Being a director starts with fighting domestic violence

Occasionally, there would be one or two people with outstanding talents who were promoted to team leaders. She would be assigned to the team with the most fellow countrymen, which would naturally improve work efficiency.

Speaking of the housekeeping training classes, they have already opened several classes.

After more than a month of professional training, two classes of more than 40 female comrades have found jobs as nannies and confinement nannies in the city or provincial capital.

The first confinement nanny to go to the provincial capital was Director Lu’s daughter, who introduced her to her teacher, Professor Zhang.

This confinement nanny is skillful, hardworking and smart, and she does a great job for Professor Zhang.

She also learned at school that some university teachers were also looking for information about nannies and confinement nannies.

She called back and told Director Lu and the others.

Then, through this confinement nanny, several more nannies and confinement nannies were introduced to the provincial capital.

In this way, one person can lead a group. As long as one person has a firm foothold in the local area, he can lead many people out.

Director Lu is undoubtedly very pleased to have such results, especially for those married women who can hardly read or write but can find jobs in the city or provincial capital and gain a foothold in the city.

Among these people, the majority were women who had previously participated in the tour, except for the young ones who went to Guangdong Province to work.

The others all took housekeeping training courses and found jobs in the city or provincial capital.

Some left after getting divorced, while others who failed to divorce also resolutely left the original Heng County.

In addition to these, Gao You also wanted to know how those divorced women were doing now.

Director Lu said somewhat bewilderedly: "A total of 23 women have divorced during this period."

"Five of them remarried. The one who worked for your sister, Peng Danyun, was forced to remarry by her family after her divorce.

She had no choice but to take her daughter and marry a man whose ex-wife had left her for more than half a year. The man also found her a temporary job.

Two of them returned to their parents’ home with their daughters and wanted to settle down, but it was very difficult. The village and the team were not very supportive, and we did some work to get it done. But they didn’t get any housing land or land.”

“Two others found temporary jobs with the help of their maternal families.

Some work as helpers in restaurants, some work as nannies, some set up stalls, and some collect rubbish.”

Director Lu was not in a good mood when talking about these things.

Sometimes she wonders and feels confused about whether she should encourage these women to remarry.

But if they don't get married, they don't have their own land, their own homestead, and it's even very difficult to register as a resident.

“Director Lu, my opinion is that we cannot give them housing sites or land.

But we should also try our best to give them the confidence to choose not to get married.

We also need to give some people the courage to get married.

We must also give them the courage to divorce after they get married.

We also need to give them the courage to get married again after divorce," Gao You said.

"In today's society, it's too difficult to encourage people not to get married. But because of your existence, they have the confidence and courage to do so."

After hearing this, Director Lu felt much relieved.

Director Lu also talked about an article she read by Gao You in the newspaper some time ago.

The article says that society seems to have the highest requirement for men being "no", and the lowest requirement for women being "yes".

Men are asked not to smoke, drink, hit others, spit, urinate or defecate anywhere, sexually harass female colleagues, or sexually assault women.

Sometimes, you have to add the word "please" in front.

And what about women?

They are required to be more diligent, gentle, generous, kind, thinner, whiter, obedient, sensible, virtuous, filial, patient, the three obediences and four virtues, and to be frugal and manage the household...

After reading it, Director Lu began to doubt her decades of work in the Women's Federation.

Because she often uses those "requirements" to measure whether a woman has met the standards for needing her help.

After all, she couldn't personally take care of and mediate every minor matter such as a quarrel between husband and wife.

If a man just quarrels with a woman and doesn't fight, she will think it's just a small matter.

It’s inevitable that couples don’t quarrel.

If it was the first time, she would think it was probably just an accident.

After all, when she goes to their homes, the men are usually very sincere in admitting their mistakes and promise not to do it again next time.

Sometimes, she also feels that there are reasons why couples quarrel and fight.

Sometimes it’s the man’s fault.

Sometimes it’s the woman’s fault.

Sometimes, it's because the woman is too fussy.

Sometimes, it’s just that men have a bad temper.

Now that I think about it, the so-called happiness of many families is achieved through the efforts and sacrifices of women.

Many conflicts, quarrels, beatings and scoldings are usually caused by men.

Director Lu told Gao You about his confusion.

"Did we do something wrong? Did we harm them?

We always pursue the saying that a harmonious family brings prosperity.

Now I realize that home belongs to men, and happiness belongs to men. Women are responsible for harmony and everything else. "Director Lu took off his reading glasses and couldn't help shedding tears.

She was sad, frightened and felt guilty.

When she learns to think at a higher level, she will find that everything is wrong.

"Director Lu, I must criticize you seriously!" Gao You said.

Director Lu looked up at her with tears in his eyes.

"The purpose of my writing this article is to encourage women to reflect on themselves less and love themselves more. Director Lu, the last thing we women should do is reflect on ourselves."

"We have reflected enough. We have taken everything that belongs to us and does not belong to us and reflected on ourselves. This is wrong."

"Men rarely reflect on themselves. Even if they say they know they are wrong, the subtext is actually saying, 'Oh, I'm not strong enough, I have to bow my head today.' They never really admit their mistakes," said Gao You.

Director Lu was amused by her and took out a handkerchief to wipe his tears.

Yes, women are really good at self-reflection.

"Director Lu, these ideas of mine are not just my own. They are the blood and tears of countless generations of women over thousands of years. I just summarized them." Gao You actually felt a little guilty.

These ideas will spread widely and become common decades later, and many women will be able to write about them.

She just changed the time and space and wrote it in advance.

"Our country is still too young and needs more time to grow. Our predecessors have done a lot, and you have also done enough. We cannot deny what we are doing today, as that would be denying what they have done," said Gao You.

Director Lu was comforted by Gao You.

Yeah, too young.

They still need time, there is still time for everything.