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Yu Hemiao: "Why don't you listen? It's such a good pen, just take one and use it, and give the rest to my sister later."

Yu Lanlan's voice was very low: "But... I like this red one, and I also like this blue one..."

"It's good to have a red one, why do you need a blue one? What a waste! Why are you so ignorant now, kid? You are a sister, you know, you are a sister! A sister should act like a sister. ! You have to give way to your sister!"

Yu Hemiao's voice suddenly became so loud.

In this way, Yu Lanlan's voice seemed to be weaker: "But, mother, my aunt said, this is specially for... me, only for me, my sister... and others..."

Yu Hemiao: "Auntie said this because she cares for you, but don't you feel sorry for me? I'm about to give birth to a baby myself. I have a lot of money to spend, but I'm buying you such expensive things. Please save your money." , maybe I can play with my aunt's younger brothers and sisters in the future! When I was your age, I saved everything for your aunt and uncle, why do you have to tell me so many times when I come here?"

Listening to this outside, Yu Sui suddenly felt sad.

If I wanted to blame Yu Hemiao, I couldn't say it for a while.

Indeed, this era is so poor that if a family has several children, the older one will have to take care of the younger one?

The same goes for food. If there isn't enough food, the big one has to give way to the small one.

Otherwise, life would be even more difficult.

But are the older children really not aggrieved?

She has never really lived with her brothers and sisters, but she feels so wronged just thinking about it!

Yu Sui took a deep breath and walked in with her things.

As soon as Yu Lanlan saw her coming in, she quickly lowered her tearful eyes.

Yu Sui pretended not to see it and said to Yu Lanlan: "Lanlan, I bought Guoguo a trumpet. It sounds good, but it's a bit noisy when played in the kitchen. Can you take your sister to the room to play together? My aunt wants to play with her. Your mother is talking."

"Okay, auntie." Yu Lanlan walked to her mother very sensibly, took her little sister who could waddle, and went to her mother's separate small house.

Yu Sui sat down next to Yu Hemiao and held her sister's hand.

Yu Hemiao's hands were exactly like those of a rural person who worked hard all year round.

If you just look at her hands, you can't tell at all that this woman is only 25 or [-] years old.

Yu Sui: "Sister, I heard what you just said outside. I want to ask you, when I was a child, I was always misbehaved and would break things, but my mother couldn't help but blame you, the eldest sister, on you. Would you feel aggrieved? "

Yu Hemiao was startled and couldn't speak for a while: "Second sister, what did you say?"

Yu Sui: "I was very naughty when I was a child, wasn't I? Mom always said that. Mom said that one time I knocked over a bottle of oil when I was just learning to walk. Mom couldn't hit me when she came back. After all, she was young and she was afraid of beating me to death. She would push you down on the platform of the well and beat you until you couldn't sit down for several days, and you wouldn't be allowed to eat properly. Is this true?"

Yu Hemiao opened her mouth wide and kept opening it wide, but finally managed to squeeze out a smile: "Oh, how long has this been happening! Mom, seriously, I even forgot to tell you this!"

However, the tone of her voice had changed, and her nasal sound was too heavy to ignore.

Yu Sui: "Mom told me this because I'm very sorry for you. You may have forgotten it, but she took it to heart because she knew she had wronged you and she shouldn't blame you for my fault. But she didn't I'm sorry to say it to you myself."

As soon as she said this, Yu Hemiao finally couldn't help it anymore, her mouth trembled for a while, and finally she cried: "I... little sister, I didn't think much of you. My family is poor, and one bottle of oil will last a year." , Mom can’t bear it, so you should hit me... Wuwu, I... I don’t worry about it... Wuwu..."

Yu Sui hugged Yu Hemiao.

Yu Hemiao cried until she was out of breath.

Yu Sui patted her gently, with rare patience:

"Sister, we are sisters. You have been wronged. There is no need to say that you don't care. This is the first time for everyone, and no one owes anyone anything. Therefore, mother is right to feel sorry for you. You can It's good to understand her, but there is no need to take all the problems on yourself.

Only in this way will you not be bullied easily, and the children you educate will not be bullied easily.I tell you this specifically because I see that you are treating Lan Lan the way your mother treats you, so I am talking to you to remind you.

If you think Lanlan’s temperament will always be one of giving in and she won’t dare to speak out when being bullied, then you continue; if you want her to be tough and self-reliant in the future, you have to treat her fairly and not just because she is the boss. , labeling her that she must be humble in everything.Sister, do you understand what I mean? "

When Yu Sui talked about Lan Lan, Yu Hemiao's crying became quieter.

This proved that she started to think.

Yu Sui sat aside and waited patiently.

Gradually, Yu Hemiao stopped crying and raised her red eyes to look at Yu Sui: "Second sister... I... am I really like this?"

"Really. Lan Lan is only six years old, but you seem to think that she should do all the housework and take care of her sister. It is sensible to leave things for her sister, even though she has told you that crayons are my special You bought it for her, but you still think it is right to leave it to your younger brothers and sisters. Sister, you have ignored it, she is only six years old, she is also your child, and she also needs your maternal love."

Yu Hemiao was a little at a loss: "I...but if she doesn't help me, I won't be able to take care of it on my own. Besides, we live at Mom's place now, and I'm already freeloading. I can't let Lan Lan..."

Yu Sui always held her hand, very gently:

"Sister, you can let her do the housework within her ability, but don't plant the idea of ​​'you should' in her to control her! Take what I just told you about when we were young, for example, you said I think you have forgotten that you are not aggrieved, but are you really not aggrieved? When I first learned how to walk, you were only as old as Lan Lan!

You help the family with housework and take care of me, which is already great, but your mother beats you like that. Are you really relieved?In fact, it's just that this environment has trapped you. Everyone demands girls so much, everyone demands elder sisters so much, and everyone regards taking care of younger brothers and sisters as a must. As time goes by, you succumb.

Of course, everyone is poor, and the older ones have to take care of the younger ones. This is something we can't do, but we can tell Lanlan, 'You are very good. You worked hard to help. My mother is very happy. My aunt bought these for you, too. Because you are very good, just play with it, mother will not let your sister take it from you.

Saying this, does Lan Lan feel more comfortable?From now on, her thought pattern will no longer be 'I must be sensible, I must be tolerant, and I must share', but 'I have done well, I deserve it, I help my mother take care of my sister, and my mother likes me very much. "I am worthy of love", when such a child grows up, when she is treated unfairly, she will resist instead of accepting it, and she will look down on herself first.Sister, do you understand what I mean? "