A 1970s mom raises a cute baby, and a crazy boss spoils her

Gu Qinghuan officially started her busy study and work, and the two children also began their study life. Thanks to the special tutoring that Gu Qinghuan had given them in advance, the two of them basically had no problems and were able to keep up with the progress with ease.

In fact, it is a bit early for Beibei to start first grade. She is only four years old.

But she didn't want to be separated from her brother, and she could keep up with her studies, so Gu Qinghuan just let her go. The most important thing was that the child felt comfortable.

During this period, Lin Xiaomeng pretended to remind her casually that if she read more books and prepared more, she might have a chance to wait for the college entrance examination.

Gu Qinghuan just took the opportunity to go down the hill, pretending to have listened to her reminder, and read books whenever he had time every day, which also brought a relatively positive influence to the two children.

They all like reading books and newspapers very much. If there are no pinyin, they will ask Gu Qinghuan to help read. They have great enthusiasm for learning.

Lin Xiaomeng is now a math teacher for first and second graders. There are three classes in the first grade and two classes in the second grade. She teaches five classes in total and is quite busy.

Fortunately, I don’t have to be a class teacher. After class, I have my own time and can occasionally look after these little ones.

She found that Gu Qinghuan was really good at educating children. There was no need for her to urge, beat or scold them. The two children were very enthusiastic in their studies.

Unlike her son Dacheng, who seems to be reading for her, he always makes excuses and shirks his responsibilities. His study progress cannot even keep up with Dabao, and he can't even catch up with Beibei. It's so embarrassing.

She originally thought that the two children studied hard because they were afraid of Gu Qinghuan. After all, she was their stepmother and could never be as caring as their biological mother.

As the saying goes, when a child sees his mother, he will cry three times for no reason.

Every time her Dacheng starts to act like a spoiled child, calling her "Mom" before she even opens her mouth, which makes her lose her temper.

But after observing her, she found that contrary to what she thought, these two children really like reading and studying from the bottom of their hearts, and they are not doing it for show as she thought.

When Gu Qinghuan was not around, they still went their own way and had their own pace.

Gu Qinghuan’s role is more like a guide. She only needs to assign tasks and the children will complete them well.

And to be honest, these two children are really talented in studying and have a strong comprehension ability.

It is obvious that Dabao has completed the first-grade curriculum and now most questions are not difficult for him.

Lin Xiaomeng was so envious that she asked Gu Qinghuan: "How did you raise these two children? I am so envious."

As someone who has experienced this, she knows the importance of studying, so she also hopes that her son can study hard.

However, when it comes to learning, the more anxious parents are, the worse they tend to do. They are prone to overcorrecting and even making their children hate learning.

Her Dacheng is showing signs of this now. He always says one thing in front of her and another behind her back. He has begun to pretend to obey her but actually disobey her. This gives Lin Xiaomeng a headache.

Gu Qinghuan only told her one thing: "It's useless to be anxious. What you need to do is to guide your child to like reading.

Simply put, it is to awaken the child's inner motivation.

If you want people to build a ship, don't hire them to gather wood. Don't give orders or assign tasks. Instead, inspire them with a desire for the ocean.

In fact, there are very few children who are born with a natural desire to study. The reason is that the internal motivation of those children has been fully stimulated.

Children with intrinsic motivation are interested in knowledge, learning, and solving problems. They will think proactively, arrange their learning tasks consciously, and can gain a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment in learning.

Children who lack internal motivation are like an old ox pulling a broken cart. They only move forward one step when their parents and teachers urge them and whip them. They are passive in their learning and thinking.

"I have to admit that what you said makes sense. Our Dacheng is like that broken car now. I have to use all my strength to move it, but I have tried my best to guide him. I can only say that every child is different!

I make a study plan for him every day and take time to study with him. In order to motivate him to study hard, I sometimes give him some simple rewards and punishments.

I have tried all kinds of methods, but for some reason, they have had little effect, which makes me extremely anxious now. "

Especially when she saw the two children in Gu Qinghuan's family, who could study well on their own without much discipline, she was so envious.

Gu Qinghuan shook his head.

"Nagging and urging is not right. You are worrying too much and taking on things that the child should manage on his own. You are more anxious and worried than the child himself.

You take control of things that he should have arranged himself, and the child is like a mindless "robot".

If he can only mechanically follow instructions and do what you ask him to do, will he still have the enthusiasm for learning after a long time?

Inappropriate rewards and punishments can also ruin children's interest. Psychological research shows that predictable rewards can destroy children's love and interest in the thing itself.

If you want to cultivate a child who is self-motivated and can manage learning well, the key is to stimulate his interest in learning and arouse his sense of accomplishment and satisfaction in acquiring knowledge, solving problems, and making progress.

"What you said makes sense, but how should I do it specifically?"

Lin Xiaomeng was completely convinced by Gu Qinghuan at this moment. What she said touched her heart. In fact, Lin Xiaomeng herself understood that some things were not worthwhile, but she still couldn't help but feel anxious.

Every parent wants their sons to become successful and their daughters to become outstanding.

“First, don’t be a taskmaster.

Let him be responsible for his own affairs. For example, if he forgets to do his homework this time and gets scolded by the teacher, he will find a way to copy it down next time to avoid forgetting.

Second, establish rules and cultivate habits.

Establish corresponding rules from the beginning of school, such as doing homework before playing, checking homework carefully after finishing, packing the school bag before going to bed every night, etc. Good habits will benefit you for a lifetime.

Remember, it is strictly forbidden to accompany your children to do homework. Learn to focus on the big things and let go of the small things, grasp the main direction, and the key is to cultivate habits.

Third, set appropriate goals.

Appropriate goals will give children more motivation to work hard. The pleasure after achieving the goal will give children a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence, further encouraging them to work hard and constantly surpass themselves.

Fourth, know how to leave blank space.

Don't arrange his study tasks too full. Don't assign extra homework after he finishes his homework. Over time, he will be physically and mentally exhausted.

He would think that there would be a bunch of other things waiting for him after he finishes finishing this one, and he couldn't always play, so he would just drag it out, which easily led to him developing bad habits of procrastination and passivity.

Be sure to leave some free time for your children.”

Lin Xiaomeng took a notebook and wrote down everything she said.

"Thank you, Qing Huan. I have to write this down. I will definitely ask you for advice when I teach my children in the future. You are so young and you don't even have any children. How can you be better at educating children than me who has children?"