【Historical Live Broadcast】Watching videos and being seen by our ancestors

【Growth is an isolating process】

Don’t live your life like a lost person.

[Anxious to tell everyone about your misfortune]

[Make your experience a joke in the eyes of others]

[Even if you lie down and let others walk on you, they will still complain that you are not comfortable enough. ]

[So, don’t try to win other people’s sympathy, just live your own life well, and be strong, that’s better than anything else! ]

[It is better to plant and raise your own tree to enjoy the shade than to find a big tree to enjoy the shade]

【Things given by others can be taken back at any time. Only things created by oneself will stay forever.】

"Not many people will listen to your misfortunes.

Most of the time when I listen to their complaints, I feel like I am just a receiver of their emotions, but I don’t want to be the receiver of their grievances at all.”

"Yes, I have a friend. I once told her about the bad things that happened to me. At that time, I wanted to leave. Later, she told me not to talk to her about those things anymore, so I started to keep quiet. I haven't said anything for a long time, but she still remembers it. Even though I don't say it now, she still asks: Do you remember? You were like this and like that at that time, and my mother said this and that about you (because when I was talking to her on the phone, she played the music out loud, and her mother heard me crying)"

“Loneliness lasts throughout your life. Only when you enjoy loneliness can your life begin.”

“Please don’t think like that. Although 99.99% of people will just listen and forget about it, the process of speaking out these things is the process of reconciling with yourself and sorting out your logic. If you don’t speak out, a lot of negative emotions will accumulate in your brain. If there is no one you can trust, then please speak to yourself.”

"Nothing is absolute. If you feel that you can't hold on by yourself and need help, remember to ask for help. Family and friends can be fine. There is no point in talking about other people's suffering from a high point. Only those who have experienced it understand that no one is willing to be alone."

"To be honest, I don't think it's a joke when others confide their sufferings to me. I'm always afraid that I can't help others. Growth is not a process of being alone. Your family and friends are there with you."

“Your experience is a joke in the eyes of others”

It’s hard for me to deny this statement, but to be honest, if someone said this to me, then that person would really become a joke in my eyes.”

"The biggest growth I've made in the past two years is realizing that I'm always alone. I used to like sharing my joy and sadness with others, but only when I stand in their perspective can I know how you're doing. Others can't empathize with you. If you meet someone with bad morals, they will be jealous of your success and laugh at your failure in their hearts, so don't complain at any time."

"Loneliness is the norm, you are not the only one, everyone is the same [eating melon]"

The ancestors who saw this video couldn't help but feel sad.

People who are uneducated always feel depressed. They keep all the ups and downs of life in their hearts, and even their meals have no taste.

Educated people: That's right! There are so many things in life that are not satisfactory. There are always people who step on your head and bully you. You will also abuse yourself over and over again for various reasons, such as officialdom, family affairs, or the Three Bonds and Five Constant Virtues.

In the end, no one understands me. The adult world is not good at all. Loneliness is always with me...

Zhu Qiyu thought: Isn't it the same for me? When my father was alive, he favored Zhu Qizhen, and I was helpless when I was young.

Now that his father was gone and Zhu Qizhen was captured by the Tatars, the ministers still sided with Zhu Qizhen. No matter how careful he was and how hard he tried to be a wise ruler, they ignored him as a temporary emperor. No matter how much he did, it could not overcome the orthodoxy that had been passed down since ancient times. [Bitter]