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"I don't have much money, and I don't have the ability to do a big career, but don't worry, marry me. As long as I have something to eat, I won't let you drink something watery. I will treat you and Ziyan well. From today on, Ziyan is my biological child, and you are the only woman in this life. I can't say any gorgeous words, but I want to say that I will hold your hand and grow old with you," Guan Miao said nervously.

Until Guan Miao finished speaking, the scene was silent and no one spoke.

"Bah bang..." Qian Xiaoxiao quickly took the lead in applauding.

Immediately there was a round of applause.

Some people find it incredible.

How could there be only one woman in this life?

The women even showed envious expressions. This was a problem they couldn't even think about.

Although she really wanted her husband to belong only to her, saying such words was a jealous woman, which her husband and mother-in-law could not tolerate.

Qian Xiaoxiao couldn't understand either. It was clear that these mothers-in-law only wanted to have only themselves as husbands.

After the hardships she endured when she was young, when she became a mother-in-law, she tried her best to stuff people into her son's room, and kept claiming that the way a lady should act, she must be gentle, virtuous, and tolerant of others.

In the ancient marriage system of "monogamy and multiple concubines", women were often unable to stop the marriage and did not even dare to complain at all.

Although there are many reasons, in the final analysis, it is just that men in ancient times occupied an absolutely dominant position in marriage.

One of the reasons: With the sharp sword "jealousy" hanging over her head, women simply don't dare to object.

When talking about the dominance of ancient men in the marriage relationship, we have to talk about the "seven outs" regulations. These seven standards for divorcing a wife can be said to have caused great oppression on women's behavior and thoughts in marriage, and " The "jealousy" in "Qi Chu" makes women dare not object to their husbands taking concubines.

The so-called seven origins are from "Etiquette. Mourning Clothes", including: childlessness, adultery, unclean aunt, talking, stealing, jealousy, and serious illness.

The so-called "jealousy" refers to a wife who is too jealous, and the main manifestations are to prevent her husband from taking concubines or to criticize concubines harshly.

Especially after the Tang Dynasty, since the "seven outings" were included in the law, no matter which one of the "seven outings" the wife committed, the husband had a reason to divorce his wife, and this behavior was strictly prohibited by the government. protected.

In the ancient concept, it is not only extremely normal for a man to have "three wives and four concubines", but it is also a symbol of a man's identity. If a woman objects to her husband taking concubines, she will not only face the danger of being divorced, but also face endless consequences. of gossip.

Overall, most of the contents of the seven chapters are based on the interests of the husband's family as a whole. If the wife's behavior or physical condition does not meet this consideration, the husband's family or the husband can propose divorce.

In comparison, the conditions for a wife to take the initiative to initiate union and separation are much more stringent, so it can be seen as a kind of oppression of women in feudal society.

"White Tiger Tongshu Zheng." "Zheng Jian": "Do husband and wife hide each other?" "Biography" said: "I once left my wife, but the quinoa was not cooked properly." Asked: "If a woman has seven births, does it mean that she will be pregnant even if she doesn't steam?" ’ He said: ‘I have heard that the order to break up friendship is to make friends, and the order to abandon one’s wife is to marry. The steamed rice is just undercooked. Why ask why? "This is hiding."

For wives who are already in a weak position and find it difficult to survive independently, the seven-out system also provides a minimum protection for women from being abandoned at will due to their husband's personal likes and dislikes.

In addition, in some cases, because the wife who has been abused by her husband lacks the means to proactively request separation, local officials who sympathize with the wife will use seven laws to require both parties to separate, so that the wife can escape from the evil husband.

In addition, the rule of "seven departures" has its own restrictions to ensure that the wife will not be easily abandoned, which is the three "not to leave" stipulated in the "Han Code".

That is to say, in the three situations, even if the wife meets the conditions of Yu Qichu, the husband cannot ask for divorce at will.

The three "not leaving" means that the wife once helped her aunt (meaning parents-in-law) in mourning, was poor when she got married and was rich when she divorced her, and "has gained nothing but nothing to return" (should refer to the fact that the wife's parents and family have been separated, and she may be divorced) homeless).

Reason two: There is a need to carry on the family line and continue the incense. Women have no reason to object.

In ancient times, due to the relatively backward production level, various natural and man-made disasters, and backward medical conditions, the labor force was not only a reflection of the prosperity of a family, but also an important condition for the prosperity of the country.

In the understanding of the ancients, having a group of wives and concubines is an important guarantee for having many children and grandchildren. Therefore, once a man is qualified to take concubines, even if his wife already has children, there is no reason to object. After all, non-rich people who are qualified to take concubines Even if it is expensive, the continuation of family inheritance is extremely important.

It is precisely for this reason that during the Yuan Dynasty, Tan Cheng wrote a letter suggesting, "There are three types of unfilial piety, the greatest of which is to have no descendants: it is advisable to order people who are forty years old and have no children to take concubines as a ancestral sacrifice plan." In other words, if you are forty years old and have no children, Children, in order to ensure the continuation of the bloodline, the imperial court allowed concubines, but only one concubine was allowed. This system was followed in the Ming and Qing Dynasties.

Reason three: The status of the wife and the concubine are very different, and there is no need for the woman to object.

In ancient times, the status of wives and concubines in the family was almost completely different. Even if a man took concubines, it would not threaten the status of the head wife at all, so there was no need for the wife to object to the concubinage.

The difference between a concubine and a wife can be said to be all-round. First of all, in terms of getting married, as the so-called "taking a wife and keeping a concubine" requires, getting a wife requires three matchmakers and six certificates, and a clear matchmaker to marry. However, keeping a concubine is relatively simple, and it can even be done by simply carrying it into your home in a small sedan chair, and getting a wife requires "Bride price", if you take a concubine, you only need to pay the "concubine purchase price".

Secondly, in terms of social status, the wife's status is basically the same as that of her husband, and she has the support of her natal family. The status of concubines is much lower. The "Book of Rites" of the Han Dynasty wrote, "Concubines who buy jointly are regarded as common property because they are cheap." "Concubines can be bought and sold", which means that concubines are not only of low status, but also completely bought as private property, and they have nothing to do with their parents' families after they are bought.

Thirdly, in terms of family status, the wife's family status is second only to that of the male master, and she is directly responsible for presiding over the inner house. Even if a man wants to divorce his wife, he must meet the conditions of "seven absences and three no-leaves".

Since the concubine is the private property of the man, its status is only slightly higher than that of the slave, and the husband and wife can dispose of it at will.

Finally, the status gap between the two parties still lies in their sons. Children born to the main wife are called "legitimate children", while children born from concubines are called "concubines." Due to the influence of the patriarchal system, the inheritance order of legitimate children is infinitely higher than A concubine has the right to inherit only if there is no legitimate son.

Therefore, under this concept of marriage, due to the dominant position of men in the marriage relationship, the wife has no reason or necessity to object to concubinage, and she does not dare to object at all.

Even if you can't tolerate it, you can only bury it in your heart and don't dare to show it.