Yuanzhen continued to talk about governing.

After you finish teaching, let them review on their own.

She found a pen and paper and drew the fur coat she wanted to modify.

First, remove the fur collar, then make a hood, connect the hat and the fur coat together, and then sew the fur collar around the hat.

Zhao Yuanzhen showed the picture to Zhang Qingyan.

Zhang Qingyan took a look and found that although the picture her sister-in-law drew was simple, it was easy to understand and she knew how to do it at a glance.

There is no moon-white cotton cloth now.

Villagers often work in the fields, so they generally don’t buy this kind of color that doesn’t resist dirt.

This hat needs to be made softer, but it doesn't need leather. Just a layer of cotton evenly spread on it will do.

First, use a light-colored cloth to make a cotton hat, then cover it with moon-white cloth, and finally sew it together with the fur coat.

Qian Xiaohui gave her the cotton left over from making clothes yesterday. With her help, all the cotton-padded clothes for the whole family were made yesterday. There was still some cotton and cloth left.

But the fabric is not too light in color.

Zhao Yuanzhen pretended to turn around and look in the closet, but actually bought a piece of cloth in the mall that was similar in color to the cloak. Not much, just a few feet.

Then he handed it to Zhang Qingyan.

Qingyan took it and first cut out a rough shape of a hat, then evenly rolled the cotton, spread it out layer by layer on the table, and then fixed the cotton in rows with needle and thread.

She sewed neatly and efficiently, and in half an hour she had the lining of the hat ready.

Then he picked up the fur coat and carefully took off the fur collar. Then he cut the fabric for the hat according to the length of the fur coat's collar.

Put the lining into the hat fabric, and connect the hat and the fur coat neatly.

Sew the three together without revealing any lines.

Finally, sew the fur collar on using the same stitching method.

When she looked up, she saw that everyone was watching her altering the hat, and she felt a little embarrassed. Then she handed the altered fur coat to her second sister-in-law.

Zhao Yuanzhen took it and took a look, and it had the same effect as she wanted.

Then I put it on and tried it on with the hat.

The size is right. Not too big to show off the neck, but not too tight to the face.

The needle and thread are also well hidden. Zhao Yuanzhen really likes it.

"Qingyan's craftsmanship is really amazing. The way she hides the needle is also very good, and you can't see the stitches at all. Qingyan, I will find a few patterns for you in the future, and you can help me make clothes." Suddenly I felt like I had my own personal tailor!

"Okay, second sister-in-law, as long as you don't mind, I will keep doing it for you." Zhang Qingyan was very happy.

My second sister-in-law really likes her cooking skills.

"My aunt's craftsmanship is really good. Every time I hide the needle, it will show a little. It's not as natural as my aunt's."

"Me too. I can never hide it well."

The two daughters-in-law also followed suit.

They chatted for a while, then went out to drive the carriage for Zhang Xinbai and Zhang Xinnian.

Zhang Qingyan also followed him out.

She also wanted to learn how to drive a cart, so Zhao Yuanzhen asked her to go to the cart in front and learn from Qian Xiaohui.

She and Li Zhijuan sat in the carriage and looked at it.

Suddenly I remembered that I haven't given the baby cream I bought yesterday to Sun Zhangshi yet.

He pretended to take it out of his pocket, jumped off the carriage and went to the old house.

"Mom, this is the facial cream I bought yesterday for you. Tell me when you run out of it and I'll buy you more." Zhao Yuanzhen walked at the same speed as the carriage in the old house.

"You kid, I'm so old, why do I still need to apply facial cream? Keep it for yourself." Sun Zhang pushed it back again.

"Mom, this is a gift from your second brother and sister-in-law, just take it. If you don't want it, I'll help you use it!" Wu Erping reached out to take it.

Sun Zhang slapped her hand away.

"You want everything, why don't you let this house be yours?"

Sun Zhang was already dissatisfied with her because of Zhang Qingyan's matter. She bumped into her.

"Mom, I'm holding it for you!" Wu Erping rubbed his hands embarrassedly.

"You keep gossiping and even trying to take advantage of my things. You are so old, you have become a grandmother, but you don't even think about setting a good example for your children and grandchildren. You keep taking advantage of others and never get enough. If I catch you taking advantage of others and gossiping again, you can go back to your mother's house!"

Since Wu Erping became a mother-in-law, she has rarely lost face in front of others. Who knew that she would harm the girl so badly.

"Mom, I was wrong. Please don't chase me away. I won't take advantage of you. I'll shut up, shut up."

Wu Erping's face turned pale. On one hand, she was angry that her mother-in-law scolded her in front of her brother's wife, daughter-in-law, son, grandson, and granddaughter. On the other hand, she was really afraid of being driven back home. Her brother's wife would never tolerate her.

"You'd better remember what you said today. I'm not kidding you. If it happens again, you can go back by yourself"!

This time, Sun Zhang was determined to punish her.

If this problem is not dealt with immediately, all the descendants in the family will be led astray.

Marry a virtuous wife, and one woman will take care of three generations.

I have to take good care of Wu Erping while I am still here, otherwise after I die, this family will be ruined by her and my descendants will be taught bad habits.

It's all my fault for being soft-hearted and not disciplining my daughter-in-law properly. I hope it's not too late.

Zhao Yuanzhen, who was watching the old play, said, I really just came here to give you a face cream.

"Mom, please take it quickly. I have one myself. You don't look old at all. Your voice is loud and your complexion is rosy. We still need to take good care of ourselves." He stuffed the cream to Sun Zhang.

After listening to her words, Sun Zhang finally felt happier. If the eldest family could have half of the second family's, she would have to worry less.

"Then I'll accept it. Thank you to the second family."

"Don't be polite to me, mother. It's my duty to honor you. I'll go back first."

Zhao Yuanzhen waved her hand and went back. She would still choose to follow the carriage rather than go back and take the carriage.